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On the 10th of April 1912, The Titanic set sail from Southhampton in England for her maiden voyage across the Atlantic Ocean. Four days later, just before midnight on the 14th, Titanic struck an iceberg, which caused it to take severe damage and sink during the night, leading to the death of the majority of her passengers.

At the time, Titanic was one of the most advanced ships in the world. It was as a steam-powered ocean liner, a type of ship specifically built to repeatedly make the dangerous crossing between Europe and America. Because air travel was not available at the time, this service was vital, and Titanic was built at a time where different shipping lines were constantly trying to outcompete each other in building the fastest and most luxurious ships. The Titanic was equipped with restaurants, cafes and even a Turkish bath (a sort of spa / sauna hybrid), though due to the strict segregation of first, second, and third class passengers, only a minority were allowed access to these accomodations.

The White Star Line, who built and operated the Titanic, was convinced the ship wouldn't sink, and did not adequately prepare for it, only carrying enough lifeboats to carry a portion of the ship's passengers. While this claim seems absurd today β€” modern ship are far, far safer than the Titanic, but no one would ever claim they couldn't sink β€” it was a popular sentiment at the time. Because of the Titanic's novel and highly advanced watertight compartments, it was thought that even if she suffered catastrophic damage, she would bob around on the surface like a cork, rather than sink to the bottom, so there would be no hurry to evacuate the passengers

Later, the story of the titanic would go on to become something of a pop culture legend, the greatest example being the 1997 movie by James Cameron (it's really good actually). A bunch of conspiracy theories about the ship's fate has also popped up over the course of the last century, some gaining significant traction despite the lack of evidence.


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[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago (3 children)
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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago (3 children)

pregnancy/childcare yearnings and hormone journallings as well as a bit pre transition si, could be triggering to some?(long)I really love being a transfem. The longer I spend in transition, the more worthwhile I think this journey is, and I wouldn't want that to be any other way. And god, do I find trans bodies to be so damn beautiful, never really understood the idea that testosterone mutilated my body, or anyone's. I'm just who I am, and used the resources available to me in this world to shape my body in such a way that reflects my mind.

One thing I wish was possible in this time we live in was I wish so much that I could bear a child, or at least, raise one. I'm not alone in this feeling, I know. Infertility is something a lot of people deal with, my reason is only unique in that I wasn't born with a womb. It's funny, because I used to hate children so much pre transition, simply because I hated being alive so much. As I started being fortunate enough to be able to interact in the world as a feminized individual and being recognized as such, I began to love children, and relate to people and life that feels so much more whole.

I try not to be jealous of women who can choose to have a child with such relative ease, of a close family member who is raising a 2 year old, seeing how much love they practice with each other. Something I will make my peace with in time, I think.

I wasn't born in a time where I could bear a child in this body of mine, but maybe I will get to see the beginnings of that if I should live long enough?

I have such a strong maternal instinct, and often find myself drawn to be the mother of many in my friend groups, and I love this. I hope as I keep going through this life that I can find ways to mother and nurture folks as I can. Lot of different ways to be a mother, I suppose.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (3 children)

I feel bad and lonely and needing connection but I don't know how I can actually fix it. I know some people at work, I guess, but idk. idk what I'm looking for. Just feel shitty. I don't know what I want to talk about, or do, or anything

Oh and actually as far as work goes, tomorrow is the only day I'll prolly see any of them for the rest of the year. That's cool. I love being friendless and dysphoric.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)

dysphoria+introspection

As long as I'm boymodding I don't think I can genuinely connect with people. Social interaction is a nightmare because I'm always just concealing my true self and feelings.

And all this can be proven by the fact that my interaction with the transphobic friend are much more pleasant because I don't put up a front anymore.

I prefer being derided to the kind of interaction where we both pretend I'm just a guy.

And the other dude starts complaining about how the girls he finds are always so vapid while also saying "women who attract abusers must have have something wrong with them". The irony seems to be lost on him. But I guess since I get along well with these assholes I too must have something wrong with me (I do. I let people walk over me).

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Why did I have to wake up for this useless-ass meeting?

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 10 points 4 months ago (1 children)

should have been a useless ass-meeting instead.

[–] meler@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

I can't believe I've been xkcd 37'd

But yeah I'd get out of bed for an ass-meeting

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Got through 2 more chapters of who's afraid of gender 4 and 5, I promised myself I'd do more but damn Mondays just might be an exception. Still halfway through is good, I'll do my best to finish it and 2 other books before the year is over

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[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

I am beset by gender-affirming cramps and bloating

[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

Being genderfluid / multigender is so cool. Imagine there are multiple options and you just laugh and say "I will have many options, I do what I want!!" And sail away in your pirate ship

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Had fun at our queer TRPG/boardgame club last night (played Wingspan), and also at the after-party (invited folks back to our place and we watched Knives Out 3).

We're going to a nearby city for another LGBT boardgame club this weekend, and I will be taking my partner to Torrid for a shopping trip to try out skirts/dresses.

meow-bounce

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago (1 children)

spoilerI feel awful. Why are there so many things.

Dysphoria (voice, body, treated, name, everything)

Feels very unlikely I'll get promoted to full time. Fucking need full time to move out. Can't be fucking stuck at home.

I just feel terrible. I don't want to keep going

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

Plasma center asking if I feel alright to donate I lie yes, actually got the woke mind virus... Spreading wokeness one donation at a time

Mom genders me as a guy typically, but when I joke about sleeping in a bed with my brother without implying anything sexual, I'm suddenly suggesting something inappropriate? The default has been expecting me to give up my bed and sleep with my brother if a guest needs one (guess I get my bed to myself from now on?). Interesting seeing how quickly someone's perception can change.

Doesn't really even make sense to me. Like, why is it okay if we're both guys but not if one of us isn't? Its not like any of us are straight anyways.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

CW boofingThis girl boofed her prog last night. I always find it funny when guides suggest using a sterile needle to pierce the capsule (and I say this as a healthcare worker). Like I'm putting this in my butt? It's a dirty area already. I just used a badge pin.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (5 children)

bodily fluids and/or crying over spilt milkSo I yoinked it last night and I don't think anything came out? Which I think is the first time that's ever happened. Of course my volume has gone down a fair bit since getting on HRT, but it seemed fairly consistent until recentlyβ€”probably correlated with injections?

Still not sure how I feel about it. Less clean up is nice, but it's still strange. Plus I know people are commonly into the fluids so I'd worry about that being a deficiency with any future partner. Maybe I should get on one of the nutmaxxing stacks

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[–] OffSeasonPrincess@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

negativity, ventingno ones ever gonna love me and every time im authentic, most ppl like me a little less

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Let's talk about pronouns and their placement, is it like the ingredient listing where the first one is the majority/preferred or am I looking too much into it. I've had people use my neopronouns all of 2 times so by having them second am I signaling use they/them first and then fae or do people just use which ever is easier?

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

touched up my nails and like from a distance they look fire but if I bring them up close it's noticeable, bleh catgirl-flop I gotta find some more vegan nail polish

[–] Des@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

it really seems that much of non-western global regular people cuisine is "dip or scoop tasty stew with crispy bread" and i'm like "omg that's my favorite thing to do"

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

I hate the depression and dysphoria and giving up on life mood can I go back to either hating all of humanity or worrying about work or something

Also why is my life cycling between those three states like what the fuck

[–] meler@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

I've been getting an unusual amount of gender euphoria from my name lately. Like I have been realllllly liking it. It's the same name that I have used for over a year but somehow it feels even better on me. I think gender things might be happening to me. Both my gender euphoria and gender dysphoria moments have been getting somewhat more intense.

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago

The post office is transphobic for not delivering my package before the weekend. Actually maybe it won't even arrive this year if this keeps up...

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago (5 children)

Does laser get rid of the "beard shadow"? Cause I fucking hate that shit.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago (2 children)

This was a cursed night shift.

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago

My headache I thought I got from reading so much yesterday is probably me just coming down with something, until I know what it is I'm gonna label it the woke mind virus since I was reading about gender

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago (9 children)

Lol my life is falling apart lmao

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[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 4 months ago (3 children)

When did you first start to feel the effects of progesterone? I'm two weeks in. (And a year on E and bica if that's relevant)

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I wonder if they sunk the Titanic in homage to the SS Anne in the PokΓ©mon anime (spoilers).

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago (1 children)

voice dysphoriaI usually don't struggle with voice dysphoria, but during my last session of the day, I got hit with this huge wave of it where it was very uncomfortable to hear myself talk. I really hope this doesn't become a thing now. Basically my entire job is talking.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 4 months ago (6 children)

spoilerI have been completely tuning myself out since puberty. My voice coach asked me if I wanted to record myself and pick a pitch. I told her no, I simply go by how often Im misgendered 😬

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