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Capitalism and its allies (racism, queerphobia, ableism, and patriarchy, just to name a few) have turned what aught to be a time of rest and celebration at years end into the mess we know as "Christmastime". These systems of abuse and exploitation that we struggle against are in fact so deeply embedded into the "traditions" surrounding Christmas that their removal would render this so-called "holiday" totally unrecognizable. Without the atomization, the abuse of laborers and the gross consumerism fueled by the violence of empire… what would be left of what was once called Christmas?

The true War on Christmas lies not in saying "seasons greetings" or "holiday tree" but in the battles we wage for the liberation of all mankind.

Happy holidays comrades, a better world is possible.


The image (which is tight as hell) is a commemorative poster by Vladimir Menshikov depicting Ded Moroz, a Russian/eastern slavic cultural figure similar to Santa Claus, as a partisan in the Great Patriotic War. The poem in the bottom left (roughly) translates to:

We have settled our score with the invaders: To the executioners who barely survived, Our partisan raids, fierce and relentless, Still haunt their dreams at night.

Image and translation credits to Propagandopolis on twitter (its an xcancel link).

I was too busy with the nonsense to produce an actual effortpost so this is what we're getting this week lol.


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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 8 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

if you have a preferred week please tell me

SwitchyandWitchy* (12/29 - 1/4)
peanutbuttercupola* (1/5 - 1/11)
Wmill*  (1/12 - 1/18)
Alisu* (1/19 - 1/25)
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Eco* (2/2 - 2/8)
GayTuckerCarlson* (2/9 - 2/15)
oscardejarjayes* (2/16 - 2/22)
Shaleesh* (2/23 - 3/1)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 29 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

STABBED MYSELF WITH A NEEDLE, IT'S GIRL TIME!!

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 25 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

Can't believe I'm 2 1/2 months on E.

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[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 24 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Hi hi~ I felt like I should post a little update on how things have been going. Unfortunately I'm still super busy so I won't be active (thesis hell is real) but I also wanted to let you all know I'm alive and doing good. Very good actually.

Immediately I'm really proud of where I've gotten even if it's not quite as far as I'd have liked. I currently have more money saved up than I had when I got kicked out 2 years ago and idk, even though its not a lot I'm really really proud of myself for reaching this point. All my grad applications are in and I'm hopeful about my chances too, and I'm getting ready to move for grad school this summer. I'm still really busy though, I kinda gave myself way too much work this semester and I'm still kinda recovering from that which has been messing with my theses more than I'd have liked.

On the trans side I started prog and its been nice (though has definitely had its effects on me), also made some closer irl friendships which have been helpful too.

And the biggest bit is I have a partner now and we're so gay oml. Unfortunately its long distance but we've been spending so much time together and its been so nice and comfortable and its just feels right. We were already best friends for like the past year, but now, ah I love zir so much ze's so perfect and aaahhhhhhh.~ Its been so nice and I'm so happy and excited about everything moving forward.

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[–] rando895@lemmygrad.ml 22 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Came out to my parents back in September (I'm an adult, financially stable, and safe just to put that out there) and they have not taken it well.

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So when they asked what I wanted for Christmas at the start of September I said "nothing until you access me as your daughter". Well I'm sure you all know how well that went... Transphopes gonna transphobe. Well, they basically ordered me to call them back and tell them what I wanted. Lol. Nope. Thats not how this works. So I didn't. But protecting your peace is difficult, especially with ones parents.

I got a phone call this morning with my dad yelling at me for being selfish etc, etc. So now I'm crying, drinking my coffee, and reading about emotionally immature parents so that I can get on with my life.

But my in-laws have been great (and literally everyone else in my life but my parents) so I am grateful for that.

Also 2.5 months of hrt = tears, lots of tears apparently

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

Insecurities are stored in the tear balls, and they need to be let out.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 21 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Sick and need to be someone's cuddly gf

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (5 children)

If a male family member offers me a hand shake at Christmas like they would another male relative, they get me ignoring it and going for the hug where I press my breasts against them and I hold it just an imperceptible moment too long.

They brought this on themselves.

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[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Oh hey I got a 3.73 this semester, nice.

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[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago

Merry Christmas to the queer commies in my phone. Love and support to all of you dealing with misgendering and casual transphobia over the holidays.

Went to a sports game where some 16-yr olds were being belligerent dickheads. When I turned around to stop them from fighting my sibling, they said I looked like a girl :) so far so good, especially for 1 week on E and rocking cold weather gear

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Person at the gender clinic sir'd me. Girls what even is this shit lmao.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

After not drinking caffiene for many weeks, I tried an energy drink again. And now I'm straight up nauseous and panicking. I used to drink this shit daily what-the-hell

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

A sign now exists because of me catgirl-huh

spoilerBack at the library and I'm opening the bathroom door, they changed the hinges and I slam the door open against the wall. Those doors normally took a lot to open and I just thought I got super strong over the weekend

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

The sign is warning people about new hinges forgot to mention

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[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

i don’t have a lot of hard evidence for it but philippines has to be one of the top lesbian countries. i’ve only been here for a bit under a week, but i see signs. here’s the label for some laundry detergent:

i also saw one of those airplane/skymall type magazines showing a lesbian couple going to all the tourism spots they were advertising. i don’t have photos but you have to believe me

i went to my aunt and uncle’s house and in the bathroom there was a painting of a woman by my aunt that would be nsfw to post here

make of this information what you will theory-gary

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[–] catter@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago

Used to be apathetic to Thanksgiving and Christmas, now I actively dislike it :christmas-cool: Between being vegan in a carnist family and the weird ways my in-laws gender activities, I'm at my wit's end. No shade to people who like it, it's just overstimulating to me anymore.

Thinking I will come out in the new year, so I may not have to worry about family activities anymore 🫥

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Apparently its fucking impossible for my family to keep a door closed so I had to run all over the neighborhood (its fucking freezing) while sick to catch this fucking dog. FUCKING CLOSE THE DOOR GOOD GOD

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I think my mom looked at my chest area suspiciously

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Ah what treacherous breasts!

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

If youre actually nervous about and not ready to come out, the magic word is "gynecomastia" for a medical sounding thing if she asks.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I started estrogen on the 25th of Feb, this makes Christmas day my 10 month anniversary every year which seems fitting.

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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

I dyed my hair for the first time! I'm officially blue hair and pronouned up!!

The more openly queer I look, the happier I am :))

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Used to think I didn't like "Mr" because honorifics are bad. Now I know I just don't like honorifics. Much rather be called bitch than "Ms".

Also, first time to be assumed to be my brother's wife.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

Much rather be called bitch than "Ms".

I need more people to call me bitch tbh. I think only one person has been comfortable enough with me to

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

Saw your other comment. Congrats on your estrogen treatment biiitch. :)

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

family shit, ramblingI don't know what I'm supposed to do.

The Christmas zoom call was SO ass. It was horrendous. No one gave a fuck about my name or pronouns. I've written a letter to my family and asked my sibling if it was fair and they said yes. I still don't know if I should send it.

The whole reason I zoomed instead of visited in person was because I didn't want to be trapped there around so many people I despise, with no way of leaving. It's great to know I made the right choice, because not only did I not hear my name basically at all (except for once from my sibling), but my dad was actively an asshole to me. I guess he simply couldn't help it.

I wore my favorite dress, did my nails all nice, had my name on the zoom set to my name and pronouns. I did everything. No one forgot. No one cared.

I find out from my sibling today that while they were there in person, any time my grandma tried to bring anything up about my gender transition, my dad would shut her down by saying "please, let's just have a good day." So it seems like everyone may have been to afraid to ruin my dad's favorite holiday, so I was the sacrificial lamb. "Let's have a good day." Amazing how I didn't have one of those.

Every single bone in my body is telling me never to talk to my dad ever again and just cut ties. I desperately want to be able to. He is an irredeemable asshole. I genuinely hate him. The only thing keeping me from just doing it is the knowledge that my grandma lived with him. Shes 90 years old and if I ever want to see her again in person, I have to put up with the family nonsense.

It's also a thing where I'm scared of cutting off from pretty much the only family I have left, even if they're bad for me.

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

I want to stop watching shows and reading stories without queer people. Feels like I've seen enough cishet storylines to last me a life time.

I think about the stories that mean the most to me and, with some exceptions, queerness always plays a role. Those exceptions always include queer fanworks to re-contextualise the characters or the whole story too.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Sister's bf trying to get in my good graces

Hey man, how you doin!

:madilene-stare: ppl need to just leave me alone tbh...

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I swear I'm not that overtly anti social but I do hate people treating me blatantly genderedly.

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Hearing radio ads that go "something something Starbucks... Something something revoke man card" is wild to me. Anyone else remember that period where your gender could be revoked by doing some acts, or that your gender was a card others could take away brow all that talk if the left is stripping your masculinity was just projection. I am aware these people think in the binary so if not man than woman and we gotta add sexism/misogyny to the mix

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[–] puppygirlpets@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

mewwy cwistmas to all who celebrate

doggirl-happy

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

I wanna cry for no reason. This means the E is working lets-fucking-go

[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 15 points 2 weeks ago

dating, sexI keep seeing content on instagram about dating, romance and hookups and it makes me feel lonely.

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] meler@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I mean to be fair, walking and sleeping are two of the most incredible activities kind of ever, so...

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

Work has been fucking awful. So many sick calls, its too busy, they want us to take way too acute patients and we cant get people off our unit. Then we get backed up and theyre mad we cant make a trauma bed appear - like bed coordinator, site manager you made this happen by having us take ortho patients and disposition problem patients.

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (5 children)

6 days :) I’m so worn out from family shit that I don’t think I’m noticing many effects . I want to fight my siblings and cry, but they always irritate me so that could easily be separate. Still not drinking but I’m absolutely surrounded by alcohol which sucks. I can’t wait to come out next year and go to my partner’s family for the holidays. They’ve already started calling me she while I’m still “man, dude, boy” to my immediate family… maybe this is the estrogen cuz I kinda feel like crying despite nothing bad really happening. One sibling “they”d me which I guess is progress. It feels shitty and ungrateful to say, but I’m so exhausted I wish I was back home

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

A friend I'm really comfortable around is visiting, and as soon as they opened the door and walked in I felt my personality return. It kind of puts in perspective how lonely I actually feel.

I have a few online friends that I talk to a lot and maybe that's why I haven't felt extremely lonely but I really need to find some people irl that I can actually be me around

[–] RedSturgeon@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Something unexpectedly good has happened and after failing to gain common grounds with my family for many years, they have actually been treating me with more respect after I've switched to a more dialectical-materialist approach of trying to get them to listen to me. It has taken me a long time, but I hope these news can inspire others to keep on going because things can get better, even when we least expect them!

Also I tried braiding my hair to see how it looks like on me and I think it's pretty good. Although tedious to set up lol

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[–] rafflesia@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

WHEW they weren't kidding about estrogen making your emotions more intense

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

I think my boobs are getting sorer? Been about a month since I started injections, maybe that has something to do with it

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Got all 175 strawberries in Celeste, all but one B side (the summit).

edit: on the final ascent of the summit B side

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

Work sucks tonight. 1:10 ratio right now (I have 10 patients) and the other side is gonna go down to 1:10 too soon. This is unit is orgnaized around "team" nursing but Ive been a team of 1 every other shift here its ridiculous. Im basically just waiting for a sentinal event and praying its not on my shift.

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I FEEL IT IN MY FINGERS, I FEEL IT IN MY TOES!

spoilerCHRISTMAS IS ALL AROUND ME, AND SO THE FEELING GROWS!

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[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)
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[–] RION@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Forgot my coffee, sooo tired

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)
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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

So it seems recently that my libido is now closer to what it was before HRT than immediately after. Interesting.

Went from 100% to 5% to now 60%.

And I'm feeling deep yearnings.

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

Getting anxious to see changes happen in the next weeks. I know it will take months for most changes, but still anxious for the earlier ones

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