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I don’t know how valid it is these days, but when I was last in Germany in 1989, I asked my much older cousin about automatic vehicles.

Conceptually he knew what they were and that Americans drove them, but aside from large commercial vehicles - and it was rare at the time even there - he had never come across a consumer vehicle with an automatic transmission in his life. Like, everything at the time was stick and three pedals on the floor. Everything. If you wanted an automatic it had to be special-ordered and shipped in at significant expense from America or something like that

The best sales people are those who - on a per-interaction basis - spend as little time as possible working over marks.

It’s called fail-fast. You want to determine as fast as possible if the person you have approached is going to be an easy mark or not. You use a variety of openers and follow-up questions to determine whether you should just wish them well and move on, or actually focus on them to see if they’ll bite.

Honestly, the absolute worst salespeople are those who chase after people who will never bite, and take offence at rejection. Because being immediately rejected is the other person doing all your work for you - they are openly telegraphing that you will waste more time on them than any benefit that will come out of them. Which is why a “f**k off” should always be followed by a “thank you”. Take that as gospel, fail them fast, and move onto the next person.

Not sure how anyone with two functional neurons to rub together would want to become a violent fascist goon. I mean, the hope is there that they will all be eventually swinging from gallows, but sometimes evil does get away.

And I am astounded at the levels of cultivated ignorance needed to not have the point leap out and bodily slap people across the face.

Could you show me some of those facts?

On mobile, no direct access to sources. But:

Compare the average man with the average woman. In general,

• the man will swipe right about 100 times before he can arrange a single coffee date.
• out of five coffee dates, four will ghost him or otherwise fail to show up, leading to one successful date per thousand attempts.
• the average woman who asks can get the same buy-in by men for every ≈5 swipes right
• she will see only one ghosting or otherwise failing to follow through for every ≈25 such coffee dates.
• just managing to leverage a date is a 20:1 advantage in the woman’s favour.
• actually going on a date and not getting ghosted is about a 100:1 advantage in the woman’s favour
• for an average man, the asymmetry of experience gets progressively more nightmarish the further along you progress.
• when it comes to sexual experience, it is only the top-5% of men who have as much sexual experience as the bottom 60% of women. It is only the top 1% of men who have as much sexual experience as the top-35% of women.

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• when men were presented with a scenario where a woman met 80% of his desired attributes, about ¾ said they would gladly entertain a relationship with her.
• when a woman was presented with the flip proposition, where a man met 80% of her desired attributes, a similar ¾ of them said the exact opposite… that they would absolutely refuse to entertain a relationship with such a man due to his glaring inadequacies.

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• when gauging women, men invariably graded them on an almost perfect bell curve, with half being above average in physical attractiveness, and half below.
• when gauging men, women skewed the bell curve severely towards the bottom end, with slightly over 80% of men being “below average attractiveness”.
• men’s bell curve of women shifted objectively based on how attractive the cohort of women were. A more beautiful group was shifted higher, no different than if they were just a part of a larger group.
• women rated a more attractive group of men equally as harshly as a more random group, with 80% of them still being “below average attractiveness” regardless of how highly attractive they might be among the general population.

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• individual exceptions exist, but in general women are still very loathe to marry a man that makes less than they do, or has a less socially prestigious job than she does. Women who make more than $100k almost never marry men who make less than they do, even when that difference is almost negligible.
• when the woman makes $100k, the average husband’s wage is about $220k
• In fact, early retirement by the man (and sometimes, even just retirement at the appropriate age) precipitates 100% of all retirement-triggered divorces… which are invariably woman-initiated.

Now, nothing is technically bad about any of this. It’s how evolution has shaped each sex to optimize their own sexual success.

Where things get ugly is when one side uses their own experience to whitewash the other side to either ignore issues, remain ignorant of those issues, or deny they even exist.

GO OUT AND MEET PEOPLE AND FORM RELATIONSHIPS

Inapplicable: already married for the last 20 years, together for 30 years.

I’m taken, not blind or ignorant. I have eyes to see what is happening out there, how much things have changed in the last three decades, how the relationships of others progress under modern conditions of Internet-unfettered hypergamy, and a functional mind with which to examine and critically analyze recorded statistics.

I think the most women are smart enough to understand the differences between how men and women experience and express sexual desire, but maybe it sometimes grad school beats it out of people.

You are so far out in left field it isn’t even funny.

Those aren’t the facts I go after. You should examine the stats that come out of things like dating apps and papers published by actual sociologists examining intergender relationships. It’s absolutely wild how those real-world facts run completely counter to what most women say.

Yeah, as usual she's the problem. lmao

The therapist, who is utterly unwilling to consider that a man’s reality is wildly different from her own experiences?

Yes, absolutely.

bro seek help

For what? Being obsessed with reality? Putting evidence above ideology?

Sorry, no. I know how things are like out there, I’ve seen the data.

I’m hyper independent for two main reasons:

1. Maintaining connections takes too much damn energy, no matter how good the other person is. And as someone with a nasty Voltron of ADD and Asperger’s, there are a myriad of co-morbidities along for that ride.
2. i would rather full-ass something to my own satisfaction than suffer someone else’s half-assed attempts.

This. Hella surprised he’d risk muggle transport and be recognized and called out.