Asklemmy

In cooking, the term "mise en place" is essentially preparing the ingredients for a dish before you begin cooking. I was fixing a curtain rod and used the term as a way of saying "I should have gathered all of the necessary things ahead of time." This got me to thinking and I've been having fun thinking about it, and I'm curious what different kinds of answers maybe others might have for it -

What equivalents are there of this in digital spaces?

There are some moments in life in which a sudden self-awareness of happiness hits - a moment in which you step back from yourself and realize that, in that instant, everything is good. A feeling of your consciousness pulling away to make an emotional snapshot of that moment to care for and examine like one would a wounded bird or a nugget of gold.

While I don't consider my life as a unhappy one, I only have a few of these moments guarded away. The first being at around age 6. My parents were giving me a group hug while we were all singing a family lullaby. My mother was expecting my baby brother at the time and that was the first time the baby's name was included in the song. I remember feeling detached and floating away while taking in the moment.

The last time I experienced it I had just finished changing the sheets on a new king bed I splurged on after a small windfall. I remember laying on the bedspread and my 2yr old pup hopping on to play around the newly made bed. Instead of ushering him off as I usually did, I just watched him mess up the bedspread.

(I know happiness is not a fixed concept and everyone can have their own definition and experiences, but given my ignorance of the specific word to refer to the instant moment of self-awareness described, I just went with it)

Curious to read your thoughts and experiences.

I’m thinking about quitting.

I work with a forklift moving stuff between several warehouses. My manager doesn’t want me to do extra hours. Fine, then I want to go home exactly when my shift ends.

My shift ends at 5 pm. Before going home I need to take the forklift to a garage 10 minutes away and to recharge it. Then 5 minutes to walk back to the office where I clock out.

On my last shift, I received 2 assignments at 16:30, starting at 16:45 because trucks weren’t already there. Obviously, even doing just one of them means extra hours will be made.

I informed my manager sending her a message with our notoriously unreliable smartphones (issue for another day I already complained about). First I asked her if she wants me to log extra hours today. No, she said, then I told her if I have to do even just one of those assignments, extra hours will be logged in. Then she called me, accusing me of bothering her for the last 10 minutes and demanding to know where I was. I was already waiting for the trucks at 16:35, when she called me, but trucks were not there.

She then sent and deleted several other, smaller assignments at a rapid pace. As soon as I was starting one she would delete them. This happened 3 or 4 times.

She settled for a small one and even with this one I logged in 10 extra minutes, leaving my workplace at 5:10 pm.

What I want to tell her:

Are you aware you give me contradictory orders? If my shift ends at 17:00 and I need 15 minutes to take the forklift to the garage, if you give me an order at 16:45 I’m obviously going to do extra hours. You have clearly stated you don’t want to pay me any extra hour, which is fine by me, but then why do you keep me sending orders at exactly that hour? If you don’t want to pay me any extra hours my last assignment has to be finished at 16:45. Otherwise I’m logging in extra hours.

I don't see how this can end well, but something has to be done. It's not the first time she's reacted so emotionally and I’m tired.

Before I quit I’d like to try and see if a rational conversation with her is possible. Then at least I tried.

It feels like topics I used to only see on r/conspiracy—like Epstein and the deep state—are now all over mainstream subreddits.

The US is doing what it always has done, only now the pretexts are weaker than ever. Did things really have to get this obvious before people finally realized that western governments only care about what's best for the oligarchy?

Some people say my eye is grey

I was thinking phrasing the question explicitly for nurses, doctors, emergency services and the like but anyone could offer solid advice.

I've realized I don't know how to react if people start crying on me for something as innocuous as asking how they're doing or how their operation went. Others are terrified of their operation and start shaking like a leaf.

The most I can offer are platitudes, a therapist, a priest, volunteers that come to talk to those who feel lonely, something to calm down if the anesthesiologist agrees and hold their hand but I simply don't know what to tell them to calm them down.

How do you do it?

Obviously hypothetical. Just curious what others would do.

So I saw a post on this girl having trouble with her bf and it reminded me of me. I (19NB) am having trouble with my girlfriend Nichole (18F). I dated her a while ago but had trouble with my ex who I still thought about I believe, so I stopped liking her. Now we are together but with problems because apparently I’m in the wrong for wanting to call my best friend and see what he’s up to

In Spanish class, we get Spanish names and can choose what we’d like to be called from a list. I’m Francisca (or Paca) because it’s similar to Francesca, my online name.

Or any skill that you deeply value for how it helps you, but maybe easily overlooked by an outsider?

I think exercising atleast 2-3 times a week was good for me. Not that I look much different, but I do feel a bit stronger and that is nice. Neck isometrics and bridges too. They really helped with balancing looking at mobile or PC screens.

Learning some keyboard shortcuts was nice. The major one would be Win key + Arrow keys to manage multiple open windows/apps.
Then, finding that I can add commonly used options to the QuickAccess bar in Excel, Word etc. Libreoffice would probably have similar options too.

I am seeing this pattern a lot lately, whenever a person disagrees strongly or expresses conservative/right wing views, they are told to go back to reddit.

You can say 'Don't bring these bullshit views to the fediverse,' or something of that sort. I am a reddit refugee myself, and part of the Reddit API exodus. Being told to go someplace I just left due to ethical reasons feels bad. So, I want to understand why it is being used as a retort. Is it really rude, or am I making a fuss out of nothing?

Edit 1: I am NOT defending conservative views, I think that they should not be given a platform in the fediverse. I am questioning how telling them to go back to reddit is a valid response.

Edit2 : Edited the the title to better represent my question.

So, I bought a house that just happens to have a flagpole. It was put in by the neighbor's grandfather back when he owned the property like 60 years ago. I recently dug it up and painted it, replaced the hardware, etc. I've been flying the US flag to keep same Republican neighbor happy, but after this weekend's events, that's not happening any more.

So, I've been pondering what flag to fly instead. It doesn't appear that my town has a flag, though my county and state do. I considered the United Federation of Planets flag, but it looks too much like the UN flag and I don't need to hear John Birch from that same neighbor. Ditto the Earth flag.

Maybe the Jolly Roger? Anybody else have a fun flag they think I should fly instead?

Since the US operation in Venezuela, I haven’t seen a whole lot of media about what’s happening in the absence of Maduro. Every once in a while, an article pops up, which I have to assume is the one we are meant to see here in the US. I’d be very interested to know what is actually going on there now.

Are there any reliable news sources for the current state of Venezuela?

Been thinking about the voting system lately and how it inevitably kills in-depth discussion in growing communities.

Every sub/community follows the same trajectory: starts small with passionate users sharing quality content/discussion → grows in popularity → memes and low-effort posts flood in → actual discussion gets buried or downvoted.

I'm guilty of this too tbh. I realized I use upvotes/downvotes as personal "like/dislike" buttons rather than judging relevance to the community.

Here's my hot take:

1. Voting should be restricted to subscribed users only
2. Downvotes should be capped at a fraction of total upvotes a user gives out

The clearest example of this failure is gonewild. The demographics mean male content (which is 100% allowed) gets mass-downvoted into oblivion while female content dominates the front page. It's not about quality or relevance anymore - it's just a popularity contest.

Anyone else feel like the voting system needs a complete rethink?

Hey Guys, I hope everyone here is doing well.

I just saw a speech of german chancellor Friedrich Merz talking about how Germans need to work harder and longer to keep up their 'lifestyle' after seeing China.

Now I wonder, what are the workers rights in China like?

I somehow can't imagine, that it's still on a third world level, where people are forced to work 12h a day to have a basic life.

Can you guys link me good articles about it or share your knowledge?

Thanks in advance!

https://imgur.com/a/bullock-snoring-6cVTf4K

I don't know why...

Tldr at the bottom.

No real names, sorry. I (28M) am a department lead at my job, Jane (25F) is also in a similar position in another department. John (~23M) is in my department working under me. I am his direct supervisor. I am on good terms with John.

A few weeks ago, Jane has been reaching out to me for casual conversation unprompted and will come get me for any work related cross department needs no matter how minor. I can clearly tell she is interested in me as nobody is that persistent with casual conversation or finding ways to interact if they weren't. She has told me I am her favorite person to work with even though I barely know her.

Jane is cute and also hilarious, I wouldn't mind dating her and have considered it if we end up being a good match. So far so good anyway.

Bring in my coworker John. John is an interesting character. Funny guy, good heart, openly a furry, Bisexual leans gay, and rascal like personality. John also has depression and sees a therapist. He openly hates his job even to his own coworkers dissatisfaction. We don't deal with the best of work, but it still gets old hearing it for everyone. John is also easily distracted to the point of causing issues with his work performance.

I like john, he stresses me out at times but I try to be patient as I know he lives a rough life. He will confide in me often about his issues. Most recently he had a episode to where he got so distracted his partner was doing all the work and the partner snapped at him. I had to talk to both of them, one about his yelling even if justified and John with his lack of focus.

My discussion with John turned out alright, he hates his job and wants to leave but appreciates me. The only reason he stays he tells me is because of his interest in Jane. He has apparently asked her out before and she said she would. Don't think they have yet. They are friends to my knowledge.

Obviously, I don't want to touch this problem with a 10 ft pole from a job perspective. I like Jane and I am damn well certain she likes me as well from how she interacts with me and I believe that will interfere with John's life even if I do nothing. John is a good guy that is teetering on the edge of mental stability and I have no desire to not only break his trust in his mind by going to "steal his girl" after he told me about his desire for her, but also push him over the edge.

I don't think she is giving up either. So what should I do?

Tldr: cowork likes me, I like her, other coworker I am in charge of likes her and has gotten a yes from her when asking her out but no date yet. Coworker has depression and ended up telling me about his desire for her recently. Doing nothing is not an option as she pursues me. He persues her. Me dating her would likely cause him to meltdown. What to do?

So far, I'm only using cost-free alternatives:
Gmail -> web.de
Android/Google Play -> LineageOS/FDroid
Google Search -> DDG/Qwant/Ecosia
Google Maps -> Openstreetmap/Organic Maps
Windows/Office -> Linux/LibreOffice
Netflix -> 🏴‍☠️streaming sites
Spotify -> internet radio/digitizing CDs bought directly from the band at concerts

The only service I haven't replaced is YouTube (AdBlocked without account), which I use a lot, also for music. And I don't see an alternative for it either.

so whenever i hear an english person talk on tv or my gf points out that her ancestry is english, me and her ex (who also happens to be my ex) say "ELLO GUVNA!! CHEERIO OLD CHAP!" and i shout it at the tv. am i racist? i hope not...

For my girlfriend, is that all Italians talk like Mario. For me, it’s that all Germans I guess drink beer all the time? I’m not gonna say the other thing, just that they think it’s full of those kind of bad people still…