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I had to deal with some guy at work trying to do some tiktok video and including me in it so I could complement his side gig or some shit (and likely only including me because women get views). And if I complain too much about being included in their grift everyone will shit on me for being a karen or for not helping him with it. Jesus fucking christ, I hate people that try to constantly plaster their face and name on everything to make money. Fuck youtubers, fuck tiktok, fuck ads, stop stealing peoples work for a quick buck 'by doing commentary', leave me the fuck alone

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[–] marcie@lemmy.ml 68 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

i would normally tell him to fuck off but the chief leeches were there and wanted me to. whats worse is he has a somewhat large amount of followers and the chief leeches like him being there because of exposure.

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 56 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Jesus what kind of hellscape of a job do you have where you’re being forced into viral marketing for something that is unrelated to your company?!

[–] marcie@lemmy.ml 58 points 4 days ago (3 children)

i work in a software security department at a large corporation. I HATE IT HERE.

[–] blitzen@lemmy.ca 35 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Why would software security need (or even want) “exposure?”

[–] marcie@lemmy.ml 28 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

the corporation has a large financial wing, why they think im a good target to include in some idiots tiktok video is your guess. i dont speak linkedin or tiktok

[–] UnspecificGravity@piefed.social 13 points 4 days ago

Sounds like they aren't paying you enough if your role includes being a performer.

[–] SmackemWittadic@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

They probably see it as "woman in tech is rare, we show we have one"

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago

Makes sense. Sadly.

[–] Fit_Series_573@lemmy.world 7 points 4 days ago

They like this until he accidentally leaks something classified like the idiots that would upload their "Day in the life of" videos typing in pincodes and passwords and the wrong person sees it or goes back to see it an old video. Some horrible long term thinking for a software security team to allow

[–] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 4 days ago

What the fuck? I was like dead certain that you were stuck with a bunch of high schoolers at a grocery store or something. That should never be happening anywhere remotely close to a cube farm.

Best strategy is to play dumb. "Hello, [fuckface's manager], I have some concerns about the tiktok content [fuckface] is making for the company and some questions about my job responsibilities in relation to it. [Fuckface] pretty regularly interrupts my work to request me to act in these videos and it is getting in the way of my usual duties. If my participation is required, could you please let me know in writing? I'll also need to discuss with my manager about how this should be prioritized and scheduled alongside my other job duties."

Force their awareness in a way that doesn't immediately look like an assassination. The more you can get in writing the more rope this guy makes to hang himself with. If somehow they claim it's actually work related, keep pushing the edges of "I just want to be sure" until his channel is company property or he shoots himself in the foot.

Alternatively, get paid to intentionally do bad acting. "Oh, I've never been good on camera, sorry!"

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 5 points 4 days ago

“You know what my side hustle ad needs? A GIRL”

“Hey, I think a girl works for me. Let’s just use her.”

“Great thanks bro!”

Shit like this makes me want to become a terrorist. I wont, but I’m starting to get why other people do.

[–] Fmstrat@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

At a random time, when nothing is happening, hand him a "paid talent release form".

If you look up "talent release form" it's what allows a creator to use materials with another person. As it stands now, he asked you to participate but did not have you sign a release (with no fee), so you own partial rights to income from that video.

Say to him: "Since you are a pretty big creator I assume you're familiar with releases. I grabbed a standard one to give you rights to my previously included videos, and here's another for any future videos including me for a 50% share. I'll sign them after you approve and sign unless you have a standard set you would like to use"

This makes it a business transaction, vs a "leave me alone". He won't want to figure out how to pay you, so he'll probably stop.