It's not a common scenario nowadays, but I have a coworker with 4 incredibly young children all only a year or two apart in age. A bit harder to wrangle that many children who are that young.
DBT also very much addresses behaviors. It's in the name still after all haha. Both CBT and DBT are "behavioral" therapies. But imo it does it in a far less invalidating and far more reasonable and compassionate way. I used to try to "logic" everything away to an extreme degree...it was so counterproductive that it exacerbated the opposite...extreme emotional instability. Once DBT taught more on how to actually integrate the feelings, it felt a lot better. Your emotions are so incredibly important and what makes you human.
Is this a CBT concept? I always hated CBT. It felt so invalidating.
No. You can be upset and it can be incredibly painful without it being a maladaptive response. For example...not getting the job you applied for, being bullied, being rejected by your crush, a death in the family, etc.
I prefer DBT's approach at integrating both logic AND emotions.
I don't think it's wrong to have friendships at all. Your question was about romantic relationships, though, and thus the above person replied in terms of that.
I'm very sorry you went through all of that. Have you ever spoke to a professional about these things? Mental health is a difficult journey, but if you truly do want a relationship, I'd wager you'd eventually find some success in therapy and more life satisfaction in this area.
One of the things I will say is that the specific type of therapy also can be important. I found huge success with a type called DBT, but I don't actually think this would help you out much here.
Look for trauma focused therapies. Ones I've heard of that night ne world looking into are called EMDR therapy and internal family systems therapy. One of these may be a decent starting off point. I'm sure there are others out there too to investigate, but these are some of the ones that I've come across.
With all due respect, that sounds rather concerning. There are many reasons why someone might identify with asexuality, but there is something seriously concerning in what you wrote. I would advise against seeing anyone at this stage, asexual or not.
Do you know why you feel this sort of an extreme response?
That's great that it works for everyone, but I get annoyed when it is peddled as a cure all.
Most forms of exercise simply magnify my current mood. Feeling good? I'll feel fantastic. Feeling shit? I'll feel even worse.
That's how it works for me, personally. I need an activity that much more intently involves both my body and brain. There are exercise forms that do this, but you have to search for them.
I just get a bit sore about the subject because I went on a journey where I exercised more and more and harder and harder over a span of about 1.5 years. All the while my mental health kept declining...ending up quite severe.
What "fixed" me wasn't continuing to go harder and harder into my exercise mode. For me, I needed intensive therapy and medication combined with trying to fill my schedule more with activities. I'm actually in the best headspace I've ever been now after I stopped fruitlessly and endlessly trying to exercise away the pain.
I'm glad it worked for you. And I think it's worth a shot for many. But for those who keep diving further into it never finding relief, it's time to look elsewhere on what to try next.
Honestly I'm not even depressed but I just in general am a pretty lazy and easily tired person lol. I remember when I got my first full time job in my early 20s. Was my first time working 40 hours a week and I was like holy shit is every adult just tired all the time from this???
The one thing I tried on pizza that was unexpectedly gross to me was broccoli. I actually really enjoy broccoli but on a pizza it made the whole thing taste nasty.
What in the fresh hell???
I only knew of this man. Never stumbled upon his content. It is just sad that so many people share these views because what the actual fuck.
Hey all. Just looking for a quick opinion. I have wanted to get one final arm tattoo. Only my forearm and wrist tattoos are visible a majority of the time because I work in short sleeves and pants lol. I want something else visible for me to look at!
Here's a pic of the placement of all of my tattoos (outer ankle tattoo not visible tho):
The tattoo will essentially be three smaller tattoos in a row. Thematically, it fits in with my shoulder tattoo.
Here's a shitty scratch pic kind of trying to showing where I want it. I want to go inner bicep:
As you can see, one of my legs is tattooed. I am planning to slowly build sort of a patchwork leg sleeve over time with any remaining tattoo ideas. This would be the last tattoo to go on my arms. I don't plan on tattooing the other leg.
But the placement I want for this upcoming tattoo combined with the knowledge that I'm done with the arms and only planning to do one leg makes things seem rather unbalanced with shorts. I live in a fairly hot climate wh re it's shorts weather most of the year.
Idk is this too awkward to get or am I overthinking it?
Thanks lol.
I impulse bought an orange gas tank online. One of my many regrets in impulse buying my bike was that I wanted a brighter color lol. I really wanted the bright red, but only found dented ones for a reasonable price. Found this orange one instead and mashed the buy button lol.
Some follow up questions:
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How do I get last bit of fuel out from the old tank? There is still quite a bit swishing around even after I took off the fuel cap and fuel pump and poured gas directly from the openings. At the moment, it is just turned upside down in a pan hoping the remainder will eventually dry out/evaporate.
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How can I help prevent the old tank from rusting in storage? I'm not necessarily planning to use it again, but just in case.
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How the fuck do I get fuel to pour out of this gas can with a "safety spout"? Basically you push on the spout to get it to pour, but it only barely dribbles out that way. The red tab I think needs to be depressed or moved somehow but it won't budge. Any ideas? I just ended up removing the spout and pouring it directly out of the can via funnel
Bonus: Looking for some ideas to temporarily decorate the bike for Halloween! The bike is kept outside tho so it would need to be somewhat weather proof lol.
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Hi all. Noob here back again. I got the screws out of the front master cylinder, but I have been having a different problem.
When under higher RPMs, the bike gives off a VERY strong fuel smell. It's still noticeable at lower RPMs, but not as bad. It didn't do this initially when I got it a few months ago, but I didn't ride it much initially.
Bike is a 2017 Honda Rebel 300. Fuel injected. No carb.
I noticed that the gasket to the gas cap was a bit cracked and distorted so I got a new gas cap. Didn't resolve the issue.
There are no visible leaks anywhere that I can tell.
The smell is very strong around the gas cap and engine, not so much the tailpipe. The bike seems to run great otherwise.
Unfortunately, googling seems to show this as a very nonspecific issue, so I'm a bit lost as to where to begin. I'm a huge noob when it comes to mechanical things.
Thanks!
Hello. I'm a new rider who recently purchased a ten year old bike. I have ZERO mechanical know how, but decided that I wanted to learn.
So far I managed to take both the front and rear wheels off to get the tires changed and I managed to change the oil. Since I am unskilled, it took a LOT of fumbling through these to get things going...including breaking some nuts (rear axle nut was stuck and I originally only had a 12 point socket) and bolts (overtorqued an oil filter cover bolt despite using a torque wrench) and buying replacement ones.
Since the bike is 10 years old, I know that all of the fluids need to be changed. I feel comfortable attempting the actual change for the brake fluid from my research EXCEPT I don't want to irreparably damage this area. The front brake works fine, but the sight glass is totally clouded and opaque, so I cannot visually check the condition or level of the fluid.
These are JIS screws and I have purchased replacement screws. Any advice here? Please consider my novice skill level lol.
I bought some screw extractor bits but do not have an impact driver. I have some JIS screwdrivers, a hammer, a regular drill, penetrating oil, and replacement JIS screws.
Thanks!
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Hell...sitting just on the ground I'd even understand. It sounds spontaneous enough. But bringing out a fucking chair is just deliberate and fucking bizarre behavior.