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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 6 points 4 weeks ago

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 18 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

clicker training myself because though i am a puppy girl, i am a strong and independent puppy girl who can train herself doggirl-thumbsup

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago

Another beautiful day I get to wake up and be a woman~ β™‘πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ

[–] Tomato_Queen@lemmygrad.ml 17 points 4 weeks ago

contextTranswoman, still in closet irl

A few days ago one of my professors called me "Miss" even though I had full hair on my face, felt nice for a minute.

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 17 points 3 weeks ago (8 children)

I did something many here might not approve of. I decided to climb back into the closet. I lied to my mom and said I'm cancelling transitioning (I'm 100% continuing)

She told me she couldn't be happier and started praising God

Now I'm 100% certain to cut my parents out of my life. All I need is time. 2 years to finish my education and get a good job. I'm going to spend these 2 years avoiding and lying to my parents, then bam! I'll disappear like a magic trick.

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 3 weeks ago

She told me she couldn’t be happier and started praising God

Elaborating on this in the spoiler

cw:suicide

When I told her I was cancelling, she genuinely sounded so happy and talking about how bright of a future I had! I've never heard her be this relieved and happy.

Absolutely mind boggling.

If you remember, earlier this week I was literally trying to commit suicide by starvation.

This shit is literally a curse. She wished for my death while believing that she was giving me blessings.

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 3 weeks ago

This is more or less the end of the coming out saga for now. Hope you enjoyed the "plot".

My "character development" this time has been substantial. Open the spoiler to read

cw:suicide

The voice in my head that told me to die all the time is gone. Hopefully this is a permanent change.

I've decided to channel my inner capacity for evil and scheming more.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

It's always okay to lie to Cis for your safety or wellbeing. Do the stuff you can get away with like HRT, get what you need done etc then skedaddle.

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

I really fucking love this little corner of the internet and I'm thankful for all of you

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 3 weeks ago

I'm thankful for you too :)

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I've said this before but I love meeting really old lesbians (like in their 70s or 80s) because they're so politely baffled by a trans lesbians. It's like "Oh so you're one of those transexual women? And a lesbian? They can do that these days? How delightful."

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 15 points 4 weeks ago
[–] dragongloss@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago

I'm trans. Thank you for your attention to this matter.

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 14 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Someone just ordered prog for the first time catgirl-smug

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (6 children)

Being trans then becoming a communist (the more common route) makes a lot of sense. Transition opens your eyes to oppression but also intersectionality and solidarity.

But being a communist and then becoming trans (what I imagine quite a few here are) is hilarious. It's like I feel something is fundamentally wrong. Oh turns out society is built on the violence required to enforce capital accumulation and imperialism, was that it? No that's bad but I feel there's something else...

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

2nd route here

It is fucking hilarious.

Even more hilarious is how many years I spent crossdressing at home before realising I'm trans.

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[–] catter@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago

Honestly, intersectionality is what got me here, as I just kept leapfrogging. My path was

  • Vegetarian (killing animals is wrong)
  • Vegan (harming others is wrong)
  • Feminist (gender norms harm others)
  • Communist (we shouldn't just not harm others, we should liberate all of us)
  • Trans (I deserve liberation, gender norms have hurt me)

It is a really odd path, but for me it has always been easier to wish better for others, rather than myself. Doing that made me realize that I deserve consideration too trans-ferret

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 3 weeks ago

sorry for too much negativity

The first thing my dad asked me (by text, cause I refuse to pick up calls) was "have you started any procedure?". Not "are you ok?", or even "you made mom cry" (idk if she cried) or anything like that. Both of them are only concerned about the changes I've made/will make to my body. Fucking gross behavior.

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 13 points 4 weeks ago (5 children)

it’s fun dating someone who could learn a thing or two catgirl-smug

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[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago

chat… i think they liked the pics i sent doggirl-smug

[–] OffSeasonPrincess@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Feel like ive gotten noticeably more extroverted since my egg cracked

I have not gotten any less autistic, shy, anxiety prone, socially awkward or socially maladjusted, however, so hard to actually be even half as outgoing as id wanna be

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[–] communistlara@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

To the trans person looking at this, scrolling on that phone in bed, rotting like me:

We're here. At least, i am. You aren't alone. The world's a scary place and you feel alone. That's natural, comes with feeling so isolated. It's going to be okay, we can be lonely together <3

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Chat why tf have i never worn leggings until now and how tf are my legs SO GODDAMN CUTE

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

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I feel relieved now.

I'll just cut my ties with family after paying off my student debt.

Still a few years away from that.

But glad to know that the hatred I held in my heart for my parents since I was 14 wasn't just an edgy phase, it was fully justified. (Well ok dad is still remaining).

I shouldn't be crying. I should focus my time on enjoying being alone. Many benefits to it.

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[–] Nasalstrip@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

T made me pass super early into transition, and now that I’m 3 years in and my top surgery scars have faded really well, I really like how I look and I’m so grateful I ca be stealth but I just wish I was taller lol. I’m fine being 5’3 but eeeeeverybodyfucking else feels the need to comment on it. I have tattoos and facial hair and I’m obviously an adult but I still get called buddy by everyone my age and older and everyone thinks I’m younger than 21 and it pisses me off lol.

And whyyyyy do people comment on my height as if I don’t know I’m short. And why do they gossip about how short a male customer/coworker is like I’m not right there lol. Shit is so demeaning, why do people care about height so much 😭

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 3 weeks ago

In light of today's events :)

[–] catter@hexbear.net 12 points 4 weeks ago

Wearing makeup around my partner now. Slowly coming out. They gave me a dress they don't like, so that feels like a win. We're working through it together, even though it's very, very hard.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

bottom surgery first month done~Finally, dilating only 3x a day. It takes so much time from set up, to dilate, to wash, to dry - and doing it 4 times a day ends up with me spending most of the day dilating or finishing up dilating. In terms of healing, everything looks good! No fibrin, no hypergranulation, not even any discharge. According to the surgeons post op care timeline, this is when Im supposed to be "exploring my clit and labia" - sorry, gotta flick my bean, surgeons orders lol. It does help sensation come back. Things arent as numb anymore, which is great, a few times while Ive been out Ive had this like weird shocks sensation? Totally normal, it just means nerves are coming back online. People keep saying its "reconnecting" which anatomically doesnt make a lot of sense to me and I think its more just compression from swelling is starting to come down.

spoiler sex Had a great long Valentines!

I get wet, apparently easily lol. First time it happened I thought I was bleeding. Nope! Just wet after tying a girl up and her grinding while we made out. Im not supposed to be using my vagina for sex... so I didnt! Pure topping with toys and hands and oral πŸ˜‡

I suspect they also don't want people bottoming anally while recovering, which is fine by me.

Being horny that often did, I think, also help bring some sensation back. ::: :::

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

waow-based I wanna be like you when I grow up

[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)
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[–] tamagotchicowboy@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Managed to have a small miracle in my job hunt and I landed a job as a janitor part-time, aside from data rating this was my quickest onboarding ever. The job is pretty easy so far minus physically, I sweat all shift, and it hurts to lift my arms over my head after a solid week of shifts, but mentally vs retail I feel great. I actually have energy after and before work to do things, vs retail I had to lie and rot to regain soul to do anything. This company appears to just need bodies and dgaf about anything superficial, which is nice for a change. I also earn a little more than my retail job and I get to keep all the coin deposit cans as a bonus, lol.

I'm super tempted to ghost my retail hell job since they started it with the whole 4 shifts a month nonsense, but I'm also getting unemployment, but there will be schedule clashes next month of a single day, and for certain the retail job is done, so there's no point in salvaging anything there, outside of my unemployment case. Then I got pinged for a talking to with unemployment for not finding a full time job fast enough, but the soonest the local unemployment office specialist can see me is weeks after my deadline, so it sort of seems like I'm out anyway.

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[–] aio@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 4 weeks ago

i reconnected with a friend i thought i had lost, also my partners called me a good girl :3 so all in all i had a pretty good week!

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Can I get an uwu?

I said CAN I GET AN uwu??

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Man threads is pretty awful my feed is annoying queer struggle sessions (do bi lesbians exists, can a lesbian still date a trans man etc, can a bisexual trans woman call themselves a transfemme) and just the purest transphobia.

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

updates to coming out

Idk when "fuckass parent" posting will end, but they manage to make everything so needlessly exhausting

Had a call with them after ghosting for 3 days.

I shit you not, almost every sentence my mom said was some transparent ass emotional manipulation attempt.

Not a single "I'll accept you", or even trying to manipulate me with "I love you".

Literally made the entire call about her, the effort she made to raise me and how much of a right she has to control me. Constant uses of "if you value your parents at all ..." and "you should take some time and think ..." (even after I told her I've had GD for 8 years).

I have never dealt with a person whose personality and dialogue are so ass that it made me start critiquing the writing skills of her abusive language.

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago

I am in my T H I C C maxxing arc. I'm such a carb pilled girl, snacking at midnight.

I am 100% sure my legs have gotten thicker, my ass probably got fatter too. I'm going to keep eating and slightly working out.

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Hewwo every-nyan

How are you?

I'm fine thank you

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (5 children)

Last comment of the day

Litsened to "[ASMR] Loving Mother Accepts Her Trans Daughter [F4TF]"

Cried all my sadness out into a pillow.

Thank you kind Internet mom.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago

From the comments

I am a cis man. BUT GOD! I feel good be called someone’s daughter.

We got her

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[–] alsaaas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 3 weeks ago

Regrets about not transitioning when I had the realisationI could have started transitioning 6 years ago (in my mid teens πŸ˜€), if my parents had supported me. FML, why even try. I had to watch my body continue to get mutilated by male puberty for no reason. And now I have to live with this ugly fat blob, HRT won't change much about it in even the mid-term future so yeah....

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Nice asian lady was definitely calling me she to her daughters, kinda the highlight of the day. She seemed like she was ESL so maybe she is from over there and it's a cultural thing because I do not pass or even look like a woman atp 😭

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

cw: hrt changes, breastsBeen noticing my breasts today, feels like they're growing. Like give me a couple months and I swear I'll have real boobs. It's been almost 2 months, and they've been great. I think its been kicking into high gear this last couple weeks, I'm super excited for the next months

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago

cw: hornyWhy the fuck am I so hornyyyyyyy. I'm used to just jacking off when I'm horny, but now that is not enough.

I need to throw a girl on my bed, call her a bodypillow and big spoon her to sleep (with consent, of course).

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Looking at myself in the mirror is wild, I literally never used to be able to especially after a shower or whatever. HRT did a lot of work and bottom surgery took care of the rest.

I didnt feel a lot of dysphoria before cracking my egg, in fact thinking that thats how people know they were trans was holding me back - but I did get a lot of euphoria when I went out in drag or whatever! Looking back, I actually had a shitload of gender dysphoria since puberty more or less. I just didnt know thats what it was... Anyway a lot of that is gone now. Its such a huge relief, I didnt know just how much of a burden it all was until it was finally gone.

My friend/a little more than friend described bottom surgery for her as feeling very light. A different friend of mine said she finally felt complete. I can definitely appreciate both points of view. I did know I wanted a vagina after wrestling with it for a while and I love my completely valid non-op trans femmes, but I knew I wanted it. I didnt really think I had that much bottom dysphoria until it was finally gone and I could look back at it. Its so strange and wonderful to just see a woman in the mirror. A lot of this feels like 7 years ago when I was juuuust starting to transition and dress up and work on my voice, almost the same level of euphoria. Its crazy!

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

I always thought the succubus t girl thing was a little overplayed. I like being mlre of a vampire. But after bottom surgery... now I want a womb tattoo lol

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

bi horntFuck I wanna collar a boy and fuck his brains out right now, wtf bi cycle

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[–] communistlara@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago

I've started taking pictures of myself every month to track my progress, every end of the month i take a new picture. I started back in november so i use a pic from september as my starting point. It makes me so much happier because i can see the clear differences between the months. Sometimes i revisit old conversations from november to see my old self and how ive changted behaviourally and mentally between then and now.

For example, behaviourally, i used to hate the idea of being a parent. I don't get along with kids as is and because i'm impatient i would've been an unwilling mother. But.. now i foster several transgirls, taking care of them long-distance and i have one girl that i'm able to help with their hrt journey in real life now. To me, now, there isn't a greater joy than watching my girls bud and bloom like flowers. After all, looking at a plant is pretty but watering it, taking care of it, etc. and being rewarded with a beautiful blossom is worth so much more. And with transgirls, to me, its the most rewarding feeling to me - seeing them blossom in real time when knowing you are one of the people that was blessed with a seedling that grew into something so elegant and magnificent feels magical

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