psycotica0

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[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 2 points 9 hours ago

You're pitching it as though you have the women and you're trying to convince them. But what if you're the other person. What if they've already got a longer-term partner, and you're brought into their situation. Would you still be suspicious that they aren't okay with it?

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 1 points 9 hours ago

For sure for sure, but I will say that in my experience the proper "poly" communities, at least in my area, have a higher rate of people who have thought about the nature of relationships and often already have some kind of stable attachment already.

Not all, for sure, but the odds are different for finding someone who has already demonstrated their ability to maintain connections to people over time, and is looking to extend that. Whereas in the monogamy world, every person is single for some reason, and you're hoping it was the other person last time. ๐Ÿ˜›

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Honestly, because it's all I've ever known. As far as I'm concerned the voices are me, the real inner me, and things I say out loud are just an expression of that. Who are you when you're alone and quiet?

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 32 points 10 hours ago (14 children)

I've spent a lot of time with Open Source Programmers and other nerds, including in person, and I believe at least some of the issue is that some of them feel grooming and hygiene is purely aesthetic, bordering on "shallow". Like the way many of us think about Looksmaxxing or cosmetic surgery.

Like, you spend a bunch of time and money doing your hair or washing your clothes? That time didn't improve your card playing, it didn't teach you anything new. Shouldn't people be judged by what's inside instead of what's outside? Shouldn't people be judged by their skill or merit rather than their looks?

And I intentionally wrote that last one to feel borderline, because I think a lot of people do feel that way, and do believe those things, but not to the same extent. Their boundary for "hygenic enough" requires clean. And maybe the folks I'm characterizing don't know that it's actively unpleasant to be around someone who smells bad? Or maybe they're so steeped in it they don't know how bad it is?

Tangentially, this is one of the reasons some fem people struggle in these spaces. Any amount of eye-shadow, nice shirt, or hair-style is deemed as "superfluous", and so any person who spends their time and money on such things is regarded with suspicion. They're an idiot who wastes their time on looks at best, not to be trusted making other decisions, or a charlatan trying to trick lesser men with their wiles at worst. Those are the only two choices, because there's no other imaginable reason someone could do these things.

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 7 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

On March 27, 2018, Tenor was acquired by Google. The company has continued to operate as a standalone brand.

Wikipedia

Huh, well if you couldn't see a way to make money with it, maybe you shouldn't have bought it...

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 10 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

Something about this reminds me if the I Spy books of my youth:

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 1 points 18 hours ago

I think they were highlighting a different fact, which is that simply 5 people, not the 0.1%, have almost as much as the bottom 50%.

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 day ago (6 children)

5 way, unless he's just watching the girls. Which, like, if that's his thing and they're into it, works too!

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 days ago

For me Jellyfin's strength is that it can keep track of my wife's place in her shows independent from mine, and also that the metadata and watched state and progress is synced between phone, tablet, and TV.

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

This city is actually in Canada, and July 4th isn't important here. July 1st is, though, but it seems they wanted to close out the week I guess and change policy on a Monday?

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Alright, hear me out: You're washing your strap-on in the kitchen sink, and it's prominently drying on the counter when you get stuck trying to get something out of the dishwasher!

It'd be madness if no one took advantage of this opportunity!

[โ€“] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 days ago

Poopin' that D!

 

Hey folks! I know a while back there was a kerfuffle because syncthing-fork for Android went dark, and then a new person showed up and claimed everything was cool and they'd been privately given the keys or something, and people were concerned. I pinned my fdroid version to the at-that-time-current release until we got clarity.

Well, it's been a while and I just noticed I'm still on that old release. So... how'd it turn out? Do we like the new person yet? Is there a promising fork y'all are using? Or is the project dead? I'm sure I could just go look at the repo, but I'm also sure the repo would tell me "yeah, we're all cool" no matter what, so I'm curious what the community feelings are. Have there even been any useful new releases since then?

Thanks!

 

Hey folks! Back in the PS2 days I had Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas, and besides the quests and stuff I also loved just driving around and going on little road trips and stealing planes.

And then in the PS3 era I had Just Cause 2, and the voice acting was terrible, and the quests were kinda dumb, but wow was it fun to just drive around and go on little road trips and steal planes. And your dumb little hookshot was nearly immersion breaking it was so unrealistic, but instead it was a ton of fun zipping through the air from 150 paces to kick a dude off his motorbike...

Anyway, I'm wondering what people's opinions are on these kinds of games these days! I know Cyberpunk has some driving, but I don't know if people enjoy cruising in it. I really liked Breath of the Wild, which is not really the same but had some screwing around times. I know there's a GTA 5 which I never played but it's probably good, I think there's a Just Cause 3 but I haven't looked into it. Some people love Red Dead 2, which I mostly bounced off of but maybe I was wrong.

Do you folks have any favourites in this "genre"? Things I should check out? Stories of worthless hijinks? Thoughts?

 

Hello! I've just started using StreetComplete, and I want to make sure I understand the answers before I go through and make a bunch of garbage data.

In this picture, is the kerb a ramp, or flush?

The sidewalk deflects downwards, but it's not a ramp ramp like the example picture.

How about this one?

The kerb itself dips, but the sidewalk on this one looks more flat and does simply run into the road. And then it has the texture, obviously. Is this one different from the last one?

Also, just to check, I marked both of these sidewalks as "concrete". That's correct, right? I wondered about "concrete plate", because they're segmented, but the picture made concrete plate look much more substantial.

My other question was based on the "lit" tag for a bus stop. This bus stop has a street light near it, but there's no light on the bus stop itself. It sounds like that means it is lit? Would a non-lit stop just be one that is fully dark at night, then, with no kind of lighting anywhere near it at all?

This one is further from the street light, but still has line of sight. Lit?

Thanks very much for any help you have!

 

Hello folks! I have these switches in my bathroom.

The rightmost is the lights, and the middle one is the bathroom fan, and I'd like to replace that middle one with something I could load tasmota on (or some other open source firmware), without replacing the other switch, the sockets, or the faceplate.

I haven't seen any smart switches that have a form factor that would fit through this faceplate, though; they seem to mostly want to be the entire electrical box.

If it weren't for the electrical plugs I could maybe replace this with some kind of 2-gang thing, which isn't really what I want but could be fine, but as it stands I'm not sure what my options here are.

I don't need the new switch to necessarily look like the old one, I just want it to fit in the same box and use the same faceplate. Do you folks have any recommendations?

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