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Terror Riff sounds like something you'd hear in a doom metal album.

The boss is slightly harder than that, but it's not like the sekiro tutorial where you're supposed to lose. It has a giant slow attack where he lights up, and you have to move out of the way. It's simple if you're familiar with this kind of game. Musk just is shit.

I thought they were going to kill her for maximum fridging. I'm glad they didn't. And having her shoot the villain was an interesting twist, kind of.

But overall yeah she is underdeveloped.

I think everywhere I've worked has said "we have 20% time for tech debt" but has never actually done that. It's always "we need to ship this by end of week" and "the CEO wants us to add the thing we said we'd cut so we could make the deadline".

Fun… that part of your body you hate? I can pretty much guarantee you people haven’t noticed flaws with it and if they did, it doesn’t mean much to them. So you can relax, nobody is looking at it!

There was an old meme that was like Woman: "he's probably so turned off by my [some body thing]" Guy: "omg omg omg she's letting me touch her this is amazing"

This scales down to non intimite scenes, too. The product manager lady at my old job once remarked unfavourably on her body and it surprised me. She always looked like a well dressed, healthy, attractive, person to me. I had given zero thought to the thing she complained about.

I don't think I've ever had a serious discussion about how a game didn't do well because of how sexually appealing the characters in it are? Not like you're describing. What sort of weird sludge people are you hanging out with?

I’m not sure if you’re implying they’re the same person, as in they won’t ask anyone out and then wonder why nobody goes out with them? Because that I can’t really explain

Yes indeed. There was a guy I was talking to a while ago who said he never got any dates from the apps. I wanted to be helpful, so I asked him to describe his process and what happened.

He said he'd match (good), and then send them a nice personal message (great), they'd chat on the app (good) for a couple weeks (what) and then they'd stop responding.

He never asked them out but he'd keep talking to them, and seemed confused why he wasn't having dates. I'm not exactly sure why- maybe he was waiting for the perfect moment that never came. I think this is somewhat common because I've seen a lot of profiles that say "not looking for a pen pal. Ask me out!"

I told the specific guy I was talking to I recommend asking people out after like one exchange and you've cleared your dealbreakers, and I hope that helped him.

my most general advice in that case would be to try to be more open. Nobody wants to pry answers out of you.

This is good advice. A very common blunder I see is people dead-ending conversations. Like someone will be like "oh my gosh I love your spaceslug T-shirt. Did you ever see them play live?" and they respond with "no [end of message]". Like, what. How is the other person supposed to interpret that?

If it was in person I'd be like "oh ok this person doesn't want to talk" but on an app, after we matched? Why respond at all? Just unmatch if you're not interested, or respond later when you can whole-ass the response.

The main thing that changes people mind is in-group stuff. Facts don't usually convince people. But seeing you as someone who's relatable , in their "tribe", that opens doors.

If you shut someone out of your life completely, those doors shut. But if you can keep the "hey we're both red Sox fans" or "I see you every week at the running group" relationship warm, you'll have a better shot. They're not going to listen to some "lib", but their buddy from poker night? He made some good points.

Look at all those times people are like "I hated gay stuff until my son came out." Yeah, it's easy to point and mock how shitty their baseline empathy is, but it's also noteworthy that they did change, and changed because someone they saw as in-group was there.

Of course, some people value their political or religious group more than family, and disown children rather than changing. People are weird. If they're getting a constant stream of shit world view reinforcement from all their other friends, their feeds, and so on, it's an even harder challenge.

Anyway, I guess I mostly agree with you.

It's just exhausting and hard work most of the time.

Cool. Maybe they can have life in exile instead of the firing squad the rest of the republican party deserves.

The dating app replaces only the “asking someone out” step, not the actual date itself.

I want to nitpick on this, because I'm told a lot of people use these apps, match, and then never actually ask the other person out. They then are sometimes puzzled why they're not going on dates.

The only thing online dating changes is that people don’t need to take a rejection straight to their face and get embarrassed into never trying again.

It also helps filter out "oh, she doesn't date men", "wow, he's anti-vax", "he doesn't want kids, ever, and i do" kind of stuff. At least, when the app is working and not fully enshittified. That stuff is valuable.

Sorry for the nitpicks. Good post though, thanks.

No one is saying to try to fuck women in public

You are making some wild assumptions about me. At no point did I ever say it was appropriate to engage women who are just living their lives in public. In fact, in the post you're replying to, I said I agreed with you.

Body language has been a part of humanity since before modern humans existed. You can tell, I hope, the difference between a frown and a smile.