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lol. don't do drugs. sex does not exist.

Holy shit we can edit titles here. I got to fix a typo; what a dream. Fuck Reddit.

My dad told me we were going to talk about sex. I asked him what he wanted to know. That was the end of the conversation.

When I was about 15, my grandma told me "If you don't want her to be a mommy, always remember to wrap your salami."

That was about it, and yes, it was as strange as it sounds.

I built a shed with my dad and when I was like 14 and he went "well your mother wanted me to talk to you..."

We had an awkward conversation but it was very short and he was just like "some guys have a lot of sex. Some guys don't. That's ok. It feels really good. Use protection"

It wasn't until I fucked up with some drugs as an older teenager he was like hey cool it with that nonsense.

He's a good guy haha.

My parents said that they would let me drink under their supervision once I turned 16. I didn't take them up on the offer because i wasn't interested. Any time my Mom lit a cigarette I would start talking about how bad it was for her. So they never felt a need to talk to me about other drugs. Eventually when I waa 20 I let a girl talk me into drinking with her at her place when her parents were out of town, and she's my wife now.

For sex, my parents were like "you talked about that stuff in school right? You know to use protection?" And I was like, "yeah I'm good".

I was a responsible youth, the one in the friend group always thinking about the consequences and long-term effects of actions. My parents knew they didn't have to worry about me.

My mom was pretty open about trying weed in college. She told me she would rather me smoke weed than cigarettes, which she did not appreciate me reminding her of when she caught me smoking weed.

Sex wasn't a topic we really discussed, but it wasn't something taboo. When I was 11 she got me a book on puberty and told me to ask her if I had any questions. I didn't need to because she did her research and got a good book.

Although she did get me a Playboy subscription when I was 16. I always forget about that. My dad had it cancelled. He also tried to give me "the talk" when I was 23.

My dad took me for a drive when I was 15. Awkwardly asked if I knew about women. I lied and said yes. He was visibly relieved. That was the end of it.

My wife and I made sure our kids had multiple sex talks, quizzed them about scenarios (especially involving STDs and consent), and gave them starter 3-packs of condoms.

We're not leaving things to chance. We also factored the future therapy bills into the equation.

Mom went to Woodstock.. The first one.. so being exposed to sexual behavior and being around drugs were a part of my childhood environment. The 1970's were WAY more free-swinging than it is now. Because it was in my environment, it became all rather ho-hum.

When it's around all the time - it loses the appeal of being "forbidden fruit."

Open and honest. If you were old enough to ask a question you were old enough for a relatively complete answer. No judgement or lecture. Just the truth.

I do the same for my kids.

Sex and drugs are fine but don't neglect your rock and roll.

My parents side stepped having this conversation by letting their first child serve as a negative example for the rest of us

What conversation? You guys had conversations?

My mom worked in a hospital, so she saw the worst of the worst that comes from drugs. Naturally she was very anti-drug

Having sex before marriage is a sin. Defiling your body is a sin. Repeat ad infinitum.

There wasn't any, they just signed the sex education and DARE forms schools sent home with me and left it up to government and pigs.

Sex education was decent, I recall two courses. One in elementary and another in high school. DARE was as useless as everyone already says, so no need to elaborate I think.

My mother: My best friend Ruthy was the sort of person who thought a best friend was someone who gives you their last tab of speed during exams. My best friend in highschool, hearing this: So you had speed in highschool? My mother: oh ugh um ahh well.

My mother also advised us that if we thought a bar was watering down drinks we should order black russians because vodka is more alcoholic but kahlua is more expensive. Also never buy white rum because you might as be drinking vodka - this was meant as an insult to both vodka and white rum.

The principal of my small-town high school heard kids talking about pump jack parties. He thought we were going out to a pump jack to get drunk and ride the pump jacks. Apparently, in his day, that's what kids did. He brought in a guest speaker from a local oilfield company to talk to the senior students about the dangers of doing that.

We were dumbfounded by the talk because none of us had ever thought to ride a pump jack. What we called a pump jack party was just when a specific couple parked their car in the country to have sex.

Older people in the community have since confirmed that riding pump jacks was indeed a thing.

My dad said I was your age once too. I know telling you not to do it is pointless. When you do things, don't be an idiot about it. Trust the people you're with, don't do too much, don't drive, and Jesus Christ if you're in a situation where you need to call me at 3am you better call me. Am I going to be irritated I got woken up? Yeah but, I'll get over that. I can't fix you being dead.

My Mom did the sex talk. Don't really remember it but, it resulted in birth control 2 years before I even stated dating so I was safe.

"Don't put your mouth where you wouldn't put your fingers first"

"If you don't want dirt on your dick when you ride a horse use a blanket or keep your pants on"

"Hey, keep your own tissues and lotion in your room"

"I had a patient that had gonoria so bad that he just tried ignoring it. We had to peel those nasty underwear off of him, smelling liked something died. Anyways wear a condom."

"God never says sex is a sin, we're even commanded to go have kids, but what makes lust a sin is when you get it twisted and think your desire matters more then someone elses humanity."

The actual "talk" never happened because I talked about sex with my parents first and they said "I know you know about sex already but you should know it's not appropriate to talk about it with anyone yet, when you're older you'll get it for now just be a kid." Or something like that

no

my parents only talked to me to tell me how disappointed they were in my good grades and success in my clubs and activities.

All I know is plastic wrap is not the same as a condom. Also don't forget it after getting the wendys.

Basically don't use drugs or you'll destroy your life.

Sex was avoided as a topic, but we were taught that premarital sex is a sin. I was also teased as a kid about having crushes on girls (I'm male), despite my adament (and truthful) denials, and othertimes they'd joke that I'd change my mind once I was older. I won that though - turns out I was gay and never did change my mind.

As for LGBT issues, it was so taboo / not talked about that I didn't even connect my confusing feelings for male classmates with me being gay until I was 18. I thought everyone felt like that and was frustrated when they wouldn't reciprocate those emotions back.

My parents bought me a book about sex and never talked about it.

We never talked about drugs because I never showed any interest and the PSAs seemed like enough.

They put on "Kids" and said if you want to live that life here's how you'll end up.

My parents were like "love who you want to love just don't make me have to visit you in prison"

no drug talk; my mother sat me down at age ten and gave me such a dry, clinical description of intercourse that I had no idea what she was talking about. It wasn't until a few years later when I was reading books with some mildly steamy sex scenes that it hit me: "--oh! This was what mom was talking about."

Limited, although I knew just from diffusion of attitudes that either makes you a worthless person bound for hell.

The funny thing is, I think they would have both been horrified to hear it put that way. But, that's what had been drilled into them, and the attitudes stuck even if that's not what they intellectually believed.

Given some books about girls puberty. Talked about sex should be consensual. Dad being dad said if it wasn't tell him and he take care of it

Don't do that!!! Cause most people don't want other people to be killed!! Especially a young scared girl! Fuck man.

Also had several classes about it. One in regular school, one with a rabbi. Both were fine.

Mother also gave me a condom when I got my second boyfriend. It was ribbed. I did not want to know this.

I never really got a sex talk that I can remember, but my mom once told me "don't do drugs but, if you do, do them with me so I can make sure you do them right."

Never had either of those conversations with my parents. They drank heavily, fought constantly, and for the last 5-6 years of their marriage we lived in an abandoned house so it probably wouldn't have been a great talk. Instead I just swore I'd be different and in most ways I am.

There never were any conversations about either.

I genuinely can't remember my parents ever talking to me about sex.

Catholic middle school "educated" me. I remember going to see a lady who yelled out a dozen or two names of various STIs as part of some abstinence bullshit.

Honestly not sure if it was a good or bad thing that I didn't really know I was gay back then. but I sure as hell am glad I went to public high school instead of a catholic one.

Back when I was in elementary school, I had a classmate named "Noah Bates" and they called him Master Bates as a joke. I didn't understand at the time so I want home and asked my mom why they kept calling him that, and why this was supposed to be funny. She couldn't explain, was all flustered, and eventually said that it was a sexual innuendo, which I also didn't understand the meaning of.

We had sex ed in high school, but they spoke of it in terms my brain didn't understand. "It's better than any drug" yes but I haven't done any drugs yet, so that is a meaningless comparison to me. A pretty dry and technical rundown of it. The DARE officer brought that suitcase full of drugs that shows you what each one is supposed to look like, and all I remember is wondering what they all did.