guy who is trying desperately to convince his trans son not to get his legal gender marker changed to M while making it abundantly clear that while he does support his son's transition and views him as a man, they need to keep his legal gender as "F" in order to keep the car insurance payments down

I did it chat! I went to a show on my own and had a wonderful time! Anxious as fuck at the beginning but by the end i was doing quite well. Had way too many cigarettes unfortunately... And i had just quit smoking like a month or two ago... But it was one night, im not beating myself up, because i went out and conquored my social anxiety!!

Be proud of me hexbear, ya girl did good

Last night, we had a patient who is a woman and her nurse was a dude. She wanted to be placed on a bedpan. She didnt want the guy to do it, so he came and got me 🥹. And then she said "oh Terminal! Im glad youre here, Ill need help wiping after" (gross but Im glad I passed!)

fun facts from my neo-pagan studies:

in some mythologies the Goddess Ishtar would put on makeup and fancy clothes before battle. like she would do this instead of using armor or gearing up.

combat is the "dance of Ishtar" and basically if she blesses you it's like having a spidey sense. you don't become supernaturally strong or anything, it's like being completely in the zone and rolling natural 20s

but yeah she's a fucking queen i love it. (so paint your nails before war)

more fun facts to come i've been doing research and plan on getting some books on Mesopotamian mythology

They gave me a firmer answer finally for bottom surgery! 8 to 12 months lol. Well, it is firmer than "eventually, hopefully within a year"

Well chat, I did it. Told my irl friends my name and asked them to use my pronouns, told them my old ones upset me, etc. One friend has been trying, correcting himself or just outright using the right ones.

She has not however :/ has not gendered or named me correctly, maybe half the time she's kinda muttered off like, oh yea.. Sorry.. After dead naming me or smth. But doesn't use the right ones after. Obviously today was only day one but idk. That's where we're at.

To make things a bit more awkward, I ha e the same name as one of her old friends, idk if that's why she doesn't want to use it or what. She's generally not super woke either. Idk.

Sometimes I would like to retreat into a queer country, with no cishets allowed. No more bullshit.

I keep bumping into shit with my hips at work on accident. Guess I'm thicker down there than my mind realizes

Taking my trans woman friend shopping today. It's her first time potentially wearing/buying women's clothes. What type of store should we go to? First thought was the pro-trans vintage clothing store I like and letting her raid my male/androgynous closet (have some women's shirts in her size, as a baby step). Also the local trans org has a community closet, I thought that would be more chill than being in a public store.

Pre hormones, pre everything. She's black if it matters for recommendations, around age 30. She has not tried cosmetics yet, either.

Additional info: In men's sizes she wears large T-shirts. Approx 6 ft tall.

As far as style, she has said her eventual goal is to look/dress as feminine as possible. I haven't gotten much more info.

The megathread probably shouldn't be started off to such a negative tone, but I've been putting off putting my feelings into words for too long.

down with cis

I love my gf.

Also check this shirt::

So, how do you approach astrology? I have a lot of people in my life who believe in it, in more than a pop-faith way. It seems a lot of queer people are really into it. And i find it fascinating in the way that belief systems are systems and systems are really cool. But, how do i interact with this? Especially when people apply this totalizing idealist belief structure to me (e.g. my day was bad and they say its because mercury is in retrograde). Like, i dont want to offend people, but also like i dont like people applying this shit to me, and it rubs me the wrong way when e.g. scheduling doesnt work out for our group game night and its blamed on planets. Like, no, its because of the scheduling of everyones jobs, which in turn are due to the arbitrary (or nonarbitrary) decisions of management, etc. etc.

So does anyone have tactics for navigating social interactions with people who are deep into this? I dont want to go off on them, i dont want to deny them their faith, but i dont want their belief structures applied to me, and i dont feel terribly welcome when they are applied to the group as a whole because then its like idk its just difficult and alienating when im the only one who doesnt hold a faith structure within a group.

Been helping my sibling with their subcutaneous injections, it's not hormones but I think I got the gist of it. My sibling is real squeamish when it comes to needles and stuff and so far they mentioned I've done a real painless job helping them.

If I was ever in a 3 wishes genie scenario, of course Id want world peace and world communism or even a cis body (or just a functional uterus maybe? I do think trans bodies rock as is) - but I think Id probably actually wish to be the best moral version and wisest such that the next two wishes create the best possible universe for everyone. Like the Roadside Picnic wish technique lol

first!!!!!!!

This has been probably one of my most depressing summers in living memory tbh. 4 years anniversary of HRT is creeping up soon, and I have barely any satisfaction with its results. My boobs are too small, despite proper dosaging. They don't look right, and may never will. Ex broke up with me in June, and I've just been stumbling through life since, I feel like I am becoming naturally less sober and I might be having developing delusions. I saw a notification on my phone a couple days ago where someone messaged me "leave her be". But I have no proof that message exists. I feel like everything is crumbling around me. But das life baby.

Sad gender feels :kitty-cri: doesn't help I'm tired. I should just ask my friends to use she/her. Idk why they didn't do that on their own. Awkward af. Still haven't told them my name. Maybe after we get some rest idk. Fuck

On the topic of nail polish, i have been salivating over mooncat nail polishes since i found out about them. Theyre terribly expensive but theyre so coooool!!! Like this one is just one of many but the colors and the black base idk its just very fun nail polish

The problem with hummus is you eventually run out of other peoples chickpeas

My Taiwanese professor constantly tells us that the information he is giving us in his lectures is stuff that even a lot of PhD students and researchers get tripped up on.

My brother in christ, how do you expect us to absorb all this information in a week?

He is explaining to us as if we were stupid, but we actually are stupid compared to this guy.

the trans woman running the til at a store I went to today had incredible eye makeup, I should have complimented her on it

Up

me arguing with vinyl sickos

Where the fuck did this ass come from all of a sudden? I grabbed the back of my thigh and it felt WAY different than last time I did that. Like I was having to reach further. And all of a sudden it hit me. What is all of that cushion I'm reaching around?? Omg your girl has a butt

I'm gonna keep posting about taiwan for a while.

I am currently listening to a white guy yap about how "stinky tofu" affected all his 5 sense and going through the entire story of how he found it.

just realized that aside from rebecca from edgerunners, all the stickers on my laptop are LGBT related in some way

One day I’ll get to be a mod here so I could negotiate emote exports for this thread

I'm having an absolutely awful body image day. I hate the way I look so much I don't want to be perceived. I can't believe I have to work and be looked at when I look so ugly

Not me thinking about getting hrt again (It's going to take a while and i'm sad).

Company picnic today and while I am not prepared to be in the sun and talk to coworkers, I am prepared to read a book in the shade.

Third spaces gone but the library will remain my home away from home, I really need to see about joining a club there to make friends irl. it's kind of difficult finding people into the same things as I am so gonna have to pick up some new special interest that's common enough to engage with others.

Hell yeah nail polish mega