this post was submitted on 09 Nov 2025
108 points (100.0% liked)
Chapotraphouse
14163 readers
684 users here now
Banned? DM Wmill to appeal.
No anti-nautilism posts. See: Eco-fascism Primer
Slop posts go in c/slop. Don't post low-hanging fruit here.
founded 4 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Do people unironically think dating someone 5 years younger than you, in your 30's, is problematic??
Yeah
Apparently, for some people, any sort of age gap is considered the same as if you wanted to date a high schooler
Yikes I thought that was a joke. Like being in your 30's and trying to hit on an 18 year old is creepy but being 40 and dating someone who's 25? Call me old fashioned but that's nothing.
I have dim memories of this being the topic I first started recognizing LiberalSocialist from, but I don't remember the actual take
You're giving me Hexbear flashbacks. I don't remember what the posts were, but I remember the name.
I think they were the Power Dynamics poster
Do you disagree?!
I agree that they were the power dynamics poster
they were just doing what the unions wanted, i don't see the problem
are you sure? I swear I remember that struggle session being about aerodynamics
I never did decide if they were a bit/troll poster or just a profoundly confused individual
Power dynamics.
The most power imbalanced relationship I have ever been in was with a man who was literally my exact same age (we had the same DOB). He was a millionaire while I was close to homelessness
Damn, did you at least get that bag from that rich boy?
I got all the free weed I could vape
Something tells me that this has to do with the fact that people have begun taking that whole oversimplified "Your brain doesn't finish developing until you're 25" pop science factoid at face value, with some people making the take that 25 should be the age of majority, even, with little to no pushback. It definitely reeks of some paternalistic virtue signaling about how "protective" of children these people think they are. The Dunning-Kruger effect is strong with this, too, because the people who say this appear to have a "I'm so smart because I base my view of this off the science!" sort of thought process.
CW - Child Abuse
Bottom line is that if a policy like this were to have been enacted in my past, I would've literally died due to how my parents are.People are so lacking in critical thinking skills that they consider reifying this neuroscientific misconception more important than people's fucking lives.
And that's not even me going into all the other troubling complications that something like this would bring.
Looks like that, like I said I had seen people getting mad about age gaps like a 25 year old dating a 21 year old and I was like this is a joke??
Some people's brains never fully develop until... What's Trump's age again?
Gottem 💯💯💯
I’ve seen that number at higher than 25, usually it’s conveniently at whatever age the person spouting the bullshit is currently at. Funny how that happens, just a coincidence I’m sure.
Usually those spouting these “protective” takes will also post about how their children refuse to talk to them despite them being literal angels who’ve done nothing wrong ever, and if you look into their post history they’ll be justifying horrific physical abuse and “jokingly” threatening to murder their child’s (usually daughter’s) partner. It’s a control thing.
That would explain it. And like you said now it's being weaponized to harm trans people, remove voting rights make abortion harder, etc.
Out of curiosity, do you know what's being simplified or twisted with the whole brain is still developing until you're 25 factoid?
The study this factoid is based on showed your brain continues to devolop and change until at least 25 (the oldest age they were studying). In reality the brain keeps devoloping past then too.
yes because according to every person on the internet I've ever spoken to the microsecond you turn 30 you transform from a capable young person directly into a withered husk with one foot in the grave
Can confirm I am in my 30s and I'm actually dead
I'm in my 40s and have to be revived via juche necromancy every 15 minutes or else my digestive enzymes will turn my body into garum
I'm in my 30's but I'm Chinese so I look much younger than the white folk my age. Esp since these bleachskins keep going out to "get a tan" and "spend time in direct Australian sunlight".
Without sunscreen? No wonder they look like that