Not keeping proper distance to the vehicle in front or behind them
this post was submitted on 11 Dec 2024
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How does a driver choose how close someone follows them?
The nerve of that guy driving so close to the car behind them!
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Accelerate, brake, accelerate, brake, accelerate, brake on repeat when on a wide open road.
Some drivers do this seemingly without being aware and once you notice it's impossible to ignore how irritating the feeling is.
Braking doesn't even have to factor into it, I can't stand the feeling of going on and off the throttle. Cruise control exists for a reason, people.
People who know damn well they have a right turn coming up in fewer than 30 seconds, but are perfectly comfortable riding that left lane until the last possible second before they violently swoop cut across all lanes of traffic at once to make their turn.
Bonus points if that turning lane is swamped with other cars, but their tunnel vision was so deep they don't notice until they attempt to merge, and they become frustrated that they either can't make it, or they have to aggressively steal the right-of-way to force themselves in.
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My husband regularly continues accelerating toward the vehicle in front of us while said vehicle is braking. He also tailgates. It's terrifying and I rarely let him be the one to drive.
Granted I'm a lifelong loner but...how do you deal with this? I don't know for sure, but I don't think I could ever have a partner who drives so egregiously dangerous. Not only is it dangerous, but it also indicates a severe lack of empathy for other human beings. I don't know how I could reconcile a severe lack of empathy in a partner like that.
I guess it depends. Does he tailgate out of aggression or because he's not paying attention? Not that one is necessarily better than others, but the intent is different. One just implies stupidity while the other implies lack of empathy.
I deal with it by being the one to drive more than 99% of the time. It would be a problem if he wanted to be the one driving, but fortunately he doesn't.
I don't know why he tailgates. He doesn't recognize that what he's doing is dangerous. So I guess stupidity....
The last time I was a passenger in my brother's car, I remembered that he tends to drive in a way that makes me feel unsafe, like what OP described. Unreasonable acceleration, tailgating, swerving. He laughed when I was physically bracing myself and said his partner does the same thing. I told him I just won't be in a car when he's driving anymore. Of course, it's easier to do because I don't see him too often.
IMO when I'm driving, I not only have a responsibility to keep my passengers safe, but to make them feel safe. I might feel safe because I know I'll brake in time, but my passengers don't because they're not controlling the vehicle.
Not the one you're replying to but my SO was a terrible driver and still has issues. At first I brought it to them calmly but over the years it turned into nagging. That being said, their driving has improved significantly. Much safer than it was but they still get mad at other cars who were being oblivious. They also admitted they have problems seeing at night so I always drive at night now.
They're aware I have a problem with their driving and it is a source of contention in our relationship but not enough to break up over.
My father in law brakes incredibly late. Consequently, he brakes very hard. Drives me (heh) insane, and causes me to reach for the oh-shit bar and the ghost brake every time.
Add in hysterical, blood-vessel-throbbing shrieks at the person in front, and you've just described my mom's driving. It's terrifying to ride anywhere with her.
My ex gets distracted easily. She always hated that I would ghost brake, but I can’t help it when she’s not reacting to the stopped car in front of us
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When we're first in line at a red light, and the driver starts doing shit like check their phone.
Wife does this and it drives me nuts - unless it just turned red, you fucking stare at that light so you can GTFO the second it turns green.
...then she gets annoyed when I say "light's green" when it turns while she's distracted. -_-
My husband got a ticket/points on his license doing that and that stopped him.
I wish they enforced that more in my area.
Being first at a red light is a big responsibility. That shit is not to be taken lightly.
No tolerance for that. Yank the phone from their hand and scold them like a child. That's ridiculous.
Theres plenty of people who complain about drivers who get ticketed for using a mobile while at lights or stopped in traffic (think of the comments on a particular uk cycle cammer who films drivers using their mobiles then reports them) but it plays heavily with situational awareness & drivers ability to "check back in" to the activity of driving.
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Driving digitally. Gas and brake pedals are analog controllers, not buttons.
ffs people with lead feet need to read this
My wife's family drives like this, not just with the pedals but with the wheel too. Instead of turning it to where it needs to be and holding it they turn it to far then over correct back twords center then back to the first spot they turned it to, then overcorrect, and repeat the entire turn. Thankfully I was able to get my wife to stop driving this way when we started dating and now she hates riding with any of her family driving as much as I do.
Convsersely, a passenger who takes off their seatbelt when I get close to their destination.
My wife will not turn off her wipers even when it's no longer raining. Drives me mad.
This is a weird one, but a personal pet peeve. Assuming no one is behind you and there are already some cars at a red light ahead of you, there is no reason to accelerate. Let off the gas. Coast. Sometimes the light turns green by the time your there. If you keep accelerating and stop that's just wasted gas.
Tailgating is frightening, especially when it's very clear that if something suddenly happened ahead the driver could not react without superpowers they don't have.
Getting on a cell phone.
My former boss's wife used to steer very strangely when driving - The Jeep was likely out of alignment, but instead of staying centered and making continuous small corrections, she'd let it drift to one side till it was on the line then quickly correct back towards center and then continue drifting, endlessly until arriving at the destination.
Sitting at 60 in the middle lane, and then getting angry because people are tailgating and both over and under taking. Have some fucking lane disaplin.
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Tailgating, racing other drivers, quick jerk lane changes, speeding more than ten mph over the limit, last minute braking.
My brother once drove 60mph down a winding narrow mountain road one-handed while sipping tea. Cool story to tell now that i say it like that, but i can assure you it was not cool to be in the passenger seat at the time
Looking at me when they're talking. I don't care for the politeness of it, just watch the road!
My friend won't wear his fucking seatbelt so the car fucking dings the whole time
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