In a thread on shit.justworks calling us names for having the 'we're banning misogynists' thread, users are literally arguing over the definition of transphobia, and not banning the transphobes, oh yeah
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“can you imagine consequences for bigotry? we’d have to shut down the entire instance”
I had an exhausting downer of a day but these fluffy doofuses make it a little better
They have their own barstools so two of them can look out the back door at the same time when the sun's out but they always want to crowd each other sitting together and that's very sweet to me
POV: trans reddit
i literally have no idea what i would do without hexbear you guys are the only thing that keeps me sane
Seeing the cis lads cry about being "discriminated against" because of "my gender which I didn't choose" PICK A BETTER ONE LOSER
it would be funny if someone wrote a script to temp ban all he/hims for 1 day on april fools
the existence of a trans mega has made the main mega much less interesting
an old lady at work called me "dear" earlier. I'm pretty sure that's a unisex term but honestly I'd rather be called dear than ma'am so I'll take that as a win
I dunno what Floridians are gonna do, like, long term. People lived on Florida for millennia, but the particular western way of living and the western mode of builidng/habitation along with climate change means I don't think people can live there like... anymore (unless one if the above changes). Hurricanes aren't going to stop. You'll still need insurance for a mortgage, or maybe they'll just stop offering both in Florida. It's not like there will be a collective effort to rebuild, there wasn't for New Orleans, they're still fucked over.
I think hexbear.net is a safe space to be online for transpeople, nobody's perfect, but this place is alright
I did just see the 'grr cheaters' thread from last fortnight, and haha wow, there's some people on this website who need to 'touch grass', (I hear the grass is nice in Siberia)
in lighter news: I realised I've been using neo pronouns ('ey/'em/'er/'im) and its just because i speak with kind of a drawl or something
damn i think i could make a plan to transition to look like this in about 5 years
ALRIGHT NERDS
Bought a couple fuckin, As Recommended By Hairsnobs (r/curlygirl rec) shampoo and conditioners. Primarily the HE Jojoba + Lavender curl conditioner, and the hemp oil frizz control shampoo. Only my fourth or so shampoo/conditioner combo. Please work.
Idk if I have the heart to tell my work apprentice that I’m not a woman, haha. She sees me as a “strong woman in a male dominated field” and I think I’m ok with letting her think that for now, since she can see herself in that image. But I can’t do it forever. Fortunately I think she’ll be cool with it when I eventually tell her I’m nonbinary.
I have so many things I want to do
- I'm still grinding away learning frontend coding stuff
- Started learning Japanese finally (almost done learning hiragana)
- I want to write stories again
- I want to make videos again
- I want to see more places, especially more countries
So much to do, maybe I'll even do it
The cissies in my life are absolutely clueless. I can not imagine what they think when they see me. They must think this is just what I look like with long hair and a shaved face. But when I catch a reflection of myself, all I see is my mom.
Howdy beautiful people, I've made a post outlining our planned next steps regarding the site's misogyny problem here, please have a read through it when you get the chance
BIG cw: loss, sadness, sui
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feeling kinda down, ive been remembering some of my past failures as an organizer for mutual aid stuff in my locale and not reacting quickly enough due to technical or time issues. like i get its not my fault that this happened and is largely an infrastructure/trans people being poor issue/not having enough free time... but still. i think its so important that we build up a mutual aid structure that is highly centralized (but can be replaced if it breaks down) so we dont lose people because we didnt respond quickly enough. things like the trevor project / the phone hotlines are ok, but we really need a setup that can receive messages and respond to other trans people so they dont fucking off themselves before we give them, food, housing, medical stuff... stuff that would have solved their problems.
im hoping someday we'll have all of our shit lined up. im fucking tired of the nth trans related charity that has a long drawn out process of means testing rather than directly assisting trans people as quickly as possible. im not like, super depressed or suicidal or anything anymore, just really sad for the people that are.
"I've never done anything with a boy before... please be gentle..."
I could pull it off. Cmon.
Everyone always told me I acted like a bottom long before ever realizing I was trans but I never really felt like I actually wanted to do that in bed
and then I started E and good lord has it turned me into something completely different now
Hey Trans comrades, got a question about questioning. If it's inappropriate to do this here, lmk asap and I'll delete. Don't wanna intrude in an undesirable way but pretty sure I'm not breaking any rules.
So I've said before that I feel no strong attachment to my gender, but I live daily as a masc-presenting cis-man and am not bothered by it. But the Q-label is always something I've questioned whether I can apply it permanently to myself. Seems like I'm constantly questioning, for years, what kind of gender would really apply to me because just "average Man" doesn't seem like me, but nothing really does either (not even agender). But I'm confortable enough with myself that I think I will never do anything except continue enjoying the questioning itself and learning from that questioning about myself and others. But I comfortably just go with cis-man and feel intrusive in queer spaces as anything but an Ally.
So the final question, is Questioning dialectical and possibly permanent for 1 person or is it dialectical as in it will have to be subsumed in something else during a person's lifetime (assuming you get the chance to complete such a thing)? Any comrades that have experience here want to pitch in? Ready to learn :denguin:
lmao, my dumbass was tapping the comment box in the old thread for like a full minute wondering why it wouldn't work
yep. the day i was worried about when starting HRT has come. my tits are too large and visible to hide under my shirt anymore
eh. it was high time to stop pretending to be a man all day
you aren't sexy? easy fix
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put on bralette
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put flannel over it. don't even button
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combo with whatever pants you like
congrats girl, you're the sexiest bitch alive
why the fuck does planned parenthood keep telling me that "Estrogen that makes you look like Misato Katsuragi" doesn't fucking exist. I know it does, hand it over!
Had two medical appointments today and both predictably asked for a list of prescriptions I'm taking. Decided to list E and spiro for both (usually I haven't)... both times the only prescription either nurse asked about was the E/spiro (and for the second one, I just listed off like 6 other prescriptions, perhaps mispronouncing some of them and never was even asked to repeat any of them).
The spiro, I can understand given its also used as a bloodpressure med and a diruetic. How many other uses are the for E in people with a "Sex: M" on their medical chart?
found a friend's reddit account and boy have i lost a tremendous deal of respect for them as a person
trying to tell a girl i like her by thinking about her all the fucking time and not saying anything to her
god she's the cutest thing i've ever seen ♥️♥️♥️
I successfully convinced the gender clinic I'm trans enough to go on the bottom surgery wait list 💪
Now it's only another year long wait
all these idiots getting raptured didn't even take their clothes and money and stuff with them
they may have got into heaven, but i have their doc martens
Yapping, 'boymode' theorising
We say that the cis are easy to fool, unobservant and to an extent that's absolutely true. But I also think that it's more about cisnormativity: not only are the cis not keyed to think "this person is changing their gender" of course, but also as a result they want to believe that the gender is the same. So even if their kid has inexplicably grown something chesty under that hoodie, why investigate when they are reassured by said kid that they're Still Totally A "Boy" For Sure, y'know? They have no vested interest in anything outside the gender status quo, usually, I think.
sadgirl posting
Got on E today, and was told by someone in the community I was getting fucked by my doctor. I was given 2mg estrogen tablets and 5mg fin tablets.
They told me to take 1/2 an e tablet twice, and 1/4 a fin tablet once a day. (2mg estrodoil and 1.25finastride per day total.) Was told in trachat that this was completely useless as it stands.
Still unsure but it feels disheartening to hear. I also meant to come out to my mom tonight but couldn't work up the courage and shes already asleep.
This was supposed to be a fucking landmark day, like the first day of things getting better and I feel like I'm just more behind I fucking hate it. This was supposed to be a good day and its just turned to fucking shit.
I wouldn't want to be cis, but fuck sometimes I wish I wasn't trans.
t4t = team 4tress two
Today is my birthday!
Instead of seeing what today does to me, I'm kinda deciding that it's a good day because it's my birthday and going forward
I have classes all day and idk if anyone knows that it's my birthday but whatever
god damn... that girl in the mirror is getting some curves
SA
I keep having dreams where people overpower and grope me, but half the time I can’t tell if my brain intends it to be a horny dream or a nightmare
well, my parents now know that i’m planning to try to get mobility aids (an electric wheelchair if possible). i think they’re adjusting to this new normal of me not being healthy anymore, even though this isn’t new to me. idk maybe it’s just because we aren’t in the same house rn but they actually seem to be taking my health issues seriously this time.