Saw a Ted talk that said the same thing. The guy over came some social anxiety by actively putting himself in an awkward situation each day (his was asking if he could get his coffee for free at the coffee shop). Once he got use to low stakes situations where people were surprised, confused or mildly judgemental (but also amused or just disinterested) it was easier to do things that actually mattered without worrying about people's reactions. And he got a few free coffees.
That's exactly it. I think one of the reason many people who struggle with small talk is because they take these conversations at face value. It doesn't matter if you don't care about how their family is doing, you're not asking because you want the information. You're asking because the question itself means "I respect you as a peer and am showing interest in you".
And it's also why the answers don't generally matter. They don't care what you're really doing for your holidays, just give a simple but positive response "just looking forward to getting some rest!", "going to see my family". If you show you're interested in them, and you respond to their questions that's enough for most people. Even if those questions and answers are completely vacuous.
Yeah, I'd say SO generally are like great friends (with benefits), but often, over time you end up doing so much stuff with them that they eclipse any other individual friend. And eventually (especially if you end up living together) they become such a part of your day to day life they can begin to feel like an extension of yourself (or rather, that you're both part of one being) and it's hard to live with out them. I remember laughing at my dad for wanting to phone my mum everyday when he was away on business. I'd be like "what do you even have to talk about? You see each other all the time" But now, if I had a day where I didn't at least message with my partner I'd feel so isolated.
Ereaders like kobo / kindle have gentle backlight, just make sure you get one with adjustable warm /cool white backlight, so you can make it warm and not blue. I also use a little clip on booklight with adjustable brightness and color. If it's dim and red/orange you're not disturbing anyone but it illuminates the page perfectly.
You mean Christopher "that's not the sound a man makes when he is knifed in the back" Lee?
I mean, I agree, I'm not going to be losing any sleep worrying about the unsatisfied billionaires. But what he's saying is that given the cost (losing 30 years of his life) the 'reward' ($35 billion) wasn't enough. He's not saying he doesn't like or want the money, he's saying its not enough to give up your life for.
If anything, it would explain why rich people keep pursuing money long after any sane person would be content with their millions/billions. Maybe if you just get given a few million you could be satisfied with it, but if you've had to sacrifice your life, friends, morality and so on to get it... And you realise it doesn't actually make you happy, so you keep chasing more, hoping that eventually enough will be enough. Better that than realising you're an idiot who fell for capitalism's big lie and gave up the stuff that actually mattered in life to get more numbers on a sheet.
I would have misgivings of using the character with René, but it wouldn't be hard. He's changeling, god dammit. It was one of the weird conceits of DS9 that odo kept the same humanoid form, and so the changeling who interacted with him did too (along with implausible excuses about "not being able to master the humanoid face", or the changing virus).
Having spent time with the founders, you could easily recast "Odo" as a dozen different characters of different species and genders. Perhaps he has transcended the attachment to a single form that he developed from living among solids? I feel like watching some good actors do Odoesque performances could be quite interesting!
I work with a lot of nonnative English speakers, and someone sent out an invite to a meeting on Thueisday and my brain melted.
I assume the implication is that a level of wealth disparity that could allow tourists to holiday in space while other people can't get essential medicines... is bad.
I really want to like this and keep trying to convince myself that the little problems would be manageable... I'm not too fussed about bezels, the camera or the screen not being that bright. The processor and "sluggishness" seem like the main issue - is it noticeable during day to day use? I don't play games but I do flick between apps a lot, is it noticeable?
And the charging seems frustratingly slow, even my midrange phone for a few years back had 65w charging. Is there an external battery charger? That way I could always be using my phone and just have a couple of spare batteries that can be charged externally.
I remember when everyone was excited about playing Pokemon Go and wishing that there was a way to do something similar but in the wilderness rather than cities. I wanted to be able to wander around the wilds trying to encounter strange and rare creatures. Then I realised I had just invented birdwatching.
Yeah, I think challenge can be a bit motivator for adhd folks. Once I've completed the main part of something, I find it really hard to care about the details, to the extent that the unfinished parts sometimes spoil the bit I had completed.
I feel like it's the dopamine of the chase is actually what's motivating, and challenge is a version of that. I'll get sucked into finding some obscure game and getting an emulator working to be able to play it and all the way I'm super engaged. Then I start playing this game I was so excited about and meh, don't care.
Maybe you could think about ways to refocus that drive? A therapist told me once that adhd people don't get satisfaction from completing things, but are excited about new things. So, instead of feeling proud of getting into college try and immediately find the new challenge (now I want to get a prostigious internship!) if you succeed at your fitness goals, maybe you can raise the stakes see if you can beat a friend or a record or something?