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[–] KuroXppi@hexbear.net 106 points 4 days ago (3 children)

You're only allowed to date people older than you. So a 30 y.o. cannot date a 25 y.o., but a 25 y.o. is allowed to date a 30 y.o.

Hope this clarifies

[–] ConcreteHalloween@hexbear.net 43 points 4 days ago (4 children)

So... nobody can date anyone?

[–] hexaflexagonbear@hexbear.net 58 points 4 days ago (1 children)

You can if both people are older than each other

[–] CloutAtlas@hexbear.net 33 points 4 days ago (2 children)

You can easily achieve this because time is relative to speed. Date someone roughly half an hour older than you, then get them to spend 6 months on the Tiangong space station at 28,000km/h. Meanwhile, remain as motionless as possible. Because time passed slower for them, and faster (relatively) for you, you will have aged more than them despite being younger.

[–] LeninWeave@hexbear.net 22 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Once the ISS is de-orbited in 2030, only the Chinese will be allowed to have sex. Then, the American century of humiliation will truly begin.

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[–] VILenin@hexbear.net 24 points 4 days ago

Actually you can’t date at all because your brain isn’t fully developed until [insert age of poster]

He's not even a pedophile, and he thinks he can lead? Fucking disgusting!

[–] Dort_Owl@hexbear.net 72 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

You mean he dated ADULTS?!? Scandalous!

Damn these people are really reaching for anything to pin on him aren't they?

I mean, maybe they're upset because 24 is a lot older than what most of their favorite creepo capitalist politicians have been caught with. epstein

[–] ConcreteHalloween@hexbear.net 53 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Did you know his wife is only 28! He's 34, fucking groomer!

[–] Dort_Owl@hexbear.net 43 points 4 days ago

Omg she's practically an infant wtf is wrong with the left

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 67 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Do people unironically think dating someone 5 years younger than you, in your 30's, is problematic??

[–] FlakesBongler@hexbear.net 57 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Yeah

Apparently, for some people, any sort of age gap is considered the same as if you wanted to date a high schooler

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 49 points 4 days ago

Yikes I thought that was a joke. Like being in your 30's and trying to hit on an 18 year old is creepy but being 40 and dating someone who's 25? Call me old fashioned but that's nothing.

[–] Runcible@hexbear.net 39 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I have dim memories of this being the topic I first started recognizing LiberalSocialist from, but I don't remember the actual take

[–] LeninWeave@hexbear.net 44 points 4 days ago (2 children)

LiberalSocialist

You're giving me Hexbear flashbacks. I don't remember what the posts were, but I remember the name.

[–] somename@hexbear.net 42 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I think they were the Power Dynamics poster

[–] 30_to_50_Feral_PAWGs@hexbear.net 30 points 4 days ago (2 children)
[–] LeninWeave@hexbear.net 23 points 4 days ago
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[–] Runcible@hexbear.net 27 points 4 days ago

I never did decide if they were a bit/troll poster or just a profoundly confused individual

[–] Ildsaye@hexbear.net 31 points 4 days ago

Power dynamics.

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[–] Angel@hexbear.net 42 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Something tells me that this has to do with the fact that people have begun taking that whole oversimplified "Your brain doesn't finish developing until you're 25" pop science factoid at face value, with some people making the take that 25 should be the age of majority, even, with little to no pushback. It definitely reeks of some paternalistic virtue signaling about how "protective" of children these people think they are. The Dunning-Kruger effect is strong with this, too, because the people who say this appear to have a "I'm so smart because I base my view of this off the science!" sort of thought process.

CW - Child AbuseBottom line is that if a policy like this were to have been enacted in my past, I would've literally died due to how my parents are.

People are so lacking in critical thinking skills that they consider reifying this neuroscientific misconception more important than people's fucking lives.

And that's not even me going into all the other troubling complications that something like this would bring.

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 33 points 4 days ago

Something tells me that this has to do with the fact that people have begun taking that whole oversimplified "Your brain doesn't finish developing until you're 25" pop science factoid at face value, with some people making the take that 25 should be the age of majority, even, with little to no pushback.

Looks like that, like I said I had seen people getting mad about age gaps like a 25 year old dating a 21 year old and I was like this is a joke??

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[–] Comrade_Mushroom@hexbear.net 37 points 4 days ago (1 children)

yes because according to every person on the internet I've ever spoken to the microsecond you turn 30 you transform from a capable young person directly into a withered husk with one foot in the grave

[–] Dort_Owl@hexbear.net 38 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

Can confirm I am in my 30s and I'm actually dead

chomsky-yes-honey explosion skeleton-motorcycle

[–] CloutAtlas@hexbear.net 23 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm in my 30's but I'm Chinese so I look much younger than the white folk my age. Esp since these bleachskins keep going out to "get a tan" and "spend time in direct Australian sunlight".

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I'm in my 40s and have to be revived via juche necromancy every 15 minutes or else my digestive enzymes will turn my body into garum

[–] hexaflexagonbear@hexbear.net 59 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Hell yeah, age gap discourse when his main opponent was a sex pest fucking rocks.

Right! He's not even a pedophile and he wants a fucking leadership position! It's absurd, and he should be hanged as a usurper!

[–] NephewAlphaBravo@hexbear.net 50 points 4 days ago (2 children)

he just turned 34, so 24 wouldn't even break the "half + 7" rule of thumb for nearly another year

[–] Awoo@hexbear.net 32 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

He met his wife on Hinge in 2021 so he had it set to at least 24 when he was 31. She's 28 now btw which means if he had the age any higher they literally wouldn't have met, she was 24 when they met.

This is all nonsense and nobody is pushing this as a bad thing in good-faith.

[–] MarmiteLover123@hexbear.net 22 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Do people not realise that is completely normal, in fact perfectly average, for the man to be a few years older in most heterosexual couples? Think the average gap is 2-4 years in most countries. Like this is just how life works out for the most part, across cultures and continents. This is how the world works, I have no idea why people are trying to shame perfectly normal human behaviour. The real world is not an eternal middle school, high school or undergraduate university/college, thank God.

[–] purpleworm@hexbear.net 27 points 4 days ago

I don't think we should tolerate something because it is normal, we should tolerate it for actually being harmless (and this is harmless). There are countless practices that are "normal" and pointlessly harmful.

[–] WhatDoYouMeanPodcast@hexbear.net 29 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

My citation is that my beating heart has revealed to me through visions of bodily awareness that there's an age at which a fully grown adult is capable of telling anyone else in the world to fuck off. At that point it's simply not my problem if they get into a weird age relationship. To me that number is 27 - so if a 27 year old wanted to date a 79 year old it's just not my business. It's a thing nobody need concern themselves with until one of them tries to retaliate or prevent the other from leaving then you might reasonably intervene by anything up to state power to collectively tell them to fuck off.

The point being I like the odds of a mentally and physically sound 24 year old from New York to be at the fuck off threshold 3 years early. "Doesn't it make Mamdani weird if he wants to be in the weird age relationship?" 1) like you said it doesn't break the rule of thumb. 1.5) If Mamdani has that same idea for a fuck off threshold of a New Yorker then it's whatever to me. 2) he did the smart thing and was married by time he went to office where he was capable of having a power imbalance. 3) If we're talking 30s and mid 20s I'm going to need more than just the age for it to be problematic enough to ping on the radar. It's a slow day at the slop factory. 4) when it's us-foreign-policy but you can't quite prove it. 5) ayyyyyy! I'm walkin' 'ere!

[–] chgxvjh@hexbear.net 34 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Having sex? Very problematic

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[–] BeanisBrain@hexbear.net 42 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I half-expected this thread to be a struggle session lol

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[–] KurtVonnegut@hexbear.net 49 points 4 days ago (5 children)

The guy Zohran was running against resigned in disgrace because he faced over a dozed accusations of sexual assault.

[–] ConcreteHalloween@hexbear.net 28 points 4 days ago (6 children)

And a guy who got shot in the back of a yellow taxi cab by a member of the Gambino Crime Family.

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[–] moss_icon@hexbear.net 24 points 4 days ago

Oh no an adult dating other adults, what a crime.

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 32 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The person who said this needs to be bullied. Hard.

[–] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Surely that has to be satire though. Can you even view what someones age range is set to?

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[–] 3rdWorldCommieCat@hexbear.net 25 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (5 children)

"When are we gonna talk about how this adult man set his dating range at the lowest as another adult who's, usually speaking, out of college already for a few years years and nowhere near being a minor???" ffs I get being wary of certain age gaps but bro set it as his lowest too not like a specific requirement that a woman had to be 24 either. This "under 25" pop science shit needs to die they're just giving more power to transphobes and the like who use it to ban trans healthcare for under 25s and don't even connect the dots, same with abortion. Hell some of these morons even want it to be the age of majority and voting age. We need to have scientific education everywhere starting in like middle school istg.

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[–] altkey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

How sick it is to diddle a 25yo person! No pass. The whole political system would crumble if the gift of paedophilia wouldn't oil it's cogs!

[–] RMO@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago

It's cool. Look:
30yo/2+7=22yo 34yo/2+7=24yo

[–] Keld@hexbear.net 16 points 4 days ago

This belongs in slop

[–] allthetimesivedied2@hexbear.net 27 points 4 days ago

I hate power dynamics discourse. It's kind of funny how like, nobody will ever date me on account of my being a homeless drug addict—because more than likely the rare fucking person who doesn't think I'm disgusting will be so concerned about being "problematic."

[–] invo_rt@hexbear.net 25 points 4 days ago

CUOMO SLAPPIN' FANNIES AND KILLIN' GRANNIES

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