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I had to deal with some guy at work trying to do some tiktok video and including me in it so I could complement his side gig or some shit (and likely only including me because women get views). And if I complain too much about being included in their grift everyone will shit on me for being a karen or for not helping him with it. Jesus fucking christ, I hate people that try to constantly plaster their face and name on everything to make money. Fuck youtubers, fuck tiktok, fuck ads, stop stealing peoples work for a quick buck 'by doing commentary', leave me the fuck alone

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[–] Alpha71@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No. I hate the fact that the world has forced people to need to do so.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 13 hours ago

Why not both?

[–] Tabooki@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago
[–] boaratio@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Late stage capitalism. That's it.

[–] vidi_vici_veni@lemmy.zip 32 points 2 days ago (2 children)

The problem isn’t TikTok or YouTube—it’s some guy at work who felt entitled to use you for his side hustle. If someone treats you like a prop instead of a person, you don’t owe them compliance, and you don’t owe bystanders an explanation either.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Yep. Nothing forces anyone to do anything, people do this crap willingly, and then blame everyone else for their poor behaviors.

It's called be a shitty human being.

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[–] Digit@lemmy.wtf 19 points 2 days ago (20 children)

Imagine if we get a robust universal unconditional social dividend atop a properly adequate "basic income", accompanied by high quality free-to-use social services (including transport)... then we could:

ikigai

Do what we're good at, what we love doing, and what needs done, fulfilling our passion and mission, not just our profession and vocation.

[–] BunScientist@lemmy.zip 15 points 2 days ago (2 children)

this image sucks in dark mode

[–] rumba@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Thanks God I love and the world need insurance accounting. My childhood hobby of crunching excel files really paid out.

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[–] SebZuen@leminal.space 9 points 2 days ago

While it‘s obvious that one income alone won‘t feed a family anymore, our culture pushed multiple-job-holding even further by normalizing several income streams and especially gig-work. A gym nearby now advertises „earn 1€ per workout“, which is effectively just a discount, but gives you the feeling of actual profit

[–] Zombiepirate@lemmy.world 145 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I don't see why you should put your face in his video if he isn't sharing the money. It sounds like he wants free labor to me.

[–] marcie@lemmy.ml 67 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

i would normally tell him to fuck off but the chief leeches were there and wanted me to. whats worse is he has a somewhat large amount of followers and the chief leeches like him being there because of exposure.

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 56 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Jesus what kind of hellscape of a job do you have where you’re being forced into viral marketing for something that is unrelated to your company?!

[–] marcie@lemmy.ml 58 points 3 days ago (3 children)

i work in a software security department at a large corporation. I HATE IT HERE.

[–] blitzen@lemmy.ca 35 points 3 days ago (5 children)

Why would software security need (or even want) “exposure?”

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[–] AndyMFK@lemmy.dbzer0.com 34 points 3 days ago (6 children)

I do a lot of things for fun that I could theoretically make money from. I model and 3d print stuff, I woodwork, I make electronic projects, I'm a musician, and a software engineer.

Sometimes I'll get people saying stuff like "you could sell XYZ". I tried it. I had an Etsy store where I sold my 3d prints. It was successful. Too successful. I was working my day job and then spending most of my free time printing and sanding and painting and talking with customers and dealing with shipping.

Initially I thought how great to be able to spend all my free time doing something I enjoy. In the end i thought how dreadful it is to spend basically all of my time working.

It fucking sucked. I'm glad to have had that experience, but now I know It's actually super important to have hobbies that are just hobbies.

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[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 79 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (6 children)

My sister is so into this mindset but doesn't do anything about it, it's so annoying.

Every conversation with her ends up being about how to monetize something. Fucking A, I'm not gonna start a food blog and sell ads, I just wanna make dumplings!! I'm not gonna stream my boyfriend and I playing games, we're just trying to relax! I'm not a brand or a product I'm just a person, get off it.

[–] Ethalis@jlai.lu 40 points 3 days ago

I hate that so much. "Oh, this hobby only brings you joy and happiness? Don't you know you could make money out of it?"

[–] Zagam@piefed.social 35 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I'm that neighbor thats really, really into Halloween. My whole family is. We do a pretty big yard thing every year and this year we had the scene change every week to tell a bigger story. On Halloween handing out candy and goodies, everyone was stoked and wanted to stop and say how rad it was and how much fun it was to watch over the course of the month. Except one person. She just kept on going about how I should charge people to see it. Dude, first and foremost, I'm not going to make one of the few things I find true joy in doing another goddamned chore. Also, how the fuck would I keep people from just looking at my front yard? How do you expect me to manage that?

One good thing came of it though, after her insistence again and again I told her the only practical way to charge admition would be to do an actual walk through haunted house in my back yard. So the neighbors and fam and I are going to do just that. But for free because fuck that. I might charge her a dollar though because I'm super petty.

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[–] Celsuss@lemmy.ml 15 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I do a lot of open source contribution on my spare time because I think it's fun and I like to contribute to software that is open and free for anyone to use. I have several friends and co-workers that think I'm stupid for not only work on projects that pays me.

I'm happy as long as I get to write code for fun and also contribute to the world. That is it's own reward.

[–] harambe69@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 days ago

I do open source contribution so nobody else has to solve the same problem twice. And I don't have to maintain my own fork.

[–] fixmycode@feddit.cl 52 points 3 days ago (1 children)

do it in exchange of a share of the profit. nothing turns people off like sharing.

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Yeah kinda. But people value different things. I value time so work less hours at work and take an easy stress free job. I could earn double if not more working elsewhere but at what cost.

If I’m housed, watered, and fed then the next thing I want is time. I love my job and still hate going to work and I work from home. I hate the idea of giving so much of myself away for Monopoly money.

[–] yogthos@lemmy.ml 55 points 3 days ago

I do indeed hate living under capitalism

[–] optissima@lemmy.ml 59 points 3 days ago (7 children)

It does suck. Watching all my highschool friends slowly lose the light in their eyes as the economy tightened its grip, becoming all more desperate just for basic necessities. The only way any of us can fix this is by making sure no one is run ragged by the fear of this fake ass scarcity.

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[–] pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Sometimes I get annoyed at the crowd that sees me doing something they think is cool and be like "you could sell or provide [x hobby]"

[–] ragebutt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 2 days ago (2 children)

This took the joy out of everything.

“Oh you write music? You should make an album and sell it” “oh you cook? You should make a ghost kitchen/foodtruck/marketplace” “oh you do 3d printing? You should model stuff for people or make a print farm” “oh you do open source stuff? Why don’t you work in coding or at least do fiverr coding jobs?” “Oh this home server is cool you should set these up for people for money”

FUCK YOU

And then when they find out I just like, post recipes or code or models or whatever online for free because I want to contribute back to the communities that taught me a lot they’re like “you’re crazy”. Maybe I don’t want to fucking monetize everything. Maybe I’m sick of everything being monetized. Maybe I believe information should be free and this hustle culture tech bro bullshit that took over the Internet post 2006-08 or so where everything has to be paywalled or monetized is absolutely cancerous and should be destroyed.

Our greed will destroy us all

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[–] deathbird@mander.xyz 37 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Just tell him no, tell him you don't want to be on his social media.

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[–] etherphon@midwest.social 43 points 3 days ago (5 children)

I absolutely hate it. I just want to BE but that is impossible because we've turned modern life into an insufferable game.

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[–] Sauvandu60@lemmy.ml 13 points 2 days ago

that's what living in a capitalist society looks like.

[–] TomMasz@lemmy.world 48 points 3 days ago

The job market sucks and it's only getting worse. A full-time job doesn't provide the same standard of living it did for previous generations. I don't like how there's so much pressure to have a side hustle that makes money versus just having a hobby you enjoy, but for some people that's their only option. But I don't hate them, I hate the system.

That being said, it wasn't cool for him to include you in his video. You have every right to push back and avoid this in the future.

[–] Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Well in this case it probably isn't money he is after, but attention and fame. That said, just tell him you had a past "incident" you don't like to talk about, but that your image shouldn't be on anything that might give away your current location. Lol.

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[–] KelvarCherry@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 3 days ago (2 children)

It's infuriating when you look at the online content creator landscape:

Everybody's got a course. Everybody's sponsored. Every channel pitches scams with a promo code. Even many anti-capitalist channels are pushing you to sign up for some program. It's absurd.

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[–] No1@aussie.zone 29 points 3 days ago

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If I understand properly I think this is called commodity fetishism and yeah it’s so gross. To repeat what everyone else here is saying I hate when I show people stuff I make out of love and the first reaction is “omg you have to sell these you could make so much money”.

[–] tooLikeTheNope@lemmy.ml 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

The issue is basically that profit is just defined by a money transaction and that is completely unrelated to the quality of values on which it is being conveyed, pecunia non olet.

There are for sure virtuous enterprises which generates values for humans, but the large part of them deals in vicious transactions which by design only exploit humans for profit instead.

If we want progress and we want a free economic system then the coin must be one and only, and it must be directly connected with the effects on the wellbeing of each fellow human.

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