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[–] qualia@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Pharmacist here: The antidepressants most associated with reduced libido are the SSRIs (fluoxetine, sertraline, citalopram, etc) and the SNRIs (venlafaxine, duloxetine). However, there are options that aren't associated with this symptom such as: bupropion, and mirtazipine.

Ask your psychiatrist (or PCP) if there's an option available for your circumstances. Imho not enough people give enough feedback to their physicians about their medication regimines. Finding the meds best suited for you is often best framed as a conversation instead of a demand.

Soon enough (-ish) we'll have genome-specific personalized medicine so this sort of inconvenience will all be largely a thing of the past.

[–] stiffyGlitch@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Honestly, it's the same for me. Very sad. Can't cum, don't enjoy my orgasms as much, barley feel like having sex or masturbating.

[–] Nounka@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I **** hate some off the pills my partner has to take. In 2025 we had sex only 3 times. I am so darned horny sometimes but get no help. Bought toys to do it myself but it is not the same.

He had his dokter subscribe some kind off 'blue pill' ( not the famous one but like that ). His libido is so low he did not even bother to take one.

Even his sexsomniac nights are reduced to almost nothing. He sometimes has his 'feel if it is a woman next to me' move. And the 'nipples need to be there' move. But no wood for me even so that i am manually trying to get him to show his growing capacities. Frustrating to be awakend for nothing.

And than a few weeks ago i went to his gaming room and noteced him on porn. With a erection in the hand stroking his way to enjoyment. I felt really unwanted there. I don t care for the porn ( stupid soft stuff. boring imo ) i was more upset he did not come to me to have his way with me.

So i would say... A dickie ... yes i remember.

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 day ago

I'm gonna guess (and could be wrong) that your partner is doing it to relieve the tension but libido is too low to perform sexually. Masturbating alone can be easier to accomplish in this case.

He might be trying to avoid losing the erection while literally inside you because that just feels bad for both of you

[–] Croquette@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This is only my experience, so take what follows for what it's worth (not much).

I have been in the same situation as your partner (though I had sex with my partner more ofte, but still way less than before medication).

Simply put, I was ashamed of my low libido and not in a good headspace even with my medication( which was supposed to help).

I was so ashamed that I didn't want to initiate sex with my partner. It was not rational, but that is how I felt at the time. And I would sometime watch porn so that I could get the dopamine I would get from sex, without the shame.

I know it won't make you feel better, but hopefully you can have a different perspective on how your partner might feel and get, hopefully, a new track to find a solution to your problems.

Also, there are some medications that can help with libido (Wellbutrin if I remember correctly). Might be worth it for your partner to check with his doctor.

[–] stiffyGlitch@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I used to take Wellbutrin, and my bf hated it. I was always like "Eh, helloe." Even when he punished me, talked to me dirty and did petplay (my biggest kinks/things I like to do while having sex). It was horrible. I'm now on Vyvanse and am fine now. But I do take 3 medicines, one for ADHD, one for depression, and one for PTSD. (Feel free to inquire why I have PTSD and/or depression) Although it works for me, it might not work for everybody else.

[–] BanMe@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Wellbutrin can make things go in the other direction, masturbating is like cleaning the trigger of a loaded gun with an oven mitt.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Porn will kill a guys attraction to normal looking women. I have no idea why people act like its a good thing to watch it.

It literally trains your brain to constantly need more dopamine. So sure, maybe now its soft stuff, but that will not be enough in six months. Thats how it works.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 16 hours ago

I've never had a problem being attracted to normal women. For me what it kills is my tolerance for being shot down. Like if I don't expect they'll reciprocate my advances I'm not going to bother. It's nice because it also means I'm not doing a bunch of shit I don't really want to do in the first place in the hopes of a minimal chance of getting laid. I'll hang out with women I think are cool and If someone I like comes onto me I'm happy to oblige them but otherwise I'm content to mind my own business and just do whatever else I want. No need to bring sex into it if they're not hyped about it anyway.

[–] Nounka@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Tbh. Even when we dated ( 18 yrs ago ) he watched that soft stuff. He hated to see fake boobs, fake lips, blowjobs, more than 1 on 1 , anal,... And still doos.

That is not the reason he doos not gets 'a fun guy'

[–] Emi@ani.social 60 points 2 days ago (4 children)

For me they did not kill my sex drive but made me unable to cum. But the psychiatrist said that since I don't have a girlfriend so that's not a problem right?

[–] stiffyGlitch@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Me too! The more I was on my medicine, the more I didn't cum. I orgasmed, sure, but I didn't cum. What medicine/s do you take?

[–] LouNeko@lemmy.world 47 points 2 days ago (1 children)

"Yeah, thanks for rubbing it in Doc..."

[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 24 points 2 days ago

"Thanks for rubbing it Doc"

[–] jaschen306@sh.itjust.works 16 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I had a couple of ADHD pills that made it painful when I came. After trying a few, I found a good one and my cums are normal now.

Just try different pills until you find one that works for you.

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[–] robocall@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Emi@ani.social 9 points 1 day ago

Edging is great, if you cum at the end of the session.

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 19 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Mine actually increased my sex drive... But, they made my dick not work.

It's like going to see your favorite band and going deaf right before they go on stage. Yeah, you got to enjoy the opening bands, but you didn't get to enjoy the main event.

Luckily my fingers and tongue still work.

[–] Gathorall@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Mine had little effect on sex drive yet nicely enhanced my time of release, unfortunately at the time

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 4 points 1 day ago

Low dose SSRIs are off-label prescribed for premature ejaculation, so that definitely tracks.

[–] Fedizen@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

My SSRIs make everything take longer. A lot longer. We're both like dead tired before finishing.

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 37 points 2 days ago

I'm in this meme and I don't like it.

jk I don't have a girlfriend

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 25 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I dropped my meds cold turkey when that happened like a decade ago, and told my current GP I'd do it again if he put me on anything that affected my libido.

He showed me though, I'm pretty sure my libido is up after getting the dosage sorted.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 21 points 2 days ago (6 children)

I dropped my meds cold turkey when that happened like a decade ago,

that shit is fucked up man, "the zaps" for coming off anti-deps are a month+ long pain.

[–] AugustWest@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It’s been over a decade but I swear I thought I felt one coming on when I read your comment.

[–] kayohtie@pawb.social 4 points 2 days ago

Mine ended 6 months after cold turkey on Zoloft. Doctors just... Didn't know at all, when it happened.

I was thinking I still get them from time to time but in writing this post I realized I only get shivers, not the full zap.

[–] stoly@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Three months for me. I’ll never go near one again.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

do you think you would have considered not going on them if you were warned about the "comedown"?

[–] stoly@lemmy.world 2 points 23 hours ago

Possibly. What I took was an antidepressant but I didn't take it for depression. I was on a medication that caused me a sort of medically-induced dementia and I lost the ability to live alone, cook, walk on the street without a helper, etc. The antidepressant was given as a way to counteract those symptoms, and it worked for it. When I eventually got off that medication, the antidepressant started causing me all sorts of problems and so I discontinued it. It was terrible.

[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago

I kind of learned to enjoy the zaps lol.

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[–] robocall@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (2 children)

My favorite is when the guy goes off his meds

[–] Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

crazy in the head, crazy in the bed. :D

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

three words, crazy fucking machine.

[–] Nounka@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

That dopamine - talk we had also. He sais the same.

Also the fact you said about the bad feelings cause he can not lift off we also talked about.

I also do not blaim him. He needs the pills. I want him to live a good life ( not depressed ) . But i would not mind those pills would work different.

Tkx for the info

[–] stiffyGlitch@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

what is wrong with your spelling?

were you high when you commented this?

[–] Nounka@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Tbh i don t get high. I was not drunk .

I'm just a dyslextic and English is only my 4th language.

Tkx annyway

[–] thanatotus@lemmy.ml 1 points 23 hours ago

Noi problem°

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Do you really need a sex drive to enjoy titties? 🤔

[–] Noodle07@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I'm pretty sure titties ARE antidepressants

[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

/c/absolutelynotmeirl

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