For sure for sure, but I will say that in my experience the proper "poly" communities, at least in my area, have a higher rate of people who have thought about the nature of relationships and often already have some kind of stable attachment already.
Not all, for sure, but the odds are different for finding someone who has already demonstrated their ability to maintain connections to people over time, and is looking to extend that. Whereas in the monogamy world, every person is single for some reason, and you're hoping it was the other person last time. ๐





You're pitching it as though you have the women and you're trying to convince them. But what if you're the other person. What if they've already got a longer-term partner, and you're brought into their situation. Would you still be suspicious that they aren't okay with it?