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A person whose username appears in this post has asked me to blur their user name, this is not some that is possible for me to do. Only the OP has the ability to make edits to their post. I am going to remove it for now as this is the only way I can affect the post. If OP wants to blur the user names I'll restore the post. Thanks for understanding.
Edit: post has had user name obscured so I am restoring it. Thanks guys!
I got banned from that sub for "sounding like a man" then when I told them I'm non binary and so should be able to post their according to their rules they didn't respond
I feel like accidentally commenting there is a Lemmy right of passage. It got me, and continues to almost get me. They generally have good discussion.
Yeah I messed up with that a couple times. I do read their comments though, it's nice to get the female perspective on things.
I enjoy that community as a non-participant. A user's decision to merely interact can reveal much more than they intended to reveal - super interesting to me. Just the existence of the community pits dudes with insecurities against their own lack of self control or social tact, for all to see.
Future me might comment there too quickly after overlooking the community name. I'll get a warranted Tsk and I'll see myself out. No big deal. It's not a kick in the nuts unless I make it one.
I have seen men comment there, get the reminder, and then FLIP THE FUCK OUT. As if every part of the internet should have to put up with them.
A community like that is hard to monitor, and they are pretty chill about people making honest mistakes like coming in from /all. I feel like it’s obvious (or very quickly becomes obvious) which comments are mistakes, and which are butthurt males. They don’t seem to be hostile to the honest mistakes.
Whenever I see that happen, I think "wow, thanks for showing why this community needs that rule in the first place". If dudes were more chill about women trying to build their own spaces, then perhaps it wouldn't be necessary to have such a hard rule.
Incel behavior includes using "female" as a noun when talking about women. Using "female" as an adjective is perfectly normal and common. It is fine to write "female coworker" instead of "coworker who is a woman."
Some people are hypersensitive to wrongspeak.
I don't think people are bothered by "female coworker", which is perfectly normal. It's the reference to a "female-only" community, when the actual com is called WomensStuff and describes itself as "women only" and "a women's community".
Maybe it's just me, but in female-only community, I'm using female as part of a composed adjective. I'd say male-only community too, it just feels more natural. In fact, in an earlier comment I wrote women only, and then writing man only felt SO bad that I changed both to female and male.
Now that I think about it it's probably because I used man instead of men. I'll change both back but OOP miiight have followed my logic? Idk
Nobody posted it!?
Turns out, a community exclusive to some gender almost inevitably turns into a hate pool, exactly because the most common scenario in which they are needed is "let's shit on someone and not let them defend themselves".
Naturally, those excluded find a way to get into the conversation to stand up for themselves. When men come together to spread hateful takes on women, this naturally puts women in a position to defend, respond, and possibly retaliate. The same works the other way around.
And honestly - it's how it should be. Those spreading hate and silencing all other voices should not be given platform for it. Let's remain constructive and keep the conversation going. Division and hate hurts and ends up gross for everyone.
Oh good. I don't follow this com, another comment tipped me off.
While I do enjoy a little bit of chaos and schadenfreude, it would be nice to block out user names. Call out the mistake, not the person.
Most people here are lovely, but it only takes one match to start a fire. Might as well address some bullshit in these comments since I'm gonna get trolled by incels anyway...
side note: I'm not a mod there.
The women's com is trans and non-binary inclusive. Anyone who feels at home there (and is respectful) is welcome.
It's not all bitching about men. Looking at the last twenty posts, one was about men and two were related to men. We talk about pads and health and essays and positivity memes and do fun activities on fridays.
I support men making their own support groups. Although the internet itself often feels like a menfolk support group(to me,) I'm sure there are plenty of things an easy to find, curated space, could offer men who want to be just a little more vulnerable, knowing they would be supported by the mods if any toxic women came in to devalue their opinions and experience.
That's community's mods are super nice. Probably too nice TBH.
...But yeah. Follow community rules, or post elsewhere. What is so hard about that?
I think it's hard simply because browsing by /all, or even by communities you follow and then just in your main thread, is not set up to highlight the community or it's rules. If something hits the front page of /all I'm rarely digging into the communities specific rules or even where it's coming from to an extent. Only to say, it's a learned behavior to care about the communities specifically in this site aggregator system.
All of that being said, people of course should respect community rules and learn the behavior of identifying what room they're in before engaging with that community. I'm just not surprised when these flimsy barriers fail.
Is the best behavior to block any community you don't or can't participate in? I personally don't love that behavior because I like seeing what everyone is discussing in threads, but that's a reasonable solution. Obviously my current strat is just reading the community before posting (like not commenting negatively about Star Gate getting a new season in the star gate community as an example that happened today lol).
Wandering in, missing the rule sign, getting corrected, and apologizing is fine. I've done it; the mods there couldn't have been nicer about it. It's not an ideal system, no, but it works well enough; it's the mods shouldering that burden more than anything.
...The problem is when the guys are corrected, yet keep talking anyway. Which I see happen a lot.
There is no excuse for that.
Is the best behavior to block any community you don’t or can’t participate in? I personally don’t love that behavior because I like seeing what everyone is discussing in threads, but that’s a reasonable solution.
I feel extremely mixed about this, yeah. I feel weird even talking about it.
I personally don’t love that behavior because I like seeing what everyone is discussing in threads, but that’s a reasonable solution.
The women's space... doesn't prohibit lurking? On one hand, the community is public, and I'm curious about the perspective in the discussions. I'm interested in understanding them so I can be a more respectful person myself.
I upvote their posts so they get more exposure.
...But I don't want to violate their privacy either. Blocking is reasonable. Right now, I just upvote them but don't enter the threads.
Obviously my current strat is just reading the community before posting (like not commenting negatively about Star Gate getting a new season in the star gate community as an example that happened today lol).
Read the room, yeah.
IMO TV fandoms shouldn't worship their material. Negative discussion is allowed, otherwise the space gets toxic.
In fact, this kinda happened to one of my personal fandom spaces, /r/thelastairbender: among other things, they idolize ATLA (the original series) like a diety, to the point where anything different (including other material like Korra or the Netflix adaption) is demonized. Deeper stuff like the novels, fanfics or speculative lore is not welcome either.
That sucks. It's all too common; the Star Wars fandom (for instance) is notorious for it. And its why some negativity and 'outsider perspectives' should be welcomed in such spaces.
The women's space is different though. It's basically a shelter from the shit this group puts up with IRL and online, so being more sensitive makes sense.
It's just....the internet I guess?
Go into the various "Ask" communities, and you'll see things like this constantly:
Women of Lemmy, what's something that...?
As a man, I .....
Americans of Lemmy, what is your favorite...?
As a European, I....
Definitely mildly infuriating when people just butt in when they're explicitly not the target audience of the question. If I'm somehow doing that with this reply, lol, I apologetically appreciate the irony.
suggestion: make a separate community that is "replies to womens stuff".
actually don't, sounds like a cesspool.
I blocked this community a while ago so I don’t accidentally view/comment on it
post about women's only space
150+ comments, 50 downvotes
Close enough. Welcome back reddit
Yeah, I'm downvoting this shit. This is not mildly infuriating, this is just unnecessary ragebait and the fact that OP didn't even blur out the usernames clearly shows their intention to go against rule 5.
I agree that the guy in the post is mildlyinfuriating at best, and much more likely a douche (never hear a woman use male as a noun like that, a very particular shibboleth). But I'm not sure I love. This community becoming half posts picking on specific users. Should we blur the usernames? Otherwise its an easy path to brigading and bullying.
Segregated anything is fucking dumb. Segregated internet communities are especially fucking dumb because anyone can be anyone on the internet.
Congratulations, you're the man they're trying to forget exists for 10 fucking minutes a day in their off time!
A segregated internet would be more like if they had a whole version of Lemmy for all topics but only for women, and then didn't also participate in the other one.
This is just one community calm the hell down they can have their space.
If they want their own space, they are just bigots. That's what they called me when I excluded them from the general space in the past!
-the people arguing against that comm, probably
That's really ignoring a mountain of history. Up until a decade ago, "there are no girls on the internet" was a common saying.
I just see it as a way to foster and encourage an under represented segment of the community. It feels completely valid when that segment is still often met with hostility from weirdos.
I saw that post too. I noticed it was a woman-only space and muted it. Godspeed to them, people deserve to have communities like that.
I saw this play out and there were more than one of these users breaking the rules on that sub. I guess it’s tempting to want to comment on a first page thread, but boundaries exist for a reason. I don’t really see women going into incel spaces, making incels uncomfortable. Still, what it looked like was most of these men knew this wasn’t a community for them, but figured that their comments were so invaluable, how could it exist without their imput. It’s pathetic.
I honestly don’t know what you’re offended by. Maybe I wasn’t reading closely enough, but could you spell it out for me?
Maybe I believe in community rules too strictly.
If the rules say women only, it means women only.
How does an anonymous person on Lemmy prove they are a woman?
