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I remember my childhood mostly as a happy, oblivious one, affordable food, the usual disagreements between liberals and republicans, but nothing unhinged (say taxes, migrants or abortion). At least it looks reasonable today.

Now it's like everything is unhinged: politics seem to be based on purely emotional reactions and the other side is hell bent on destroying the country: texas starts heavily gerrymandering to secure 5 extra republican seats at the next midterms? california starts lobbying for doing exactly the same and dismantling an independent redistricting commission texas never had.

When I was younger it seemed politics were more rational and cruelty never seemed to be the point of doing nothing. Now we execute people with nitrogen gas, meaning a conscious person has to breathe something he knows its going to kill him during 4 minutes. This is somehow not cruel and unusual. And nobody bats an eye.

I still don't get how populists can be so popular now, they simplify complex issues most people without a degree in the matter, cannot grasp. This includes me.

I'm now 35 and wonder if I'm already talking like an old person who misses his young days so hard. I see that in people in their 60s and hoped never to become one of them, but here I am. To a younger person I may look like one of those old guys who lives to rant.

Am I going to feel even more detached and depressed with each passing day?

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[–] Aneb@lemmy.world 8 points 2 hours ago

I'm 25 and I literally saw an increase to heat waves year after year until 80°-90° was the norm in summer for the northern United States. I live in Pittsburgh now and the weather has shifted from raining 70% of the time, we use to have the gulf stream and mild climates. Now we get droughts after droughts, where's my goddamn lake effect from the Great Lakes. We are eliminating natural habitats at ungodly rates. My dad who was born in the 60s has MAGA blinders and doesn't see the effects of climate change. We are now fighting LLMs for clean water in a perilous situation that teetering on ecological disaster in many communities with newly installed data centers. Morally bankrupt politicians rather have a dollar in their pocket and vote for the persuasions of the rich like a puppet on a string. I miss bird watching and seeing bugs splatter on the windshield as you drive across the country, now its a mostly dry and barren trip because of overuse of pesticides and lack of habitats to regrow local insect colonies. Also the world is overpopulated as fuck and nobody can get a job in an ethical manner. You literally have to lie and cheat just to get a job that pays you better than shit, you would think the homeless people were violent and in gangs but its actually the goons on the top of the pyramid that have organized cabals and hired hitmen. So if there's a better world out there it starts with eating the rich and consuming less of the planet. Probably have to destroy the meat industry and the oil industry but if you say that out load people think you don't want people to have jobs when you actually think sustainable farming techniques should be widely adopted instead. It just feels like common sense and not even socialist, but apparently I'm a commie stoner who worships the devil to Fox News, and to my parents. They literally raised me to not only to be kind to be people but actually want better support systems for homeless people. My entire childhood was spent in a good nature providing free furniture to newly housed people who had nothing and I'm just expected to think Trump is next Messiah what the actual fuck is wrong with Christianity now a days.

Tldr: Yes we should eat the rich before the eat us

[–] nefertum@hexbear.net 4 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

The world is not the USA. The USA is getting worse. The USA is an unhinged shit hole. Things are getting better where I live in Mexico. We have a popular leader that is pushing popular social programs and as the US kills itself we're taking the opportunity to get closer to the rest of the world, build new infrastructure and sort out the American created cartels and chaos. China is getting better, they lifted millions of people out of dire poverty. Much of the rest of the world is doing just fine. There are always problem parts and hope simultaneously.

[–] myszka@lemmy.ml 11 points 4 hours ago

It is getting worse. Humanity is entering a deeper and deeper crisis. Alienation is growing with each passing year. The inner contradiction in every one of us is getting more intense, which manifests itself in more external conflicts: between people, between people and nature, between everything.

That being sad, this crisis just highlights the slow death of the previous, deeply troubled era and marks the transition to another way of living. The destructive aspect of things, that we all suffer from, is therefore not absolute. It is not going to destroy neither us nor the world around us. It is balanced off by the progress that we're making.

Take 3d printing, for example. If you think of it, it is actually the (very) beginning of something fundamentally new: local automated production. Automation eliminates the routine part of producing goods, which makes the process creative again, while not compromising on efficiency. This leads to production becoming a means of self-actualisation rather than something that takes away all your freedom. And since the process of making new things gives you value instead of taking it, the need for charging others for using your creations vanishes, giving way to free exchange and collaboration. This, if applied globally, would solve the fundamental issue of our current society, where creating good takes away just as much, making any growth a form of self-destruction. And solving that would spare us of all different kinds of problems, ranging from pollution, wars to emotional abuse.

So I think by getting worse it's also getting better and these difficult times we've happened to live in are still marvelous.

P.S. Apart from 3d printing, there's, of course, free software movement as well, which in my opinion is also part of the global free production evolution

[–] njm1314@lemmy.world 11 points 4 hours ago

Climate change alone makes it objectively worse. The widespread rise of fascism also I think makes objectively worse. So yeah it's bad.

[–] DancingBear@midwest.social 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

25 years ago the internet was still easy dial up and smart phones were coming out like you’d go to the library with your friends to check your email

MySpace lol

[–] yogthos@lemmy.ml 10 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

If you're in the west then it's worse now because capitalism is reaching the stages of systemic collapse. For people living in countries like China or Vietnam the picture is quite different. They see their lives improving each and every day. They have clean cities, great infrastructure, and a rate of technological progress we can only dream of. Those of us living in the west are living through a similar collapse to the one that happened in USSR in the 90s, but the west is only 13% of the world population.

[–] gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

It's crazy how 13% of the world population dominate the social media discourse so much that i basically see no other people's opinion ever.

[–] yogthos@lemmy.ml 7 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

You just have to start using non western platforms like Xiao Hong Shu and reading media from outside the west.

[–] gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

can we have fediverse mirroring of xiaohongshu?

[–] yogthos@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 hour ago

would be neat, maybe somebody will make a server to mirror it to loops :)

[–] dellish@lemmy.world 11 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Apart from politics, which is always pretty up and down, my two biggest concerns for the world are

  1. Nobody seems to know how to build things any more. Watching companies fumble around trying to build almost anything that has the same usable life as something built 60 years ago, with fewer materials and almost no computers, is infuriating.

  2. The environment is in a MUCH worse state. I was born in the 80s and I can say anyone my age or older who tells you climate change is a myth is either lying or never went outside. I remember seeing large flocks of birds overhead several times at dusk. Now there's almost nothing. Insect- and bird-life have largely collapsed, forests look sad and unhealthy, we are getting hot days earlier in the year and rainfall is nowhere near as consistent as it used to be. Do humans move farmland to places where rain now falls? Nope, they pump the rivers dry and make even more problems downstream. The situation is unsustainable and, with so many global leaders in the pockets of oil and gas companies, it is going to get a lot worse.

That said, I would say general quality of life, especially through medical advances has made a lot of people's lives better.

[–] catshit_dogfart@lemmy.world 5 points 2 hours ago

My observation is that the accomplishments of older times would be entirely impossible today, like basically all the public services we enjoy wouldn't be possible if they were proposed as a new thing.

Take the post office, if somebody had a big idea for the government to build tens of thousands of buildings and hire over a million people just to move around pieces of paper - they'd be laughed out of the room. Impossible, the government couldn't and shouldn't do any of that. All public services: the fire department, the police department, and especially public libraries, that all couldn't be created in the current political environment if it hadn't already been built.

[–] Dogyote@slrpnk.net 7 points 6 hours ago

All of the jokes in early simpsons seasons pointing out problems inside the US are still valid today. Long standing problems have not been solved and if anything the situation has continued to deteriorate.

[–] sunbeam60@lemmy.one 12 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

The world is definitely worse for younger people. I’m raising four kids and I weep for them.

Smart phones and social media have a LOT to answer for. I know that won’t necessarily be a popular opinion but that’s where I find the root of the problem. Well, that and FPTP election systems.

[–] Tenderizer78@lemmy.ml 8 points 14 hours ago

I think smart phones are a separate category of problem to the main issues of late-stage capitalism and ascendance of the alt-right. Though both are major issues.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 19 points 1 day ago

The US was better but we were on course for this. Earlier laws restricting suing of international companies, the patriot act, citizens united, etc. Honestly beyond all of this is the lack of shame. Like I don't think people are necessarily worse than they used to be but there was a vague agreement of what was bad and good and bad people wanted to hide being bad. There was shame. We seem to be living in the age of shamelessness. Like nazi types used to hide under klu klux klan robes but now they make youtube videos about how other races are inferior and the woke members of their race are race traitors. Again the roots go way back like the greed is good thing from the 80's.

[–] Aeao@lemmy.world 33 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I’ve (36m) asked my mother and grandfather if I’m overreacting.

My grandfather (104 when he died. He was so “dust bowl” he mother died of the dust in the dust bowl. Dust pneumonia. Yeah can’t get more depression era than that without also being a shoe shine boy at a carnival ): I killed the nazis once. I can kill them again

My mother (80f I asked here again just now. Right now face to face): I’ve never seen this cult behavior before. Never in my life. People will bury their trump flags in the ground and deny they ever supported him. Like the nazis did.

Yes this bad. It’s historically significant how bad it is. People will read about this moment in history and think “I hope my grandfather wasn’t a trumpet” as the look up their ancestors. Grandfathers will lie to their families about what they were doing right now. They will even shame me because all I did was comment online.

It’s specifically bad right now.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I feel this. I keep thinking of what gandolf said to frodo and I very much feel like frodo.

[–] Aeao@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I’m 36. I just told my mom I want to l go to France to ollattend a clown college. The shame in those eyes.

Sometimes the story isn’t what you wanted

[–] juche_fan@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 day ago

the contradictions are piling up and things are more openly fascist, economic opportunities are shrinking in the west, income inequality is off the chart, yeah things are actually worse

[–] Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works 43 points 1 day ago (2 children)

In the 90s, as a kid in Quebec, I thought racism, sexism, homophobia were all things of the past. Boy was I naive.

[–] GroundedGator@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago

Through the 90s and visiting various areas of the US, those things were always there but not discussed in the open. People would say disgusting shit to people they thought they were safe saying those things to.

We've come to the point where people will say they aren't racist but will still defend racist views and say racist shit but it's not all brown people, just certain ones.

We're probably about 6 months from having these assholes walk around with armbands.

[–] fishy@lemmy.today 12 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I'm from the Western US, they basically told us MLK delivered a banger speech, some people matched on DC and the country was cured of racism. We're all 100% equal now!

Hearing my neighbor say "I've got nothing against black people, I just wanna own a few of em." made me skeptical.

in my opinion the civil war around 1800 did not actually abolish slavery. it just made slavery more efficient.

instead of killing your slaves through hard work (which means you have to buy new ones) you can just work them longer if they live longer, i.e. that's why working conditions improved. at the same time, slavery got renamed into "prison labor". it's essentially the same thing.

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 76 points 1 day ago (2 children)

When I was younger it seemed politics were more rational and cruelty never seemed to be the point of doing nothing.

The cruelty was outside our borders. The rational, reasonable debate was for domestic issues. Foreigners got the bullet.

As the empire collapses the cruelty turns inwards i.e. fascism.

[–] KelvarCherry@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

This is exactly it. For Westerners just feeling the weight of the military-industrial complex, this feels unbelievable. The reality is, we were ignorant. Maybe we knew that Bush invaded Iraq, and had seen the pictures of Obama's drone strikes in Yemen, but seeing those events could never match the daily toll of knowing you're being targeted every single day. The few times that these crises bled onto US soil (Kent State, killings of George Floyd and Brianna Taylor, police brutality at BLM protests, Jan 6th insurrection) it felt like an unbelievable atrocity, but this was what the anti-war movement was trying to highlight.

I thought I understood what was being said because I knew the facts. Trump's reelection showed me how wrong I was.

[–] Jankatarch@lemmy.world 4 points 5 hours ago

"We were just minding our own business invading other countries for oil."

[–] random_character_a@lemmy.world 82 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (6 children)

Person born in the late 70's here

Although birth of social media took a gigant shit on peoples general mindset and world feels more divided, right wing and missing "street level" empathy, world is still better.

For example in the 80's autistic people were just mentally retarded, dyslexic people were just stupid, bullying in schools was normal behaviour and part of being young, violence among teenagers was more commonplace, attitude that animals were just biological machines with instinctual reactions and just appearance of some cognition was more commonplace. 80's yuppie culture made it fashionable to be a wealthy asshole.

In the 90's home computers became common. Recession had bankrupted many high rolling yuppies. Nerds were no longer beaten for knowing how tech works. Gamer culture was no longer niche phenomenon. Cold war was over and nuclear armageddon was distant thing. Youth culture still had this doom and gloom attitude. Everyone was a flannel wearing tortured skater boy/girl. 90's was the "tomboy era", where girls were allowed to dress and act like boys without being socially ostracised. More attention was focused on mental health and colorful spectrum of human mind.

Late 90s and early 00 internet really started rolling, smarphones started to appear, social media was born. World became very small and everyone who wanted was a content creator. Suddenly large portion of population communicated with people outside their country on a daily basis.

This was the best time in the Internet. Search engines started to actually work and new webpages were sometimes an actual joy. Algorithms weren't corrupting things and polarizing everything. Autogenerated content was yet to come. Internet and social media was infused as essential part of our lives.

2010's the enshittification started and commercialization was on full gear. 2020 has become the era of stupid. AI, autogenerated content, polarization and dead internet.

But even with all this, I still think it's now better for the average person than the cold war paranoia world of the 70-80's.

We are however on a downward spiral and I'm hoping for a counter reaction in coming decades. Hoping that ignorances of past world are just making noise and attracting attention before they vanish for good.

[–] FenrirIII@lemmy.world -1 points 14 hours ago

The Matrix was built to resemble the late 90s-00, "the pinnacle of civilization"

[–] tetris11@feddit.uk 30 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I've been watching BBC Archive footage from the 80s recently:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yfE9Ihr8F0

Everyone has the exact same fears as they do now: Russian interference, outcompeted by China, being a US lapdog, the price of housing, education standards, rich/poor divide.

All the exact same talking points we have today. We havent changed that much in 50 years just different gadgets.

(Though the absolute rich/ absolute poor divide is a lot bigger

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[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 4 points 1 day ago

Coming from the 70's (US) as well the thing is things were generally getting better. The trend was upward although I would say economically that sorta ended in 2000 while technologically it was more around 20teens (excepting open source). The thing about politically, especially with freedom and rights, its been sorta back and forth but again felt more two steps forward one back pre 2k and one forward two back afterwards. Its starting to feel all back and no forward this year.

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago (3 children)

This was immensely interesting and helpful, thank you. I'm a millennial and reading your perspective is huge to me. I wish more things like this were shared openly, honestly, with an analytical perspective, from more people.

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[–] recklessengagement@lemmy.world 91 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It can be both. This is also very specific to the western world and america in general, as other parts of the world have very different experiences, both good and bad

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[–] redchert@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 1 day ago

My dad said that everything "went to shit" once they started privatizing hospitals and public infrastructure.

[–] hansolo@lemmy.today 15 points 1 day ago

Yep.

It's very important to remember that between 1991 and 2001, the US saw 10 years of a world that was the epilogue of the End of History. We had won the Cold War, and while there were problems, they were largely distant, the politics fairly civil, things like the internet changing life quickly, and even the moments of hard times gave us great music. It took 2-3 years for the effects of Columbine and 9/11 to really change the country and world.

25 years is also not nothing. 25 years before 2001 was 1976. Star Wars was new. Ford was president. Disco was HOT. Apple and Microsoft were founded. Things can change a lot.

liberals and republicans

same-picture

[–] woodenghost@hexbear.net 16 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yes. The contradictions of capitalism are only getting worse. Workers, care givers, nature, social institutions, racialized people and countries, all can only be exploited and expropriated so much. But capitalism demands more and more. So it will continue getting worse until successful revolutions. But you don't have to feel detached about it. You can try to understand it, tell others about it, look around for awesome people struggling against it, maybe even find ways to help them. I started reading Nancy Fraser's new book "Cannibal Capitalism" it's short, tries to be accessible and it explains how all those areas of struggle I mentioned above are connected.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 20 points 1 day ago

Twenty-five years ago many slurs now rightly shunned were still part of common speech.

Twenty-five years ago marriage equality was not even on the table.

A lot of things are worse now, but a lot of things are better, too. I'd say right now things are worse than ten years ago but you can't go much farther back without it getting murky.

[–] OctopusNemeses@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

The era of Pax Americana is over. There is a global realignment underway. The future is more uncertain than any of us have known in our lifetime.

For a while there was an idea that globalization would elevate the world. This post war era was the first part of our lives. It turns out America and Europe decided it isn't acceptable when the world actually started having it good. So now we have to burn it all down and enter a phase of heightened global conflict. We'll kill each other until we're tired of that. Then maybe there will be another period of relative peace. Seems to be the nature of humanity.

[–] RustySharp@programming.dev 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Grew up watching news of Palestinians and Israelis killing each other. Good thing that was 40 years ago.

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[–] darthelmet@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 day ago

I think the answer is "yes" and "it depends on what you mean." What is better or worse? For whom is it better or worse? Are we talking about the causes or the results?

If we are talking about results and how they affect the majority of people, yes, it is worse. Wealth concentration has increased. The environment has gotten worse. There is more war now than there was pre-2000, etc. All of these were problems in the past, but the course of history has naturally intensified them over time.

But a lot of what you're talking about are causes: What politics leads to these things? Was it better back then and it getting worse now is why things are worse? And to that I say: Not really. America has been this cruel and greedy for a long time and that past greed and cruelty directly contributed to how things are today. Perhaps some of this feeling is you just becoming more aware of things, but part of it is that the politicians of that day cared more about keeping up the mask. They weren't any less cruel, but they were better at hiding it behind a facade of respectability.

So what's changed and what has stayed the same? The core feature running through all of this history is capitalism. Capitalists have immense power by virtue of their control over wealth and production and therefore the state primarily represents their interests. They might have different strategies for accomplishing that, different personalities, or different secondary priorities, but regardless of which politician is in office, support for capitalists is the primary concern.

This support for capital has to contend with various forces of history. Technology, labor power, geopolitics, etc all affect capitalism and the government must respond accordingly.

The period between the fall of the Soviet Union in 1991 and 9/11 2001 was considered to be a period in which the US became the unrivaled power in the world. It may have appeared more peaceful, but that was due to a lack of meaningful geopolitical rivals to fight against. But it's not like it stopped developing the military industrial complex during that time. It was still prepared to exert it's power over the world, violently if necessary. This changed post 2001 because they finally got push back for their imperialism and had someone to openly fight. And with a new foreign enemy, the US once again had something to direct people's fear and anger away from capitalism.

Some combination of globalization and advances in automation broke what little power workers had managed to earn during the mid-20th century. This meant that the government and capitalists didn't have to give as many concessions to workers as they used to and the resulting economic losses created an angry and desperate population. This anger COULD have been directed towards the root of the problem if there were better class consciousness in the US, but instead racists were able to capitalize on it to direct people to their causes.

The last major development to talk about here is the rise of the internet. On one had, this enabled people to see things and communicate with people they never would have been able to in the past. The potential for this to open people's minds and connect people was tremendous and obviously a potential threat to capitalism as it wasn't as easy to control the flow of information anymore. Unfortunately the dark side is that algorithmic social media has managed to bring out the worst in people. Some of that is due to deliberate manipulations by platform owners, but some of it is just the unfortunate consequences of how mass human psychology interacts with an algorithm designed to optimize the amount of time people spend looking at ads and getting others to spend time looking at ads. Certain kinds of content, usually ones that elicit strong emotions, are more likely to get people's attention than others. So in the absence of that class consciousness, it's pretty easy for hatemongers to get their messages to spread.

I suppose my point is, when you get these kinds of feelings, it helps to try to learn some more and take an analytical approach to understand better and hopefully find a way forward. Just feeling like things are generically worse is an oversimplification that misses the underlying forces responsible for that feeling. We wouldn't be where we are now if things were different in the past, so just thinking of the past as being better misses the role it plays in the present.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 27 points 1 day ago (1 children)

40 here. Your sentiments are my sentiments.

Fuck this place. But also we gotta fix it.

[–] Cherry@piefed.social 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

A tad older. My response was the same as yours. I dream of fixing it but how?

Then I remember so many people voted or walked towards this. A handful of greedy have been pushing this and other humans were happy to enable it, and millions more accept it.

Which leads me to think maybe I am the minority.

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[–] mistermodal@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

The chickens came home to roost again ✈️🏢

[–] bennieandthez@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 1 day ago

I think its time for you to do some self reflecting and ask yourself if it really was that good of a time for the rest of the world or just you due to your immediate context (being american).

[–] sturlabragason@lemmy.world 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Welcome to being a Doomer. 90s was according to several sources the best time ever in human history, the peak that is.

“The crux of the problem is that, geopolitically and demographically speaking, for most of the last seventy-five years, we have been living in that perfect moment. At the end of World War II, the Americans created history’s greatest military alliance to arrest, contain, and beat back the Soviet Union…What is often forgotten, however, is that this alliance was only half the plan. In order to cement their new coalition, the Americans also fostered an environment of global security so that any partner could go anywhere, anytime, interface with anyone, in any economic manner, participate in any supply chain and access any material input – all without needing a military escort. This butter side of the Americans’ guns-and-butter deal created what we today recognize as free trade. Globalization. Globalization brought development and industrialization to a wide swath of the planet for the first time, generating the mass consumption societies and the blizzard of trade and the juggernaut of technological progress we all find so familiar. And that reshaped global demographics. Mass development and industrialization extended life spans, while simultaneously encouraging urbanization. For decades that meant more and more workers and consumers, the people who give economies some serious go. One outcome among many was the fastest economic growth humanity has ever seen. Decades of it…But all things must pass. We now face a new change in condition…”

  • Peter Zeihan, The End of the World Is Just the Beginning: Mapping the Collapse of Globalization

This book is: Something

Top comment here describes it better then I can;

https://goodreads.com/book/show/58782897-the-end-of-the-world-is-just-the-beginning

[–] jackal@lemmy.ml 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is a very US-centered comment. It's ridiculous to say the 90s was the best time in human history during the same decade when the USSR collapsed and living standards for millions of people dropped substantially. That should automatically exclude the decade from "best in human history", if you consider humanity to include all of humanity.

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