Off My Chest
RULES:
I am looking for mods!
1. The "good" part of our community means we are pro-empathy and anti-harassment. However, we don't intend to make this a "safe space" where everyone has to be a saint. Sh*t happens, and life is messy. That's why we get things off our chests.
2. Bigotry is not allowed. That includes racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, and religiophobia. (If you want to vent about religion, that's fine; but religion is not inherently evil.)
3. Frustrated, venting, or angry posts are still welcome.
4. Posts and comments that bait, threaten, or incite harassment are not allowed.
5. If anyone offers mental, medical, or professional advice here, please remember to take it with a grain of salt. Seek out real professionals if needed.
6. Please put NSFW behind NSFW tags.
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I have this kind of internal "moderator" for lack of a better word, and basically I'm not "allowed" to have a real partner, because I don't deserve one.
'Deserve' by who's metric?
Humans are communal creatures, we are not meant to be alone and it's driving a lot of the unhappiness in the world
You have value and worth and no person can decide for you what those are.
The "moderator"'s. The best way I can describe it is like a conscience except a really harsh one, and it's like the arbiter of truth but that truth can change very rapidly. Sometimes I'm a bad person, then I'm good, then bad. It's like being given a list of truths and instructions but each one has two sentences overlaid on top of each other and both sentences say the opposite things.
So during the times when you feel like you are a "good person", do you feel like you are deserving of a relationship then?
Do you have examples of when you feel like a good person and when you feel like a bad person. I guess I can pretty much relate to that in a way, but I've never applied it to a relationship.