I'm struggling to think of an answer, but I guess the injustice of life in many forms. Some bad people have more success and luck than some good people. Alzheimers can make us forget the love of our lives after a long, happy life.
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Lack of agency
We die too quickly and not all of us and experience all facets of life due to increasing inequality and decreasing social mobility.
I strongly believe life would be better for everyone due to these two factors alone
Having a pattern finding machine between your ears that desperately tries to find meaning/reason/purpose in a meaningless universe
Not being able to live multiple timelines. I.e. having to make choices between one thing and another.
Lord of the flies was a thinly-veiled allegory for how the world actually works. There's no growup keeping it in check, we're on our own, and we're not great at it.
The many ways people try to make it not that. Like just lying to themselves. Or scapegoating some subset of humanity they're not in for it (which happens equally across the political spectrum).
Becoming old
For me it's the nature of time. As you get older the amount of time you have had experienced grows, so new time feels quicker in comparison. So time speeds up just as you learn to enjoy it.
You gotta get food. Like every day. Even when you can't or don't want to.
3 years I had a normal blood pressure.
5 years and 2 months ago I had a back.
10 years ago I had knees.
Oh, and I haven't slept more than 5 or 6 hours a night in several years and most of the time I'm lucky to get 4.
I truly do not mind getting older. It has a lot of benefits, but damn... I'd like there be enough of my body left to enjoy it.
People are very selective about who to empathize with. Not everyone, but enough people. I feel like almost all of my problems stem from that, somewhere down the line.
Your most comfortable underwear wears out fastest. >:(
softness is typically inversely related to durability.
durabile fibers tend to be larger and less comfortable against the skin.
There is no karma, evil assholes get away with it and live to ripe old ages far more often than they should
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Probably humans. I said it.
That eventually you have to say goodbye to parents, grandparents, animals, and loved ones - and there will always be a void you can't fill that they filled.
Grief is the price of love. 🥲
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Egoistic people. Too many just see their own needs, and I'm not talking about basic needs. They are stressed and drive recklessly, don't think about others when making decisions and so on. And in the and, we all pay a higher price for insignificant or no benefit of individuals. Life would be way easier if we could just slow down and stop having all those unrealistic expectations about what should be and started appreciate what is.
And yes I know that the world is a shitshow right now. I'm not saying you should ignore that.
agree with you. egotism is run rampant. especially in regard to politics, lifestyle etc. everyone seems to think anyone who doesn't reflect their immediate needs or views is evil and awful.
people simple can't tolerate anyone being different than them, because it's a challenge to their ego because it might mean they are wrong.
i remember when social media was fun and people celebrated differences, now they just tear each other apart over ever minor difference. i used to me allowed to do stuff and enjoy my life... now everything I do or don't do is 'problematic' or 'oppressive'. 10 years ago nobody cared what car I drove, now I get lectures/speeches about how 'evil' i am for not buying an EV and keeping my 10 year old ICE.
In 1994, I didn't own a computer yet, smartphones weren't a thing yet, I was 12 years old and learning to fix and rebuild lawnmowers and go-karts.
Age 13, I got my first computer, and promptly learned how to crash it that evening. Turned out it had a DriveSpace compressed hard drive, 125 whopping megabytes, and I didn't understand any of that yet on that very evening. But I had the manuals and the disks, and gradually learned the basics over the next 2 weeks to reformat and reinstall everything my uncle gave me.
By age 15 they were starting to shut down the local parts shops for small engine parts. Now mind you, that was way before online ordering was the big thing, and I was still running Windows 3.11, which I later upgraded to Windows 95, via floppy disk of course, because who in 1997 got a donor hand-me-down computer with a CD-ROM drive?
So, I started learning more about computers, and gradually learning automotive repair, the whole time building custom bicycles, because I had way too many spare junkyard bicycle parts.
But today, I dunno what the fuck to do. People don't really want things fixed like they used to, and even when they do, affordable parts are getting almost impossible to find for modern vehicles and devices.
I get by fixing older vehicles like from 2005 and before, wondering what the fuck done happened to society over all these years?
I'm sorry, I could go on and on, there's soo many things I can maintain and rebuild even, if only you could get parts and tools for modern stuff.
Right To Repair!
because repair doesn't make economical sense when it is cheaper to replace.
for most people, repair is expensive, time consuming, and difficult. It is not enjoyable or rewarding in any way. Replacement is far more immediate outside of very expensive long lasting items, like cars, homes, etc.
I do a lot of DIY, but the vast majority of people do not have the skills, patience, or time to spend hours figuring things out and then sourcing replacement parts to save a few bucks. They just want something that works asap, and replacement is almost always the faster option.
And that's half of how we ended up in the era of enshittification.
Let's say one of the control knobs on your 15 year old dumb stove fails, shorted out, where as soon as you turn it to low heat the eye is blazing hot at full heat. Do you?...
- A. Just not use that eye anymore
- B. Buy a new control knob and get another 10 years out of it
- C. Buy a whole new stove, that may last 5 years, and wants you to connect to the internet so they can eventually brick the firmware
We went with option B, way cheaper than a new stove, plus none of the headaches of modern digital technology. Like, why do appliances need modern digital technology? A stove heats food, plain and simple, and that's all it needs to do.
And look at these new refrigerators coming out, that fail within weeks to months, maybe at best a couple or few years. When your grandma's old fridge was passed down from her mom and has been kicking strong for 50 years, save for that new door seal installed like 15 years ago..
Sigh, we live in a disposable dystopia anymore ☹️
You aren't painting the full picture. The new stove is probably more efficient, cleaner, etc. Modern digital tech makes them better at these things. I have a 20 year old purely analog stove. It sucks balls. But I'm too cheap to justify buying an new one until it breaks. That's entirely on me though.
You are also grossly exaggerating things. I have a 4 year old washer, it came with a 10 year warranty. it broke twice already but both times it was covered under warranty at no cost to me. It was electronic failures. It's super efficient and I love it. Granted if I bought a cheapo one that was $300, it probably wouldn't have such a good warranty.
There are lots of choices. Nobody is forcing you to buy fridges that break. And plenty of companies do consumer testing for you such that you can buy a reliable model.
What you have is nostalgia. I had computers in the 90s too... they broke all the fucking time. I barely got 1 year old of a HDD back then. So yeah you had to repair them. Modern SSDs last much longer because they have no moving mechanical parts, on time of being blazingly faster.
Shitty stuff was always shitty. Good stuff is will always be good. There were shitty computer brands and appliance brands 20 years ago, maybe you were lucky enough to never encounter them, but the notion that 'things are bad because modern' is complete boomer nonsense. Modern appliances are way more reliable, efficient and superior to decades old appliances. It's just that have different points of failure that your 20 old appliance didn't.
Same with cars. Old luxury cars had electronic gizmos that broke. Modern cheap cars are better than old luxury cars, so now they have the same extra points of failure. Like... if you want a car 80s/90s car that's purely mechanical... cool, go buy a used one. There are plenty of them out there, but they tend to be collectors items at this point because people only really want them for the nostalgia factor. For everyday use a modern car is far superior in reliability and comfort to those cars, esp apple to apple comparison. a 2026 mid range Camry has more luxury than a 2000s Lexus.
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Getting older and watching loved ones get older
Seemin unability to truly live in the current moment. Always have to be thinking about the past or worrying about the future. With a decade of experience in meditation I've seen glimpses of what it could be like when you just are and everything is okay. It's all just so fleeting.
Maybe life seems fleeting because you are trying to perpetuate capture the present as if you can control it?
I don't try to control my life. I don't really worry about the past, or the future. Life doesn't seem fleeting at all to me, just very chill.
It's the fact that the easier options are bad choices.
It's easier to sit around the house than it is to exercise. It's easier to order pizza than it is to cook something. It's easier to be ignorant than actually learn and change.
The easy choice should be the good one. Making a bad choice should take effort.
Maybe it’s how you look at it. In the moment it’s an easier choice. But in the long run one leads to health complications and harder to come back from.
I call it Immediate gratification. Doesnt mean the choice is easier: just less with thought, self love or intention.
i think stress is a bigger problem. That needs to be addressed more seriously especially in a capitalist hell scape. Eating/drinking to find comfort/self medicate is but a symptom of a bigger problem.
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Nothing truly sucks about life. We could literally not exist, but instead we do. Existing is the coolest fucking thing ever. I'm glad I exist. Nothing truly sucks about existing compared to what not existing would be like.
"It's a wonder to be alive. If you don't understand that, how can you search for anything deeper?" - Liu Cixin
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The monotony. Life has wonderful moments, and there is joy and love. There is also the constant grind. Buying groceries, cooking meals, doing laundry, cleaning. Things that we never thought of as children, but it takes so much time just to continue living and filling basic needs. That's when you start to really appreciate the replicators in Star Trek. Sure at first it's like "I could have takeout anytime", but then you realize oh my god if I didn't have to shop, get groceries, cook, put them away, move them home, the whole thing, we'd have so much more time.
What if you like doing those things? I don't regard any of those things as a grind. I find them liberating and I hate it when I life gets in the way of me doing my chores.
More power to you I suppose?
Childhood that's gone in what feels like an instant before you had the chance to appreciate it, and by the time you do enjoy it after the fact, from memory, the moment is already long gone, no matter how hard you cling onto the memory, its already in the past, you have no time machine to go back and re-do that again.
Thats why I enjoy the shit out of hot water and living in a climate controlled environement and sleep on a mattress.
It's so long. Like holy shit, I get the picture already. This is egregious.
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Mostly I love being physically embodied, I love seeing and feeling, eating, sex, lived being pregnant, I love having a physical body and consciousness.
What sucks to me is not necessarily physical decline - in general I've been able to handle what is thrown at me. I do hate time though. Hate the way we experience it in one direction. Hate the irreversible past that leads to the unavoidable future, it seems to just all be rolling out with no way to change it, every action came from some past action. Not just a big ship to turn, more like it will turn or it won't but we can't make anything happen that wasn't already going to happen. Our present the irreversible past of tomorrow's unavoidable future.
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