All flags are ok!
Except the French flag...
jk man, peace
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There's a lot of things I don't understand. But I know that every person has the right to live their lives in whichever way they see fit. That's all it takes really.
AS LONG AS they don't interfere with how others live their lives!
But what if they have really poor taste in food?
You politely decline, when they invite you for dinner.
Can't imagine how boring the world would be without stuff I don't understand.
I'm fine with new genders. But while everyone likes to say that gender is a social construct, they tend to parrot the line without actually considering its meaning.
Yes, gender is a social construct. But that's exactly the thing - it's socially constructed! Genders as social constructs are made by the combined social interactions and negotiations of thousands if not millions of people. If you just sit down by yourself and try to invent a new gender to describe yourself, that's not a gender. That's just a nickname. Social constructs can only be made socially. That's the entire point of a social construct - a bunch of people getting together and coming up with some new label to describe some aspect of the word. Without that social element, you're just writing fanfiction. It's like that wiki of thousands of genders that was recently deleted. In truth, almost none of them were true genders, as they were almost all just created by individual teenagers acting alone.
This is the third time now I've removed one of your comments for this kind of gatekeeping of other peoples identity. You're no longer welcome in blahaj zone communities
Gender is a social construct, and if your friend wants a new gender and you won't help them socially construct it, you're a bad friend.
How does this not have any downvotes except mine
this is blahaj zone how did transphobia (which the mods then removed) end up with 38 upvotes and 0 downvotes
LBZ doesn't register downvotes, i thought?
Drive-by cishet people
To some extent, I agree. However, making up new words and terms can be the beginning of the "social" part of the social construct. For instance, part of why I'm so attached to "bisexual" as a label rather than terms like pansexual is that learning of bisexuality was the first time I realised that it was possible to be attracted to more than one gender; previously, I had thought that because I had experienced attraction to boys, that I must be straight. This led me to not even notice the attraction I felt towards other girls until I learned that bisexuality was a thing
Reminds me of a quote from Nevada by Imogen Binnie:
"Yes, gender is a social construct, but so are traffic lights, and if you ignore those, you get run over by a car. Which is also a social construct."
(Recited from memory, probably not word-for-word accurate.)
Oh, that quote is good. Except the last sentence. If everybody would stop believing in cars, they would still exist.
Those objects would still exist, but they wouldn't be recognized as manifestations of the same category "car". And they are quite different from each other, just look at electric vs gas, and vs motorcycles which somehow aren't cars.
Cars don't randomly start up and drive themselves yet. If everyone were to stop believing in cars, they'd just become mythical objects that litter the world but are of no one's concern.
French, like all languages, is also a social construct.
It's the localized update of a localized update of a localized update of a localized update to a social construct.
French exists despite my best efforts.
C’est toi-même le problème.
I'm gonna need a French chameleon.
But you can learn French. There are grammars and dictionaries explaining how it functions. It's not beyond anyone's comprehension, assuming some patient work.
Educating and explaining will help LGBT more than treating it as a sacred mystery. People used to act bewildered when faced with the concept of homosexuality. Today nobody dares to take such a stupid position, because it's too obvious that homosexuality is nothing magical or particularly illogical. I hope trans and all the other gender/sex-based identities will go down the same route.
One can learn about other genders too? The difference is when someone refuses to learn French they don't then turn around and say "that language doesn't exist, you're just crazy" because of their lack of understanding. But a gender identity that doesn't fit in "man", "woman", or "nonbinary" gets treated that way even within the trans community.
Nobody would take a stupid position like Homosexuality isn't real
[MAGA has left the chat]
"MAGA = nobody"
I wish
There is a limit to what people are able to understand without direct lived experience though. I agree that we shouldn't shy away from educating people — in saying that, I hold my experience as a cis person who learned about gender by being in community with trans people close to my heart. However, although I can "simulate" gender dysphoria by imagining how I would feel if living as a man (something I have reflected on a couple of times due to experiencing misogyny as a woman in science), it can't give me the perspective of someone who had grown up experiencing it, for example.
I think there's a balance to be struck, where we can educate and explain things to people, but we must also not expect that this will always be possible. It's okay to sometimes shrug and say "I don't get it, but I don't need to". Through understanding and internalising this, we can leverage the power of relevant situated perspectives.
To give an analogy, most of my scientific expertise is in biochemistry, and I don't know tons about most topics in climate science. Having a background in the sciences means that I'm probably more able to quickly parse the scientific literature than most interested laypeople, but this barely scratches the surface on some incredibly complex topics. However, it's not necessary for me to understand all of this in order for me to be able to understand where my expertise fits into the big picture (and when I would be wise to take a step back and yield the stage to someone who knows more than me)
Don't you know language is just a social construct. Its not real. /s
Does Dr*nch really exist though
Never heard of it. Sounds made up.
Le Français a seulement deux sexes.
Mais si j'ai un 3e sexe?
As a French gal
Va lécher des chiottes !
Amicalement
:P