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524522 Zoozve - Trans Megathread for the week of 11-02-11/08 (hexbear.net)

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524522 Zoozve

This asteroid is smaller than a kilometre and it's unique in that its a quasi-satellite of Venus, because while it orbits the sun its orbit is the same length as Venus and roughly aligned, meaning that it follows it like a long distance shadow. Zoozve is known to be very elongated too.

My fav thing about Zoozve itself is the cute origin of its name: A podcast host's kid had a solar system poster on their wall with a moon of Venus labeled, and contacted NASA confused about it because no 'moons' of Venus were known to exist. He called it Zoozve but it was a misinterpretation of 2002 VE (a more typical name for an asteroid). https://radiolab.org/podcast/zoozve And this eventually led to the asteroid being formally named Zoozve.

Every ~8 years it makes a close approach to earth, roughly ~0.05 AU (from wikipedia), and the next approach like this is today November 2 2026! Hoping it gets another observation and maybe more is discovered about it.

(This was inspired by the previous megathread about favourite celestial bodies.)

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[–] AppetiteOfExcess@hexbear.net 2 points 33 minutes ago* (last edited 33 minutes ago)

CW: SI, dysphoria

I really should just kill myself already. I'm a spineless coward who won't stand up for anything. People don't even target me, but I keep letting ableism, racism, transphobia, and other bigotries slide instead of calling people out. I haven't attempted to socially transition at all; just perma boymoding.

I'm not good at anything except making neurotypical white liberals (who are categorically dipshits) think I'm smart because computer toucher (which I'm actually terrible at). I'm autistic but lack special interests because I have no interests and nothing makes me happy. I've never been through real hardship, so I really have no excuse or right to be so fucking miserable all the time.

Maybe if I came out in my late teens or early twenties or hell, even mid twenties, I'd have a chance. I am defeated. There is no future for me. I am absolutely disgusting. I have the build of a diabetic thrice-divorced former linebacker. My voice sounds like a bass drum full of gravel. My personality is only ever most boring motherfucker you've ever seen or bitter sad asshole.

I don't have the courage to kill myself because I don't have the courage to do anything. Maybe I should just get really drunk and blow up at everyone I know in life until all my bridges are burned and I'm well and truly alone? Maybe then I'll have the guts to fucking kill myself. No one will ever take me seriously.

[–] OffSeasonPrincess@hexbear.net 8 points 4 hours ago

https://x.com/wishyoudwell/status/2114082677469180021

[–] RondoRevolution@hexbear.net 10 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Cool, another space related trans megathread :3 and the story of the naming of the asteroid is indeed cute.

My trans bestie is feeling bad lately, she recently lost her job and while she was alright the first 2 days, now she's really depressed, I feel bad because I don't want to see her bad catgirl-cry

Had to give her some space yesterday because she just didn't have the strength to message me most of the time, but I hope we get to talk today. cuddle

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 4 points 3 hours ago

That's really sad. Having your money source go away...

[–] RION@hexbear.net 12 points 5 hours ago

Want to schedule ffs consult

Go to hospital website

See times open but online scheduler doesn't have an option for gender affirmation stuff

Call number for scheduling assistance

Get transferred to a different department after being asked if my consult is for gender care

No one answers, answering machine says to leave a message and they'll get back to me in 7-10 business days

Leave a half-hearted message

Try again the next day, calling the regular scheduling number

"I know last time I got transferred to a different department but is there anyway I can just schedule it directly with you?"

I mean come on I can see the open times on the website

"No you have to go through the other department. I'll give you the number so you can reach them directly in the future"

Get transferred again, no one answers, same spiel

Fuck this

[–] xenon@hexbear.net 8 points 5 hours ago

social media is hazardous with vote today

rood

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Crying on and off at my desk. I'm struggling to understand.

teeth

My permanent retainer broke I'm pretty sure. Feels too far separated from one side. Have a cavity. Hurts to eat on one side. Don't wear my nightly retainer. Way too uncomfy and hard to sleep in. It's been years so I'd probably need a new one if I wanted to start wearing it again ig. Least of my dental issues rn.

suicidal thoughts

I'm just waiting to die. I hate it here. I hate dealing with stuff. I hate working. I hate healthcare stuff. I hate my body. My voice. Society. All of fucking society.

I shouldn't have been born. Everything fucking sucks. Everything is okay if I can dissociate away from real life completely.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

The other day someone told me my depression seems very situational and that's good. If only the fucking situation wasn't constant! If only I could get away from work, and my body, and society!! Things would be fucking great if only I could actually escape the things tormenting me!

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

suicide + dysphoria

sees myself in the mirror God I've got to fucking kill myself. This is inescapable misery. I hate this fucking meat suit I'm stuck in.

It's not fair. It's not fair some people get to look okay and be happy and I don't. Killing myself. Why can't I. I need to go out back and shoot myself and everyone will carry on as they did before. But I won't be constantly tormented by this shit. BEING TRANS POST PUBERTY RUINED MY ENTIRE FUCKING LIFE.

Crying at my desk again. I hate my fucking existence. I'm so unhappy and miserable and suffering. This doesn't fucking work for me.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Sorry for making another one of these after everyome was so supportive the other day. Idk I guess I'm a mess. I'll just go cry alone. Sorry.

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 3 points 4 hours ago

cat-trans

[–] userse31@hexbear.net 8 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Came across "DonvtGvrl"'s now delisted Minecraft videos months back. Came back and uh...... Wtf.

Evidently she's in some psycodic break because she's going on about this "Noah" person. Apparently it's a medium sized drama thing in Roblox or something. (I have the electronics and politics autism, so I have no idea what happens in Roblox.)

So, moral of the story here, uh...... I don't fucking know lmfao. Maybe I'll just unsubscribe from here.

[–] SexUnderSocialism@hexbear.net 9 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I don't know who she is, but the moral of every story involving Roblox is to stay the fuck away from it.

[–] userse31@hexbear.net 8 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

I feel like I kinda lucked out when rolling the "this will be your hyperfixations" dice.

Ripping electronics apart and the Rats of NIMH is pretty tame compared to Roblox or Warrior Cats. At the very least thrown out electronics are free, the stuff off AliExpress is cheap, and nobody judges you when you write about the Rat Republic's defense of Nova Scotia and post it on AO3.

Then again the first thing I ever took apart was a spray bottle when I was two or younger. I was always an inquisitive woman.

So..... Idk. Lots of mainstream stuff doesn't leave me much to chew on mentally.

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 7 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

rat-salute rat-salute-2

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 7 points 7 hours ago (3 children)

rat yuri

[–] userse31@hexbear.net 5 points 7 hours ago

"No that's MY study notes!"

"But you said it was a decoy to piss me off!"

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 5 points 7 hours ago

Someone’s been peeking at @Alisu@hexbear.net’s notes!

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 5 points 7 hours ago

i don't remember if there are any other emotes on here because of me but if it's just rat-salute-2 then that's enough

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 13 points 11 hours ago

lmao i knew there was a reason i still visited the hellsite.

it's the interactive fiction subreddit, that's the only reason

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 11 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Great googly moogly I'm so tired. I'm just exhausted. I've been going full pelt with college and kids and work and it's all important (apart from work I just need the money). But goddamn I need a few days where I don't have to think about all the things I need to do. This is the most active I've been in my adult life and it's taking away my ability to do other things, like draw and go to the gym. I should really get on meds for my adhd

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 3 points 4 hours ago

Sameeee. Sometimes it’s nice and cozy being tired. Instead I’m having one of those times where my brain just won’t even do basic things cause it keeps just shutting down. I’m trying to gut it out long enough that I don’t get stuck waking up at like 2am cause I went to sleep too early.

Anyway, my fellow sleepy friend, I hope you get some good rest tonight and wake up feeling refreshed :)

[–] InsidiousTrackers@hexbear.net 11 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

dysphoria

hate that seeing a glimpse of a woman that looks kind of like me but cis just ruins my day. literally saw her for 1 second from a distance.

[–] AppetiteOfExcess@hexbear.net 9 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

Dysphoria

Me whenever I see my mom. Ah, who am I kidding, I haven't even started girlmoding yet.

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 8 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Weirdly, after starting HRT, I stopped seeing similarities between my face and the person who birthed me. Pre-egg-crack, I noticed similarity more than I'd have liked, so glad that hasn't happened. I do think I look a lot more like my sister than before starting (and my sister probably looks like the person who birthed us when she was our age).

[–] userse31@hexbear.net 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I haven't seen my actual mom in ~20 years. To be able to kinda see her face again would be nice.

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 5 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

My actual mom* isn't the person who birthed me (who pretty much immediately abandoned us, only to pop in occasionally and cause trouble; glad I haven't seen her in years). I just don't look much anything like my actual mom since we're not any more genetically related than any other random humans are. The name she gave me sounds like her's though, so that's part of why I haven't changed it being quite male-gendered. Sorry you no longer have her with you. 😢

*unless she decides she isn't mom. 🥚

[–] userse31@hexbear.net 5 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I wonder what happed with my biological dad.

I only have two memories of him, and they're both kinda questionable. I think he was one of them absent dads tbh.

I remember being regularly around my mom, but my dad was rarely around. Probably "busy" being a misogynistic pig. Hopefully that didn't involve getting more autistic women addicted to heroine. (Or anyone for that matter.)

My curiosity towards him is purely cognative. If I did hunt him down it'd consist of a "nonpassing" agender trans woman interrogating him and being all like "WHAT WHERE MY MOM'S LIFE GOALS AND MORAL BELIEFS!?" lol.

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 4 points 3 hours ago

My sperm donor made his donations the proper way through a sperm bank. So meeting him has been purely a curiosity. Learning about family history of diseases can be helpful, for example.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Got my first full check. It's a little less than I expected. I really hope apartments aren't strict about the 1/3 rule or I'm going to struggle. The place I'd like is a bit more then that by like $150, but it includes all utilities and everything and generally looks decent. Otherwise I'm going to struggle to find a place I think. Also my transport costs will be really low since I don't have a car. I know it works for me I just hope the apartment complex sees it the same way.

[–] RION@hexbear.net 5 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

1/3 rule is usually based off gross (pretax) income, just fyi

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Oh well thank christ for that because I was feeling very hosed.

[–] RION@hexbear.net 5 points 5 hours ago

Plants in the garden when they see me going inside after watering them:

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