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Well, you have a pretty regularly scheduled incentive to learn.

The trick I'm learning is to plan one meal. Any meal. Just pick one coming up, and plan what it will be. Nothing fancy, could be anything, like rice, or scrambled eggs, just plan ahead to add a little something extra. Like, maybe this time you sprinkle some cheese on those scrambled eggs as you cook 'em. Flip the sucker in half, boom, ya gotta an omelate.

Next time, when you feel like it, maybe toss in a few pieces of deli ham, or even better, smash some cherry tomatoes with ya frikin fist and toss those goodies in with the cheese. Maybe you'll plan that again. But then you notice there are different kinds of cherry tomatoes at the store, so you get a few of each and try them out. Look at that, you're becoming a chef already. You didn't need to do anything but make a simple plan for a simple meal and get hungry.

There's very little in life that feels more rewarding than feeding yourself something you fucking love. Therapy should start with learning the basics, like how to feed yourself (before you try to feed others).

I'm gonna bake a loaf of bread this week because I never have and I saw a stupid easy recipe on YouTube. The only thing I needed to do was remember to grab yeast while at the grocery store. Next loaf, I think I'm gonna try sticking chunks of garlic in it. Treat yourself, feed yourself.

It's never too late to get into cooking! No need to become the world's best chef, it's one of the most joyful things to do!

I used to rollerblade everywhere as a kid in the 90s. It was awesome.

but couldn't due to a crippling fear of heights

I grew up with a 50m cliff as a backyard.

Absolutely stunning view, the kind that super-wealthy people pay many tens of millions for these days. My parents picked it up in 1977 for practically a song because nearly all the construction companies came from the prairies and had no clue of how to develop on anything other than a pancake-flat piece of land.

But still. It installed into me a particularly overactive fear of heights. I have trouble getting onto roofs thanks to it. When putting up Christmas lights, my wife needs to hold the ladder, as I am tensed up six ways to Sunday by the time I’m at the top.

Skiing is just as bad. I can take most any slope up to and including a double black diamond. It’s only the triples I cannot handle, because that involves vertical drops.

So I understand that fear. Just not the desire to bodily leap out of a perfectly functional aircraft. That’s nuts.

Dude that's a good thing. I'm probably going to die from my lack of fear of heights someday. You're the normal one, not me.

You probably have, but it doesn't hurt to siggest it, have you tried jotting down your ideas in another format ? On a white board (real/digital) in a mindmap, in separate notes (looking at you obsidian) as sketchy panels etc.

It's not guaranteed to come out exactly how you expected it to, but it should get you pas that block and give you ideas of how to improve your workflow ;)

I'm pushing 40 now and it's way too late to start, even as a midlife crisis.

What? "Pushing 40" is very literally PRIME mid-life crisis timing. Go buy a fuckin' board, just take it easy on your joints.

knitting and crocheting are fucking black magic to me. I hope you decide to pursue it. I think it's amazing.

Go for it, it's fun, saves money, healthy, and every lad or lady or friend you share a meal with will appreciate it!

Reading some of these replies, it seems people are only focusing on half of the process of learning an instrument.

Its not just the instrument you need to learn, it's how to read sheet music as well. Most likely, you're not going to find the exact coords to play with the delay in between written as seconds for the song you want. Its going to be in the format of sheet music, with the notes and other symbols.

That takes time to learn, like learning a new language. It's something you need to learn either before or while learning an instrument, and that is something that can put a lot of people off.

It's never too late

It does require some time investment but it's so rewarding.

I think the key to exercise is finding a recreational activity that is physically active rather than trying to make yourself go to the gym. Barring that, tying gym time with something enjoyable like listening to audio books helps make it at least a little rewarding.

I don't particularly love brushing my teeth twice a day,but its something you've gotta do. I do very much dislike not brushing my teeth. It's not worth being lazy about it. I also hate feeling unfit and stiff and weak.

Hey, it's a bit late but you could make upcycling your yearly theme (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVGuFdX5guE relevant video by cpg grey)

You say complete control of their body, but a lot of times people who dance well at parties don't try hard to control their bodies, they would say the music flows through them, or they stop caring what they're doing and just let their bodies move

You're never too old to dye your hair and paint your nails black.