No Stupid Questions

Maybe I'm just using it wrong, but I'm returning for more than a minute after a few weeks due to having exams to study for, and there's no notifications.

My community literally stopped in time after my last post, and I'm guessing it won't resume until I work down my queue of things to post after my finals are over.

I'm subscribed to several communities I was interested in on Reddit, but even knowing I have to switch to my subscribed communities every time I log in, the feed seems very different, almost lacking in ways I can't describe. For example, a big popular one about games hasn't been posting any posts about any games I care about, and when I search for a community for the games I do care about, they simply don't exist.

It's just really jarring to try to engage after a few weeks of logging in here and there to check on anything I missed, and nothing of note has really happened.

I want to learn how to draw, because I want to create my own comic, but how long does it take on average to reach a high level of drawing? Is it worth the effort?

This is quite recent but I've been browsing Lemmy a bunch lately and quite often I see extreme grammatical errors.

I'm not talking about like, incorrect stylistic choices between commas and dashes, or an improper use of ellipses or missing commas or incorrect use of apostrophes in its/it's or in multiple posessive articles or just plain typos or any nitpicky grammar nazi shit like that, but just basic spelling specifically.

It's one thing when you can't spell some pretty uncommon words and you're too lazy to look it up and/or use autocorrect, but it's a completely different league to misspell very basic words, very recently I saw someone spell "extreme" as "extream" which is just kind of baffling, I actually can't even imagine how one would make such a mistake?

And it's not been an isolated thing either, I've seen several instances like that lately.

Am I going crazy? Is it just me?

on my last thread somebody wrote that unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.

I'm guilty of this, I'm a nurse: after changing units an expectation was that the new one would be one where the physical workload would be evenly distributed. Another expectation and a promise from management was that my new unit would assign a nurse I'd shadow during my first days to get a grip of the unit. The third expectation was that I could do my job and use my downtime to learn.

None of these things are happening.

How do I stop having expectations?

ETA: A problem I see with this approach is: if every job turns out to be shit like this, why even bother? My new attitude should be go to work, work the least possible, fake it, play theatrics to do as little as possible, go home, get paid. No expectations = no disappointments.

But then, why even advance to ICU-nursing, get certifications or study medicine?

For example:

• You MUST use Apple’s own apps (iMessage, Phone, etc.) as well as Apple’s own App Store
  • To be fair, the EU is doing work to solve this particular issue…but most of the reforms are only for EU customers
• You have to use WebKit when developing a browser for ~~macOS~~ iOS and iPadOS, you can’t use Gecko or Blink
• iOS apps must be developed using XCode IF YOU WANT TO PUBLISH IT ON THE APP STORE, which is only available on MacOS…

~~That last one is weird. Why can’t you compile Swift outside of MacOS (i.e. third party IDEs)? Why can only XCode do it?~~

edit: Gecko and Blink based browsers are available on macOS. I learnt something new today. Not for iOS or iPadOS though. Also, Xcode is only a requirement for publishing in the App Store. You are able to compile Swift in any OS. You'll just need to distribute the app via sideloading and/or third-party app stores (in the EU)

I remember that being a thing amongst the initial migration, is it still happening? I rather hate having to append redshit to the end of my searches every time, especially with their anti-vpn bullshit they're on now.

I use it literally everywhere out of habit, I got made fun of for using it when pulling out of my moms driveway once lol

The only reason I won't possibly use it is when I'm in a turn only lane at a red light and don't want to listen to it for 3 minutes

Most people I find only use it 75% of the time at best.
I'm 2.5 years into driving and am curious if it's just what semi-new drivers do or if I'm the odd one out.

(i do post sometimes, especially since i like finding out potential reasons for why people do things)

i (at the time 16m) dated a girl a few years ago (at the time 15f) who claimed to completely lack empathy. she always talked about how terrible she was and how unlovable she was, and wondered why no one liked her.

when i wasn’t there 24/7, she’d abuse substances, harm herself, and the like. she reported hearing voices, had sleeping issues as well.

she also claims to feel no remorse and outright ghosted me after we broke up. we were friends and she suddenly ignored me when she was 16, i was 17 (female then) and right before we stopped talking i found out she was actually straight, not bi or lesbian, and she would send links to gore websites telling me that they were “funny”, “not that bad”, or that she “didn’t feel a thing”.

If games are expected to stay on Xbox Game Pass for one year only (not including first-party Xbox studio games), so why were certain Ubisoft games on Game pass present there for more than one year?

Just curious how some streamers feel confortable ordering food delivery. Sure, maybe a normal person doesn't really have much enemies to warrant getting poisoned, but when streamers do it, I feel like somebody is gonna leak their address or they are get food poisoned.

Or do streamers just have a friend/relative deliver food to them? (Because I'm getting the impression that most of them just use the normal delivery apps)

Like, are you ever about in public, hear that ding and think “ah yes, homosexuality.”

Until now this would have been a stupid question - this is my home. But we're in a strange timeline. My background is I was born in the UK, met first husband, married, got green card, that went tits up, divorced, met husband 2, found forever love, married, naturalized in 2021. Have my passport and everything.

It's my dad's birthday, and he lives in the UK. I want to go back and celebrate, but I'm nervous about reentry into the US. I naturalized during the Biden presidency, and I am a Democrat, I feel nervous that I have a target on my back. I have a home and pets here. Am I ridiculous for worrying or should I be cautious about leaving right now?

Just uploaded it here because wouldn’t upload to Lemmy. If you could help me with the tropes you think it applies to, that would be great!

Satiate my curiosity, please. I know caffeine is naturally occurring in many plants (coffee and tea being the most notable). But for things like energy drinks, soda, drink flavorings, and whatnot that we add caffeine to, where does it come from?

Do we synthesize it all , is it recovered from the decaffeination process we use for decaf coffee/tea? Something else?

I've come across some inactive communities on instances other than mine. A few I've thought would be worth restarting but I'm not sure how this works on Lemmy.

Alternatively, I thought about starting a new community under the same theme and growing a community there but, again, I am not sure if everyone is free to start a community or if it is something that you have to gain approval of your instance first.

For example I'll send an e-mail with 3 questions and will only get an answer to one of the questions. It's worse when there are 2 yes/no questions with a question that is obviously not a yes/no question. Then I get a response of

Yes

back in the e-mail. So which question are they answering?

Mainly I'm asking all of you why do people insist on only answering 1 question out of an e-mail where there are multiple? Do people just not read? Are people that lazy? What is going on?

Edit at this point I’ve got the answers . Some are too lazy to actually read. Some admit they get focused on one item and forget to go back. I understand the second group. The first group yeah no excuse there.

Continuing edit: there are comments where people have tried the bullet points and they say it still doesn’t help. I might put the needed questions in red.

I am a social guy, talking to people comes quite natural to me. Therefore I make friends easily. I have had a ton of crushes and was also in love for a couple of times. However I have never had any relationship to speak of (I'm 25, btw), and I feel like I'm missing out on something.

When it comes to relationships I honestly don't know how people do it. I don't know what makes someone "like" someone else, safe for their appearance. Or how someone "starts" to see another as a romantic partner rather than platonic. I feel like I only know how to serve friendship. So how do people develop feelings for someone?