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When you're taking pictures of yourself, don't use a mirror, it'll double the dirt and distort you. Just put your phone on a little tripod (very cheap) at waist level roughly 6 feet away, and use the self-timer. Try not to go any lower, that's how you look like a giant with a chin. Too high above you, and you can look like you have a massive had, and a small body.

Face the light source, not away from it, and diffuse lighting is generally better.

There's loads of posing guides out their, generally just try to get your whole body standing up. Maybe hit THE POSE.

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[โ€“] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

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[โ€“] isuggestforcefem@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago (2 children)
[โ€“] isuggestforcefem@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I can't believe no one has taken this username.

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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (4 children)

How convenient that while I'm in my misanthropy arc there's jackoffs on this site showing blatant disregard for trans youth getting healthcare, despite me explaining it to them.

Genuinely fuck cis people. Humanity is my fucking problem. People, even fucking here, even after I explain it don't give a shit. Fuck them.

[โ€“] lilypad@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Holy shit i hope that person gets banned off the site. Fuck them.

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[โ€“] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

Down with cis

[โ€“] Arahnya@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

The username is a dead giveaway with regards to how that person thinks about other people, but it kinda sticks in my mind how this flippancy manifests towards trans people and our struggles. Just sort of this very "everything is bad so get used to it" attitude, smh. i refuse to get used to it.

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[โ€“] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 18 points 1 month ago

dating, dysphoria

Finally asked a girl out on a dating app for the first time, and she said yes. This is a very special moment for me because it shows how far I've come. Because of gender dysphoria I never initiated because I always felt like a creepy man doing that. I'm finally moving past that.

I just got fixed today!

[โ€“] segfault11@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (3 children)

11 months on hrt and still no booba ๐Ÿ˜” but i swear some of my hair loss has reversed catgirl-huh

[โ€“] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

My hair loss reversed too! It's real!

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You need to have body fat % to have boobs, I just know sooo many rail thin trans women irl that have had the same complaints after years of HRT. Boobs are 80% body fat. You need the body fat to get it remodeled.

Anyway, 5 years later my boobs are still growing so its not like youre late or whatever.

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[โ€“] shallot@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Hey, I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who commented on my recent losing-of-shit re: tiddy. I kinda just fucked off and disappeared for a handful of days, and Iโ€™m still kinda vibing my way through things, but Iโ€™m most likely gonna jump back on.

I think Iโ€™ve just got some lingering appearance brain worms where, like, every trans girl is cool and valid and pretty except me, who is clearly a stinky jackass and a poser and basically an ogre or at least some kind of minor sewer demon.

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[โ€“] oscardejarjayes@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago

Experimenting with moisturizer, each limb is getting a different treatment so I can compare.

[โ€“] rafflesia@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

the thing they don't tell you about taking control of your own life is that now you have to do a bunch of shit doggirl-tears

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[โ€“] RION@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

Enby intern at work calling me "man" "guy" "boy" today like it's a competition to unwittingly misgender me. And I couldn't correct them because it wasn't in private and I didn't want other people hearing.

Usually I don't mind getting referred to as a man at work because only a few people know otherwise. But the fact that:

  • I've intentionally never referred to myself as a man with them
  • I've had no pronouns in my email signature and no name tag at all for months
  • we were having a conversation about a coworker who's recently come out as nonbinary and how the intern could just tell even beforehand
  • earlier I'd made a point about how I've been a fan of the singular they when you didn't know a person's gender since elementary (true story, kid me was based)
  • and, of course, they're nonbinary and should presumably know a thing or two about assumptions

Made it just very not good for me. I know it's not their fault and they almost certainly don't mean anything by it but still. I thought about it on the train ride home and then laid in bed and then did things to myself that would probably get this comment removed under the new rules.

I did call a friend which helped a little, she was quite supportive

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[โ€“] meler@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I have come to report that I have thrifted new sweaters and am feeling cute as FUCK today wearing one of them

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[โ€“] lilypad@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

cw not kink but kink adjacent i guess?ยน Its my day tomorrow. I need to be kinder to myself. And treat myself well. And celebrate myself. So I got myself a chewtoy stimtoy, a pink bone that i can gnaw on. And a washable plushie with a squeaker in it. I jus wanna curl up and chew on a bone and squeaky my plushie, itll be cozy and perfect, and a good step toward learning to celebrate myself better

spoiler footnote 1 Idk japanese but i thought the image was cute. If anyone knows, what does this say?

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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Used the last of my money to buy a can of cat food for a stray I found, shoved the can in my shirt to warm it up since I want it to not be too gelatinous. My boobs are finally handy

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[โ€“] catter@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (8 children)

weed, mental healthBeen scared to try weed because for a while it could put me out of a job, but I just switched to a place that doesn't care. So I tried it last night. Wow. It felt like being a kid again. For a brief moment, I enjoyed my hobbies, found things funny, and generally "felt" again. I could tell it was wearing off when my smile faded away. Chronic depression sucks.

That gave me some hope that I can feel joy. I can be happy. Did some makeup (badly lol) today and that feeling of joy was there. I'll have to wipe it off soon, but oh my goodness, I see me in the mirror cat-trans

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[โ€“] catter@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Getting gender euphoria from being dressed like a punk and walking out in the rain. I don't know why, I've always felt happier when the weather is kind of bad. Maybe it's the same reason I love blasting music, it gives me something else to focus on. Wondering if anyone else has a similar experience?

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[โ€“] meler@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I finally got a library card doggirl-smart

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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Woke up in the middle of the night and cried for an hour and a half.

Can't believe this is all I have going for me in my life. Just this stupid fucking job. No school, no other job, no plans, no SO or even really friends. Hope that I can get to a blue state and find a job and move out and start actually living.

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[โ€“] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

Yeah I'm AMAB.

Assigned Mum At Beginning-of-my-transition-oh-my-god-girls-my-age-who-have-been-transitioning-longer-than-me-are-looking-for-maternal-advice

[โ€“] RION@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Current unhealthy fixation: uploading pictures I'm in to LLMs and asking how many women are in the photo

ChatGPT most consistently reads me as a woman. Gemini doesn't but I'm having trouble getting clean results because it makes you use a Google account to upload images

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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Update: the mao mao cosplay I bought months ago and wore just now is one of the best things I've ever purchased. Even though I had to adjust the cosplay cause it doesn't actually fit me properly.

Dressing up like a medieval Chinese woman is a great confidence booster. I'd even be willing to go outside cause I'm gorgeous! But I need to actually learn how to do makeup (beyond slapping on some nail polish and lipstick).

And of course, this thing is not designed for the negative temperatures of Europe.

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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I keep FUCKING forgetting my support group meets, god that pisses me off. Not like I could have used it after this week agony

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[โ€“] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

I got another compliment that acknowledged my trans-ness but like in positive way. I was attending my potential new work and someone introduced me to one of the other workers. They said something like "wow she's tall". And it's like I'm tall because I'm a trans woman, and it sometimes makes me feel bad, but here it felt really good, something about society and it's expectations etcs

[โ€“] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Underrated transitioning tip is have a hobby. There's so much down time after checking off certain things and simply waiting is misery fuel. Looking back over the last few years, it's the only thing that got me through some of the tougher days.

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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

I think its kind of cute when I'm talking about my problems and stressors to cis people, and they very empatheticly tell me they understand (in a, "I've been through that" kinda way), and then slightly correct themselves that "except for being trans, obviously".

[โ€“] shallot@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

Picked up some running shoes and uh, friends, your auntie shallot is out of shape

[โ€“] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Tinder pisses me off. I asked this girl how she was and she responded 'good'. I then asked her what made her day so good, and then she replied with 'huh?'. Like it's not that hard to understand what I meant. She didn't say her 'day' was good, so maybe I shouldn't've said 'day' but still, it's not that hard to understand. So I responded with a question mark and whwn I looked back a couple hours later, she unmatched me. WTF

I despise the apps too lol, I gave it another shot. I dont like the number of matches and shit Im getting now (its too many) but the people I match with seem to have no personality and seem fundamentally uncurious about the world around them. Actually going on dates with these people was like pulling teeth... if Im not leading the conversation or asking questions theyre just sitting there like lumps - like you wanna see if I fit in your life, are you sure you dont wanna ask me about my family or life or career or goals or hobbies or lol. Cis men also suck hard, but its not like any other variety of human is any better.

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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Lunch lady told me "oh it's unfair that you have better nails than me powercry-1"

I know she gassing me up but I'll take it

Women do this all the time. We all understand how much it can brighten a day, so why not?

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Unless she got a tip jar near she means it, your nails are ๐Ÿ”ฅ

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[โ€“] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (2 children)

We should get to have more than 2 sets of pronouns. I want like 5.

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sometimes work is just saying "I can't fix that problem, it's not related to what I do and everything even vaguely related on my end is correct" fourteen different ways in a row until your coworker stops asking "why haven't you fixed this problem yet"

[โ€“] meler@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I feel like estrogen has done a ton to my body just in the past week. Like my hips feel noticeably different when I lay on my side

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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Trying on women's clothes makes me realise that I need to be smaller. Like I wish E would sap away your proportions. Even if I was thin, most of these clothes don't fit.

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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago

My hardest fit is my knock off snuggie called "the comfy" comfy-cool it's a extra big hoodie basically and I love being in it when I go out

Brother apparently expressed my dislike of being called uncle to my parents and they've made an effort to be more careful with how they gender me! cat-trans

TBF, I still haven't expressed how I want to be gendered (except not wanting to be called Uncle, but that was months before coming out), so sorta my fault they're not sure how I'd like to be addressed.

[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago

Thank you for the selfie tips. I will try to use them for nudes

[โ€“] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (2 children)

bought some ~vegan~ hard peppermint candies, and they're oh so good catgirl-happy

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[โ€“] meler@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I HAVE AN ANNOUCEMENTwaow I have ass. neato

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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Hello eyery-nyan catgirl-heart

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