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Got my food allergies tested. Avoiding those have really helped my mystery "ughh why do I hurt" days

I eat better (when I had money). No fast food, I only drink alcohol every couple of months, and avoid harmful drugs. Going to bed early I see it as a luxury. I walk instead of driving. My go to beverages are ice water, cold brew black coffee, and occasionally soy milk.

I'm fucking miserable.

I hit rock bottom, gave up drinking, went to therapy, found a new job that I don't hate, gave up weed, found a partner, got asked if I wanted to go on a hiking holiday with her, said yes, panicked because I was totally out of shape, bought a bike, got in shape and enjoyed it, got married, have a kid on the way. Life's good.

Just bought a new mattress so hopefully sleeping better soon

Quit reddit and twitter.

I use weed to cope with existential crisis and sociopolitical turmoil. Oh you mean physically? Heh... Heh...

Real answer: I walk a lot, I'm grateful to live in a walkable city

Haha, good one

Mid 30s.

Work, sleep, work, sleep, energy drink, work, sleep, energy drink, work, sleep, energy drink, work half a shift, 2nd energy drink, with 2nd half of shift, fucking crash into a vegetative state for a weekend.

Typical week.

Not doing great. >_>

I am not smug about it but I’ve been taking better care of myself for around 10 years and it’s grrrreat.

The healthy people were right.

I saw some photos of myself dancing at a friends wedding and did NOT LIKE what I saw. Pure vanity.

I got a personal trainer and set some very silly stunt goals - I knew I didn’t want to focus on how I look, but focus on being the kind of person who could do interesting things and that would have a side effect that looked good. It worked! Plus I learned how to do cool things with my body.

Sometimes being hungover or eating huge meals interfered with my quest to do a pistol squat or a one arm push up or run a race. So I moderated that and hit my goals.

Now my baseline is fairly healthy. So when I go out until 4 with people my body is able to handle it better. I still pay, but I understand the trade off and it isn’t something that happens to me it’s something I chose.

Therapy came in when I was extremely stressed. I avoided it for so long and it was dumb. It’s good to talk to people about your life and challenges. Coaches help players.

My sleep used to be very bad. But I want to do a one arm pull up this year. My body needs rest to get strong enough. So I gotta plan to sleep! I have to give up some other choices to get what I want.

Learned a lot about health and fitness in my early 30s, made it my hobby essentially. But things change so also learned that it's not about what I did today or even this month, it's about what I mostly do and getting back to it. Kids come along, house moves, job moves, disruption after disruption... Gotta lose the self blame and get back up every time. That is for sure an equally important thing to learn.

Took the leap and actually started paying a nutritional biologist (translating an Italian term) and lost 10 kgs without noticing.

All while keeping training at least 3 days a week and maintaining strength gains and sometimes even getting better.

I also started a book club focused on sci-fi and non-fiction about technology and digital rights, to force myself to start reading again, since I noticed a sharp degradation of my ability to express myself and to analyze discourse.

Finally, I am learning French as my fifth language.

I would love to say I am doing great for being 40+, but mental health and zero social life affect me more than I would like to admit.

I'm not 30 yet but I'm pretty dang close and most of my friends are either right there with me or pushing 40 at this point. I hear pretty often about how lucky I am that I can eat however I want and don't have to work out and I'm still in great shape. I have a pretty obvious secret though. I mostly only eat healthy stuff that I cook at home, so when I go out I can eat the greasiest cheesesteak you can find it and not feel bad about it, and I do all my own home repairs and renovations. I don't go to the gym, but this morning I hauled 20 6x6x12 beams and about 40 bags of 80 cement to the back field by myself in the blistering sun to build a play structure for my kid. If I don't have anything to build I have a pallet of cinder blocks that don't current have a purpose that I just move around a big field back and forth to keep my hands calloused.

I'm pretty salty about it because I just started with a new doctor, and when asked if I work out I told him such, and he said that doesn't count and I should start going to the gym a few times a week to help my heart health. I think he was sponsored by planet fitness because he kept talking about it.

Almost 31. I don't drink sugar anymore. I still eat fast food constantly and vape THC on the daily. I have a therapist now, though, and sometimes exercise.

I struggled to gain weight for most of my life, but I finally managed to put on some muscle via figuring out that I need to eat a ton of food alongside activity. Doing woodworking, drumming, and general housework has been enough exercise to keep me from getting fat and actually have an okay physique.

Mental health is in the shitter, but I'm working on it.

So I think I'm doing about as well as everyone else my age.

Doing thorough research on quality support items like wobbly stools, rope, and a really nice bathing toaster. Going to set myself up for success in my future endeavors.

Over 70. Exercise every day. Eat a variety of foods. Limit screen time.

Echoing what other people said, your vices come to get you in your thirties and you have to either decide to give into them, or confront them.

I still struggle with fast food and sitting a lot, but I work out regularly now at 3-4 times a week to counter it, stretch, and now I purposely try to not be sedentary. I walk and bike when I can, avoid endlessly driving or anything else that is just sitting. In the last 18 months there has a been a dramatic improvement to my health with all of my numbers being better than where they were before. I've learned that even a modest amount of trying will do an exponential amount of payoff.

Someone said in a comments field "Why should I spend 30 minutes a day sweaty and miserable" (referring to working out). I've learned that for myself it's not about the 30 minutes feeling miserable, it's the rest of the day where you feel much better. I'm no longer winded going up stairs, I can carry things, I feel like I have some of my endurance from my teenage years back.

Lol.

Lmao, even.

When I want ice cream... I eat ice cream.

I stopped drinking alcohol.

I strongly reduced my consumption after my first kid was born and just drank less and less.

Initially I reduced my consumption because being hangover while taking care of a crying baby SUCKS! Then the less I drank the more I realized the impact of even a glass of wine to my mood and energy level.

It comes and goes in waves kinda like New Year’s resolutions but in general the amount of kindness and care you invest in yourself and those around you increases.

Your body will punish you harder and harder for staying up late and drinking=> ok let’s do less of that. (I’m at a place now where that happens once every 3-4 months…and even then it’s just 2-3 beers and I’m done)

You notice your social circles becoming less dynamic. So you value those around you more and more.

You learn more empathy, so you take more care of people.

You learn the value of time and choose to spend it with your loved ones instead of insert meaningless time sink.

It’s not perfect, but it does increase.

At least that has been my experience so far.

Making up a plan for how to take care of myself. As it currently stands, it entails:

1. processing childhood trauma and the symptoms that it causes today
2. learning how to affirm myself by learning how to give zero f*ucks about norms and expectations

Unless I deal with the above first, I don't see how I'm going to find energy to do anything else, even though I want to exercise, eat well and whatnot.

Im not... That's the retirement plan.

No alcohol, mostly plant based diet, no fast food, no processed food, no intoxicants, no prescription drugs. Hiking and gravel riding.

I'm nearly 60.

Resistance training twice a week. Walks, swimming laps, short jogs, and cycling for the rest. I eat a mixed diet that leans plants, but I do eat some meat, eggs, and fish.

After i turned 30, i was rapidly confronted with consequences for my unhealthy lifestyle from my teens and twenties, you learn quickly that things need to change after glancing at death a couple times and at hospital stays.

Thankfully i have the motivation to keep living, and that began to drive my actions after that

Eat healthy less processed foods made in your kitchen and bought from farmers and markets

Gym and active hobbies like hiking and dancing at least three times a week

Hygene routines solidified, brushing teeth twice daily, non negotiable, thorough flossing and even tounge scrapping daily, fresh clean towel after the daily shower - its worth the extra laundry imo

Skincare, especially daily sunscreen, non negotiable - face, neck, and exposed arms - brimmed hat when on a daily walk, upf 50+ clothing if outside for more than an hour doing chores of on hobbies - in the morning vit c on the face, and in the night a retinol (vit a derivitive)

Hearing protection when at any music shows, wear them so you can keep hearing shows for the long term and not be that guy that says "WHAT?!" at every sentence. Genuinely, i prefer to go with good earplugs now than without

Keeping hold of and scheduling meets with friends, family, and neighbors - as you get older it gets so easy to drift a part, we are all busy, and that 3 minutes spent texting to say "hey lets hang out, does thursday evening work?" makes good friends into best friends - lonely people die faster - be that family, friends, neighbors, and yourself

As i get older and take care of myself, its easier to love myself, and thus, its easier to love other people and receive their love too. Get philosophical about it, it also takes care of you.

I have a diet of looking at nutrition labels and frowning, and midnight snack attacks.

At least three times per week I practice self contempt and when possible I have a couple of anxiety crises.

Stretch and eat fiber.

It's literally all anyone has to do to stay fit, but almost no one is willing to do it. It's fucking weird especially as people get older that they don't do either. Even if it doesn't add "years of life" it drastically improves the quality of your years.

Which in a lot of ways is even more valuable.

im totally ripped and i jerk off 5 times a day

36, having consistent existential crisis issues. Living in the most boring ass capital of possibly the most boring-ass state I've ever lived in besides Kentucky. Like, I love the moderate pace, nothing too extreme and nothing too slow. But, it kinda drags for so long that everyday feels like forever, worse when I'm working.

I kinda am in the "who gives a fuck" part of my life. Where, I've let myself go because it's been 4 years since I've been with someone and I've been processing the reality that I probably will not get anyone again because I'm too specific and everyone, I don't know, feels fake and artificial when put side-by-side against what I'd like to see and have in a person.

So, I'm a tad overweight, not caring what I eat some of the time. I know what I have to do to get the weight down, it's a matter of caring. Everyday is almost the same old shit for the past 4 years I've lived here. And I've got zero clue in where I want to take things.

I quit cigs, drinking, and hard drugs. I’m stoned all the time but I vape it instead of smoking. I also don’t really consume much sugar or meat anymore. Still lazy as fuck though but I don’t feel like I have cancer all the time now. Oh and sweet, sweet lexapro.

I'm nearly 50. But luckily I did martial arts for 15 years and so during that time frame from my late twenties through my '30s and early '40s I was very active I biked many many miles a day I ran I did martial arts I did a lot of things to keep me active. I now work a very active job in the IT construction industry building new restaurants businesses stores etc so I'm always moving lifting ladders things like that while I don't actively exercise I exercise every single day. People doubt that I'm 50. People doubt that I have a grandchild and a second one on the way. People doubt that I have kids that are old enough to be married with kids. It's not only good genetics but it's also that I stayed active the entire time. And never became sedentary and never became one of those people that just waited for something else to happen.

I’ll be 44 on Easter Sunday.

Lots of veggies. Lots of strength training, but nothing too complicated. Also, doing stuff with my kids like Little League and Cub Scouts keeps me moving.

Started with simply drinking more water. Eventually I got into better shape which led to more energy. Sleep is still shit though...

It feels harder, where I live now. It feels like I'm getting so much older so quickly.