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Festa Junina or Festa de SΓ£o JoΓ£o

Translating literally, June Festivities or Saint John's Festivals is a celebration on the months of June and July in Brazil. It originated from European midsummer celebrations and includes some similar traditions like a large bonfire (that seems to make a lot more sense in the southern hemisphere because it happens during winter months) and also a dance derived from palatial European court balls, modified and redefined with new meaning, related to popular and rural themes and paired with brazillian "forrΓ³" or country music.

Dressing up and dancesTraditionally everyone wears plaid shirts/dresses, straw hats, painted on gap tooths, very blatant blush on cheeks and lots of painted freckles, girls wear their hairs in pigtails and boys paint on moustaches and beards. This is the stereotypical exaggerated rural look, and is more common for kids to dress this way, while in parties with mostly adults it's more common to just wear plaid shirts, a straw hat and do some make-up.

The dances are choreographed but very standard between places, with someone announcing vocal cues for specific dance steps, switching partners, doing coordinated group moves and sometimes ending in a mock wedding.

Traditional foodNow, the best part of it all, my favorite thing from this time of the year, THE FOOD!

The traditional foods are super delicious and mostly made out of corn, like corn cakes, cural, pamonha, but there's also peanuts, specially sweetened peanuts, popcorn, sweet or salted, caramelized apples, quentΓ£o, which is a warm spiced drink, that may or may not be alcoholic and is one of my favorite things.

I'll try to update the thread with some recipes later or maybe just talk more about food, but I can't promise I actually will.


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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 4 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I'm not doing well. I mean that's obvious from everything but life really likes to kick you down. My phone had to break at this specific point in time when I am the most busy.

And obviously, I haven't been taking my anti-depressants at all. Which is just great.

And fuck machine learning. I fucking hate. There is nothing worse than having to spin these goddammed slot machine algorithms and hope they give you a good result in 2 hours.

It's like if Russian roulette and those call centers that make you wait had a love baby.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 4 points 2 hours ago

catgirl-cry I want to have a baby why was I born like this?

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 8 hours ago

dysphoriaYou know, growing tits is great.

You know what would be a whole lot better? Growing tits without having a disgusting man face looking back at me. I just wanna admire my tits but seeing my gross man face fucking ruins that. Why the fuck do I have tits and a man face. Who the fuck thought that was a good idea to do to myself.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 9 hours ago

voice training/dysphoriaIts so frustrating. I was on vc with someone the other day and she was giving me an exercise to do that she thought would help, said it was very simple, couldn't figure it out. Fuck my life. Voice training is shit. And I need a passing voice more then anything. And its shit. Can't train for anything. Want to be out full time in a year and can't do even the simplest shit to fix my voice.

bottom surgery/dysphoriaHaving to get bottom surgery is so frustrating. I know being able to is great, medical wonder, etc etc. I still don't want to have to go through all of it. The consults, the figuring out what I can get, what I want, aftercare/healing, the whole thing seems like so much time and work.

I just wish I was born right. That I had a pussy now. Completely cis.

I really don't like having to transition. So much work, so much bullshit, and healthcare I need that I'm worried about even being able to get. All the shit from other people. Voice training. And all to end up imperfect anyway. All the pain, and tears, and work. To not even get where I want. To get the best of a bad situation. Fuck my life.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

I am pleased to report my nipples hurt to high hell

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 8 points 10 hours ago

Mine have been quiet for a while do-something

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 3 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

This has been my experience for the past omg it's been 6 months I just realized

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 3 points 3 hours ago

Wow 6 months is a good while. You should celebrate and get something nice to eat. It's like having an extra birthday

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 11 hours ago

That's so good cat-trans happy for you Alisu. Mine too, off and on.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 11 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

My dad and his pastor are so old but adorable when they hang out, they were driving sunday and saw a gay pride parade with my dad explaining to him "don't worry it's just the gays doing pride" his explanation of trans people was just "some people are born in the wrong body" pastor for his credit just accepted it. Woke dad is nice I can't lie

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 11 hours ago

his explanation of trans people was just "some people are born in the wrong body" pastor for his credit just accepted it.

literally all I need from people

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 11 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

the singles all know me as a certified heartbreaker the way i routinely break my own heart and no one else's 😭😭😭

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 2 points 2 hours ago

Hookup night didn't go well I take it? cuddle

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

I'm moving close to an lgbt center that sounds like it's open to go hangout at if you're an adult... I do need some casual women's clothes though because I can't show up looking like this 😭 but also it can't be anything that wild because I'm not really ready yet, in public anyway.

[–] meowcar420@hexbear.net 6 points 15 hours ago

im so grateful for the lgbtq space close to me

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 4 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Just a summer shirt with a vneck cut from the women's section at . It's fairly simple way of starting. Also the ones at the "above normal size" section or whatever which were the only ones that could fit me were really plain and fairly boring. Because I guess these generic chains don't keep a selection for biguns.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 16 hours ago (3 children)

Okay, thank you that is a good suggestion. That's not too bad. What about for pants/shorts? Low key really hate jeans... I guess there's always sweatpants but idk.

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 4 points 13 hours ago

can accessorize too. not too hard to do while masc presenting either, even silver jewelry can be β€œmanly” to cisociety but a tell in queer spaces

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 3 points 16 hours ago

Hmm.

Sweat pants would work but if you also want something else that's not jeans, you'd still have to pop over to a chain store. The women's cuts are quite different for jeans, i got them. I've never tried women's clothes for non-jeans, but you could get regular pants. There's a lot of then. I've noticed that women's pants tend to have big openings at the feet a can be quite wide with a taper. But there's also tight fitting pants. Maybe you could get those to boost your curves and feel nice (a tight fit round the asset can feel very comfortable).

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 2 points 15 hours ago

Torrid has a bunch of high waisted wide leg challis pants that I'm a big fan of. It drapes and flows nicely and feels good. Wide leg emphasizes your lower half and high waisted shortens your torso and emphasizes your hips.

Alternatively, cargo pants are fun imo.

[–] soyaEnjoyer@hexbear.net 6 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

a good haircut and the curly girl method has absolutely transformed my hair. someone even stopped me in the street today to tell me it's beautiful (and tbh it's been a long time since a stranger complimented my appearance). it's literally got the same cheap hair gel a 12 year old boy would use in it. so anyway, if you think your hair is frizzy and unmanageable, try this: https://redlib.catsarch.com/r/curlyhair/wiki

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 1 points 8 minutes ago

oh fuck i need a girl cut so bad

[–] RION@hexbear.net 9 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

If I don't get this new job I'm going to redacted-1 redacted-2 myself

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 2 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Never let the capitalists end you (fingers crossed for you anyway tho)

[–] RION@hexbear.net 4 points 14 hours ago

I went home early and calmed down some, but still a little wary if what'll happen if I don't get it

Actual picture of me waiting very patiently to pass

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 22 hours ago (6 children)

I know there's a lot of factors, but how long ish should I expect laser to take me? Brown hair, white skin, I don't think my shadow is too bad or anything. I've heard people talking about like 8-12 sessions, if I start after the move, how long is it going to take? I'd love to be able to be full time out next summer (if hrt allows πŸ™) but idk what laser will have done for me in that time.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 3 points 15 hours ago

I've been doing it for 18mths but I only need a touch up every 8weeks now. The other day I realised I'd gone a week without shaving because I had long white bristles but only those.

[–] SerialExperimentsGay@hexbear.net 3 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

It varies a lot depending on your body, the skill of your practitioner and how strict your goals are, but 8-12 sessions should make a world of a difference for what you're describing. I don't have a beard shadow at all after 10. I still shave daily, but it's to feel smooth, most of the remaining hair is grey and barely visible. If people would notice it would probably look like peach fuzz. I sometimes think about doing a few more session for cleaning up some tiny patches of dark stubble below the nose and chin, but i honestly don't know if it's even worth the effort, just as i wouldn't bother with electrolysis anymore (i had originally planned to do that after laser).

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 18 hours ago

That's definitely my eventual goal (or maybe a bit less hair then that, idk if electro is worth it if it's barely visible peach fuzz but I'd love to not have that either). Thank you :cat-trans:

[–] wenox@hexbear.net 4 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

I think I lost the 5 o'clock shadow around 5? Around 10, it all became scarce and just fine soft hair, but I don't think it ever fully goes away with just laser.

First few sessions are quite effective since there is a lot of hair, after that its battling the leftovers.

[–] edie@lemmy.encryptionin.space 3 points 20 hours ago

I think for me it will end up at potentially 1 Β½ years, depending on how many I need. Started last fall, had 6 by now, quite a patchy beard, takes longer to grow out for that which is still there. We're pausing it here throughout the summer and I'll start up again in fall, that's why it ends up taking that long.


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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 4 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (1 children)

It only took me 2 to 3 session for when growth would slow or thin out enough that I could shave every other day. Id be smooth as a boiled egg for an entire day and the next day, a little stubble but not visible (the shaving was for me to not have scratchy dysphoric face hair lol). I think I ended up with 9 total over a couple years?

You have to wait 6 weeks minimum between laser sessions or therabouts

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

Oooh that's so exciting. I was worried it would be a lot longer.

Thought it was 6 weeks, kinda unfortunate even 3 sessions would take 3+ months. But at least it's only that and I should be good to go by spring.

When i started out, we did sessions every 4 weeks. At that point, there is so much hair that it's worth it even after just 4 weeks. And after 3 sessions, i was already at the point where i did not need orange concealer anymore, shaving and light foundation was enough by then.

The 6 week+ interval is to time the sessions along your hairs' growth cycle. For me, we could catch the maximum amount of actively growing hair with intervals of 7-8 weeks, but it can be a bit more or a bit less than that. You'll probably figure that out after a while, you can actually see how the lasered hairs are dying off and falling out, how it's very smooth after that rough initial phase and how more and more untreated hairs are growing in after you've passed that sweet spot.

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 6 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

I had very noticeable results after one session. My facial hair was like 40% of the pre-laser amount. Each session after brought it down another 5-10% and made it so that the regrowth took longer and longer. After nine sessions I shave about once every two weeks and there's only a few dark hairs left. I just need finish it off with electrolysis at this point.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 4 points 16 hours ago

Oooh 40% less would be huge for me, even if the rest takes a while. Thank you!

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Also are we deadass because some areas are definitely white already. Fuck my fucking life I've heard electro is so expensive and time consuming. Most is still dark though.

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 2 points 15 hours ago

I need electro, hopefully you can get a lot of it done with just laser though.

Late night posting screm-cool

because my fuck ass job wont schedule me hours agony-shivering

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