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Mine is tuna casserole and other casseroles such as cheeseburger casserole. I like making casseroles because you can turn almost anything into a casserole.

It's 30 centigrade in the UK it's fucking awful. Anyone lived hot places got any tips?

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If things get too weird this week i'm going to fuck off to another part of the world and start a new life. My language skills are actuslly getting pretty decent and more possible destinations open up.

So recently i realised everyone around me just lies, making up elaborate stories. I used to feel guilty when i lied so easily and now i realise it was taught to me by everyone i grew up with.

There is no place for me in their constructed narrative. Not with my family who raised me, nor with friends. Not with the wider commumity I grew up in.

Ironically, most people want to move away and explore the world. I would have been happy to stay put, i love everything about where i grew up. But i found out how deep the lies run.

Today is my third year anniversary of joining lemmy. Time flies, feels like yesterday.

It's been a good use of time - on the whole. Lemmy requires heavy curation to make the feed suitable, but once that is done its fairly breezy.

In year 1 I quickly gave up on any reasonable political discussion here. That helped alot.

I've grabbed coffee/lunch with three lemmies, all great people. the crazies don't outnumber the normal people, but it feels like it sometimes. Joel noticed the same thing in hiring - https://www.joelonsoftware.com/2005/01/

I'm hopeful for the future of lemmy, with the 1.0 software making some much needed community tools widely available.

Lemmy is a much smaller place then it was 3 years ago, it does give me a sense of community (even if i am neighbors with the crazies).

It's been a rough month. Schools out so my young kiddo is home more. We're butting heads. They want to see friends every day and I try but ya know, people have lives and can't get together every day. Kiddo has been taking it out on me.

I'm going through perimenopause. Emotions are really out of whack. Things just feel heavy.

And then there's my group of friends. My bestie is going through a separation. I was the go to for support. We talked just about every day, even if it was just through text. Well my friend moved in with mutual friends (kid free. Makes way more sense to move in with them) and...the drop off in communication is wild.

I guess I'm just feeling like I'm an after thought. We haven't been invited to anything. Our invites have been rejected. In person interactions with my bestie feel strained. I'm trying to be understanding. Friend is going through shit. They feel safe and loved and happy. And I AM happy for them. I just wish I was there share in the joy as well

Anyway, last weekend I crashed out hard. This is our core group of friends and with my anxiety I just felt like we were losing them and I've been really down. I tried to download bumble bff to meet new people. But they require a phone number and I'm not interested in giving any app my number.

So what do I do? I signed up for a dance class. A burlesque dance class. Have I ever danced? Nope. Do I know anything about dance? Also no. I know I've always wanted to try it and so....here I am, going to take a random burlesque dance class for a few weeks with an optional performance.

It may not sound wild to most of you but this is SO far out of my comfort zone. I'm on my early 40s, going solo (in hopes of maybe meeting new people) and I can't decide if I'm more terrified or excited.

It's a weird time. Even if our friend group is fine and this is just a phase, I still want to put myself out there and find more people. I've never been one to have a lot of friends. I like close knit groups. I guess that's why this feels weird.

My next goal is to find a needle point group. And maybe look into a beginners d&d group.

I'm also try to set a good example for my kiddo. You have to try new things all the time. Its how we grow. And I may be in my 40s but I'm not done yet. There's still a bunch of things I want to try.

Thanks for listening! Happy Monday y'all.

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A few days ago when i was feeling more motviated and organised i said "i'm going to rewatch one lecture every day in the evening this week" and added it to my calendar.

Today I just got a notification saying "LECTURE AT 6 !!!" and was like omg i'll never make it there in time and I'm so comfy and relaxed now; I forgot all about it and have already missed the first 2 days of my planned "relaxed revision week." No biggie.

I also do this over and over again. I write a schedule and then my brain forgets about it. Sometimes i'm pleasantly surprised to see "do x fun thing" when i'm locked in or busy spending time with other people instead.

Also took me longer that i needed to to start using Google calendar because i was terrified that it would display my schedule to anyone who looks it up using my email address. It doesn't, or rather you have to tick something to make it do that.

Have you been rocking an old classic? Discovering something new? Revisiting some nostalgic bands from the past?

If you've got links, post 'em up!

A fun tool for discovering new bands: https://www.music-map.com/

I’ve been studying music in many different ways all my life; I started in grade 5 with my lil’ ol Clarinet and worked my way up to ~7 instruments I can play that I’ve either learned myself, or had the help of my wonderful music teacher. I learned something that may seem obvious to others in this field, but I haven’t noticed until I just saw a video about this:

When you’re trying to figure out notes on the bass clef: the notes go up alphabetically on the staff. Starting with G on the first line, then working your way up.

When I saw that video, I literally went “Whaaaaaat? No way”, frantically searched for an image of the bass clef on google, and Lo and behold: it was right. My mind is utterly blown; I’ve never thought of it like that. I learned first by mnemonics for the treble clef (Every Good Boy Deserves Fudge for the lines, and the word Face for the spaces between) so I created my own for the bass clef: Good Boys Deserve Fudge Always for lines, and All Cows Eat Grass for the spaces. Now, though, the video taught me that I overcomplicate things.

What is something you’ve learned years after starting your hobby or passion?

Early game spoilers ahead so please proceed on your own terms!

I recently finished Undertale by playing through the neutral route and later the pacifist route. The entire experience was awe-inducing to say the least and I finally understood why the game became so popular.

The moment that made me shed my tears was during the fight with Toriel. As I had taken up the pacifist route back then, I kept sparing her for all my turns and attempted to dodge her attacks. Eventually I was overwhelmed by her fireballs and brought down to 2 HP before I could get to skip the battle portion of the encounter.

When I proceeded to spare her as before and witnessed her taking her eyes off me and disarming her menacing expression, I started to experience a weird emotion. I braced my heart, barely hanging on to life, for another brutal round of attacks, only to watch all the fire projectiles begin to evade me, which only amplified this unknown emotion further.

That's when I realised what I was experiencing: sympathy for the protagonist and Toriel's unbounded and unspoken compassion towards each other. By "sparing" her for yet another round, the protagonist was declaring that they didn't wish to fight her, despite being brought to the verge of death by her attacks and knowing that they may not survive the next one. Meanwhile Toriel, possessing the ability to decimate the human along with sufficient motive to do so, ultimately couldn't find it in her heart as a mother to end their life as she went on to quietly express sorrow and guilt in her face afterwards while continuing to "fight". This scene of self-sacrifice and remorse was complimented by Toriel's fight theme song, resembling the tone of the tragedy of fighting a battle neither one of whom wanted to fight, ending up in a stalemate.

I don't know if there was something inherently unique about this moment, for some reason I immediately started shedding tears uncontrollably. It was as if this level of compassion and sympathy was untold of that overflowed my brain, ultimately making me feel sadness and happiness simultaneously. I ended up like this whenever I saw the screenshot of the fight or watched the recording of someone else's afterwards and eventually this moment became special to me. Even as I was writing this post, I happened to cry 3-4 times.

I don't know if someone else has had this experience before, either in this game or some other media, but if anyone does, I would really love to hear about it. Either way I feel like dumping this up here as an appreciation for the game dev for the wonderous journey the game made me go through.

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I've been seeing a lot of casual hate against fat people over the internet. Most of them justify their hate with "They have no excuse for being fat", " It will motivate them to lose weight ".

They make it sound like it's absolutely ok and the hate is a natural response to seeing an overweight person. I even saw a kid sharing his love for books in a video and one of the commentors was like, " Books are good, but exercise is better" and when he got backlash he was like "oh, he's gotta lose weight", "no hate, I'm just trying to be helpful" But is it right to do it under a post where he's sharing his hobby?

I know fat is unhealthy and that the person is better off without it. But is how healthy a person lives anyone's business except their own? I mean, it's not contagious?

Besides, people could have their own reasons to be fat. Maybe they don't have time to work out, maybe they have some physical problems that don't allow them to work out or maybe that's just the way they want to live. How do you decide they absolutely have access to a gym or have the time to work out based on a single pic or a short video?

Overweight people have become a kind of target for people who are bullies but don't want to be called out.

Ok, this is probably a weird question. My husband thinks I’m the only person in the world who microwaves cheese before eating it.

I prefer room temperature or warm cheese - it just tastes so much better! So I will microwave a slice of cheese for like 5-10 seconds (depending on size) to make it all warm.

Am I the only freak who does this? I swear it tastes so much better this way…

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Disclosure Day is the upcoming movie 🎥 by the legendary Spielberg. What are your expectations from this movie ??

Let's kickstart a discussion !!!

I got an iPhone 17e today. Just wondering what everyone else uses.