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Happy 4/20 everyone! I recently started drinking coffee in the last year after never really liking it. Growing up I would try my mom's coffee every once in a while but it always tasted burnt and bitter. Looking back I realize that I didn't like that coffee due to my mom usually steeping it in a French press for 15-20 minutes.

I got into coffee in the last year due to my roommate who worked as a barista making me some and it being actually flavorful. But we were using a drip coffee machine and it wasn't strong enough for my liking. Before I actually started drinking coffee I liked to watch coffee gadget reviews cause I thought they were interesting? Which is how I found out about the aeropress which is my way I make my coffee in the morning.

The aeropress is kind of a three one thing cause it's a pour over, French press and manual espresso machine all in one, in addition I use a hand crank burr grinder to grind my beans and typically only add a bit of creamer as I want to taste the coffee as much as possible I also usually use medium roast beans.

How do you take your coffee/tea?

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

if you have a preferred week please tell me

SwitchyandWitchy* (4/27 - 5/3)
Disaster_of_Passion* (5/4 - 5/10)
sodium_nitride* (5-11 - 5/17)
peanutbuttercupola* (5/18 - 5/24)
Shaleesh* (5/25 - 5/31)
GayTuckerCarlson* (6/1 - 6/7)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 22 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I got offered a job in critical care pediatrics!!!

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Congrats! Very happy for you

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I feel so happy ✨️

Trauma sucked. HARD. The staff and my manager were good but it was rough

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago

Yay, congrats catgirl-happy

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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Get to hangout today with my girlfriend, my boyfriend, my other girlfriend, my partner, and my lover πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

Great day to be t4t poly

[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago

happy lesbian visibility week and earth day to all the trans lesbians!! hexbear-lesbian

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Lunch lady commands me to give my glasses to her

I obliged with 0 hesitation

She cleans them and hands them back to me

"Much better, right"

"Yes ..."

"You gave me your glasses with 0 hesitation, you trust me that much?"

"Yes ..."

"If I asked for your wallet, would you also give it?"

"I don't have a wallet but if I had one, yes"

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I was here just thinking about how much more comfortable, free and at peace I feel when my parents aren't home. Really makes you think

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 2 weeks ago

It really does

Got a taste of this last night and loved it. God I hope I can move out soon

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[–] catter@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

I usually make drip coffee and drink it black :) I like espressos too, which I also enjoy without anything extra, but I usually don't gravitate to it because I drink like a fish 😬 espresso does not last long and I get overcaffeinated, lose-lose lol.

Also I am living as a nonbinary woman now and it feels good! Keep seeing myself in the mirror at stores and getting euphoria. Shaved my legs finally and got a huge rush from seeing them "as they should be" πŸ₯° Relationship stuff is hard, but we are working through it πŸ’œ They have been buying me flowers and helping me pick out new clothes and jewelry πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

It's wild that HRT gives you freckles

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[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Happy Lesbian Visibility week! hexbear-lesbian

[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

spoiler~~stunning lack of visible lesbians in my bed~~

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Get in your own bed and you wont have that problem presumably

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[–] Thordros@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Chinese jasmine black tea, steeped for 2.5 minutes in slightly sub-boiling water, nothing else added. You can re-steep the tea once or twice throughout the day for a slightly mellowed flavor and lower caffeine content, so your leaves last a lot longer than you'd think.

Solidarity with my trans comrades. I got nothing else to add but my tea snob opinions, but I love ya. cat-trans

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 11 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

I learnt how to purr by rolling my Rs

This information might be useful to some people 0_o

I don't know who tho

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[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 11 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

i keep reading "bigender" as "biggender", and really, is it incorrect?

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[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 10 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Starting some new medication. Doctor is concerned that my mostly unmanaged anxiety disorder would be exacerbated by most ADHD meds since they're stimulants (kinda bullshit, overstimulation is one of by biggest triggers but whatever) so instead I've been started on a norepinephrine re-uptake inhibitor. That still might exacerbate anxiety, so we're starting on a low dose and working up.

It'll take a while to get the blood levels high enough to be effective, so won't know if this does anything for a week, but I'd love to actually do the things I want to do instead of just thinking about doing them and being anxious because I'm not doing anything.

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Thank you to everyone who commented on the previous trans mega and enjoyed the artwork

I like my coffee iced with a lil vanilla and my green tea plain, a fresh lemon squeeze on occasion

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

Thank you everyone for your support on my comment last mega, I meant to get back earlier but was really tired today.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

CW organized international transphobia attempting to try and ruin the life of a specific trans womanThe Australian/UK tabloids (they're owned the same people) have doxxed Beth Upton the doctor who received all the transphobic harassment in Scotland (leading to the transphobic Supreme Court finding), she had moved to Australia and is working and training here. They found out through her AHPRA registration (the list of registered doctors and healthcare providers), meaning some ghoulish interns had been checking anglophone registries to find her. The headlines have been dogshit calling her "controversial". There has been discussion by local reactionaries about her being registered as female on AHPRA and how that shouldn't be allowed. This is despite the fact most Australian states and territories have self-ID for sex and there are plenty of trans doctors, nurses, psychologists registered on AHPRA.

It just so fucked

[–] ConfusedPuppy@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Rion, I can't reply to your Yuri dog comment on lemmygrad because it somehow doesn't exist, but let it be known I would like to reply "woagh"

They're having secret dog comments on TraCha without us!!!!!

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

HRT has caused me to take better care of my appearance.

It used to be the case that people would assume I was homeless and would try to donate clothes and shoes to me (this is not a joke, I've had occasions on the train station where people would take off their personal belongings and try to donate them to me*).

Now? People ignore me. Which is ... not really sure that's much better ...

It is somewhat nice to have people randomly pity you and try to give you shit. Makes you feel like the world cares. But I also like feeling like I'm sad and small and pathetic.

*this happened mostly in the winter where I wore clothes so skimpy people thought I was freezing because I couldn't afford proper clothing. It was actually because I liked freezing in the cold.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Walked around a lake on a whim then went to a free botanical garden niko-wonderous shit was tight you can pick fruit and eat it there for free, only issue is all the low hanging fruit already picked 😭 planning on taking my gf there one day and overhead pressing her up so she can get the fruit for us. Not a viable strat for everyone but why not take advantage of my strength

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[–] moh@hexbear.net 10 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

i just think it's bullshit that i can't purr γ…€/ᐠ - Λ• -γƒž

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Wild that just, what like 5ml of medicine has had these various effects on me so far.

Getting through my first vial is going to be so satisfying

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[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 10 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

i feel like recently, i'm really feeling like there is a lot of gender/sex/sexuality theory that I find really basic and in some cases, enforcing cisheteronormativity (not here) but I feel like some of you might understand a little what I mean, even though i'm being kinda vauge about it. Its like... I only really want to hear about theory that cuts to the root of it all

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

more t-phobia

I guess my chest has finally grown large enough for my parents to notice, which has caused them to make remarks about how I should get a checkup with the doctor and how it's unhealthy (god they are so controlling about my body shape).

They think it's an exercise I'm doing. Which is better than them understanding how HRT works.

But I have gotten super self-concious about myself so thanks I guess.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Tap for spoiler

There has got be a limit to how insensitive you can be when you're asking a person why they don't tell you things as that person wraps themselves in a blanket to avoid being body-shamed by you.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I gained 20 lbs while I was in surgery recovery, and I really like how big my boobs got on it... wish I could lose 20 lbs but keep my new big fat tits. This rocks.

bottom surgeryGot to use my actual dildos on myself. Having a vagina is awesome!! You just keep going, has vibe inside feels good-weird. I never did any ass play, so this is all a first. My prostate is reachable through my vagina which is also great πŸ‘

I only bought this fuck-off huge ones cause they were fairly close to my old size (ones a little longer but skinnier, the other is pretty bang on) and everyone Ive topped has been a size queen. I am not a size queen lol, I have never claimed to be, as great as these are they would probably be more fun if they were smaller.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago (9 children)

Gender affirming back pain

Owwie

Ah ... ah ... ah

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[–] nemmybun@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I didn't know that I'd be getting a bonus boob upgrade with the injections in under 30 days. I'm an injection truther now

Part of this is probably more water retention since I'm off spiro now but there's been noticeable growth too. I'm just surprised since it's been so long since I started hrt

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

What's a good matrix home server? Someone wants to talk to me and I need to make a matrix user again, but dont know all the hip and happening hotspots screm-cool

I found a few oriented towards lgbt and/or trans people but they had things like "nothing illegal in Germany or France" which to my eyes means "Zionism is good and antizionism will be punished" which isnt great to my eyes.

(Before anyone asks, chapo.chat isnt accepting registrations anymore)

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[–] moss_icon@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

After thinking it over I have decided that I don’t want to go back on HRT for a few reasons:

  1. I tried it once for about a year and didn’t like it
  2. I’m perfectly comfortable still presenting as masculine
  3. I have a family history of breast cancer

Sometimes I feel β€œless valid” because I don’t want HRT but then I just remind myself that that’s the transmedicalists and gatekeepers getting to me, so it doesn’t bother me for long.

I prefer my coffee black, maybe with a bit of soya milk sometimes.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Transphobia

My mom outta nowhere asked me in person if I still wanted transition and thanked me when I told her no.

She also started asking me when I was going to cut my hair and said that I couldn't run away from the question by hanging up the phone cause I am here in person

I came to these people to rest and so I could fucking sleep for once.

blob-no-thoughts

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[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

scraped someones car when turning into my first laser appointment. Life is wild. no injuries, just shaken and embarassed. doubling down on my anti-car stance

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago

I stayed up late working on a creative project. Kind of sleepy today, but I love that feeling of getting so caught up in a project. Wouldn't trade that sleepy satisfaction feeling the next day nia-peace

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 2 weeks ago

I hate the bit where after I've texted someone (not even dooming just texting) and they don't reply and I feel stupid and needy and like I should never try to contact anyone again because they probably don't want anything to do with me again

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

"I'm such a trainwreck" she says despite probably being in the top 5% of trans women in terms of having her shit together.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Downside of being on HRT is I can't really be forcefemmed :(

[–] Busgirl@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

I mean you can if your a boymoder and resistant to actually being femme in public but I'm guessing thats not the case

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Kill every single car

Gas to $40 a gallon

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