There are people who grow up calling themselves white trash starting as babies and I just can't accept this. It tears me up inside. It seems synonymous with a baby calling itself "the discarded."
HexaSnoot
joined 3 years ago
the part of a bribed tool of reactionary intrigue
What does this mean?
No it's completely fine. I just meant I do need to rise above this game. People have played it all my life against me. I can compare people in my past to the 4 main characters of Sunny in Philadelphia. It sucks because I respond by being silent and passive, and I'm very lost about what exact words I could respond with, and how to do it in a way that leaves myself with the most decency. Now that I'm away from more explosive people, I don't know how to rise above my partner's parent. This parent has never shown an ounce of sincere emotion when picking on others, always using a calm voice.
You are helping, you're doing great.
Repetitiveness can be used well, and I think he made perfect use of it.
When I was a child, I read a story with an American child and their immigrant parent with an accent in a US hospital. That the front desk was besically dismissing and shooing away the parent each time they ask where their xrays were. Then, hours later, the child asked in perfect English, and they handed the xrays shortly after. I forgot all about that story until I read that PowerPoint slide. I'm enormously sad over that.
I just looked up the topic of institutional racism. I had to stop after one PowerPoint slide because I'm so sad.
Have you read the lyrics to the song Chocolate Rain? In my head, I usually tie the topic of institutional racism to the African American experience through other's words, like these. But I don't usually tie the topic to my race. I think it'd be helpful to study a few facts at a time of what institutional racism is so I don't have as much of a blind spot in recognizing racism towards me.
This is a bullshit game an immature old person uses to mess with immature young people. You and your partner gotta learn to deal with this and not be manipulated by their framing. Even if the parent acts like you "lost" because you got upset about them being racist, you don't have to accept that framing. That framing makes no sense and you don't have to defer to it
My partner only does it back to the point that their parent's only next turn is one where they must take accountability for racist things they said, or shut up and not acknowledge what my partner said. They always shut up and don't acknowledge they're wrong, so that they don't have to take accountability for being wrong. So my partner's usual goal is to get them to shut up, often in front of the rest of the family. It helps convince the rest of the that family that this parent is in the wrong, and to not adopt the parent's racist views.
Btw, call me immature, but I definitely need help not deferring to this game.
It took 10 years of being with my partner for their parents to say both racist comments. By now I'm used to being around them. The "sympathizer" comment was a brand new shock.
One of my exes is Mexican and I no longer talk to a grandparent over their their racism towards Mexicans. I judged they're too old to change, plus there's a language barrier. By the time I'm advanced enough to have a conversation on racism in their main language, they will probably be endangered with blood pressure problems and will literally be incapable of little regular arguments.
The internet says multiple definitions to the word "antithetical." I don't use the word, could you say how you're using it?
"one of the good ones"
*sigh This label hurts deeper as I grow more aware of racism.
Actually, interestingly enough, my white partner is far more aware of racism than I am. So if they aren't aware of something being racist, it's an extra messed up situation.
I think it was sarcasm. This parent likes to tick people off while acting calm, so my partner responded in the same tone back. You can't be openly sincerely angry because this parent sees it as you "losing" the argument, and can keep on trying to get more emotional responses out of you while pretending to have no idea why you're angry. This parent never takes accountability either, so there's no point to reasoning with them. Hence, I think my partner was using sarcasm.
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As opposed to nonwhites? Someone told me it's implying that it's expected that people are poor, except for when they're white. It implies it's weird to be poor if you're white, but it's at least somewhat expected when you're a minority. So the term "white trash" is racist towards minority races... Must be why it hurts me deeply.