Bisexual

so, i'm using fake names, but their real names all start with "j" and i think i'll find a long-lasting partner whose name starts with "j" too, or for example with the fake names:

first off, this guy i crushed on in elementary school, my best friend ethan.

next, this guy i dated, emilio.

then, eliana.

then, my current crush eric.

yep, my next partner is definitely gonna have a fake name starting with E and a real name of J. maybe it'll be eric, who knows??

Edit: and i can’t forget my therapy crush, “eileen”

crosspostato da: https://thelemmy.club/post/35015004

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TL;DR i had a crush on my friend eric, then my feelings i thought went away and i decided to get to know my friend sophie. i developed feelings for sophie and we started dating but we recently broke up because it wasn't working out and my feelings for eric are resurfacing.

i started becoming friends with a guy, eric, and a girl, sophie. i genuinely thought eric would be the quiet type who doesn't like people, but he really liked me (platonically) and we got along really quickly. i found out he was really funny, too, and i don't judge a book by its cover anymore.

meanwhile, i met sophie, who was exactly my type too. once we started talking more and getting to know each other, i started really liking her. she was so kind, funny, and nerdy. she was kind of like eric but a girl and less socially awkward.

i'm bi but thought i was a lesbian at the time, so my feelings for eric started to fade and i started developing more feelings for sophie. i wanted a girlfriend at the time, too, so i decided to get closer to sophie.

also, these two boys, sophie's friends michael and aaron were already together after aaron asked him out twice. michael said no the first time because he just broke up with someone, then yes later on.

this inspired me to work up the courage to confess to sophie, and she said she'd love to get to know me better and "talk" before dating.

i started "talking to" her and she eventually asked me out and gave me gifts. she talked about how she would be such a good girlfriend to me and make me stuff and treat me right and all that.

i loved it.

later, i found i was doing a lot more for sophie than sophie did for me, such as buying her gifts and making her stuff when she thanked me and said it was "too early for that".

she would give me hugs and hold hands, but also thought it was too early for kisses. i respected that, but it wasn't meeting my needs for a physical connection as a person with strong physical desires like that.

yesterday, she texted me that we needed to talk. she told me this wasn't going to work, and that she's actually aromantic, but it was "her, not me" (i think it's no one's fault but still).

she, however, wanted to enter a talking stage yet again but "be friends at the same time" to see if we could make things work, because she said she really liked me, just not that way, obviously.

she also said we didn't instantly form a connection or become best friends instantly, so the relationship wouldn't work in the future because of that(???)

meanwhile, eric never outright said he had feelings for me, and i don't wanna ask or do anything just yet because i just sort of got out of a relationship that i don't know if i'm still kinda in, but my old feelings for him are coming back and i discovered i repressed my feelings for men. i am indeed, bisexual.

SERIOUSLY AS A BI DUDE I LOVE WOMEN SO MUCH 😳 💕

So, I did think I was a straight guy, but I am bi and just prefer women >w<

Given my Elder Millenial age group, the mid ninties as the birth of bisexuality rings pretty true on a personal level.

But as someone who thinks that bi is the most natural of sexualites, it's probably the only one that didn't need to be "invented". Homosexuality in the modern sense is quite recent (although same sex attraction itself is timeless) and heterosexuality seems to require an awful lot of policing and enforcement for something that's meant to be "natural"...

Whether the finger guns and leather jackets have always been part of bi identify remains a question for cultural archaeologists.

I shall try and sleep. I do hope everyone rests well, please.

I find both men and women attractive in their own ways, but I could never see myself dating a woman. I want a boyfriend. I don't look at romance games or stories where the protagonist romances a girl either because it's not relatable to me. Only men. Do I just prefer men or am I just straight?

I've got a bi flag stripe going on the fediverse Canvas, if anyone wants to join in and help fill it in.

https://canvas.fediverse.events/

so ‘alina’ and ‘liam’ are both people i’m interested in. as it turns out, they both like me too. alina has been my friend for a year and liam, two years.

alina is a good artist and she’s always making stuff for me and drawing stuff for me. liam is always complimenting me when we talk. liam is the cute nerdy type while alina is like the pretty artist.

both of them have confessed to me and i like both of them, and each know about my crush. what the heck do i do!???

how do i choose a boyfriend or girlfriend???

We’ve been dating for two years and i love her sodososooos much!! I wouldn’t want anyone else hehehe :3

Now I’m dating this girl Nastya and stopped liking this guy who probably despised me, Karl.

Let's discuss bisexual erasure. Have you experienced it? How has it affected you?

I've experienced erasure, I prefer feminine energy regardless of gender, as such I've had my sexuality dismissed by 'friends' and colleagues with statements like "that's just straight and horny" or the other end of the spectrum: "you're gay but clinging to social pressures"

I'm in a hetero-presenting relationship which just fuels the presumption of heterosexuality. I've been celebrated for being an ally and immediately dismissed when I suggested that I'm not an ally but a member. Makes seeing myself as a member... difficult.

There's a tension in some LGBTQ communities- lesbian communities in particular (gold star).

I'm interested in your feelings/experiences with erasure.

im so goooddd!!!! :DD

i’m definitely starting to like men more again. while i wouldn’t mind dating a woman, i found them pretty, and would probably say yes if they asked me out, what if i’m really just a straight woman who only likes men?? :,)

(im aware preference can be fluid, i just wonder if i really do like women)

i guess i just wanted to share my story. if you look at my bio, yes, it DOES say i’m in love with a certain user. this is true. however, i’m in an open relationship so i also like my ex nico.

i dated nico for about a year and three months but we broke up due to him no longer speaking to anyone due to mental health issues.

after a while, he got better and we started talking again and we still liked each other. after all, we did date for so long.

some people may be thinking, “ok, and you guys clearly still like each other and he’s in a better mental state. why don’t you guys just date again?”

well, nico’s kind of in what i guess is a “situationship”. nico, now single, was asked by his friend (m) if he would marry him. nico took this as a platonic joke and said yes. however, nico’s “bf” then announced to everyone that they were dating and he now had a boyfriend.

nico does not have any romantic feelings for his “boyfriend”, and when he said this and that he was going to break up, his “boyfriend” begged him not to leave him.

nico says he truly isn’t attracted to anyone except for me, and that he was going to officially break up with him next time he saw him on monday. he also said afterwards, we could date again :)

not to be weird or spiritual, but i kind of believe we’re soulmates. after all, we dated for so long (he was my longest relationship yet), we still like each other despite not speaking and being separated, and despite being in relationships, none of them have worked out yet except for ours. he’s gotten into many short-lived relationships, as have i, but they always ended in them not wanting a relationship, cheating, or losing feelings quickly, whereas we have always liked each other and found a way back to each other.

What games would you recommend that include bisexual characters or sexual preferences? Or what games would you recommend that were developed by a bisexual person?

I’m now on good terms with his ex. It turns out he’s only nice to certain people his brain approves of. While he certainly likes me at least as a friend, he has mental issues and a lot of personal issues he can’t share.

(Reason but not an excuse)

кросс-пост из: https://lemmy.ca/post/42215774

I (18nb/18m) have been friends with Karl (18m/maybe 19m now) since freshman year. We had been seated together in science class on the first day and really hit it off since then. Karl also has bad social anxiety and already had when I met him, so he only really talked to and trusted me.

Later on in freshman year, I had a friend group with a guy I’ll call Liam, and Karl asked if he could join it because he was looking for friends but was painfully shy so would only befriend Liam’s group if I was there with him. Karl and Liam got close pretty quickly.

I had unrequited feelings for Liam at the time, but thought nothing of it when he and Karl started to get close until Liam told me he was attracted to Karl, and that he was going to confess to him soon. Of course, I was happy for him but was also trying to hide my jealousy. When Liam confessed to Karl, he said yes, and for a while, I knew Karl was interested in him as he told me “I think I’m straight mostly, but I’d totally go out with Liam if he asked me out.”

Liam and Karl dated for the entirety of freshman year, but Karl is also quite Christian along with his family, so he always kind of had internalized homophobia which got worse through the years. Coupled with his anxiety, Liam said it never really felt like Karl was actually into him besides the fact that he would hug Liam and tell him he loved him. They broke up during the beginning of sophomore year because it didn’t feel to Liam like Karl liked him.

Perhaps this would be the first red flag, but I confessed to Liam eventually since we started to hit it off and he told me he was bi, and he said “Sorry, you’re not my type. I’m not into shy guys with… disabilities.” (I’m neurodivergent) I said okay and cried but was into him for all of freshman year and part of sophomore.

After they broke up, Karl and Liam were fine, but towards the end of junior year, started acting very weird towards Liam and avoiding him, so I thought they got into a fight. Liam then started to take photos of Karl and post them online along with his address or phone number depending on the post because “Karl is an ass and none of you should be friends with him”.

Karl never knew about this and I didn’t find out about the address thing until recently. I asked Karl at the beginning of senior year why he was acting this way towards Liam, and Karl told me “because Liam’s weird and we don’t have anything in common”. I did not further question anything.

BE Later on, Karl became somewhat attached to me and would spend a lot of time with me. He made a joke that I was his wife and that we should get married and live together, which I took as just that: a joke.

We started to hang out more, Karl would compliment me a lot (I’d do likewise) and we’d help each other with work, but we could never hang out because he had sports. Before I turned 18, I realized one night I couldn’t stop thinking about him and even had a dream about him. I suddenly found him sexy as hell.

I started questioning whether or not I liked him, and later realized, “Of course I do!”. I remember one time, which I posted about, he called me cute. I also realized he always seemed to treat me slightly differently than others, but I didn’t know if it was because of my condition or because of another reason. He would be very flirty and touchy with most people, for example, but never me.

He would sometimes be moody, somehow forget when I had partners in the past (he forgot I had a girlfriend), and get especially moody on the subject of romance. I also realized even though he was sad when I broke up with her, he started to compliment me more and be nice after the fact.

Now, he’s being moody again. When we work together, he’ll be nice and help me, but sometimes he’ll be very snippy and rude. He’ll boss me around, tell me he doesn’t like me, or treat me like his pet, but then he’ll be normal toward me. He also seems to have brought me up quite a few times to his parents and is not at all opposed to us hanging out when he can.

With his rude behavior, I don’t even know if I like him that way anymore, but I’m still curious as to how he MAY feel about me.

I, in the past, have posted about my journey with Karl, but I realized he was really moody, had internalized homophobia, and though at times he was nice, his moodiness, bossiness and somewhat rude behavior wasn’t a good match for me.

I remember after hearing I was talking to a girl (romantically), he got a bit mad and moody. He gets really weird on the topic of crushes as well but his behavior reminds me too much of some annoying girl in freshman year.

I guess I like him a little and I’m just upset a bit, but still.

In the end this ramble will be pretty meaningless until I actually manage to have any actual relationship, cuz its kinda dumb to talk about it never being in one (well technically there was one week long disaster, but that's not a story for today). Ive got disorders and am well aware of my perception of reality being distorted, which doesn't mean I actually can recognize these distortions. For some reason, whether those distortions or experience, I consider gay peoples very cool and interesting and it would kinda feel nice to be one of those? I think? Idk, am histrionic, Ive had a history of jokingly flirting with all irl friends regardless of gender, but I did it more for the sport of it than to make it into something serious (don't do it anymore, realized it was too easy for me to overstep boundaries). Sometimes I get a like on a dating app from a man I would consider really fucking good lookin', but like, why do they send me a like to never ever respond? I hate dating apps. So yeah, I just wanted to ramble a bit, please yell at me if you mind

https://imgur.com/a/6cVTf4K

So, yes, I still like Karl, the guy I’ve been talking about, but I can be attracted to more than one person.

So, Nichole (17F) and I (18nb) have been talking a lot more recently. We’ve been friends since sophomore year (she was a freshman) but we haven’t really talked until recently.

I started to gain feelings for her after we did more stuff together, like calling.

Quite recently, we were discussing sex, and she said she would be down to have sex with me.

She also said that we could date if I wanted to, but if I didn’t see her that way, we could just be friends with benefits.

sooooo… i kinda just got out of a ”situationship” as they call it. however, i (18f) have kind of liked someone (19nb) on-and-off, a friend i’ve known who ISN’T long distance.

i liked them at first when i was around 17, them 18, but they were already dating so i decided to move on. we started chatting again and i still kinda liked them but didn’t notice, and they liked me too and just confessed recently.

omg i love him so much!! i have a bf nowwww :3