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[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

getting unreasonably hung up on why the sylveon's top magically changes from panel 2 to 3

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago

this is pretty cool! however, i don't think hy identifies as a woman, strictly speaking. hy more or less identifies as hys own unique gender

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 days ago

enjoy things, but don't fund transphobia!

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

OK, my mistake

but i don't think he was like, damn, i'm getting amazing head rn, perfect time to blast some piss into my girl's throat

and an involuntary emission of piss due to sexual stimulation... well, to me, it sounds like there's a lot of overlap between squirting and what was described!

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago (3 children)

calling squirting "comprised of some pee" is a little disingenuous, when the bladder can hold 200-400ml of liquid and the female prostate (aka skene's gland) can hold, generously, 2-4ml (you can read about it in depth in this recent study, which is quite a good read! https://www.researchgate.net/publication/359790472_Female_ejaculation_and_squirting_as_similar_but_completely_different_phenomena_A_narrative_review_of_current_research) even if you're not precise about how many mls of fluid are expelled during a typical squirt, one would be hard pressed to conclusively state that less than the majority of fluid in a squirt didn't originate from the bladder. the paper talks about the question of whether or not it's precisely urine, but the tl;dr is basically that it's not not urine (more dilute and/or slightly different compositions of urea, creatinine, and uric acid)

speaking from personal experience, at least... as much as i wish it weren't the case, it's piss :')

but THAT'S FINE. we don't need to be in the business of shaming folks for unintentional (or intentional!) emissions of piss during sex! and drawing the line at "squirting (in people with vulvas) is fine because it's not all piss" is kind of silly because it's not necessarily going to just be piss from someone with a penis either, and there are for sure women/people with vulvas out there for whom it is just piss, and they're catching strays here. this is not the pro-feminist stance you think it is

as long as it's as consensual as you can make it (e.g. if you know for sure it'll happen ahead of time, inform your partner(s); if you didn't expect it or think it would happen, that's the price of admission! things happen), we have no business judging someone for how their body behaves during sex

(directing this to you, but also the other comment on this post, but there's a lot of information about squirting i wanted to write out, as well. it's been a subject of my fascination for a few years, and some of the newer research is really interesting to read)

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago

really not a fan of the shaming happening in the other comments for this! sometimes you have fluids come out that you didn't mean to, it's not something ANY gender should be shamed for!

also the amount of people commenting on what seems like it was a one-off occasion / situation is crazy

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago

damn like... i get it and the meme's not wrong, but i think a lot of it is so cool. how the circulatory system went (evolutionarily) from being "just squirt blood on all the organs" to the elegant, efficient tube-based system we have. like, it's kind of insane we have tubes routing blood to our entire body, everything in it, and coming back to a central point

or how there are so many parts of our body that just have a natural microbiome that we coexist with. like we have our own little slice of like... world, inside us

(poop is kinda gross tho, i can't lie)

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone -3 points 5 days ago

if anyone wants one of the recent studies disproving this poster https://ai-project-website.github.io/AI-assistance-reduces-persistence/

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 5 days ago

need to find these women who like feminine men... or i need to stop presenting as gay as i do 💀

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

i have not considered other genders for this thought experiment (mostly due to personal preference)

but for guys, i think it's pretty tough to emotionally divorce yourself from the idea that your dick is supposed to completely satisfy your lover, even if it's a physical trait that has no relation to who you are as a person

i have a lot of empathy for it. i mean, i am a guy, i'm just trans. but i do get it, on some level

 

hey y'all, i have a friend who attends the local transmasc group, and has some overlap with us, but largely has hys (hy/hys/hym pronouns) own gender experience. hy describes it as i did in the subject, being "female-bodied with intensely masculine energy"; hy describes it as very primal, competitive, hyper masculine, etc

while we're always happy to have hym in the group, and give hym space to speak/vent, we really can't provide the kind of shared experience that seems like it would be really helpful for hym. so i'm searching my various communities on the internet in hopes of finding someone else who experiences gender in a similar way (with hys explicit permission)

if this also describes you or someone you know, i would love it if you reached out via comment or DM! thank you <3

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago (3 children)

need to meet a guy willing to put on the increased size / length cover on his dick just to fuck me harder tbh

(but i get why it's a tall ask)

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 5 days ago

Unless there's an expert who can tell me that no, if they're diagnosed that way they have to be that way, in which case I'd question them as an expert. The brain is complex.

do you not think it's rude to tell someone who identifies a certain way, that they might change their mind? do you not think it's rude to act like an expert on their experiences, more than they are? do you not think it's rude to act like their opinion on themselves only has merit if science backs it up, but act like your opinion is somehow above that standard?

when someone identifies as a different sexuality, as a different gender, it's polite to give them the basic respect of acknowledging it. any of these things may change, and it's OK if it does, but it's very rude to point that out, as if they've never had that thought. it's also invalidating - consider telling a trans person they might reconsider their gender. identification along the aro or ace spectrums deserves the same respect

respectfully, i would ask that you stop commenting on this situation, and reconsider whether your advice is actually contributing positively to the conversation

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i re-hemmed my shirt today (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/dull_mens_club@lemmy.world
 

i should have ironed it first so it laid flat, but it would have been troublesome regardless because it was rolling up so much. i think they cut the cloth really unevenly, and that may be why the hem stitches came out originally. i also may do a second pass on it later depending on my motivation

thought i'd share because i thought this scored pretty high on the boring/10 scale. my work isn't great, but it's punk so it's fine

for those curious, here is the shirt in question. yeah, i'm a tanktop guy. i subject everyone to my hairy ass arms

A stylized dragon with the words TRANS RIGHTS. The dragon is made of the trans flag colors, with the text TRANS above it. It is breathing fire, and gaps in the fire (negative space) form the word RIGHTS.

 

been applying to a lot of jobs, in my career field and otherwise, and a lot of them are asking if they can contact my previous supervisors. they cannot, because i do not have any way to contact them myself LOL but is this really normal?? who is actually calling those people? is this affecting hiring decisions??

 

asking for the boy i'm in love with... he's been enjoying the CCTV view of four ambient / background yt vids at once, but tonight yt started asking him to sign in to confirm he's not a bot and effectively blocking him from using them (it works for him on yt proper bc he's signed in, but not through the sites that allow. multiple vids)

i'm not sure an alternative frontend would help, but i figured i'd ask if any of them had support for multiple videos? i think the proper solution will just to get him on a VPN but i figured i'd ask

asked here because i wasn't sure where else would be appropriate 😅 thanks in advance

 
 

wasn't sure where else to put this, since, while chronic, this definitely doesn't qualify for /c/chronicillness LOL (idk how to link communities sorry)

(post tone: lightly frustrated, somewhat comedic description of problems and viewpoints; i swear a lot in my normal speech, but i'm not pissed or anything)

i've been dealing with nasal/sinus issues for over a decade: i've had a couple surgeries for it, i'm currently doing braces, which is fixing the underbite situation and helps with nasal drainage, and i'm on a good amount of allergy meds to mitigate the situation

the doc i had ten years ago and the doc i just saw today told me the same thing: rinse my nose with saline twice a day

now, if i was willing to do that, i wouldn't be seeing a doctor. i know that i can simply waterboard myself persistently enough and the problem will go away

my issue is that i need to flush my sinuses at all to be a functional person (thankfully, on the current routine, it's maybe a few times a week, vs twice a day)

i should have talked about this in more detail with the doc, and i'll see him again after some allergy testing and talk about it more then (i needed a minute to compose myself 💀); but i mostly wanted to get a survey of other folks with these issues: do y'all just fuckin live with rinsing your nose out twice a day?? i been doing it for a decade, i know how to do it correctly, i just HATE DOING IT, i cannot imagine doing it 2x a day willingly

(if you're wondering what part of the process i hate, it's all of it; having to bank distilled water, dealing with either cold water in your congested nose (shitty) or having to heat up the water to the right temp to be warm but also not burn the shit out of your nasal passages (pain in the ass), and then having to clean a shitload of salt water out of your face because why the fuck would it drain out cleanly)

 

got my consult for FMS recently and i was told something interesting: apparently, if i hadn't used braces to straighten my bite, we could have done surgery to bring the jaw forward (and improve my jaw/chin), instead of doing an implant (which i will now have to do)

kind of hit me like a "how the fuck was i supposed to know", but maybe this advice will come in handy for one of y'all

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