Asking someone you love "How was your day?" is a meaningful question. Small talk is bullshit time wasting between randos or acquaintances.

after you get through all the asking each other stuff to get to know each other's histories etc phase, it's okay to just not talk all the time

Is or is not talking about how your days went considered small talk? I literally don't know now. I'd say it's small talk.

Small talk is a way to gauge someone's mood before going for the bigger discussions

Not spelled like that, no.

I REFRAIN FROM THE PRACTICE OF UTILIZING MINISCULE SPEECH. EACH AND EVERY INSTANCE OF MY EXPRESSION IS VAST AND VERBOSE AND MAXIMAL.

Silence isn't a crime you know...it's actually pretty great.

So, you just HAVE to talk?

Do you hate silence?

ITT we ask the autistic to self identify

That sounds great, actually

got a neighbor can't control his motor mouth. last time he came to my door i said 'what the fuck do you want' and closed/locked the door. not too bright. he yelled through the door, 'I only want to talk'. hahaha fuck off

Daily life is what daily life is all about.

I do think I'd potentially be happier with a partner who I could speak philosophy and politics with, but if we couldn't also function simply navigating running a household and raising our family, then we really couldn't be anything more than friends with benefits long term. Not that that would be a bad thing. It just depends on how you want to live your life, and whether you value a stable partnership over firey romance.

Some people are lucky enough to have a partner that fulfills the entirety of their intellectual, intimate, familial and financial needs, but such people are few and far between I'm sure!

Spouse and I ponder the mysteries of life and the universe while we’re cuddling.

how do people who like small talk plan on being in sustained meaningful relationships what are you gonna do "hi honey nice weather we're having huh?"

my plan is to be too busy kissing my partner at all times to say anything

I mean You can hate small talk with strangers and co workers but still enjoy small talk with your partner

My partner and I have surprisingly little in common when it comes to interests. I like a lot of nerd stuff: homelab, 3d printing, robotics, brewing, welding, woodworking, sci-fi, etc. They like not nerd stuff: copaganda shows, murder porn (podcasts and documentaries), dog training, cooking, etc. I like metal, they like jangly indie, we both like punk. We both really love cats.

We also both hate small talk, so we only discuss what we find to be pertinent or interesting. Since we have a lot of individual interests, we actually have a lot to talk about. We just had a really great conversation on using Docker or a VM to circumvent some silly online testing issues. Otherwise, it's just comfortable silence. I really love them.

But that would be great! Let's start an awesome exploration of a very existential topic. Certainly better and more interesting that talking about shopping.

My speech is deep. My beard is neck.

Need for small talk suggests the contents of your thoughts revolves around topics and depth of thought suitable for small talk, I wish you the best in finding someone similar who can appreciate its value to your life. I'll be elsewhere and hope you wish me the same luck. Anything that is meaningfully impactful to my partner however, is never small talk.

Yes.