HexaSnoot

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[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 4 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

Just saw a video on current trends of Chinese beauty standards where women were asked to rate themselves from 1 to 10. Which is a completely unreal way to say how attractive you are. It only says how confident you are or how confident you'd feel if you looked like someone else. This video is partially slop.

Also, this woman has probably been shamed for having skin that's tinted at all.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 6 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (2 children)

Are there any eras of beauty standards in China where it was considered attractive to have darker skin or be fat? Are there popular Chinese beauty idols showing either of those things?

I don't quite understand Chinese beauty standards because the pale skin thing doesn't seem to have a connection to white colonialism. Sure it was a signifier that you weren't a farmer and could stay inside all day, but people aren't blind to the fact that dark skin is also attractive.

And at some point in the past, at times of hunger during feudalism that could fall on both poor and rich families, long spans of hunger should've made fat women seem more desirable, right? I feel like these trends should change over time, but from what I've been learning, thin and pale with slender jawlines has been the mainstream beauty standard in China for a long time.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 4 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

Oh, I thought you meant birth names, like Henry, Jane, and John.

I've heard of that first one for women. For the ones aimed toward adults, I think it's only appropriate for those who are in the middle of actively consenting to reclaim being called these names as a kink. It's creepy any other time.

I have not heard those ones for children that is creepy as hell. Why I feel like this has "the straights are not okay" vibe?

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 3 points 14 hours ago (3 children)

What are disgusting misogynistic names? I don't believe I know one, so whatever they are, they must take some creativity.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

There's a few I've seen. I love to see Uzo Aduba for example. But it's not enough to me. I want the actual ratio of very round/sharply angled faces that society has in Hollywood and everything Hollywood touches. Magazines and billboards. (Fuck ads, but if you're going to put them places, don't neglect to represent all sorts of beauty.)

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

It is unbelievable that a single celled creature has ended up being humans that can draw pictures, create and play games, play music and sing, garden, domesticate animals to lovingly bond with, etc... More humans please!

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I used to think I was antinatalist. Really I was coping with my fear that I couldn't take care of a baby, and obsessively tried to be optimistic about the benefits of not having one.

In admitting this fear, I opened my mind to reasons others desire having a child. Actual healthy ones. Like passing on resilience so the next generation can grow to break generational cycles of trauma, and further heal in the name of themselves and their entire ancestral line before them. All the way back to the past generation that started in primordial soup. I believe healing ourselves is to heal backwards in time.

I think each kind of animal has a spirit. When I think of the human spirit and how much health in the world it has the potential produce, I think just about every surviving generation is just this great soup of advancing potential. However many generations of an ancestral line suck and seemingly should not reproduce, one member of a future generation can turn things around. I want these things for people. I have such high hope for humanity. Also, I like to think of how many people out there are neat, and are artists at creating wonderful new people. I may never have a baby but I like that others have them.

Anyone else want to share why they think natalism could be done healthy and for the good? I blocked out my exploration of this topic for decades, and I'd really like to hear about yours.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Beauty standards in America are weirdly focused on sharp, severely angled facial features. Round facial features, especially of darker skinned people, are being neglected in beauty shoots that make it on billboards.

I saw this woman with very round eyes and I thought, "She's the opposite of supermodel-looking. Is she ugly?.. No, she's quite pretty. What brainworms led me to suspect that she could be catagorized as ugly?"

Although I know it's not my fault I thought that, I'm still mad at myself. But I am more disappointed at how international luxury brands try to make every supermodel look "snatched" (as in presenting sharp, severe, angled features), especially with risky surgery, when round features are A-okay and another sort of beauty to be celebrated.

Round featured faces should be internationally represented in more glamour shoots. I'd like to see trends where people are accentuating roundness of the eyes with makeup. Atm idk what that looks like.

Maybe it's because I dont read magazines or go out much, but in the whole year of 2025, I can only recall one outdoor beauty advertisement showing a black woman with a round head, nose, and eyes.

Btw, the woman I met ended up being wonderful to hang out with. I feel betrayed by how beauty standards had me questioning her looks as one of my first thoughts of her.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago

I like pickled ginger. Someone told me that it's good for nausea when nothing else is working, and that it works better if you chew it up before swallowing it. And if you don't want to chew, it'll still help if you swallow a thin strip of pickled ginger whole with water.

I think I'll eventually try the rest of what you mentioned. I'm most curious about pickled red onion.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (3 children)

Pickled/fermented foods are one of the best categories of foods. What do you suggest I try?

Things I like:

-pickled/fermented veggies. (So far kimchi, saurkraut, pickles, relish. I'd like to try pickled mushrooms and carrots.)

-Non-alchoholic kombucha

-Miso soup


Things I dislike/don't want:

-alcohols

-I ate a full medium-sized bowl of stinky tofu hoping that by the end I'd acquire the taste for it, and I didn't. To me it just kept on tasting like garbage, and I say that with no hate it's just not for me.

-I wouldn't try that European fermented and canned fish(Forgot what its called. I worry I'll react like youtubers who immediately gagged when it was opened three feet away from them.)


Maybe I'd try:

Fermented fish in other forms? I know theres fish pastes that you mix with a liquid and dip your food in. I doubt I'd like it, but if I end up liking it I'll be really happy.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Haha see? If it is colorblindness i think that's cute. I think I heard some people see less red tones than others because during evolution we were conditioned with different levels of ability to see redness in fruit. Indicating a sign of a sugary boost and ripeness in things like red berries.

FYI you might already know this, but you can get a colorblindness check if you're curious enough.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 6 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (4 children)

blob-help Even though I don't research it, I have a fascination with ways people are colorblind. It's less about knowing why they are. It's more about me finding it endearing that they'd see a multiple colors from a packet of candy differently than me.

Unfortunately a colorblind person once harmed and traumatized me, and they're the only colorblind person I've met. Seeing what colorblind vision looks like online makes me love how interesting colorblindness is... But then I remember the person who harmed me.

I wish I'd just meet a cool new colorblind person because it'd help me reclaim it. How else can I reclaim my fascination and endearment for colorblindness without yet meeting a new colorblind person?

 

My body must be carrying leftover deposits of biotin or something for my hair to be growing at the same rate.

For nearly two years, I took 3 gummies daily of Nature's Bounty Optimal Solutions Advanced Hair, Skin, Nails, 2X Biotin.

Pros: It didn't make my head hurt or make me naseuous. It's didn't make me constipated either like many supplements can. (A pharmacist once told me that calcium supplements constipates everyone, so it was important to me that there was no calcium in it.) There were no downsides for me other than needing haircuts sooner in the year.

Good luck on if you're trying to grow your hair! :)

 

Someone who vaxxed me just told me I count as immunocomprimised because I have long covid. They said it means my system is too weak so I need to be vaxxed every 6 months. (6 months is how long my covid vaccine is said to last.)

As a result, my insurance is covering 2 covid vaccines for me this year instead of just one. This is important because a single covid vaccine shot without insurance can cost over $200 in the US.

 

What is your reasoning for going maskless?

Mine is that a person I live with a lot has been going maskless. When I go out with them, I feel there's no point in wearing a mask if they're not going to. If they catch an illness we're both going to regardless. I've been criticizing people in my head about no one wearing a mask, but I have to admit, now that I've been out without a mask I can see the temptation of things "feeling normal."

 

It can be super small in a way most people don't understand or have lost touch with. Or anything bigger. The important thing is that it means something to you.

I deal with disabilities. For me being alive and managing basic tasks is something I try to feel pride in. Being here to enjoy watching people around me do things for fun can be a nice feeling. Last night in my dream I painted my nails and I felt pride in my dream. I woke up feeling proud that I have still have that creative instinct after last painting them once maybe 7 years ago. I feel proud of art I dream of. Just because I don't draw it doesn't mean it doesn't exist in my mind, temporarily in my thoughts. I was there before something brilliant my mind had created, and it meant a lot to me.


Watching Guillermo del Toro's 2025 movie Frankenstein made me realize we are all frankensteins who should be proud of our every ability, however limited it is huge that we are alive, and furthermore impressive that we have instincts to live beautifully in any way.

 

I went through things like growing up underweight for a while and sneaking food that was withheld from me. Those things still affect me. Looking back, one of the worst parts of this was that my caretakers were not poor. We went on vacations around the world each year along with wealthy families(one of them was a millionare family) usually staying in impressive hotels. Yet I was somehow always under the impression that we were desolately poor. I remember a teacher making an embarrassing call in front of the entire class to my childhood caretakers to tell them I needed new clothes. They sold this myth to me that they could not possibly buy me many basic needs, and I believed it more than the proof of these vacations that we were actually well off.

Someone in my current life repeatedly told me I can heat up canned food instead of eating it straight from the can. The idea of taking the step to heat my canned food still feels forgein. If canned food prices weren't through the roof now, I'd try to keep practicing what they told me.

 

I heard when you're rich enough, everyone wants you for your money. I read wealth can literally change your brain too. (Not posting the article because it was basically an ad for one of the most expensive mental hospitals in the world, and I didn't finish reading it.)

I'm mostly asking this for your judgements and reasoning of how rich our favorite treat-producing celebrities can be before you personally feel they're no longer good people... I'm not sure what I mean by the word "good." At some point they're the CEO of their own empire, right? When does the addiction to being a liberal defending right wing abuse eventually become part of the riches?

 

I've had a hard time learning about the Silk Road in China. I'm not great at geography. I'm not great at timelines. (For example, I don't remember years of historical events well.) But I am better at learning about individual important people, animals, and goods like sugar. Anything I'm highly interested in.

Aside from sugar, another example is classic 1950's women's wear in America. My love of the style it helps me remember it's association with the nuclear family. After seeing the movie Pleasantville(such an incredible film) with a ton of American 50's wear, I can remember the 50's were a time of segregation too.

Speaking of art helping me learn about history, through watching about this remodeled clock face with breathing holes, I learned how underground railroads that helped people escape slavery would sometimes have hiding places under floorboards. Holes were made in the floor of this church to help them breathe, and they were in patterns made to camouflage them as "decorations."

This is the sort of stuff I like learning with.

 

I'm curious about other's experiences with Polyphagia/Hyperphagia. What was/is your journey like for you?

I had this at one point due to a shitty medication, and I kept asking for a higher dose because I thought I was just eating due to stress and a higher dose would reduce it. It wasn't until my internalized fatphobia at the time took over, and I asked for a different medication that would make me gain less weight, that my hyperphagia went away.

This sort of hunger can be hell for some. Not just due to fatphobia, but it can be scary to never be satisfied with eating. Remember it can have many causes. For me it wasn't me on my own, it was a bad med match I needed to opt out of.

 

In the middle of posting this, someone just told me that many previously colonized countries have to outport their goods at an uneven exchange, and India has their culture as a product. Is there a lot of ~~white washing~~ disrespectful appropriation? Are there lots of cults too?

 

Some context: I'm not black and don't live in the black experience.


I found this video essay involving modern blackfacing and minstrel shows called The Evolution of the Culture Vulture interesting. Some white guy i know started saying the n word ending with an "a" as a joke when almost 30 years old. I only see him once every several years and idk if I should send him this video. We dont talk in between those years. He's mostly associated with my boyfriend, and they can go over a year without talking. If I end up doing that I would say "Even though I think its not okay you're specifically doing an exact thing in this video, I still appreciate your intent and your great quality of trying to create good vibes however you can. This does not mean at all that I'd disown you as a friend. Its just to say take a step back and examine what youre doing when you..." Idk i can't think of how to discuss this with him so here I am.

He's a busy guy, he may never watch the video. I have social anxiety too so I may never send anything. I just want to know how to carry out a convo about this and still want advice anyways. That shit really bothered me and I couldn't place why until seeing the video.

 

Btw, this is really helping to reduce my PTSD symptoms. bear For example I'm seeing rules abusive people in my past have tried to set for me to follow. (Never confront them or theyll victimize you far worse, never resist their orders, always stay quiet about what theyre doing to you, etc...) Instead of getting hung up on those rules and my opinions on them, just see the the purpose of the rules. (The purpose of the rules in this case is for them to tightly control and victimize someone that will never leave or expose them. That is the whole story and you don't need to storytell any further if you catch yourself flashing back.) If the purpose of their rules and your values don't line up, drop them immediately.

Plenty of rules out there dont line up with our values, and not just abuse-related things. I'm new to examining things this way, and trying to widen my scope. What purpose do you feel you have as you do/look at things?

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