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Check out this pecan pie i made | Trans Megathread for the Week 2025-12-01 to 2025-12-07 (hexbear.net)

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[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Hey folks!

cat-trans

No big life updates, but just wanted to just confirm that I'm doing alright. Still job hunting, but that's not exactly a unique experience. Other that, I've been enjoying life with my partner and friends. Was able to survive Thanksgiving with the folks (still not out, planning to come out after I land a job or at least move to an apartment that allows cats.)

Also, passed my 1 year HRT anniversary a week ago (although the anniversary of switching from a baby dose to injections is in January.)

meow-bounce

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 11 points 2 days ago

Congrats on the HRT anniversary and making it through Thxgiving! Glad to hear things are going well despite the family and job search. trans-heart

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 10 points 2 days ago (14 children)

Might stop taking E, starting to get wicked panicky about the idea of things starting to change.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago

Youtube recap is only on the desktop site, as a vertical video. Incredible. It should just be a slideshow I skip through myself.

[–] RION@hexbear.net 13 points 2 days ago

Feeling weird because I've wanted to leave my job since the summer, but things have gotten better recently. Plus I realized that I can't exactly take having an accepting workplace for granted (2 out trans people and a smattering of enbies here) anymore, and I'm getting a raise in the new year.

If I can find a woke place that pays about the same next year I'll probably still leave, but it's more complicated of a calculus than I expected

[–] CupcakeOfSpice@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago (3 children)

So based on things I've heard on here, it sounds possible that I'm growing breasts, which would be fantastic, but I'm not on hormones?? And I'm a good bit past puberty age? Is there something else that might make my nipples itch and chest hurt?

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Gynecomastia, your hormones can be out of balance all on their own. Which, in your case might be more balanced.

Chafing against shirts, eczema (its winter everyone's skin gets drier, if you have asthma you probably have some form of eczema too), and like yeah the big WebMD one that show sup for everything lol. No im not gonna say it cause its almost certainly because its dry and your nips have been chafing against your shirt

[–] CupcakeOfSpice@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago

I do have eczema in places. Usually not on my chest, but it sometimes moves around, so that could make sense.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

If growing breasts sounds fantastic, why no hormones yet?

[–] CupcakeOfSpice@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Parents won't pay for them, disability prevents me from working more regularly, still working on getting disability benefits, uncertain if benefits will be enough, US trying to make laws preventing even adults from getting gender affirming care. Also fear of needles. Also, I think I've heard some of my mental illnesses (am quite neurospicy) make it harder to get on hormones, but I haven't tried too much yet. Who do I talk to about this? I currently see a therapist and a psych med provider, do I talk to one of them? I'm trying to go see a... "regular" doctor(?) so if I need to talk to them, I can.

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago

So I got lucky, my work insurance covers it (lib city). I spoke to a doc who referred me to a therapist who referred me to an endo.

I’ve also heard planned parenthood is easy. Don’t know from experience

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 3 points 1 day ago

I had an appointment with PP online and did bloodwork at a labcorp. There's was pretty much no gatekeeping with my provider (basically just explained things, asked what my goals were which I answer was basically "idk", asked if I wanted monotherapy or an antiandrogen). I'm in Texas and my insurance hasn't had any problems with covering things.

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Uh, I think it's unlikely. If your body produces mostly testosterone, you'd have to be having gynecomastia from an imbalance of estrogens/androgens in your body. Like, for example, a liver disease, kidney failure, thyroid disease or a metabolic dysfunction. Maybe get that checked out if it seems real enough, it could be something not good if it is really happening

[–] CupcakeOfSpice@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago

Heh. Well, I already planned to call the doctor anyway, so maybe as well see what they say about this too.

[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago

I got some pearled barley so im gonna make some tabbouleh and spinach / cabbage soup!!

[–] RION@hexbear.net 27 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Talking to my dad is fun because he'll call me something like an "industrious lad" meanwhile 20 feet away is the bottle of pills I shove up my ass to make my tits bigger

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago

This is an amazing sentence.

[–] bipp@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago

lmaoooo yes

[–] Florn@hexbear.net 18 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm so fucking sick of being too tall to fit in bath tubs, all I want is to sit in hot water in the privacy of my own home

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

One con they they don't tell you about taking E: it makes it harder to submerge your body laying down in the bathtub without submerging your head.

[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 9 points 2 days ago

shoulders, chest, pants, shoes.

[–] meler@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago

Lol there was a time when I thought I was a guy

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 19 points 3 days ago

I feel like a togepi. I have cracked my egg, but am still hiding under the shell

[–] meler@hexbear.net 19 points 3 days ago

How. The fuck. Did my legs get to be this cute? I'm wearing jeans rn and I looked down and saw the cutest legs of all time

[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 19 points 3 days ago (2 children)

voice dysphoria, transphobia

I have dnd tonight and it will be the first time I've spoken out loud since Thanksgiving when my sister told me "you sound like a man pretending to be a woman, but maybe that's just because I know what you are" and yeah ngl I'm having a little bit of a break down. Or a lot a bit of a breakdown. If I'm being honest I don't want to speak ever again in my life.

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

That would've broken us, we're so sorry cuddle

for what it's worth, we've heard voice training workthat sounds like miracles with others. It's been really hard to do it on our own but we're looking into doing it with professional help which a lot of people have suggested is often much better anyway.

We hope you find your voice again cat-trans

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Honestly your sister can go fuck herself >:(

🫂

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

All my homies hate kit's sister.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago

Struggling super hard with the last screen of this Celeste level, turns out I just didn't learn a trick I was supposed to earlier. After finding out the new tec I beat it in one sitting. Still need 3 crystal hearts to unlock the core.

[–] catter@hexbear.net 16 points 3 days ago (7 children)

alcohol, relationship

Context: Closeted in a complex relationship. Trying to navigate that and come out soon.

My egg cracked nearly two years ago during the only time I've ever been nearly flat-out wasted. Now when I'm feeling dysphoric or overwhelmed I reach for alcohol to take me back to that place. Just enough to feel something. It's not alcoholism (at least not yet), but it is unhealthy.

I come from a family where the majority suffer from some form of addiction. It makes me wonder why it's so common in my family... and maybe if I'm not the only one.

I'm trying to find the courage to come out, knowing that for me the genie cannot go back in the bottle. Several people here have been really helpful in figuring this out. I'm so thankful for each of you 💜

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

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I could have ghostwritten this post and the reply you already received. Covid started, I stopped the minor presentation differences I had tried, started drinking regularly with my parents after being back home, grew my hair out, got with my current long time partner, while simultaneously getting more untethered and disconnected from my life. I started hiding drinking, drinking during work, partially to cope with the issues with gender identity I was experiencing prior to COVID.

Just over a year ago, I was on mushrooms and essentially cracked my egg with my partner, but because I was hiding my alcohol problem, I felt wracked with guilt and shame and didn’t end up planning active transition until a month after I stopped drinking.

All of this is to say, been down that path. I got lucky, my partner was dabbling in gender before me and is more supportive of me and confident in the process than I am to myself. The scariest part is the world and my family. My parents are struggling with the image of their son, but they’ll get over it if they love me. I need to get a thicker skin and an ability to stare back at people who stare at me. We become more visible being ourselves and need to prep for strong responses from close people in our lives. But the small steps can have upsides besides confusing your loved ones lol.

so far I have felt an excitement for the future that was a total non-starter when I was still drinking. A few of my female coworkers have definitely noticed and have commented on my hair/nail colors, and it feels incredible, even though I haven’t started hrt. I’m sure negative experiences will come, but leaving alcohol behind and putting effort into transitioning have been the two best decisions I’ve made this year. Love and support, hope you can find the right path.

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[–] Azarova@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago

fuck work

[–] KoRax@hexbear.net 21 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Dec. 6th marks 1 year on HRT. I'm so happy but I don't have anyone IRL to celebrate.

[–] catter@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago

💜💜💜 so happy for you! 🥰

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Congrats! My day 1 will also be in December if all goes well!

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