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beautiful thank you
this hits the funny
i is hard for guys
Easily the best one. But does that mean:
a. Self-actualization and understanding one's self is difficult for men due to toxic masculinity and social norms.
b. Into guys but with dubious grammar skills.
c. ... both?
The guy in the top left's name is i and he's hard for guys.
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Simple: Guys should just date each other! The girls can then watch with their gfs 👨❤️💋👨👀👭
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Showering everyday isn't actually necessary, excluding obvious situations.
The point is to take care of your hygiene, if showering less is enough for you that's great
“Not strictly necessary”, please stop you’ll sweep me off my feet!
Not at the top of that list are ya
At least my eczema's getting better, you ass.
Ass eczema must be miserable
While you're right, it's missing the forest for the trees. It's just quippy way of saying "takes care of one's hygiene"
But yes, it's mostly a common myth that you have to shower every day, ideally do what feels right/works for you to have a good hygiene
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Lol the attractive guy turns into a femboy ;3
The attractive "guy" is a transbian (trans lesbian) :3
That s not true , of course doing the basic minimum of a normal human IS required but its not enough to have a gf today. The loneliness epidemic is real and not all lonely guy are complete moron. Personally I think one major factor is the privatization of love.
Ask someone out for coffee. Talk about your week. Ask about theirs. Don't treat the interaction as a pass/fail. Repeat. If you have mutual attraction then nature will play out.
Doing the bare minimum hygiene and the appearance of happiness drastically improves your chances.
Dating is for finding someone you enjoy being around. Sex is a result of growing closer.
Obviously some people have it easier than others but I have peers that just refuse to ask people out for coffee or a lunch. I'm a late millennial if that matters.
Be a decent person and if a love interest doesn't personally find you attractive they WILL tell their friends. NEVER talk poorly about your previous relationships. Learn a few jokes.
The privatization of love is a real problem but the classic approach isn't dead.
Do a group activity which has members of the demography you’re trying to attract. Show that you’re useful in a social environment and you will gain status and thus attract mates.
That can be anything from environmental protection, sports, politics, arts, music, games, organizing parties.
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Wow this has a lot of up votes. Of course the loneliness epidemic is real but why blame something nebulous like the privatization of love when capitalism is right there. There's a profit motive in getting people to work longer hours for less pay and have less free time to build community
Don't forget the commodification of all the 3rd places so now there's no real place for people to interact without having to spend money
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Who is temach
Allegedly he's some Mexican bootleg version of Tate.
Temach my balls!
No?
I'd like to think I am the guy the arrows are pointing to but I am still chronically single 🥲🥲🥲 its okay, life is good but still I do get lonely sometimes
I'm sorry it was me. Now I transitioned so I'm the one in the bottom picture too 😎
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I'd like to note: neurodivergent people generally only become close with other neurodivergent people (NOT ALWAYS). neurodivergent people are a much smaller portion of society, and a lot of these people will be bullied or put down growing up and lose their self worth. EVEN IF they manage to regain their self worth completely, they generally have trouble communicating with people, and will generally have mild to negative social interactions. Now the people who have the most trouble interacting have to interact with 5x as many people since they likely would only become close with other neurodivergent people. I hope that's obvious how insanely unfair that is.
Stuff like this is pretty hurtful to those people, because if this is all it takes for most people, hey I must really be worthless then because I've already done all this and I tried a hobby and I tried asking people out and none of it works! To those people, sorry you have to deal with this, you deserve someone who will be happy to be with you. I promise there are people out there that will value you specifically for who you are, even if they're more rare. You can try joining things that you think will have people you'd enjoy hanging out with, whether that be playing games at a comic book shop or joining a dnd group, a choir, a band, or any niche interest you have (for me this is learning languages, and I met two of the coolest people I've ever met through that)
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You will never find a man to sweep you off your feet, because sweeping is a woman's job. Mrrowl
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