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[–] FlakesBongler@hexbear.net 21 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] glimmer_twin@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago

Mmmm another good one

[–] Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net 13 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I fell from a four story scaffolding when I was about 25 back when I used to do stucco work. I was the scaffold bitch, and was up on a single 2x10, across two scaffold frames when a fork operator bumped the scaffold and I fell.

My fault for not being clipped into fall protection, drunk operators fault for bumping the scaffolding. I’m the only one who had any repercussions, on top of a broken tibia. Six weeks in a cast.

I developed a healthy fear of heights after that. To the point where I won’t stay in high rise buildings unless there are no windows. I can’t ride rolly coasters any more, will never fly again.

[–] Belly_Beanis@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I surprisingly didn't develop a phobia of heights after falling from an even higher height than four stories, despite becoming permanently disabled because of it. Like I thought maybe I would, but I can look over the side of buildings from the roof just fine.

Still scared of most theme park rides, though. I got that from when I was a toddler.

[–] Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Just the thought of looking over the edge of something like a building elicits a fear response in me.

Panic. Fear. Irrational, even.

ETA - I’ve flat out told my employers - if you send me on anything beyond two floors to chase roof drains/vents (I’m a plumber) Iwill turn in my keys and shove off. This is something I am firmly non negotiable on and have quit over, in the past.

[–] Babs@hexbear.net 12 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (3 children)

Whales. Baleen whales specifically. Orcas? Sperm whales? Those are just giant dolphins and therefore cool. Orcas are even comrades. But pics or video footage of a humpback from any angle will reduce me to tears. Pure lizard brain terror. It's fun because other people think they're like, majestic and shit, so whale pics are common and seen as harmless.

But no.

Whales are sea monsters.

[–] glimmer_twin@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Wow that’s a good one. I’ve never heard anyone have that phobia before

[–] Babs@hexbear.net 8 points 5 months ago

It's a weird one cause it's not thalassophobia. Subnautica is one of my favorite games, and I didn't find it scary (can't play the sequel though, it has a whale that is close enough to trigger the phobia).

Very specifically baleen whales, and a few key sharks that remind me of them (whale sharks, basking sharks, and megamouths are all very borderline).

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[–] carpoftruth@hexbear.net 11 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I appreciate that phobias are deeper than rationality, but spiders are cool and good and they do their best to eat your pests

[–] glimmer_twin@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Yeh I’m actually better than I was when I was younger. I can tolerate them to some degree. But seriously if a big huntsman scampers out from somewhere I freak TF out

[–] Robert_Kennedy_Jr@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago

It's the insects that run like cheetah's on crack that get me, even when they're small.

[–] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 11 points 5 months ago (3 children)

being stabbed in the eye. viceral imaginings of it very consistently, and am extremely wary around ANYTHING pointed even being near my face

[–] LaGG_3@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago

Don't play Dead Space 2 lol

[–] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago

also fuck off massive objects like planets. that shit removed me

these are both reasonable fears imo

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[–] KuroXppi@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Trypophobia or whatever the clustered holes one is. Frick it's gross aaaah. Like strawberries or lotus pods or the like

[–] departee@hexbear.net 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Love these lol and the popping videos. I don't look them up but I can never look away haha

[–] GrouchyGrouse@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago

I don't like looking at the mouths of parasites. Specific, I know, but it makes my skin itch and I get antsy. Especially those photos of the lamprey mouths stuck to aquarium glass. Woof. No thx.

[–] NaevaTheRat@vegantheoryclub.org 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Heights and the dark. Heights I get woozy standing on a chair, unfortunately I have to do a lot of maintenance that involves ladders so I've just gotten really good at being afraid and keeping going. Tried to break myself of it, did giant drops/VR falls/exposure etc. Nope, stools still make the floor yawn away and adrenaline spike but it turns out if you just sit with terror for a while it becomes boring and less distracting.

I've been attacked a few times at night, that shit is scary ok. Also sometimes there might be spooky monsters alright? I'm 35 and I still can't shake the dumb fear of spooky monsters if I wake at night from a nightmare. I carry an extremely bright torch because I'm enough of an adult about heights so dark can just fuck right off. Science beats spooky monsters that are definitely maybe there 🫣

[–] glimmer_twin@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I've just gotten really good at being afraid and keeping going

This is what heroes do. Meanwhile I’m like “big spider better run away”

[–] NaevaTheRat@vegantheoryclub.org 7 points 5 months ago (4 children)

Heights can't come at ya though, so it's a bit different.

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[–] Deinonychus@hexbear.net 8 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

I love spiders, they're good for keeping pests away and can be so cute at times, but I'm also terrified of them

[–] glimmer_twin@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Yeh in abstract I think they’re crazy cool, they eat annoying stuff and looking at (small) ones in their web is amazing. Like what an insane trick of evolution, this thing that can make art with its ass to trap and brutally murder other bugs.

But then I see a big scary one and it’s pure lizard brain time.

[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 5 points 5 months ago

Tarantulas are super cool though and largely (pun intended) Harmless.

[–] windowlicker@hexbear.net 8 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

heights and needles. heavy on the second. i have multiple piercings and tattoos and i do an injection on myself weekly, and it has not gotten better and warrants the same level of panic every time.

[–] Taster_Of_Treats@hexbear.net 8 points 5 months ago

Heights where you could die if you fall.

[–] autism_2@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago
[–] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago

Nice try, FBI.

I love spiders, though. Wanna trade?

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago

Heights, bugs (some are cute tho), small spaces. Big softies of the world unite!

[–] Gorb@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

Heights, can't even stand on a chair. The vertigo is so intense that it raises my chance of dying to heights because i completely lose any semblance of balance. Very counter intuitive fear.

Next up is being vored

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[–] Alaskaball@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago

can't do spiders. I've gotten better to the point of tolerating house spiders, but any sort of media that shows close-ups of or actions of spiders will make me drop my phone or make me fall out of my chair.

[–] corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Spiders creep me out and I get SUPER anxious in high up places if I can see the ground.

Know the Sears Tower in Chicago where they have the glass room you can step out of and see from the top floor to the ground? Yeah, instant panic attack.

[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago

I used to do rock climbing for fun and have climbed some pretty tall mountains but laying down on top of half dome in Yosemite and looking down its face freaked me out.

[–] Comrade_Mushroom@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago
[–] Yukiko@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago

Thanatophobia. Been following me around for too long

[–] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago

Heights but it very specific contexts. A roller coaster is fine where a ferris wheel of the same height isn't.

[–] President_Obama@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] glimmer_twin@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago

I actually originally wrote it as cissy just by reflex LOL hexbear has broken my brain

[–] Dolores@hexbear.net 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

the sea and polar latitudes

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[–] KnilAdlez@hexbear.net 5 points 5 months ago

I have no fears, I just don't go on roller coasters because of my back...

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