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[–] M137@lemmy.world 6 points 5 hours ago

I gotta say this isn't my experience at all. It's any gender being any kind of welcoming to new people. That includes me in all positions (being the "haven't known him for long enough" and "we found him along the way", and also being the one who does both of those things). If anything my experience has been that women have been more welcoming to new people, of course within reason and depending on the situation. But it's not at all heavily towards one side or the other, people are people and situational logic plays a larger part than anything else.

[–] CancerMancer@sh.itjust.works 17 points 8 hours ago

One time ~15 years ago a guy showed up to a party as his gf's +1. She and my girlfriend got into a fight and he and I just wandered off and played some games.

We're still friends and they're long gone. This is how guys meet lol

[–] CalloftheDirtyWhiteBoy@lemmy.ca 12 points 7 hours ago

No bro has ever took me off the streets to chill I must have fucked vibes

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 13 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Where's my Xbox? Oh, the junky Jeff brought over last night stole it.

[–] TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 3 points 6 hours ago

True story?

[–] ayyy@sh.itjust.works 17 points 11 hours ago

Haha gender discrimination

[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 9 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

"And he already told me he's not a cop."

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 46 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Once met a dude in Walmart who had a cat with him. Talked in Walmart, and now he's one of my best friends.

[–] BanMe@lemmy.world 5 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

It's neat how one little weird thing turns people from strangers to friends.

Like you can be walking down the street and pass someone and neither of you even nod, but if you each notice an old lady doing naked cartwheels, 80% chance you're having coffee together soon.

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 1 points 7 hours ago

I've found that crisis does it, too. I him (cat friend, we'll call him lol) while in a city a few hours from home, because my mom was helicoptered there for emergency surgery, and was in ICU for over a month. It was a horrible, terrible time, and the state I was in when I met cat friend definitely contributed to the friendship. He didn't know me from Adam, but he was there for me when I needed someone

[–] Fizz@lemmy.nz 20 points 14 hours ago

I had a friend who would do this every time I'd go out. I remember him finding a guy who had a pet goat it was pretty sick.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 110 points 18 hours ago (7 children)

I wish this was my experience. I've seen that women look after each other a lot better generally.

[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 70 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

That’s been my experience too. Men are very standoffish or happy to be alone, women see another woman alone and want to adopt them like a stray kitten.

[–] Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 59 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

You guys need a dog catcher in your group. This is one of those archetypes that gets over looked because it feels like something that's part of several other archetypes, but it really makes a difference to have it stand alone.

It's in the name, he catches strays. This is the guy that pulls groups together from separate circles, introduces new guys to the group, or occasionally plays match maker. He's probably running your Discord server or keeps putting you in group chats, he's the one that does the logistics planning when it comes to more complicated outings Lee week long trips and bachelor parties. In public outings he probably makes friends with staff or other queue waiters. He's probably the guy that stages interventions but out of genuine care.

There are others that can fill the role, golden retriever boys are good at the finding people but too dumb to coordinate. Fearless leaders can attract crowds but normally don't have the personal touch to keep anyone new long term. Sheep dogs are great at keeping new boys in the group but they don't invite new people. More often than not, the dog catcher will be playing another role in the group because their current services aren't being utilized so he's either not invested in it or your group is one of his secondary groups. If you're scrolling through your contacts trying to figure out who I'm taking about, if you're the forever DM, or if your boys keep saying "whatever happened to X" and you're the guy that reminds them, you're probably the dog catcher.

[–] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 32 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

I've never heard these words used to describe social dynamics, but it all makes perfect sense. And TIL I'm a golden retriever.

[–] slothrop@lemmy.ca 29 points 17 hours ago

Who's a good boi...?

[–] Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 8 points 16 hours ago

Just remember that your high energy and positive vibe are likely the delight of everyone around you. You don't need to be a master planner to keep the spirits high.

[–] tomiant@piefed.social 6 points 15 hours ago

In some forms of social psychology they're labeled "bridgers", as far as I recollect. They are not archetypes at all and have nothing to do with Jungian psychology. It's also fairly pseudo-scientific.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 40 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

As a trans girl, I can confidently say that I have a much easier time hanging out with girls I just met than I ever had hanging out with guys I just met. Although both do happen and aren't too uncommon.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 21 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

It's cool to have intrepid folks who have crossed that threshold, and can confirm firsthand for us that boys are just not that well socialised. We need to be raising boys to be much kinder and more thoughtful.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 5 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I'd like to hear the trans boy perspective too. Maybe the trans girls felt uneasy being surrounded by men.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I definitely did feel a little out of place around men, and many of my friends were women (even before my egg cracked). Uneasy is probably the wrong word, more just like an outsider.

I definitely wouldn't make the claim "men are not that well socialized" (although that may well be true - but I couldn't speak to that purely from my own experience)

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[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 5 points 15 hours ago

Trans girl here sharing the same sentiment

[–] aeiou@piefed.social 22 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I think it depends on age, from what I'd seen older men seem to have a harder time meeting new friends than women

[–] LordMayor@piefed.social 7 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

I wonder if it’s just a pack mammal thing. Like the way young male lions hang out in groups but the older ones are solitary especially if they have a pride.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 11 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Any other older men looking to make friends: consider trying Dungeons and Dragons. No you are not too old. It's got the vibe of a regular poker game - sitting around a table, joking, smoking/drinking - but you can be extremely poor. The device on which you're reading this is all you really need.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 6 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Tabletop RPGs are a good and cost effective hobby. You can play DND with the free "SRD" rules posted online, but you won't get the fancy pictures and all the extras.

There are other games like it that are even cheaper. My personal favorite is Fate. Free rules, only needs four six sided dice.

The main problem is finding a good group to play with. DND is mega popular so if you're just looking for social, it's a good starting point. If you're not into fantasy, you can branch off into other games later.

[–] AdrianTheFrog@lemmy.world 3 points 13 hours ago

DM me if you want me to send you my monster sorting program I made a couple of years ago that has pictures of all of the pages in the monster manual in it

[–] aeiou@piefed.social 5 points 14 hours ago

can confirm, I am a large lazy cat

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[–] papalonian@lemmy.world 70 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I went on a canyon drive one time. We started with 7 cars, when we got to the end of our route, we had 8. Hopped right out of his car and stood around in the circle with the rest of us, didn't even register for a second that it was just some random guy. He thought it looked fun so he kept up with us. Cool dude.

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 41 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

We were once in a small park playing frisbee. UPS driver comes over and joins us for a while.

Cool guy. He said he was going to start carrying a frisbee in his truck

[–] 0ops@piefed.zip 13 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I always keep one under the seat in case of emergencies

[–] LordMayor@piefed.social 22 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Like, if you get carjacked by a Border Collie?

[–] 0ops@piefed.zip 10 points 15 hours ago

What? No. I am a Border Collie

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[–] village604@adultswim.fan 22 points 15 hours ago

I was the random guy at a new year's party a few years ago. Was hanging with a friend and some of her friends I hadn't met before when she needed to bounce, then I just ended up going to a random party.

I got like 3 New years kisses, so I won't complain.

[–] SillyDude@lemmy.zip 27 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I was driving up a mountain in my jeep and passed another SUV. They were driving real slow after we passed each other. I stopped, reversed, and asked "you guys smoke weed". We then took bong rips on the side of the trail for like a hour.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 11 points 15 hours ago

One of my favorite switcheroos:

[Other person at train station]: Hey do you have a cigarette?

Me: Nope but I've got these weed edibles

I like to think I'm brightening their journey and providing healthy options. If they get the cigarette from someone else, then they'll at least get a nice 1-2 combo.

[–] aeronmelon@lemmy.world 49 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

“He let me use his lighter, he’s cool.”

[–] tourist@lemmy.world 4 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

"fucker stole my lighter"

[–] blanketswithsmallpox@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

We had 4 lighters! Who has all the damn lighters!?

Cue whoever has the 2x oversized hoodie emptying their hoodie pocket of like 8 lighters: Sorry! I just forget!

[–] Saapas@piefed.zip 22 points 18 hours ago

Hah, I've been there. Someone needed to borrow a lighter and just invited me to hang out with his friends. Felt weird at first but everyone was really cool

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 0 points 6 hours ago

Lol, All this proves to me is another of the many reasons women live longer. Before you get your knickers in a knot, laugh, then go back to climbing on the bins to reach the roof. We'll chat later.

[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 26 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

They're being friends for a year but don't know their names

[–] Gerudo@lemmy.zip 5 points 14 hours ago

My wife is like this with my newer friends. Where did they grow up? What music do they like? What's their partner like?

Lady, calm down, I've only known them for a few years now lol. She can meet someone and recite their whole backstory after the 2nd meet-up.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 10 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

LOL I've literally done this

[–] Flames5123@sh.itjust.works 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Same! I think the Seattle Freeze is mostly dead because of all the transplants. (I have a “Seattle” tag for any lemmy user that talks about Seattle, and your name is obvious).

I met my neighbor a few weeks ago because there was some crazy doing donuts in the grass of a park with tons of cops around. We got a beer later that week even though we have nothing in common, but were able to just hang and chat about whatever.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago

I think the Seattle Freeze is just yuppies being busy. It's no different from any other city.

[–] nightlily@leminal.space 0 points 7 hours ago

Oh I see lemmy is not better than reddit with this boomer-style humour. Tell us one about how women and Asians drive next.

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