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Festa Junina or Festa de SΓ£o JoΓ£o

Translating literally, June Festivities or Saint John's Festivals is a celebration on the months of June and July in Brazil. It originated from European midsummer celebrations and includes some similar traditions like a large bonfire (that seems to make a lot more sense in the southern hemisphere because it happens during winter months) and also a dance derived from palatial European court balls, modified and redefined with new meaning, related to popular and rural themes and paired with brazillian "forrΓ³" or country music.

Dressing up and dancesTraditionally everyone wears plaid shirts/dresses, straw hats, painted on gap tooths, very blatant blush on cheeks and lots of painted freckles, girls wear their hairs in pigtails and boys paint on moustaches and beards. This is the stereotypical exaggerated rural look, and is more common for kids to dress this way, while in parties with mostly adults it's more common to just wear plaid shirts, a straw hat and do some make-up.

The dances are choreographed but very standard between places, with someone announcing vocal cues for specific dance steps, switching partners, doing coordinated group moves and sometimes ending in a mock wedding.

Traditional foodNow, the best part of it all, my favorite thing from this time of the year, THE FOOD!

The traditional foods are super delicious and mostly made out of corn, like corn cakes, cural, pamonha, but there's also peanuts, specially sweetened peanuts, popcorn, sweet or salted, caramelized apples, quentΓ£o, which is a warm spiced drink, that may or may not be alcoholic and is one of my favorite things.

I'll try to update the thread with some recipes later or maybe just talk more about food, but I can't promise I actually will.


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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (17 children)

Had therapy last night and think I've settled on a name to try on for a bit. So now I'm Ruby!!

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

love that! congratulations Ruby!

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago

I'm one of the cool posters who found the trans mega before it was pinned big-cool

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

So not only is my machine learning group mate a communist, but he also just told me that my part of the report is the sexiest and basically evaporated 80% of my stress with a single sentence.

[–] soyaEnjoyer@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Applied to uni with girl name, I love that there's an easy way of having a name for social purposes while I haven't had the time to change it. And it's enforced by law that my legal name be used only for documentation purposes and the social name be used for everything. Even though my family might not even realize yet, everything about me is girl now

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

CW mild transphobiaWhenever I notice people staring at me for being a tall stylishly dressed trans woman, instead of getting upset now I mutter under my breath (and occasionally audibly if I have company) "have these rubes never seen a transsexual?" and it makes me feel sexy and cosmopolitan.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

the singles all know me as a certified heartbreaker the way i routinely break my own heart and no one else's 😭😭😭

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

My dad and his pastor are so old but adorable when they hang out, they were driving sunday and saw a gay pride parade with my dad explaining to him "don't worry it's just the gays doing pride" his explanation of trans people was just "some people are born in the wrong body" pastor for his credit just accepted it. Woke dad is nice I can't lie

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

::: spoiler in my shit, pass it by (neurotic? Processing)

Kinda wish I didn't have the whole autism+adhd -> anxiety thing going on. It sucks. Its pride month, so why do I dislike pride? Why do I look at it and feel fear and distrust? Why can't I let go of all that? I'm hyperaware of peoples perceptions of me, and unable to read people at all. So every little thing that indicates potential social correction is a crisis, and I am never at rest in a group. I'm rarely at rest on my own. I'm tired of performing.

I want to like pride. I want to know that people around me have my back. But all the same I see people and all I can feel is fear. I want to want to go. And a part of me does want to go. Instead I will spend this month avoiding queer people and pride events. I want to feel like I'm one of many, but I also want to be invisible. Dont look at me, but I want to be seen. Its selfcontradictory.

I know I self isolate. I know thats bad. But I can't bring myself to go out and meet people. I dont know what im more afraid of, people judging me, people being neutral/uncaring, or people being kind. I can't handle kindness. Someone said they would do something nice for me earlier today and I just couldn't take it and started silentsobbing. I almost hung up on them. Why does it hurt when people are nice to me? I want to be able to show up, and accept it, and not feel guilty for accepting something nice, not feel afraid of someone doing nice things for me, not feel pain when someone says they care about me...

Thanks for reading if you did, thanks for being a space where I can vent/process.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

It's always odd seeing how some people treat diy, including T. Acting like it's some impossible to get, highly illegal substance. Or scare mongering about its danger.

Maybe I'm just more willing to do drugs then these people but like, have you ever smoked weed?? I've got a list of shit I'd be down for if opportunity presented itself. But you're going to act like T is this crazy substance? It's so important too. And like it's safe, it sterilized, it's fine. I guess I just don't understand having such a hangup about it when it's so important.

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Even for people who have HRT easily accessible, DIY should always be an option. It is weird to see how many people struggle with that concept.

[–] SerialExperimentsGay@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah i switched to DIY after i was on prescription HRT for over two years, i just want to be familiar with this stuff in case something happens to my above the counter supply. Also injections are just hands-down better than gel or pills, and hard to get legally in this place. I do have a new GP who is willing to prescribe me valerate now, and i will try that, but it's likely i will switch back because enanthate just is not available at all through official channels here and idk if picking this stuff up at a pharmacy and having my health insurance pay for it is worth switching from a weekly to a twice weekly schedule.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago

Brushing off all the memes about authoritarianism, the average is really really deferent to authority and will get very nervous when challenged about it. To many people you'll sound like a "conspiracy theorist" or a "hippie" or whatever.

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[–] dorkiectomy@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I cut my hair and it’s.. cute? Hopefully it’s still cute tomorrow. I’ve been cutting my own hair for a long time now, but it’s a lot harder when it’s not a clipper fade!

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[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

sexHoly shit that rave was incredible. It was 90+% trans people and it didn't take long to catch a cute girl's eye, dance with her, kiss her, then make our way to designated succ zone. I think we spent an hour in there but I honestly lost track of time. Along the way, a few other trans girls joined in and it was the most ecstatic experience I've had since starting transition. The space was cool as hell, too. Old warehouse next to train tracks and the dance room had an amazing setup for visualizations that blew my mildly tripping mind.

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[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

ever have a weekend so gender affirming that going back to mr sir land makes you want to [REDACTED]

god i hate being closeted at work. the scales are tipping, i need to come out soon or ill lose my mind

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago

I'm getting accepted into the pharmacy course of a private university. Probably can transfer to a public one in the future. The great advantage is that it's in my city so no need to move out pay rent and cover all costs myself. My parents say they'll pay for it

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (10 children)

I'm not doing well. I mean that's obvious from everything but life really likes to kick you down. My phone had to break at this specific point in time when I am the most busy.

And obviously, I haven't been taking my anti-depressants at all. Which is just great.

And fuck machine learning. I fucking hate. There is nothing worse than having to spin these goddammed slot machine algorithms and hope they give you a good result in 2 hours.

It's like if Russian roulette and those call centers that make you wait had a love baby.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I think I got a "How you doing" from a guy I walked past to get to the train? But I didn't dare look so he might've been on the phone or something? I am wearing a tighter shirt today.

Potential ewwphoria it is

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago

Is asking for perky DDs and 2 inches on my hips too much to ask for???

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago

This time I'm going to take anti-depressants seriously.

[–] Washburn@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I came out at work! I'm "full time" now (pun intended)

The good: My immediate coworkers weren't weird about it. I still get along well with people I work with. I've gotten messages of support from people on other teams I work with sometimes. People were mostly ambivalent. And it fucking slaps not having that last vestige of my pre-transition self taking up space in my life.

The bad (CW: Transphobia):


It took over a month after I sent them my name change order for them to update my name in the public-facing systems. And they only found the motivation to do it then because someone outside the company sent me an email being transphobic because the name in my signature and in my email address didn't match, and I basically said that I wasn't going to send any more email until the address was changed.

We meet again tomorrow, i'm so happy that we get to cuddle again after we were seperated for so long catgirl-heart

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

I went to a sapphic gathering last night and it was very nice to be surrounded by a bunch of cuties.

anti-wooI do have to lament the amount of woo I was subjected to, though. This woman went on and on about performing reiki on dogs being the next step in her healing/learning journey and I kind of wanted to vomit.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

spoilerYea, it's really not any less annoying then other religions TBH. I have a really strong hatred of bs that unfortunately includes most woo.

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[–] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

I went for a walk early this morning and saw a shooting star - I wonder where it came from originally?

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[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (8 children)

ok ok i’m ripping the bandaid off. i’ve told 4 coworkers, soon to be 5, and im going to make it official soon. everyone’s been so sweet (one person started crying and said they could tell kitty-cri and another has been sending me makeup advice). The switching back and forth between me and the work persona has been too painful. this time next week i will be a full time girl inshallah

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Ordered my college transcript in case I needed it for job applications. Went through the breakdown of courses, saw "Topics in Global Literature : Women Writing in First Person" and remembered towards the end of the course the professor saying to me "if I had to have a straight white guy in my class I'm glad it was you"

She didn't know clueless

spoilerI knew but didn't let myself admit it aware

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I need laser so bad I'm so sick of having hair on my face

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[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Love too spend 20 minutes doing makeup that looks like I've done nothing but slightly yassify my face. I was typing it sarcastically, but I actually do love it, idk what the difference is between no makeup and "no makeup" but I look cute! just have to figure out how to do eyeliner christ

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[–] The_Dawn@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Community lost a sister this week. Those who know me know how much of my life I've dedicated to not burying people younger than me. I really thought if I did everything right I'd never have to.

She was the sweetest angel I'd ever met, and full of so much life. 10 fucking years younger than me...

RIP little one. Your grave will always be littered with stuffies and flowers. I'll be pouring fernet out for you the rest of my life.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

If I don't get this new job I'm going to redacted-1 redacted-2 myself

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

What if I start making my own hormones after I become a pharmacist thonk-trans

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nsfwYeah we read theory catgirl-smug

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago

How it feels to use a Chinese/Russian website without google translate doggirl-smart

On 22 November 1925, Kawashima claimed to have "...decided to cease being a woman forever." Earlier that day, Kawashima had dressed in a kimono with a traditional female hair style and took a photo among blooming cosmos to commemorate "my farewell to life as a woman." That evening, Kawashima went to a barbershop and got a crew cut, from then on dressing in men's clothes.

Kawashima explained in another article two days after the first that "I was born with what the doctors call a tendency toward the third sex, and so I cannot pursue an ordinary woman's goals in life... Since I was young I've been dying to do the things that boys do. My impossible dream is to work hard like a man for China, for Asia."

Earlier in their life, it had been remarked upon that Kawashima had "boyish habits" despite their feminine beauty. Kawashima would use only the male style of Japanese grammar, even though that contributed to Kawashima not being re-admitted to their school after the death of Kawashima's biological father.

Interesting stuff you come across on wikipedia. Puyi's cousin Yoshiko Kawashima.


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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

If you carefully look at the cloud you will see it is rainbowed!

I did not realize clouds could do this, although in hindsight it was obvious.

Wonder why I have never noticed rainbow clouds before?

[–] RION@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

"Just the man I wanted to see"

"Alright man"

"Thank you my man"

Just kill me why don't you. I could maybe bear it if not for that new girl I mentioned being in earshot. I don't want her perception of me poisoned like that...

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[–] Busgirl@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Took a 400 mg on friday initially took 150 mg of it then ate the rest while high was high till Sunday broke my phone while high and just got it working! Hello TRANS MEGA!!!

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Took a nap but I'm still so tired. Maybe this is just second puberty stuff because I slept good last night too.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

"Hello beautiful ladies" - random woman passing by me and my coworker earlier doggirl-happy

My coworker spoiled it a bit by saying "she needs to get her eyes checked" but she doesn't know my deal so I don't take it personally. She probably thinks she's being nice by reassuring me of my masculinity πŸ™ƒ

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Guy at work definitely kept looking at my boobs, what does this mean

spoilerI'm boymoding but the shirts at work are kinda thin....

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (5 children)

thonk

i wonder what it usually means when men stare at women’s chests

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