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Original question by: @Lighttrails@sh.itjust.works

Just as the title says ,I can no longer see my lemmynsfw communities on this account why?

Rules:

• History of the world before your birth remains the same; only events happing after your birth can be changed.
• The other version of you must still be alive, you cannot go to a world that you are dead in. (This essentially forces you to murder/abduct your alt-self, so travelling has a ethical cost to it 😉)
• There may be other multiverse travellers out there

(Btw, is it ethical to murder an alternate version of your self? Is that even murder or just self-harm technically?)

Bonus for anything that integrates with Apple Health, Fitness, or Apple Watch

Willy Wonka level personal hoard like the banana vault in Donkey Kong

Was watching this video and it clicked that you could be fucked on a lie and can't do shit but go to jail and wait for a judge - https://youtu.be/-4D5V19zqFc

I knew this before, but this video brought it home. Paraplegic accused of kicking down a door and dumbass cops not doing anything "but their jobs", no common sense at all.

Does anyone here know how to solve Rubik’s cube? If so, when and why did you learn it?

I’ve been trying all my life, on and off, not enough to succeed in anything more than one layer, but more than enough to feel i should have mastered it by now.

My 11yo son, on the other hand, taught himself through a book and some YouTube clips and he is now disappointed whenever he solves it in less than 30 seconds.

He’s the only one i know who can solve it (apart from his best friend, that is), and every time he does, i feel like I’m watching magic. Chaos chaos chaos chaos … oh it’s finished!

Should i be proud of him or worried by own cognitive abilities?

Title is a bit much so let me explain.

The world has all kinds of terrible things that the individual can do basically nothing about. Luckily, for most of us it has no direct impact and we are able to ignore the painful reality. But what if you were in a situation where it did impact you? In a way that is part of your everyday. What if for years you are struggling with the internal conflict of "there is nothing I can do about it" and "I can't continue like this"?

As for the drugs, I specifically mean weed and specifically for the days where I find it too hard to ignore. I find myself thinking that if I get high I will have an easier time ignoring the pain and doing something good like cleaning or working.

Notes:

• Don't bother with telling me that even the individual has the power to make great changes, I believe it and I'm doing my best, but I am also aware of the fact that this situation will not be changed in my lifetime probably.
• I'm not suicidal, I don't harm myself and while I can tell that lately I have been using weed too much, I don't think I am abusing it. I'm logging my usage and I review it weekly, If it get's out of hand I will know (I think)
• I'm mostly asking about using external stimulation as a form of escapism
• Yes, I need therapy, sadly it is expensive. Yes I am looking for options.

I guess I have just itched a lot for my entire life, so I just scratch and don't really think about it. But it was recently brought to my attention by someone, and I realized that I am scratching constantly. Like all over my body. I'll scratch my leg, then my head itches, then the back of my hand, then my cheek, then my arm, and so on and so on, every few seconds. I might scratch 10 or 20 spots within a minute. I think I might stop scratching if I'm really focused on something, but if I start thinking about my itching, then it just keeps happening. And like I said, I think this has been going on for my entire life, but I never really paid much attention to it. Is this normal?

This is assuming that the thought is translated into something each person can understand.

So I saw an ad for this cool looking led strip thing you can put in your car and then it has lots of settings.

Clicked the link and it took me to Temu, figure sure I’ll give it a go and download the app.

OMFG what the heck is this gamified shopping?

When it loaded I swear to Odin it went like a casino and said you can get the item you clicked on for free and you can choose another 5 items.

So I’m browsing through all this crap I don’t really want and adding things to move on. After selecting all free items it then said you win again or something and gave me more things to pick.

Then at the end it’s like right spend $35 to get all the other stuff for free, but said the original thing I clicked to get was not available. It’s like a bait and switch and I’m thinking I don’t any of this really I just wanted the cool led strip thing and to be left alone.

Honestly I really can’t believe people would use this place at all.

So this may be the wrong place to ask, but I’m curious if anyone has ever heard of headhunters that work for a candidate? Almost every recruiter and firm that I’ve seen only works on behalf of a company, or only cares if you match a role that they’re searching for.

I’ve always wondered if there are services were people will search on your behalf. Paid is fine as it is a pain now with everything being distilled down with AI.

Skype is dead. Need an alternative to make international calls to landlines. Suggestions?

Was walking down the street the other day. Taking my Pfand to the shop to cash it in and go shopping. Broad day light, nice weather day after many ugly weather days so everyone is looking rather happy in general.

I pass by a local soccer club, lots of youths coming and going by bicycle, it must have been like 5 or 6 in the evening and it seems like one group just ended training and another is starting.

A sparkling white tesla drives up to the entrance of the club, while doing so: blocks the cycle path... was wondering why the kids had to be dropped off at the door with this nice weather.

Anyhow: car stops at the old clothes collection container, passenger gets out: it's a fit young woman (driver is a young man), she walks to the trunk of the car, casually takes out bags of trash and puts them next to the "old clothes" container. It's clearly not bags of old clothes, and she's no putting it in the container but next to it. She takes out a broken vacuum cleaner: casually puts it behind the container, between the soccer club and a small parking lot and a park.

I tell her this is not the place for that and ask her if she can load it in to her car again. She acts like she's from another planet and doesn't understand me. She knows perfectly well. See the guilt in her face. She stays silent, rushes back to the car seat. They drive off, I give the middle finger and a "you're a fucking wanker" sign. We meet again like 100 meters further where they have to stop for red traffic light. They try to ignore me and stare ahead, avoiding all eye contact. Not talking to eachother either. I don't start yelling or hitting the car or whatever, because I didn't wanna cause a scene at the youths/soccer club.

These were really very very "decent" and "normal" looking people. Young, wealthy, healthy, white, with a car. How hard is it to drive 4 minutes to the recycling plant at the edge of the city and dump your trash where it belongs for practically free?

"Normal" people who have dumped their trash where it doesn't belong: WHY?

Let's assume 10 is an average person and 30 is world class

• Strength
• Dexterity
• Constitution
• Intelligence
• Wisdom
• Charisma

I (22M) grew up in a rural-adjacent suburb where the culture was complete dogwater. My dad openly fantasized about committing violence against minority groups ever since I was a young child, and he constantly threatened to kill me if I ever turned out to be gay. The public school I went to was full of bullies who singled me out for being emotional and therefore easy to pick on.

I never turned out to be gay, but I did turn out to be very gentle and emotional. In my natural state, I want to be sweet and caring and talk in a higher-pitched, softer manner. I love cute things, I love making people happy, and I love fantasizing about big strong women who will protect and care for me.

I have had very few opportunities to express myself. Various factors like disabilities and my older brother surveilling me in K-12 school (by using my bullies as a spy network to report every weird thing I did) made it impossible to express myself without being abused at home for it.

In recent years, I have been able to spend some limited time on my own without constant surveillance. The people I've talked to, typically from chatting with people at various appointments I've been dropped off at, seem to have a very laissez-faire "be yourself" attitude and don't seem very interested in persecuting weirdos like me. One of them even corrected me for accidentally saying something politically incorrect. This wasn't even that close to the city—this was adjacent to the new suburbs that my family moved to recently.

Still, it's hard to shake off a decade of paranoia about getting found out and beaten for being, in my dad's words, a "pansy". I keep stopping myself from expressing any kind of emotion in public for fear of what will happen to me. Tomorrow is the first time I get to visit my city proper, which is said to be fairly progressive and has big pride parades every year (around 1 million people turn out). And yet, I keep telling myself that I can't because some fascist goon could be watching and signal to all of the other fascist goons to jump me.

Is it safe to just be me now, or do I still have to be very careful about when and where to express myself? I'm so tired, honestly. I just want to be allowed to exist for once in my life.

What have you done recently that makes you stand back and proudly say, "I did that shit"?

So, I've been chatting with my buddies lately, and it's turned into a bunch of debates about right and wrong. I think I have a pretty solid moral compass, I'm not bragging haha, but most people I know can't really explain why something's right or wrong without getting all circular or contradicting themselves.

So, how do you figure out what to do? No judgment, just curious. I'll share my thoughts below.

Thanks!

Edit: Oh, all you lil' philosophers have brought me a cornicopia of thoughts and ideas. I'm going to take my time responding, I'm like Treebeard, never wanna be hasty.

For the sake of the plot, choose whichever zombie type fits your plans the best.

I'm looking for a toy for my little cousin's birthday, and I don't know what the term is for the genre I am looking for

I saw a review for a set of what the reviewer called "unboxing toys", in which the process of opening the package to get to the toy is turned into a whole experience. The main focus of the video was a criticism of Beast Labs by comparing it to similar more fun products at lower price points. This genre of toy seemed really fun, like an escape room in a box. One that captured my attention was the Treasure X Dragons Realm Treasure Chest in which the kid must

1. unlock the chest with the skeleton key
2. excavate the three secret artifacts of power, discover the dragon armor, and find the three dragon riders
3. slot the artifacts into the treasure map
4. activate the secret switch in the eyesocket of the skull
5. unlock the secret compartment
6. unchain the dragon!

Obviously this could make for an epic experience, and I want to find more toys like this. Google says the word for this genre of toys is "surprise toys" but whenever I try to use that as a keyword I only find boring lootbox bullshit like LOL Suprise dolls and kinder eggs. How do I find more toys like these, which are more about crafting a little experience with a thematic puzzle?

Edit: Forgot to include a piece of important context. My little cousin is turning 3 on his next birthday and likes "dinotaurs" and "dagons" because they roar and smash things and eat his cars and trains. This gift is more for his dad than him, since the little cutie will need to be guided through the puzzle which will a good opportunity for quality time.

What sort of care and hygiene is involved?

So I'm going to a Canadian festival roughly modeled after Burning Man alone this week. I've never gone to something like this before, but expect to have a weird time (hopefully in a good sense).

Have you ever gone to something kinda like this (BM itself, a regional burn, outdoor multi-day music festival with that kind of vibe)? I'd love to hear people's stories/hard-earned wisdom.