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Also using cat to review a script before running it. Cat by default will interpret ANSI escape codes and it's possible to overwrite a line and hide it. Use the -v or -A option with cat to show the ANSI escape codes rather than interpret them. Or use less, vi, nano.
It's rude to discuss your salary at work
That's just what your employer wants you to think so you don't know who's getting paid unfairly.
Dress warmly or you will catch a cold.
And
Respect your elders.
"Crime doesn't pay"
Tell that to the companies which get a few million in fines for stealing tens of millions in wages.
Crime doesn't pay when you're not protected by privilege and status.
Idk man I've been making pretty good money out of growing weed and am not protected. Even with the occasional bust, it's still a net plus.
Be good at what you do. No half measures.
Edit the camera was shitter than my older phone, apologies
Edit 2 for law enforcement this picture is >2 y old
Edit 3 I'd consider that like an 8/10 for my own grows
Thank you for your service.
o7
I was gonna be like "fkin Americans commenting again on me mentioning military service" since 75% of males here do it, but yeah, this one was good.
I'm proud. I was a bit hesitant, actually, about ordering a new tent, (since my last one got confiscated, again, 2nd bust in all), but with that comment, I think I'm gonna have to continue serving.
If you worry about being a narcissist, you are not one. A narcissist would never introspect like that or care.
False. If you suspect narcissistic personality disorder, it is completely valid and you probably need to research the vulnerable side of it or the covert side of it.
Grandiose is the one with an inflated-ego, the famous one, and the DSM-5 describes mostly the grandiose narcissist. Vulnerable is the one where you feel like a misunderstood outcast or a victim of others, maybe even like a "stupid piece of shit" (quoting Bojack Horseman) that possibly deserved your hardships in life.
People with NPD or NPD traits can oscillate between different levels of these two presentations throughout their lives.
Overt is when you show that in 'public' (either grandiose or vulnerable). Covert is when nobody knows or can confirm you feel this way (either grandiose or vulnerable), it's more of a secret.
In recent years, I've met people with undiagnosed NPD later confirmed and a person with diagnosed BPD with not enough narcissistic traits for a diagnosis, but some important ones there. That's only to exemplify that it is not uncommon. I'm glad they were curious and open.
It's crazy to think that a whole diagnostic category and clinical spectrum is in the shadows because of that myth: "you wouldn't be thinking about it". Of course you would, person receiving that "advice", you are not an idiot and I'm sure you are noticing something about yourself. You deserve to know if it's NPD or some other thing, and to get help and to feel better about your life.
- Money doesn’t buy happiness. YES IT DOES
- Everything happens for a reason. Yeah sure and the reasons are because of someone’s action or inaction. There is no all knowing benevolent deity effecting things in our lives.
Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the reason is you're stupid and make bad decisions.
I always say money doesn't buy happiness, but it is a prerequisite. Starving homeless people don't have a lot of opportunity to seek whatever makes them happy.
Money buys stability, not happiness. The second you get savings you start worrying about it. The more money you get the bigger prick you seemingly become. It's like the second you can afford a BMW the switch flips to being a public asshole. Get the high score and you get to be an absolutely miserable billionaire. Show me a truly happy billionaire.
No.. it buys me all types of happiness.
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Old & busted: do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
New hotness: do unto others as they would have you do unto them.
New hotness: do unto others as they would have you do unto them.
Yes. And if you both enjoyed it, be sure to do it again, sometime.
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. Your silence in the face of injustice is what enables abuse.
Yes! All that civility and decorum training. I'll add to yours "Don't speak ill of the dead."
Stops people from learning about intergenerational trauma and fascists/terrorists in the family. Sure, my grandad was wildly abusive to his daughters and disgustingly racist about black people in Nova Scotia, Canada (the ones in Jamaica are fine btw). But he's dead now so "we don't talk about that." Totes cool to mention his army medals tho.
Yeah and now people cant handle a reality check, and I'm the asshole for giving one rather than reflecting on what they did wrong
"Work hard and you will be rewarded."
With more work.
My greatest regret in the store I work for, was being reliable.
3 and a half years in, I'm virtually worked to death. And my raise? A petty .25 one.
Yeah, so, anyone who says to me "if you work hard" or "hard work pays off" can royally go fuck themselves dry and hard, unironically.
You've gotten a single 25 cent raise in 3.5 years? Jesus fucking christ. I don't care if you did the bare minimum not to get fired, you deserve more than that. You are making less today than you did when you got hired factoring in inflation. And gesticulates wildly at everything.
Okay so to clarify, what I should've said that this year alone I only got a .25 raise. But that doesn't mean that year by year, my raise has been higher. When I started my job, I think I was at like $18 something. Then it went $18.48 my second year and now I'm at $18.73. So, you can see, how slow the increments are. I have not even capped the maximum hourly I could make for my position.
It doesn't erase the feeling either, that I've gone above and beyond for my store on multiple occasions. Taking on 10 hour shifts, coming in on days where I normally have had off, taking stupid shit on the chin when I knew I was in the right of a situation, enduring and picking up the slack of underdeveloping co-workers. I've done it all and more.
And giving me sugarcoated compliments just will not cut it anymore, rewarding us with fucking snacks in the breakroom for us to stress eat our woes away, won't cut it anymore.
The only reason I'm not even getting better raises is because of attendance. Gee, how could that be? Maybe because I take up so much PTO/PPTO and sacrifice points, so I can fucking have periods of time to take a step back and give myself time to breathe mentally from so much bullshit.
It's all a joke, this working hard thing. I can't believe, I work for a company and in a store where, taking on so much is actually discouraged in a subtle way. Going higher up the management chain, just only earns you more responsibility and barely a bump in pay to accommodate. I've seen it all.
Don't they mean 0.25%? Though yea still...
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Just ignore them.
Try telling that to someone who is being physically afflicted.
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"She's your mother! Show some respect" <- friends and family after every toxic, manipulative, narcissistic thing that woman did. The eternal free pass.
Samesies.
She had 4 kids. I was the middle one until the last one came about 15 years later than most of us, with a different dad.
Didn't care much after that. I moved out at 15 to my dads.
You know how it's a meme and whatnot that parents always want you into the best schools possible? Well I had basically an above 9 GPA on a 4-10 scale in the best school in the country and my mom pulled me out to put me in some rural cousinfucker school because she wanted to move because she met a wealthy man and they couldn't wait two fucking years while not living together. Despite the drive being like an hour between them.
Literally had a teacher in that school tell me I could be a surgeon, when I was the first in a decade to extract a perch's swimbladder without puncturing it.
To this day mom won't even talk about it. And if she does she basically just avoids taking any responsibility, saying "everyone makes their own choices". Well bitch, I was underage. You were making them for me.
And she's supposedly a college level graduate social worker, which just adds to the irony.
For me I think growing up constantly told “you’re so smart, you’ll figure it all out” was more detrimental than helpful. It led me to believe I’d cruise through life pretty easily. I’m happy with where life’s taken me and the point I’m at now but I could’ve gotten there a lot faster if I would’ve applied myself more. Just because a kid is into computers doesn’t mean they’ll be some sort of genius.
I can't stand this one. Like, yes, I can figure out a lot of things for myself. But if I'm asking someone for help, it's because my own resourcefulness has reached its limit and in this situation, I need assistance from others. That is, if I could figure out a solution on my own, I would've done so. The whole point of bringing up the issue was an attempt to get help for it.
"Get a job doing something you live doing." Only if you want to learn to hate something you loved. Doing anything as work builds resentment, you're better off finding something you can tolerate. Save the stuff you love for hobbies or as a last resort your own business, not working for anyone else.
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Peeing on a jellyfish sting. It doesn't do anything, except maybe humiliate a person who's already in pain.
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"If you don't profit from it, someone else will, so you might as well get yours."
Don't even get me started on how toxic and self-centered this is...
"Buy experiences, not things"
The rationale isn't exactly wrong for the comparison, but it smuggles in an underlying assumption that it's reasonable and normal to be spending all your available money in an effort to be happy. Money is way more useful for reinforcing your continued survival and freedom than for anything else and the idea that it's good for regulating your emotions beyond that is a deception geared towards keeping consumer spending up.
I was also never sure how to separate "things" from "experiences." Is a fancy cocktail while I'm on a beach vacation a thing or an experience? If I buy a new table saw for my hobby woodshop is that a thing or a experience?
We don't normally buy things and then bury them in a hole in the ground. We buy them because we intend to use them, even if that use is just for decoration. Our things enable experiences, and our experiences require things.
The line between thing and experience has always been very blurry to me.
Another example: is a good book a thing or an experience?
"Be yourself" in regards to dating.
I don't know about most people, but I was an absolute asshat in my twenties. L
If I had to rephrase that for myself, it would be to read a bunch of books, work out, and learn to be more socially acceptable so people can tolerate my stupid ass and actually want to date me.
I would re-tool it as "be a better version of yourself" instead. So, sounds like you practiced that method than the vague one.
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Use AI.
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