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Not my nails, obvs.

Some (beginner-focused) tips for painting your nails:

Lighter colors and solid colors are easier to work with. Pick a good color or few, you don't need to start too fancy.

Don't shake nail polish, that can mess it up. Roll it slowly if you ever need to mix.

Don't just do the coloration and call it a day, put clear nail polish on first, and put it over the color. That will protect your nails.

Consider getting nail polish remover when you get your nail polish, mistakes are easy.

Put your nails down on a flat surface, clean your nails (maybe with that nail polish remover?), and apply the clear base coat (doesn't need to be perfect). Stroke from the base of the nail to the top, until the nail is covered. It might get on your skin, that's normal, anything on your skin can be dealt with at the end. Let it dry, like you would any other kind of base coat.

Now that it's dry, do like what you did with your clear polish for colors. Base to tip, going from the center outwards. If you can still see through after it's covered, wait for it to dry a little, then do another layer.

Then apply your top coat to make smooth, shiny, and somewhat protected painted nails. Wait for it all to dry (very important), which could as long as normal working hours + commute. Don't mess it up. If you do, you might have to restart on some nails.

Now that it's dry the polish on your skin should act sorta like glue, where you can just peel it off, but if it's stubborn you could use a cotton swab with nail polish remover to carefully remove it (don't let it touch your nails!).

Now you should have nice smooth nails.


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[โ€“] Aliveelectricwire@hexbear.net 14 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I love my gf.

Also check this shirt::

[โ€“] MoonElf@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago

that's a great shirt!!!

[โ€“] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 10 points 4 days ago

I went to a show last night and saw someone I haven't seen in almost a year (and we were really only acquaintances that had met a few times). They remembered me by my old name but they remembered me! We chatted a bit before and after the show. They were with other friends and lovers that I also got to meet and was warmly welcomed by. They were going out with a partner after the show so I took my leave in my typical awkward, autistic style. To my great surprise, they texted me this morning with a nice message that made me cry. I might have a new friend?? Which I am sorely in need of with my recent relationship troubles.

[โ€“] Moss@hexbear.net 11 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm having an absolutely awful body image day. I hate the way I look so much I don't want to be perceived. I can't believe I have to work and be looked at when I look so ugly

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

cuddle me too. Dreading Monday bc of that, like usual.

Unironically the government should give us money so we don't have to

[โ€“] Moss@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago

Real and true. I feel very eugehejegheggbgggvcg

cuddle

I kinda think it'd be fun to go to one of these protests with a bunch of red, white and blue looking flags that are all from different countries. Not even to make a statement, just the pure chaos of someone squinting and realizing that while everything on my person looks vaguely patriotic to Americans, none of it is actually American.

We really act like we invented putting those colors next to each other. They're the most common flag colors worldwide.

[โ€“] yewler@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Is it fair to say that trans people are probably a manifestation of something that everyone probably feels? I still haven't been able to wrap my mind around how many cis people there supposedly are. I mean we all know that gender as a concept was just kind of forced on all of us. What if everyone is some degree of dissatisfied with that, but trans people are just more in touch with those feelings? I don't want to invalidate the cis, but it is kind of a thing where I just can't accept that transness is anything but just the natural response to being born into a world with something as arbitrary as gender.

Most cis people just haven't thought of it. Youve thought of it because youre gender was incongruous with the role assigned by hegemonic society, some cis women think about it even a little because they get a shit end of the stick in the great gender binary

Cis+ people exist, they've like confronted and thought about gender and decided "yup Im actually quite happy to be my assigned gender" - and those people I always applaud cause they've at least done a little introspection.

But that everyone feels in some way dissatisfied with everyday life is likely true, its just that we have this shortcut to one part of that overlapping multi headed hydra of capitalism and oppression. Modern life is intensely alienating, even the rich must hollow themselves out of their own humanity (cant remember the Marx quote but you've probably read it). That feeling of separation, the Lacan style Real, is the trauma at the center of everyone's lives - and for me, and maybe some other trans people, I had a name for a good chunk of it called "gender dysphoria" but not all of it for sure.

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Is it fair to say that trans people are probably a manifestation of something that everyone probably feels?

I mean, at least the way I experience it, no.

What if everyone is some degree of dissatisfied with that

Cis people are dissatisfied with specific, shitty, patriarchal standards. Women don't like men talking over them, men wish they could show more emotion, etc. But they still like being men or women. They don't dislike their gender- just specific shitty things people do. Cis women don't hate that men look at them as women, they hate that men are misogynists. This is pretty much all the "dissatisfaction" I can remember cis people having with their gender. Or wishing sexually dimorphic traits were even more dimorphic- men wanting to be taller, women wanting bigger boobs, that kind of thing.

[โ€“] yewler@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you. I guess I get that's what the cis experience is like, I just still don't understand why it's so common

[โ€“] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It seems like most cis people haven't thought about it that much, but to the extent that they have, they do not particularly mind the gender they were assigned or the sex characteristics that their bodies naturally develop.

[โ€“] yewler@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It just surprises me that most people are completely okay with it. I guess I'm probably projecting my experience on everyone else, but I "didn't mind" the gender I was assigned for 23 years until I discovered what gender euphoria felt like.

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[โ€“] TransWalterKronkite@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I am Walter Cronkite, and I am Trans, and this is CBS News

[โ€“] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 9 points 4 days ago

I could just unironically write "so i'm done reading the comic about gay furries for research purposes"

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago

No reddit means I've been watching so much stuff on my backlog and getting back into hobbies like writing and reading ttrpg shit. Honestly cutting back brainless slop scrolling has been helping me greatly. I've also cleaned my room a bit and found my rainbow blanket and my favorite old bag, the bag has a bit of a rip but I got an iron on patch I can fix it with so looking forward to using it again.

[โ€“] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago

would anyone like to make the trans mega tomorrow? i know it's late notice but i need someone to fill the spot

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Was watching a friend play blauder's gate 3 and teasing her for fumbling Shadowheart (I've never played this game before) and it did get me thinking how hard I fumble too i-cant the game do be pushing you to relationship with someone and some of them do be coming on too strong. I've had plenty of scammers try to trick me online and like anything sexual or too flirty just sets off alarm bells and I pull away. I get it prob has to do with me being flag-pan-pride though I won't lie I do have some issues I gotta work through.

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My first play through I had no interest in romance because I was trying to role play. Ive got an alien bug in my head, I do not want want to hold hands with you Shadowheart while we're drinking wine I didnt think thats what this was. Gale, stop it. Lets stay focused on getting the worms out. Astarion, I didnt want in my party cause he tried to kill me at our first meeting

I met a girl at a bar the other day and she's been coming on very strong. I thought she was pretty and we danced a lot but I cant help but feel literally heartbroken still lol. Like as if that word was a little more literal, I still have no interest in opening up or dating. Sex, eh, I can take it or leave it at this point, kinda overrated

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago

Yeah even I'll admit from the roleplay part of the game you got psychic brainworms to deal with and other bullshit doing the let's just focus on friendship rn as we deal with stuff was seen as a bad thing when it just made sense. Maybe there was more options to explain it I didn't read but that not being more of an option felt eh

[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (2 children)

The concept of high speed rail is honestly kind of terrifying. Like, have any of yall stood at an HSR platform and seen a train fly by?

I swear to God these trains are demon worms that move at the speed of Satan.

[โ€“] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago

Better than the demon cockroaches that infest our streets

worms are cool. Demon worms are probably cooler. Would like to see some!

[โ€“] Moss@hexbear.net 6 points 4 days ago

I kinda don't want to do anything. It would be nice if time stopped moving until I was ready

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Another miserable and just generally wasted day. I need a break from this so bad. It hasn't gotten better with time, or coming out, any of it. I dont know what my problem is getting hrt to try that. Really doubt anything is going to make this ~~better~~ good enough atp though.

[โ€“] MoonElf@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago
[โ€“] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

What is your next step to start hrt?

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Probably need to double check with this guy if he can take shipping. He told me he could a while ago but I been dragging. Other then that prolly just getting crypto and double checking who to buy from. I have money and an account on an exchange. idk whats wrong with me

[โ€“] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Talk to him within the next 24 hours.

What country do you live in? You can DM me if you don't want to post it publicly.

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[โ€“] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Are you willing to try injections? They're very cost effective and you only have to do them once every week or two.

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yes, because cost. I want to look into gel at some point and see what I need for that because doing an injection seems like a lot of work but researching is also a lot of work. Heard good things about how well injections work too. Plan to try injecting.

[โ€“] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I promise injections aren't hard. You'll do just fine. Do you already have a crypto wallet?

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

A lot of things aren't hard for most people, but very hard for me to do consistently. It seems like there's some setup and ordeal. No I don't. Forgot I needed one.

[โ€“] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Cake Wallet is a good one, you can download it from the app store on your phone.

Would it help to have a video tutorial for injections?

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'd really rather manage that stuff from my PC.

Maybe. I've only heard it described tbf yea.

Big concern is where specifically to order from, especially would prefer some place without super weird packaging since he's shipping to his parents place. Ik there's that one company with weird shit.

[โ€“] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'll DM you about where to buy estrogen.

Thank you. I'll try to deal with buying the crypto tonight and messaging my friend tomorrow.

It's honestly just so much. I've been laying in bed since we started talking. I don't know why I react like this but every time I start thinking about it again this happens.

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Before you do anything rash, give HRT and moving out of your parents house a try for at least 6 months. Then reasses

I messaged someone about helping me get hrt. idk when he'll respond. I have no idea how I'll be able to move out. My job does not pay enough, won't give me enough hours, and I don't really have skills that would help me get a job that could. I will try to wait.

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[โ€“] lilypad@hexbear.net 22 points 5 days ago (6 children)

I did it chat! I went to a show on my own and had a wonderful time! Anxious as fuck at the beginning but by the end i was doing quite well. Had way too many cigarettes unfortunately... And i had just quit smoking like a month or two ago... But it was one night, im not beating myself up, because i went out and conquored my social anxiety!!

Be proud of me hexbear, ya girl did good doggirl-happy

[โ€“] 0x2640@hexbear.net 11 points 5 days ago (1 children)

good pup!!!! am so pwouds of uuuuu!!!!!!! :D

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Wow!!! Good job, Im glad you went~ and it sounds like you didnt even get shut down

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[โ€“] CDommunist@hexbear.net 12 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The problem with hummus is you eventually run out of other peoples chickpeas

[โ€“] DragonBallZinn@hexbear.net 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

hummus

falafels

aquafaba

roasted on its own

Chickpeas my belovedโ€ฆ

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[โ€“] RION@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Listening to this album a girl at work recommended to me and getting increasingly flustered as every single song is about crushes or relationships or kissing aaaa is it normal to recommend an album like that to a friend?

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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago

I'm definitely the yamcha of my friend group, single but handsome at least. Fun fact while every dbz fan knows of his baseball career for the "Tiatans" he also later on worked at a host club like from kiryu-dame-da-ne though he got fired because he still never got over his social anxiety denji-just-like-me

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