Not my nails, obvs.
Some (beginner-focused) tips for painting your nails:
Lighter colors and solid colors are easier to work with. Pick a good color or few, you don't need to start too fancy.
Don't shake nail polish, that can mess it up. Roll it slowly if you ever need to mix.
Don't just do the coloration and call it a day, put clear nail polish on first, and put it over the color. That will protect your nails.
Consider getting nail polish remover when you get your nail polish, mistakes are easy.
Put your nails down on a flat surface, clean your nails (maybe with that nail polish remover?), and apply the clear base coat (doesn't need to be perfect). Stroke from the base of the nail to the top, until the nail is covered. It might get on your skin, that's normal, anything on your skin can be dealt with at the end. Let it dry, like you would any other kind of base coat.
Now that it's dry, do like what you did with your clear polish for colors. Base to tip, going from the center outwards. If you can still see through after it's covered, wait for it to dry a little, then do another layer.
Then apply your top coat to make smooth, shiny, and somewhat protected painted nails. Wait for it all to dry (very important), which could as long as normal working hours + commute. Don't mess it up. If you do, you might have to restart on some nails.
Now that it's dry the polish on your skin should act sorta like glue, where you can just peel it off, but if it's stubborn you could use a cotton swab with nail polish remover to carefully remove it (don't let it touch your nails!).
Now you should have nice smooth nails.
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I also dont like crowds and big events, I never have. I get how scary it can feel. I still went to a big stadium band tour because I liked the band a lot - that'll probably be it for the rest of my life save for MAYBE Lady Gaga or Baby metal lol. Youre not weird for feeling apprehensive, you've done a big social event and felt dysregulated so it tracks that youre feeling nervous about this one! If youre like me, most of the time the worst part of anxiety is the apprehension before the event - if you get there and like it and its safe, you'll probably have a blast and be glad you went despite the anxiety at first.Whats the fear with going alone? If youre feeling dysregulated and youre there alone, you can just leave because there's no obligation to a friend to wait it out, right? Or is it being scared for your safety? Im assuming you know the vibe of the crowd and the band, if it was a super transmysognistic band then yeah you should skip it, but Im assuming its more of a punk accepting band and vibe so that should be better. If no one will come with you, you should probably still have a friend on standby you can text in with and who wants to make sure youre safe even if they dont to go - classic femme thing if you've never done it or heard of it, same deal with first dates.
What would the cops do if they shut down the show? I actually dont know, do they bother arresting audience members or just roll up announce the closure and then people file out and the ones who refuse just stick around and presumably get escorted out or maybe get arrested.
If you wanna just get lost in the music, sing songs if you know them, dance or mosh or something - sounds like a fun time! Trust your gut when you arrive and hear the opener, if youre nervous or scared or not enjoying it. Pack up and leave early, no shame in that but some lost money. Then you'll know a solo music outing is probably not for you at the moment and its either something you can work towards being able to do or just accept it as part of who you are.
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Im gonna go. I think. I have like 30 min to decide lol.
My main concern is just... Idk even? I guess just anxiety, feeling like i dont know what to do with my hands or my eyes or anything in between sets. I suck at striking up conversation, so like... Idk, i just dont want to be pitied, or give off the vibe of "socially incompetent transfemme who doesnt know what shes doing here".
The band is absolutely not transmisogynistic, its a bunch of queer and trans punks lol. I feel safe in that regard.
I guess i also feel akward leaving early? Like, i feel like i would be saying "i dont like yall, bye" when that isnt the case.
Regardless, i think ill go, if only to prove to myself that I can do it. Be proud of me hexbear!