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[–] jade@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 6 days ago

Not enjoying high school. Hated that fking place lol

[–] Mulligrubs@lemmy.world 70 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Not having kids, every time I have any remorse I spend some time around kids and their parents, in about 5 minutes I'm good

[–] panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I love kids, but I have never felt a want for them.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

This is an interesting nuance. I find most children annoying, and I don't want any of my own, but the love I have for my niece and nephew is bigger than I ever could have imagined.

I guess there's always room for exceptions.

[–] Today@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

I hadn't planned on kids or marriage. I'm so thankful to have both.

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[–] yogthos@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Same here, having watched how the lives of my friends who had kids changed reaffirmed the decision of not having any for me. You basically have to be prepared to dedicate next couple of decades of our life to raising kids and not doing much of anything else. And you end up giving up the freedom to do things like move to a different town or try a new career. Your primary goal in life becomes having stable income to raise your kids.

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[–] grue@lemmy.world 50 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My mom didn't think I should buy a house. In 2009.

I would have been absolutely screwed by now if I'd listened to her advice.

[–] dmention7@midwest.social 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I had the opposite. In 2007 my mom convinced me it's conventional wisdom to buy as much house as you can afford, because historically it is one of the best investments you can make.

Thankfully all I could afford at that time was a pretty cheap house...

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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 44 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Transitioning.

Tattoos.

Joining the Fediverse

[–] kayzeekayzee@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 32 points 1 week ago (6 children)
[–] felsiq@piefed.zip 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

What molecule is the flower one? That looks sick

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Estrogen!

Unfortunately, it will be my only colour tattoo, because I had a hell of time healing that one. My body has rejected all of my piercings over the years, and clearly didn't like the colours either. It seems to handle blacks just fine though

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[–] HootinNHollerin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 41 points 1 week ago (6 children)
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[–] actionjbone@sh.itjust.works 41 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] czl@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Cons: you don’t know what you’re missing

Pros: you don’t know what you’re not missing

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 16 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

I don't begrudge anyone not wanting kids. It's not for everyone.

That said, my first thought when I saw the post title was "I don't regret having kids".

I suppose the caveat is that my twins are only 2 and a half, I may well regret having kids when they start getting pregnant, selling drugs, marrying chat bots, that sort of thing.

Edit: I just scrolled through some of the other comments and noticed that the majority of them say that they don't regret not having kids. The fediverse is pretty homogenous I guess.

[–] kindnesskills@literature.cafe 11 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Were you told you would regret having your kids? That's wild.

It's a lot more common for people to be told that they will regret not having kids, than being told they'll regret having them... so I think the similarities in the responses is quite natural, dont you? Not a lot of parents can answer this post with their kids in mind, but pretty much every voluntarily childless person can.

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It’s a lot more common for people to be told that they will regret not having kids, than being told they’ll regret having them

That's not my experience, at all.

When I was in my 20s plenty of older guys would tell me not to have kids. Admittedly, these were the older weirdos hanging out at bars, but the source of the advice isn't really in question right now.

[–] kindnesskills@literature.cafe 8 points 1 week ago

Every single voluntarily childless person I've spoken to have had the experience of being told they'll regret it.

I can only recall two people being told they'd regret their decision to have kids... and they were both teenagers, so even though I don't agree with saying something like that, I can understand the sentiment of wanting them to wait a few years.

Seems we life in very different worlds.

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[–] tenchiken@anarchist.nexus 31 points 1 week ago (3 children)

"stop wasting time with that Linux thing. Nobody will ever hire you unless you specialize in Windows"

Linux has done far more for me professionally than being a Windows engineer ever got me, and it repeatedly keeps being proven.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 9 points 1 week ago

Wish I could say the same, so far Linux knowledge seems to have done very little for me as far as employment goes. I have used it at work before but normally it isn't something anyone else seems to care about. At least my limited knowledge of Windows hasn't been too significant of a problem so far either.

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[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 30 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

In my 5th birthday my parents threw a party for me with friends from kindergarten. My father had a pretty good camera for the time and loved taking photos. This was during analog times, way before digital cameras, so you wouldn't just take a bunch of photos because it got expensive. He wanted to take a group photo and I, always being a little annoyed back then with the constant photos, stuck out my tongue. He tried to make me smile but I refused. So he told me he'd take the photo of me sticking out my tongue and I'd regret it when I'm an adult that I don't have a nice photo of me on my 5th birthday. I'm 40 and I don't regret it. Love that photo.

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[–] vantablack@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 1 week ago (1 children)

being extremely fucking transgender

[–] jade@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 6 days ago

waow based asf

[–] cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 27 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

getting a hysterectomy. this last year has proven that my foresight was indeed correct, the post right above this one is an article about the government planning to reduce or remove access to contraceptives, and no way in hell is anyone gonna make me be pregnant. i was extremely lucky to find a surgeon who would do it since i have no kids and was under thirty at the time.

[–] SirEDCaLot@lemmy.today 15 points 1 week ago (2 children)

It is extremely concerning how many surgeons are happy to sterilize men on request, but push back HARD when women ask. I've talked to several women in this exact situation, it's like if you're under 30 and don't have 5 kids you must not have any idea what you want and you lose agency over your own body. One friend who wanted this had surgeons demanding a permission slip from her husband. What the fuck? Does her body belong to him? I find this situation abhorrent. Your body your choice end of story. And if you regret the consequences that's on you, not your doctor. And SHOULD NOT BE your doctor's job to dictate your life plans

[–] DudleyMason@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 week ago (3 children)

As a man who's been very sure he wanted to remain childfeee since his teens: most surgeons won't sterilize men on request either. I was told several times to come back after I was married with at least three kids. Had to move to the literal opposite corner of the country to a place where Planned Parenthood isn't under constant assault to get a vasectomy after decades of chasing one.

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[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 25 points 1 week ago

Not having kids. I have hobbies, and money/time for them.

One of the previous popes called childless couples selfish. I say a never-married 70-year old operating the world's largest paedophile welfare programme has nothing to say to me about child-rearing.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 19 points 1 week ago

Not having kids.

[–] kreskin@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Spending time playing video games. I enjoyed every minute and I didn't miss out on much.

[–] iamericandre@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Getting tattoos. Parents, grandparents etc all said by the time you’re 30 you’ll hate them. Well I’m in my mid 30’s now and I still get new ones.

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[–] i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Cracking my knuckles.

Still waiting on that arthritis I was promised.

[–] MalReynolds@slrpnk.net 6 points 1 week ago

Here's a guy who Cracks His Knuckles in Only One Hand for Over 60 Years. What you need to worry about is when they stop cracking, symptom of systemic inflammation.

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[–] disregardable@lemmy.zip 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Not going to prom. Really don't know on what basis people would say that.

[–] OldQWERTYbastard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I had zero things in common with my high school classmates. Even before cell phones were ubiquitous, I saw all of them as reckless and incompetent. I identified more with the teachers. They seemed normal and level headed for the most part.

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[–] FireWire400@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

Not moving out. In Germany there's still a bit of a stigma around living with your parents past your mid-20s but when I see what's currently going on with, you know, the housing market I'm glad I made that decision. I might have been a bit too lazy as well...

Plus I was able to save a bunch of money because of that, which is gonna come in handy for my move to Australia in September.

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[–] vrighter@discuss.tchncs.de 15 points 1 week ago

not having kids. I still think it was the right decision for me

[–] Generica@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago
[–] backalleycoyote@lemmy.today 14 points 1 week ago

Getting heavily tattooed, not having kids, not getting married/“settling down”. I grew up in an extremely conservative Christian home that pushed the standard “American Dream” plan but never embraced it. I’m aware there’s experiences that I’ll never have that are a source of joy and life defining for others, but I knew very early on those things weren’t calling me. Decades later I have zero regrets about what I didn’t do and what I did do.

[–] ssfckdt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 week ago

Becoming atheist

[–] zzffyfajzkzhnsweqm@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 week ago (6 children)

Having kids. Maybe it is just communities I am in, however I fealt whole internet is against having kids.

It was the best decision I ever made!

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[–] RiverRock@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Not doing homework as a kid. Got to have a full childhood with lots of independent fucking around that has shaped my personality for the better. Tested out of school, and now me and those of my cohort who tried are all in the same boat anyway.

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[–] SmokeInFog@midwest.social 9 points 1 week ago (2 children)
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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago

Not playing football, or being interested it it at all.

[–] Digit@lemmy.wtf 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Leaving proprietary software.

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[–] grandel@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Spending so much time at the computer

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