Oh, so I should be anxious about responding too soon or too late.
Cool, cool cool cool. Great, thank you
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Or posting on-time, yet being too short, or too detailed; Play it cool, but speak fire… keep it light, yet deep.
Imagine caring if someone texts you back immediately. Real maturity is recognizing that most adults have other things going on and can't/won't be glued to their phone all day long.
I read the meaning as someone thinking it weird to text back immediately. That was the offense. As if you should play it cool and wait to respond.
I personally respond quickly if I'm holding my phone and the message comes in, usually.
I make sure to age my replies. If someone's not dying, give that shit a full 24 hours.
Them, 13 Aug: Morning!
You, 14 Aug: Morning! How are you?
Them, 14 Aug: great since I get to talk to you 🙂. How are you?
You, 15 Aug: Great for the same reason 🙂. Want to have dinner?
Them, 15 Aug: love to, where and when?
Them, 15 Aug: Where are we having dinner?
Them, 15 Aug: missed 7 calls from Them.
Them 15 Aug: I'm hungry, are you ok?
Them, 15 Aug: I hope you're ok, call me when you see this, no matter the time, I just need to know you're ok
You, 16 Aug: Morning, sorry, 24 hour rule. Dinner tonight?
Just enough time to sous vide the roast
sorry, 24 hour rule. Dinner tonight?
lmao that’s hilarious
Them? Was it several?
You and them can refer to just you and one other. English pronouns get weird.
Some days they get multiple replies, as a treat!
That's dexter so it reads to me like anyone responding instantly is a serial killer.
I thought that was David Fisher
Also, I'm happy to text asap if we're planning something. If you're shooting me texts to small talk, I'm happy to chat, but you have to understand that I'll probably only start chatting when I'm really free if it's not important.
You’ve got it backwards. Read the post again.
My comment mostly has to do with the 'mature' part, implying that the mature thing to do is to text someone back immediately. And conversely, not texting back immediately is immature.
That said, reading comprehension is not always my strong suit, so fair play. Me brain no work so good.
Yeah but like instantly instantly is weird. You kind of expect there to be a period where they free their hands, then check the message, then weigh up whether it warrants a conversation right now, then think what to say, then type it. Could take 30 seconds, could take 3 hours if they're fully busy and you get sidelined.
A reaponse in 2 seconds from cold open always sets me off balance.
You're thinking too much. Instant responses are not weird. Am I supposed to just wait for a bit so that youre wheels don't start turning in the most un charitable direction.
There's a weird sort of etiquette with introverts. With some people I am replying instantly, but scheduling the send on a bit of delay so they don't feel pressured to essentially start a real time chat. Is everyone too in their head in this exchange? Probably. Still think it works best for some.
Nobody owes anybody anything man do what you want. Its still weird though. Like when you knock a door and they answer it immediately because they were stood right there. You dont expect it.
I mean, personally it's because I don't get a lot of messages in the first place, and most of the time I'm just lost in my thoughts and not actively busy so it's a nice change of pace. Now, even I'll admit 2 seconds is a little short, but I'm often ready with a response within 10
Strange photo to use for this post
For your health !
I'd have used cookie monster.
i feel like a lot of culture nowadays is questionable. a person with the fullest social calendar will still feel special if someone texts them the next day. 'i'm loved and wanted,' they'll think, even if they're annoyed and not interested in the person.
so, where is this energy coming from?
I either respond within 3s, or two days later. There is no in between.
As someone who often comes on too strong in the whole friendship thing I recently met someone who is that x10 and I understand how jarring it can be to have a friend who is rather extra.
Educate me please, is this a real thing? Do people delay responses to act cool? In my day, extended chat conversations were a thing and kinda required immediate responses. Does nobody do that anymore?
Probably as long as Snapchat has existed. Especially since they were the first to show your little avatar peaking over the keyboard if you were in the chat at the same time.
Especially since they were the first to show your little avatar peaking over the keyboard if you were in the chat at the same time.
Snapchat was absolutely not the first to add a "typing now" indicator
No no no. The first to add the avatar that makes you look like a weirdo for just being in the same chat but not saying anything.
It's just the current iteration of phone callback culture from the landline era. People had strong opinions about if you should call back dates or friends immediately or wait until the next day. The expectation of immediate response is a newer phenomenon.
People actually use those "…" typing functions? Way too stressful.
Exactly what I was thinking. It's not that you don't get "immediate" feedback when somebody texts you... either by a sound or otherwise. Why wouldn't you respond to that if you have the time? Although I get it when somebody sends you a thousand messages (or voice ones) in a row. Then I also need a time out.
Youre old enough that chats didnt have a history, and if they waited long enough, you had to open a different message entirely to remember what you sent them!
Ah the times
I delay texts both reading and responding to not be a slave to my phone or to your whims. I don't owe you immediate gratification. Texts are really disruptive. About 40% of the time that thing you asked me that I didn't respond to you about took care of itself or you figured it out yourself and are maybe better for it.
If texts are disruptive then an unsolicited phone call is an affront to all creation
OK, but don't let it happen again
apology not accepted. weirdo
Yeah i bet they're on their phone allll the time just waiting for a reply.
I didn't mean to be a good friend.
What kind of game is this?
One you can't win.
You loose if you text back immediately, and you loose if you don't.
Who is this
Michael Hall aka "Dexter"
Hardly know er!
Who is this
It's Will Forte in the role of Phil Tandy Miller in the tv-series The Last Man on Earth, in which he uses the "I hardly knew her" joke intensively throughout the series.
At first it's corny because it's a poor joke, but then he keeps doing it, so it becomes annoying, but then he keeps doing it, so it becomes funny, but then he keeps doing it, so it becomes annoying again.