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Lancer - Trans Megathread from January 26th through February 1st, 2026 (hexbear.net)

submitted 3 months ago by Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net

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Lancer is a... weird little guy? I dunno even though I really liked undertale I didn't really vibe with deltarune and never played past ep1. I do vaguely remember having fun fighting him.

Soooo, uh, yeah, that's Lancer I guess. I'd love to hear about everybody's favourite little weirdos.

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

if you have a preferred week please tell me

Eco* (2/2 - 2/8)
GayTuckerCarlson* (2/9 - 2/15)
oscardejarjayes* (2/16 - 2/22)
Shaleesh* (2/23 - 3/1)
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Wmill* (3/9 - 3/15)
Disaster_of_Passion* (3/16 - 3/22)

* after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 21 points 2 months ago

Pretending to be asleep

My parents are talking about forcing my hair to be cut (they really have a problem with it)

My brother starts defending me and shuts down their convo.

What a good kid.

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 17 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I came out to my little brother!

It went ... completely smoothly lol. No surprises on that front.

He guessed I'd been transitioning for 4 years. This was actually kinda correct since I did start exploring my femininity around that time (aka when I left home)

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Wasn't the worst birthday I've had, I didn't even cry. But someone forgot or at least didn't say anything which felt and continues to feel bad. And I can't help but wonder whether they'd care more if I was a real girl

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Being a professional library goer (unemployed) I was asked to fill a survey today. Passionately wrote down all the library did for me and how cool it made me like on a spiritual level big-cool

[–] forcefemjdwon@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago (4 children)

professional library goer (unemployed)

Same

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 15 points 3 months ago

Dad takes my phone. Starts looking at my lock screen which is like some enby mf with 6 arms meditating in a dumpster surrounded by LSD angels. His comment was "anime ..."

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 14 points 3 months ago

It took me ages and ages having boobs before I started having them in my dreams. But it was like 2 days of having a vagina that I started dreaming it was there, that was super fast.

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (8 children)

The Time Has Come (Again)

Just got my ears pierced and I feel so cute and gay :)))

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)

In 2000 you could get a plant based McDouble for $1 and a side of estrogen for 50 cents

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[–] OffSeasonPrincess@hexbear.net 12 points 2 months ago (3 children)

negativity, jealosy

Sometimes i cant stand seeing other trans ppls progress photos or happiness/joyposting or selfies, stuff that should be positive and feel-good just makes me jealous and upset. Idk if somethings wrong with my brain, i hate it

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

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I think if you feel that way, then the best thing you can do is to redirect that energy from a negative direction to a positive one. If you want what they have, then the question is how you can obtain it as well. I don't think there's anything wrong with your brain: reframing and rechanneling these emotions is a skill that you can practice.

Sometime the answer is just "time" and you can take comfort that it's something you can look forward to. Sometime the answer is "effort". For me, I felt envy when it came to relationships and appearance. I obtained the first by putting myself out there and going through the stress of dating, and for the second I put a lot of practice into makeup and learned a lot about fashion. There are still things that I feel a bit jealous of, like shilouette and voice training: these things are definitely addressable, just harder for me and I know that with effort (and time) they are achievable.

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 2 months ago (3 children)

wierd?

I tell my friend that I don't feel joy from anything anymore and I'm depressed af. He tells me "you need to get fucked"

I mean, true ಠ_ಠ, but kinda crazy to tell someone.

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Important PSA:

Many people want a mommy to take care of them. But where do mommies come from? Not from the sky*! In order to fill the shortage of mommies, we need more femmes to step up and become mommies themselves.

We must seek eggs to nurture them!

*I know your mommy is an angel, but that's besides the point

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

ayy i'm a butch and a mommy too catgirl-hiss

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 12 points 3 months ago (1 children)

sex

Had sex with a dude for the first time last night, bi confirmed hexbear-bi-2

He was really nervous and couldn't get it up but gave great head and knew how the finger the prostate like a pro. Looking forward to when he can annihilate my ass panting

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 11 points 3 months ago

transphobic family, rambly

My dad messaged me for the first time since christmas day and I don't know I guess I'm actually really considering this being the moment I cut ties.

I haven't had an actual relationship with the man since high school, and even then I always kept him at arms length. We never talk about anything that's important to me except for when I asked him to call me by my name and he can't do that I guess. He knows nothing about me. I'm seriously curious what he'd say if someone asked him to describe me. I don't think he'd get anything beyond the suface level right. I think I could say more about the girl at the coffee shop I buy chai at than my dad could say about me.

I send him songs every now and then which he ignores, and every couple of months he calls me and I give him a bullet point list of the interesting things that have happened since the last call, and that's it. That's my relationship with my dad. That's the totality.

So like he's just some guy, right? Literally just some guy I happen to be related to genetically and who has my phone number. Which would be cool if he was some guy I talked to who called me by name at the very least, but he doesn't even do that. So why do I indulge in his calls?

I really don't know how to explain this to him, but that's where I'm at.

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 11 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Everyone start using linux right now! Linux mint is so easy. I booted up windows and was shocked by how much slower it is than linux

[–] catter@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago

Linux has raised my standards for what a computer should be by so much that it's painful going back to Windows. Mint has given new life to an old laptop I have 🥰

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago

I want to scream

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago

It's weird to go back and be totally different. Time moves, but everything is familiar. I guess life is just like that.

Reconnecting isn't always bad.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (5 children)

I wish I had someone. I'd like to yap a bit and cuddle. I'm tired. And I kinda wanted to talk more earlier today but idk what specifically about or what I'd want to message someone about.

I'd also like to have someone to cuddle with me right now. I feel alone.

Cuddling and yapping about stuff, two things I wanna do.

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Mom is currently discussing with her friend as to why I suddenly went from keeping a buzz cut to growing out my hair.

"What could have happened?"

Truly a mystery for the ages

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Mom tells me that my current hairstyle is girlish and that I should redo it.

Thanks mom!

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I love when people do that. A dude was trying to pick a fight with me and said I looked like a girl and that left me riding a gender euphoria high for a minute

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago (6 children)

HRT, body changes, family stuff

Nipples feel very sore, chest feels a little soft and I can feel it bouncing a little bit sometimes. My sister noticed my nipples poking through the shirt, not sure how to feel about this, maybe I'll need bras soon. Being in the closet to my parents and still living with them sucks, I'm going to be in trouble on the next few months, probably.

There's also this headache and brain fog, I can't manage to do anything at the moment, not even videogames, maybe I'm just tired, I don't know...

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[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 2 months ago (7 children)

dysphoria, loneliness

Because of loneliness I missed out on romance in my teens and early twenties. How do I convince myself it doesn't matter?

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Been crying lately thinking about the different life experiences the women in my life have had that I never will. Today's was a wedding. Imagining how they must have looked on their day. I wish that was me. I wish I was a normal, typical woman. A husband, kids, just how they look and are...

...but I'm not. I'm not straight. I can't have kids. Even if I could I think my autism/overstimulation would make it not for me. I just want to be them. And I'm not.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago (5 children)

It's my birthday :/ I wish I could just postpone it or something.

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[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago

GIVE. ME. SWAPPABLE. PARTS!!! I WANT TO BE LIKE A FRAMEWORK LAPTOP!!!

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Ahhh, never tucking again~ so nice.

Youre supposed to be pretty dry the first few weeks and months of bottom surgery. And since I have nothing to do, Im off work for this, Im pretty much sitting around with my pussy out all day lol

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago

bottom dysphoria

I had a nightmare that my gock came back 😫 That sucked, like it fell out and sprouted back. Awful. My mom said she was worried I didnt really want this, I knew I did but I guess the confirmation that I had a nightmare it came back was nice

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (7 children)

Sister asked my mom (who I'm assuming would be the supportive one) how she'd react if I was gay and she refused to respond, how over is it chat?

[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 3 months ago

It's not necessarily over, since parents can come around once their child comes our. But there doesn't seem to be a big possibility of things going smoothly anymore.

Coincidentally, this type of reaction to probing is exactly why I haven't come out of the closet either lol

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Looking at my chest and low key wondering if there's visible growth? Like at least for me, doubt anyone else would notice atp (thankfully).

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Learning to 'put my mask on before assisting others' is fucking difficult wtf, can I just not and be fine anyway pls catgirl-sorry

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Ive seen so many people on sour natural gas sites run in after a downed guy only to add to the number of people that need to be rescued.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Nightmares every single night sucks. I used to have great dreams too. Constantly woken up from this.

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago

What you all need to understand that while I may come off as a whiny loser when my family needs me I lock the fuck in and become their rock swole-doge

[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

Oooooh

I've been forgetting my evening HRT, thaaaaat's why Ive been tossing and turning for so many sleepless hours recently.

I'm so silly.

[–] meler@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

My room mate called me hot in a way that made me uncomfortable

[–] catter@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (4 children)

For a while now I have been trying to thrift theory books. Kind of a useless personal challenge, but hey, it's free for as long as I can't find anything 😭 Local used bookstore politics section is 99.8% reactionary garbage and 0.2% gems. Finding a compilation of Lenin's writings printed from before the fall of the Soviet Union today was pretty cool. I have now seen lenin-dont-laugh on paper.

Unfortunately still no Little Red Book. Not sure if I'll ever find that one in the wild TBH.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago

i am reaching new levels in not being okay with myself catgirl-flop

[–] RION@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Think I'm getting brain zaps from sertraline withdrawal, delivery is like a week late. Thanks Mark Cuban I love it

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

When I was coming off effexor, that shit sucked. Brain zaps, irritable, if I looked to the side too quick I got dizzy? Saw double anyway. It was rough. Im very glad I had it for the year and a half I was on it, but coming off SUUUCKED

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