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Hai everybody! :3

We haven't been around much lately, but we've missed you all <3

As much as we enjoy talking about electromagnetism and the like, we're really feeling trans joy as the theme for this mega post. And we'd love to hear some of the things that have brought you all some joy lately (without doxxing yourselves of course).

Something that is bringing us a lot of joy right now is seeing the local trans community finding each other and making joy for ourselves. They're planning events, going out, finding love and friendship, and refusing to allow our circumstances prevent us from enjoying life and having fun as much as possible. And we're part of it! We've been doing the same! And it doesn't just make this life tolerable in the face of all the bad stuff happening, it's making this life beautiful and filled with love and happiness.

In order to try to get back in the habit of participating here, we're going to try to at least post one bit of trans joy every day here this week.


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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (4 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

if you have a preferred week please tell me

Wmill* (3/9 - 3/15)
Disaster_of_Passion* (3/16 - 3/22)
meler* (3/23 - 3/29)
Shaleesh* (3/30 - 4/5)
Carcharodonna* (4/6 - 4/12)
GayTuckerCarlson* (4/13 - 4/19)
Busgirl (4/20 - 4/26)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 20 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Every now and then I catch myself at a good angle in a mirror and I see the vision. I hate my side profile, but from the front, I kinda like some parts

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[–] OffSeasonPrincess@hexbear.net 18 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

All of the above

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 18 points 2 months ago (1 children)

We woke up with messy makeup after a messy night. And it has us reflecting on our transition. Our womanhood is complicated, as it is for all women. We don't want to reduce it to stereotypical experiences, but damn if it doesn't feel at least a bit affirming to have these experiences that so many women in our life have talked about before. And more than that it feels more and more like we're living our lives. And it kinda feels like we're starting the process of growing up.

[–] Busgirl@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Reading this felt like prose from a good novel

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Really? πŸ₯Ή

Maybe we should spill our feelings out more often

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[–] dragongloss@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago (1 children)
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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Happy international women's day to all the cute women and femmes reading this!

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I RAN 5K FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER TODAY!!!!! lets-fucking-go

I'm really proud! I was never good at running nor did I enjoy it, but at the start of this year I decided I wanted to work more cardio routines into my workouts, mainly so I could lead hikes with the scouts. I also want a skinnier build rather than more muscular. In the first week I struggled to run a kilometer, and a couple of times had to slow down after hitting 600 meters. But as I continued to push on, I finally discovered what people talk about when they "enter the zone". I started to lock the fuck in. The sweat felt so good, and as I approached a kilometer, I realised that I had more in me, and it felt amazing. So I kept running, first to 1100 meters, then 1300, then 1500 without stopping, at 10km/h, and every time I was able to appreciate that this was so much harder for me only weeks ago. Now I consistently run 1.5km in 9 minutes as the start of my workout, and I've added on much more time. I used to stop at 15 minutes, but then I wanted to hit 2.5km within 15 minutes, so I sped up, and found myself walking for a few minutes after that. I ran 3.5km within 25 minutes a few weeks ago, and last week hit 4km within 30 minutes.

Today I ran 5km in 36.5 minutes, which I'm so proud of.

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[–] BioWarfarePosadist@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago

I was princess carried by a very handsome man last weekend. It's proof of how much weight I have lost and it was the first time anyone carried me like that and it made me feel cute and petite.

I've also been dealing with increased IRL popularity. People nervously approach me to ask for my number. And although this has also come with some unwanted attention, it's exhilarating to be so known and sought after in my local community.

[–] MeetMeAtTheMovies@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago

Upped my E dose and it brought me straight out of a long depression. Also started a sleep med and it’s changed my life. Is this how people feel all the time? Just alert and not exhausted? I don’t need to nap for several hours a day and getting out of bed doesn’t take an hour. Just feeling good

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago (5 children)

ao3 is finally coming back up, ugh i was getting the shakes now i can read my smut again comfy

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago

I was worried I would have to actually do work today catgirl-huh

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)
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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 2 months ago (3 children)

nsfw

This drink has the texture of cum. Idk what anyone is supposed to do with this information, but I can't keep it in any longer.

The lack of sweetness makes it really taste like getting you're deepthroating a hentai protagonist who ate some fruit to make his cum not taste bitter.

The fungus in the drink makes it even more like cum. Because it gives it a thick and clumpy quality.

Genuinely which genius designed this drink?

Maybe I'll buy some white food coloring to make artificial cum juice. And try to add a hint of bitterness (perhaps the oils and pith of orange peels could help here)

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[–] grym@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago

Finally have started coming out at work and it's all slowly happening. Name change on the company account, coworkers addressing me correctly, etc. Feels great!

It happened at the right time, I waited a while in cope-boymode but now that I have D cups i can't really pretend i'm "hiding" lmao.

Also I genuinely like my reflection now. Crazy stuff.

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Trans joy, huh? I was going to wait a bit longer to talk about this, but now is fine. Mostly just posting this for me tbh catgirl-peace

Looking forward to the future (brief mention of ideation)The last few years have been a real test of how much I want a good ending instead of a quick ending. When the conclusion you built your life on turns out to be hollow, it feels impossible to take any meaningful step forward. Rebuilding support systems, finding financial security, engaging with a barbaric system - there were many days where I felt like all I did was dig a hole and fill it back up. I even allowed myself an entire year to have a grounded assessment of suicide as a reasonable next step. If I had to chart my future once again, nothing was off the table.

Over time, I found myself at the other end of every insurmountable step. Finding friends who I could be myself around reminded me that I could be vulnerable again. Taking a chance on another therapist gave me the space to talk through the body trauma I couldn't escape. Letting a partner see me in this messy phase helped me to think about the future again. Finding a better job, struggling with the healthcare system, starting electrolysis again - every meaningful action has led to finally having a consult at the end of this month.

Through all of this, my resolve has become unbreakable. I'm not approaching surgery with a mindset of "everything rests on this surgeon working out" because it doesn't. I can tell my story confidently, I can find a someone that I don't have to compromise for. The era of feeling like I'm in the shadows of a failed transition has come to a close. I have joy in being trans, confidence in my femininity again.

Thinking about the last time I prepped for a consult, I barely recognize that person. I'm looking forward to what comes next.

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 2 months ago (5 children)

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As much as these words sound cliche, your story is truly very inspiring. I hope to someday to meet you on the other side ...

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[–] OffSeasonPrincess@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Finally got myself a couple pairs of girl underwear! They feel nice, way nicer than guy boxers ever did catgirl-heart hoping my mom wont be weird about it >_<

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[–] Busgirl@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (3 children)

One of the older women at work gave me 20 bottles of high quality nail polish from when she used to own a nail salon. It's like 300 dollars worth of nail polish!

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Graduated from voice lessons! Woooooo πŸ₯³

I do absolutely sound better and pass better vocally when Im mad, when Im happy, when Im tired, when I have to yell at someone who doesn't have their hearing aids in, when I cough or sneeze... I made heaps of progress with a voice coach over 6 months. It did end up costing quite a bit over alllll the lessons. It was worth it to me and I had the money to spend, but I know that can be a real barrier for people.

I think its possible to do this without a coach - you'd just have to be serious about practicing daily. And find good resources. The Big Dog, Little Dog thing does work but you have to do it. Raising your larynx works but same deal. Shortening vocal tract, that all works. All the exercises you can find online and watch videos to see examples. And the biggest hump is definitely "getting over it"/dealing with feeling cringe and dysphoric and practicing anyway. This is not to be underestimated, for sure, not downplaying that part.

It was also nice to have a coach to listen and give feedback but if I didn't have that, I had a lot of my friends all of whom are trans femme too which is also a big bonus and makes the whole thing much easier.

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[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Happy international women's day, please use it to bully a misogynist or two.

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago (4 children)

I'm not saying "spoons" it's too twee. I'm nearly forty and a real bitch. I'm using passive aggressive therapy speech like "I'm triaging emotional labour requests right now"

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[–] Revolutionary_Apples@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Well, I willingly and voluntarily came out to my work this past week for the first time. The only other time I was outed to people. It is a highly progressive company with a much larger proportion of LGBTQ+ people than the surrounding population distribution, but I was still relieved that they were mostly accepting. This has been a deeply healing experience for me and has been a beautiful learning experience. I have never felt more free or appreciated then when I see people choose to use my pronouns, then when I have MY name on my chest, then when I can finally live as myself.

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Chat I introduced her all my plushies and she liked them, they liked her too crush

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I can't believe I didn't realize I was trans while being super envious of sapphic relationships. I also love Harley and Ivy as a couple so much, I was just reading Harley and Ivy and it felt really nice.

Also:

(CW: slight nudity) relationship goals

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[–] crosswind@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago

Woke up this morning and my gender was swollen. I did use it pretty rough last night. I’ll have to go easy for a few days and work on my technique.

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (6 children)

I'm writing down the people that don't send me a happy woman's day as transphobes

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[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (3 children)

i like my soyfriend/partner

that is all theory-gary

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[–] Muinteoir_Saoirse@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'm an adult educator; used to do a lot of queer education, but lately my work has mostly been core literacy and math skills. Finally have a chance to develop a gender studies curriculum, as well as a world issues curriculum, which are my actual areas of expertise. Very excited for the possibilities. By a complete coincidence, the learners in the pilot run of these courses are all fem as well, which presents a really interesting classroom environment for these subjects

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I got to cuddle my friend's pupper today and it was very nice

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago

Feeling the slightest bit like a cutie pie in my zoom meetings today (β β—•β α΄—β β—•β βœΏβ )

[–] bipp@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago

I'm hitting the stage where it feels like I fully see myself in the mirror. Everything feels lighter, my friendships are better, my relationship with my partner is better. I feel so fucking pretty and whole for the first time aaaaaaaa

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (5 children)
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[–] RION@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

I guess this counts?

Yesterday I went and got some new clothes. I tried on a top and shorts that were similar colors and textures, and the shorts were big on me so they flared out at the thighs.

When I posed a certain way it just clicked in my head that it looked like I was wearing a shortish little dress... I was just so shocked that it didn't look horrible I started tearing up in the dang Old Navy changing room. It actually looked kinda good?

And that's good, great even, but scary... I didn't think this would happen for a while yet. If I wore a dress in public I would probably combust but maybe I could get one to wear at home? Still need to get a bra too...

[–] meler@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I need someone to hold my hand and teach me how to do girlshit doggirl-tears

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (4 children)

Cis women love it when you describe what they do as c*nty.

I went out to a feminist history thing tonight, I saw my friend arriving and as she stepped out of her ride she unclipped her hair and flicked it to give it volume, it was the c*ntiest thing I saw all week. I told her and it seemed to make her night.

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[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)
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[–] grym@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

weeks ago i managed to take two (2) days off for this weekend so i could have a 4-day weekend and rest a little bit. Now I'm sad and anxious, and very dysphoric, after i got insulted for silly shit. Long weekend ruined. Stuff hurts so much more when it's from your own people, fuck me. I was starting to feel better about myself recently and now i'm back to feeling like a sad little boy being berated and trying to resolve family conflicts, emotional bullying just flashes me back to those days.

i hate the internet

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

Fuck I wish I could dox myself so bad rn, I’m looking fuckin good in my thrifted women’s clothing, got complimented by another queer woman who’s absolutely clocked me by this point, got complimented on my new piercings by a straight woman who remembered my partner is nonbinary, great day at the job

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (4 children)

things are getting serious chat doggirl-smug

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[–] Busgirl@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (6 children)

sexJust tried edging for the first time since transitioning and OH MY GOD WTF it's so much more intense now like it's not just my dick it's my whole body like my mind reached whole new headspace!

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (2 children)
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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Since I don't got any trans joy recently is it fine if I just avoid posting negative comments on this mega? To bring up the average positivity.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Chest has been feeling sore the past couple of days. Pog??

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