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I love sleeping, honk-shoo is so goated.
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Idk why my post didn't post earlier. But it's so nice not having had to do a "coming out" at this new job. They asked me what my preferred name and pronouns were when I put in my application, and from what I've seen so far, it seems like my name in all of the systems is my preferred name and I only had to use the legal one for, well, legal reasons. I keep being referred to with she/her pronouns in emails and stuff, and it's so nice that I didn't have to ask for it. And no one has been weird in zoom calls yet. I'm being treated completely and entirely as a woman. I don't really know how to describe it, because all of my friends treat me like a woman, but I think the difference is that I had to come out to them. I just got this job, walked in the proverbial (online) doors and from day 1 I'm just a woman. It feels incredible.
i kissed so many t girls in a week that the gods had to make me sick to stop me and my girl kissing rampage 
Ma'am, it looks like you have caught the gay.
Spend my whole life obsessing that my voice isn't deep enough and feel extremely anxious about it.
Realize I'm trans.
It's too deep. π
Holy fuxk I just told my lib family. Theyβre not transphobic, this shit is still terrifying
I mentioned this already on tracha, but I think I'm going to log off and touch grass for a while, at least a month, probably longer. I just have too much going on right now, I feel like I'm drowning. Holding a full time job, school work, irl social obligations, online social obligations... I just can't anymore. So I'll be taking a break to focus on myself for a while.
biting during sex
I love biting so much. I used to be a gross gum kid as a kid, like keep it all and chew on it over days lol. It never made the leap to sex until after E and now its not like a fun side thing or oh I just like doing it. It is MANDATORY and WE WILL DISCUSS IT BEFORE. Now, it does not have to happen to the other person - I am also satisfied biting clothes or blankets, but I will be biting no matter what
discussion of pornography, though nothing inherently explicit
what is with the prevalence of anti-porn anti-sex etc sentiment present even in leftist spaces (yes even here)? are we really still pretending that this stuff is bad for you in 2025, or that "porn addiction" is a real thing? anti-sex puritanism unless missionary for the purposes of procreation is not something that should be part of your ideology methinks. sex, sexual development, etc are normal healthy things that should be encouraged. weve already seen what mass sexual repression does to people and its not a good thing.
promoting fascist ideology and helping create very serious problems is a bad thing actually, and the fact that we are still encouraged to live in a panopticon where questioning your fascist beliefs even slightly can make you lose of your entire support system is a shame.
"gooner" is literally just the new "removed" in a lot of cases (which was, among other things, the word nazis used to describe people/things they didnt like) and for some reason we are just okay with this?? and if you dare point out "hey this is a bad thing actually" then people refuse to take you seriously
Hi comrades, I'm feeling really confused. It doesn't seem possible that I could actually have these feelings. I never seriously considered it an option for myself. I don't feel like a man and never have. I hate everything about myself. I promise I'm really asking, I'm not trying to be a jerk or anything. I'm sorry. I'm always sorry.
Is it really possible to choose to be a girl if I want? I mean me personally. Like other people can but I don't think I could. Is it really something anyone who wants to can do? Why wouldn't everyone?
What if I'm just bad at being a guy but that doesn't mean I should quit being a guy?
Similarly what if I'm equally bad at being a girl and it's being human I'm bad at?
I saw a lot of pics, and literally everyone looks better as a girl, but what if I looked way worse?
Is it really true that most guys don't feel any FOMO about being a girl? I only get one life why would I want to be a dude the whole time?
What if I'm just such a perverted and pathetic straight guy that I've tricked myself into doing this for some kind of thrill?
Obviously I'd love to be told I was a good girl and all of that, but again, who doesn't?
How do I know I'm not being delusional? How do I know I'm actually trans and not pretending or deceiving myself?
Obviously Iβd love to be told I was a good girl and all of that, but again, who doesnβt?
the overwhelming majority of cis men
Most cis guys don't agonize over it or give it much thought, and sure if they were really at home with themselves theyd probably be okay with being a girl for a few hours or a day but then wanna go back to being a guy.
We have plenty of trans mascs here who have made clear they do not want to be girls. If you wanna know if everyone would choose to he a girl if they could - nope! Trans men exist!
You can try this website and see how you feel: turn-me-into-a-girl.com/
I know trans men exist but it seems incomprehensible to me. I think I might just be particularly awful at being a man. I can't actually imagine ever feeling like a man. I just wish everything about me was different.
Theres a lot of gender stuff out there. Theres agender, nonbinary, gender fluid, trans femme but not strictly a woman, trans woman, etc.
Yes, its true! Not everyone wants to be a girl even some of the time (almost all cis and trans guys do not want that, a lot of trans men go through a lot of pain and oppression in the effort to be a man).
Did you try the website?
I just got the queer and trans zine I submitted my artwork to in the mail and it features dozens of artists from all over the world, I'm on the back cover and I have another piece in it as well. It was also part of a local zine fest. This is the first public art event I've done since the start of the pandemic that killed all my desire to do art markets and gallery showings.
telling trans girls to eat more so they grow bigger tits is good and praxis but we should also be telling them to eat more so they grow bigger tummies
tfw he says he prefers personality over tits or ass but i have giant tits, a great ass, and a toxic, horrid personality 
Chat. I have a place I can reliably do my online job 
i'm getting a trach shave next week (small yay!)
i've only told my partner, my boss (for sick leave), and now trans mega 
this is your mandatory reminder that you cant trust doctors
people will say "protect trans kids" and then be anti youth liberation and i find that funny (its not actually) i swear some of yall will turn like 20 and immediately forget how much it sucked to be treated like property and not have human rights. literally "it doesnt effect me so it doesnt matter". hell some will actively encourage it continue or even get worse... wild
(this is not in reference to any recent discussion here, nor directed at or referencing anyone in specific, recent discussion just made me think about it :p)
When I worked in pediatrics, kids have a weird limbo status for if they can consent or not. Little babies? They dont really get a choice if they have an IV placed or an NG. Littles? Okay, Ill listen to them about how scared they are but theyre still gonna get the shot (or whatever). Bigger kids... I dont like it but if mom agrees with the team the kid needs an NG placed, I gotta do it. When it comes to teens then I start taking their opinions into account, and if a 12 year old came in and asked for vaccines even if their parents were against it - we would consider them a mature minority and take their consent for it. Its all a weird grey zone and there wasn't a clear line.
I would often try to imagine them as dour 50 year olds reminiscing on their youths for if I should do or not do something lol. They might be really scared of a needle but the alternative would be getting sicker, or blind, or septic, or getting meningitis, or maybe getting healthier without concerns but taking longer.
When I was just talking to them or setting up a therapeutic dialogue, that was a lot easier. No judgements, show interest, active listening, contain high crisis panic stuff but otherwise let them feel what they feel. Some teens needed proverbial pushing to, like, get up and walking so they dont get a pneumonia or an ileus but that can be a gentle push. Some teens had conversion disorder because of something horrible and it takes a lot of reassuring and pressure to get then up and walking and dealing with the psychosomatic components. Some parents really sucked ass how they treated their kids and its a part of why I moved to adult world nursing instead.
Behold! My amateur nail work (2nd time ever that I painted them). I feel like it would be actually cute if I had long nails and was an anime girl.
the reason cashier jobs n such dont allow you to sit and have "must be able to lift x weight" etc as requirements (goes for office jobs too) is so they dont have to hire disabled people btw
I look forward to when i get meds, locking in, and achieving my dreams of becoming a wh*re
bad and gross vulgar talk
despite all my rage i have still put my cock in a cage
Missed support group (the situation is understandable and not really anyone's fault) but low key have been almost crying since. Its okay, just was looking forward to it and I guess estrogen is doing something 
Also >spent like 2 hours analyzing lines, opponent moves differently then expected on move 2
Soooo i got my first pair of pumps! These shoes were not made for walking... Because theyre 12-13cm stilletos. BUT! They make my feet and legs look sexy as hell! Im super happy, got them on sale, and all i need now is some foam for the toebox and a heel grip. Never gonna wear them out-out. But will happily wear them to events that are primarily seated. Fuck my ball of foot hurts but its so worth it! And theyre aggressive enough that i cant wear them everywhere, so i have a deterrent to constantly wearing them and giving myself bunions. Wish i could put a picture of them here... Also whoever recommended onlymaker shoes, thank youuuu!!! They fit very well, tbh theyre a touch large on me, but thats a good thing it makes my toesies happier.
I'm homeless now. So that's a life update I can throw out onto the internet.
Texting someone and accidentally hit the suggested response of "Yay!"
My mysterious femme fatale thing has been ruined, now im bubbly :pensive:
I've been getting gender envy a lot more often and stronger now that I've realized I just wanna be a girl with no asterisks. Like why am I sitting here in such jealous longing looking at a cute little sketch someone made on a blackboard.
I continue to feel like a fucking child because of how much my problems revolve around my parents.
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I've made up my mind. I'm not going to tell my parents anytime soon.
I can try to enforce my boundaries with them, but they don't give a shit. My mom just told me like 10 minutes ago that she doesn't respect me enough to respect my boundaries or just behave politely.
I'm not good enough for her. That kind of basic decency is exclusively for strangers and my mom's elders.
Maybe I'm just too autistic or something and don't get social norms of "love". Either way, I'm done with illusions. Hopefully it lasts.
Why does "gender critical" mean complete uncritical acceptance of hegemonic ideas about gender?? We're the ones who are actually critiquing gender over here lol.
Defenders of the status quo really love to pretend that they're edgy critics of the system huh
Should be starting HRT soon but Iβm kinda scared of the emotions. Iβm already barely this side of okay.
Every time I try to do something in Godot I am reminded of how little I know about everything
I think I'm getting better at identifying what is within my capabilities to do now or learn to do in the short term and that's helping me pare down my ideas down to a scope I can work with
but you are though