Ask Lemmy

The license says 9PEN155. I think it says PENIS. The driver was a man. Did this guy win the license plate lottery? Or did he pay for a vanity plate that was subtle enough that it got through the censorship?

The license says 9PEN155. I think it says PENIS. The driver was a man. Did this guy win the license plate lottery? Or did he pay for a vanity plate that was subtle enough that it got through the censorship?

I grew up in a rough household. We had holes punched into the walls, doors torn off the frames, my siblings and I saw regular abuse, and as a kid I constantly felt like I had to do things to keep the family held together.

I felt like I was treated by my parents as a servant. They constantly threw away anything I remotely liked, and continued stacking chores on me, especially those that weren't my own mess. They gave me the boot shortly before graduation, and long story short, I finally got a place for myself after years of effort.

I just can't shake this feeling though that things are painfully unfair. Like you escape hell after all these years, and the first thing expected from you is to find a job. I get it, you need to work to make money and pay the rent and bills but... why me? Why after all this time of putting up with the crap you have instead of being a kid are you just expected to step in line like everyone else when you never got that opportunity to find who you are and simply enjoy life for what it is.

I don't know, is this lazy? It's not that I don't want to work, but why can't I be a kid? Why can't I have some time to reclaim what all was taken from me and have some time to enjoy myself rather than grasp at random short memories I had before I was 5? Everyone else got it, why not me?

I don't know, am I just rambling about nothing?

I work for a small company, in the United States. Part of my duties is building out quotes for products and services our company sells. I'm trying to avoid being overly specific, but basically I have been asked to quote out a product we often sell, but to also include in the quote a feature which out company cannot actually provide. The customer has several of the item I am supposed to quote already and believes that they have the additional feature on all of the existing devices, so expects to see it on this quote for their new site.

I have brought up with my boss in the past that we have not implemented the additional feature and to the best of my knowledge we can't. He assured me he was looking at addressing that. Today, after receiving the request for this new quote, I asked my boss about it, he said he still hasn't come up with a plan to address the issue, but wants me to move forward with pricing it out anyway.

It would be a big hit to our company if the customer left us, but I struggle to see how what my company is doing here isn't fraud. I'm not really comfortable with doing this, but my relationship with management is already strained and I wasn't really looking to create any more waves at the moment.

Are there good resources I could look to to determine if this would constitute fraud from a legal perspective? Has anyone here ever been in a similar situation?

I'm looking for another job, but don't have anything lined up yet, so nervous about doing (or not doing) something that would get me fired, but Im not comfortable with what appears to me to be dishonest at best and fraudulent at worst.

Edit: wanted to add that to the best of my knowledge, we aren't selling that additional feature to anyone else at the moment. I think my boss is just afraid of this customer in particular finding out since they've already been sold the feature and they're a larger customer.

Edit 2: thanks everyone for the advice. It is much appreciated. I've got a lot of thinking to do tonight.

I have a memory foam matress on top a cot. Every now and then I need to sun dry the mattress and cot from a decent amount of moisture trapped between the two. Is there a way to keep the moisture out or even just reduce it?

I don't fit very well with the idea of masculinity. I'm just a goofy nerd with a gentle personality and the desire to make others happy. I have always wanted to look soft and approachable; I have smooth, rounded facial features, wavy hair, big glasses, and a clean-shaven face. My personality is utterly non-threatening. I love caring for people, I enjoy being silly and whimsical, I'm a bit clumsy and get flustered easily, I wouldn't hurt a fly (unless I had to), and I'm polite to a fault. My paradise is a warm, cozy, quiet safe haven surrounded by cute plushies.

I'm not manly in the slightest, and I love being that way. I'm a total softie through and through, and I purposely align my appearance with my personality. I look gentle because I am gentle.

I have always been treated differently than my male peers. Many people are inexplicably nicer or softer on me even if they barely know me. Female friends have fawned over me, calling me things like "cute," "adorable," and "sweetheart," and expressing a desire to protect me. And I love it. I don't find it offensive or infantilizing at all.

Through extensive introspection, I later figured out that care and nurturing are incredibly attractive to me, and the funny tickle I felt whenever I was shown care and protection by my female friends was actually a subtle tinge of attraction. It's rather curious that my personality and gender expression just happened to develop in such a way to subconsciously solicit that kind of attention.

This is all well and good, but I worry that this makes me categorically unsexy due to my intentional suppression of gendered characteristics and desire to give off pure, wholesome vibes. Could I really be sexually desirable if I'm the kind of person who apologizes to trees for bumping into them? Some women have even teasingly called me a "Christian" or "virgin" because of this perceived innocence, suggesting that some people do indeed associate my personality with sexual restraint or abstinence.

In reality, I absolutely do want a sexual relationship, and I have always imagined myself treating a partner with the same gentle caregiving energy that I myself crave. I don't do "naughty" or "dominant"; I would view a partner's body as something to passionately take care of, not something to tease or conquer.

I would appreciate some outside perspective on this. Thanks!

As in, not known to you IRL.

I've occasionally brought it up before, but a while back in my reddit days I was in a thread where a "professional deprogrammer" had popped in and was talking about how to "deprogram" conservatives and get them to shift left in their views. It centered around restoring their sense of community and belonging with more balanced viewpoint folks IRL and away from their online echo chambers.

I asked them if they had any way to convert someone you encounter wholly online and they said that it was basically impossible, IRL you have a decent chance, but not online.

I've been thinking about that quite a bit, so now I'm curious if anybody here has actually gotten an online conservative to come to the ~~dark side~~ light side?

I sometimes have ideas for law-abiding hacktivist activity involving various political views. I am extremely liberal when it comes to support of free speech and LGBT+ rights. I have one idea in particular that I would like to do and would like others to help and don't want to do it alone. Understanding html and website development would help, as well as understanding linux. I know something about how to setup a server but not other things related to web development. For various reasons, I wouldn't want to post my specific idea on here, because although it's not illegal, it could be controversial. Where do I find like-minded individuals?

I'm talking like Ursula or the French spider from from James and the giant peach. Don't give me some conventionally attractive humans (though humans are totally allowed) please.

Personally mine was Goldie from Rock-a-doodle. I probably watched that movie 100 times on VHS as a kid.

Why are most people here are negative and rude?

Just to be clear here, I am not talking about instance, rather I am asking about the whole community.

There is no one I seen here who even had expressed any passion towards anything really.

I cannot understand how did that happen?

By "unconventional" I mean something other than classical visual or audio arts like painting, sculpture, music, etc.

I've never been a very "artistic" person. But when I took my first programming class, I worked on my code like it was a sculpture. I found beauty in making my code clean, efficient, easy to read, and user-friendly. It still seems weird and affectatious to say, and I wasn't really expecting that kind of experience from that class! It was one of the only times I ever felt "artistic."

But why not? Any medium can be artful.

What's your non-traditional art?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/41193567

I'm interested in both and can get into Data Science with both, but I'm mainly asking myself which one would be better paired with a career in journalism? (data journalism)

My recent ones aren't very serious but they've been living rent free.

Coworker called me a tech racoon because I don't throw computer shit away.

Other was another coworker mentioning that people that like purple really like it. Making me go "fuck" everytime I find a new purple thing in my home. Think I'm up to 30+ 🙃

What about you?

What does someone have to do that means no amount of remorse or effort to fix things will get you to forgive them? I don't mean forgive and forget to the point where they can hurt you again. If someone repeatedly steals from you, forgiveness doesn't mean putting them in a position where they can steal again.

I'm asking this purely out of curiosity. I'm just wondering what the attitude in my corner of the internet is.

Something similar I had in mind is the site ballot ready, you are asked questions about stances/what's important and it boils down which candidates align with that.

I know this couldn't possibly be the exact same thing but something that just helps decision making would be cool to see.

The U.S. is eyeing Greenland while Russia continues to carve up Ukraine. I believe the US will place soldiers on Greenland in an attempt to annex it. I think it will likely happen before Trump's term ends.

If (hopefully not when) the U.S. pressures Ukraine into accepting a bad deal with both Washington and Moscow for "peace", will they leverage that outcome—along with the Greenland situation—to further erode European sovereignty?

Europe cannot realistically fend off the US on Greenland? And certainly not while being pressured by both Russia and the US on different fronts? I am so fucking glad Europe got nukes.

I use my computer for so many things and I have about 200 applications on my computer. I don't know why, but it bothers me that everything happens on this one machine as well as seeing so many app icons (even grouped into folders). It's not an option, but I'd prefer to have dedicated computers for broad categories of tasks (Audio DAW, video editing, bash scripting, web dev, gaming, system stuff like disk space visualisation, web apps for social media and video sites, games, communications, office, music and film.

So I was thinking of installing something like openSUSE in a VM on my iMac. But I'm not sure if it's a good idea. Putting CPU intensive applications onto the VM is pointless since they'll struggle more. But putting convenient apps on the VM seems like a mistake too because it means that quick utilities like calendar, voice memos, alarms, contacts etc become inconvenient.

Anyway. I miss the days when all these functions weren't service by the same hardware and screen. Does anyone who can relate have any ideas?

One thing I've done is have my music served by Navidrome on a headless server.

Its a space of 1meter×1meterx1meter, basically a cubic meter where the matter replicator works on. (So, no replicating cars, since its too big)

How do you min-max this?