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Not weird or stupid!

Friends? Absolutely! People may go back and forth on the value of online-only friendships, but you can definitely make friends if you keep a decent back and forth going, no different than other online spaces. Obviously, be aware of the risks (scammers bots), but there's lot of folks here who'd probably be down for friendship to at least some degree.

Relationships? This I'm a little less certain about - probability seems very low if you're hetero, slightly higher but still pretty low if not. But who knows?

Don't neglect meatspace, though (even if it's kind of a horror show sometimes).

I was chatting up a polish girl on here a while ago. Her name was Nicole.

No. Impossible. Not even Nicole, the Polish chick from Toronto, has responded to my dick pics.

maybe you should develop a little more?

I mean, one does not 'find a friend or partner on lemmy', or anywhere else. Friendship, like love, is something that may happen and that will often not happen but we all need to work for it to maybe become a thing. Friends and partners are not stored somewhere, patiently waiting for us to need/want them ;)

Edit: clarifications.

Maybe, but Lemmy is such a small service that the chances of there being someone using Lemmy, sharing your interests, being compatible with your sexuality, being single, and is somewhere reasonably close to you, is pretty damn low.

No. This place is for serious discussion of facts and ideas only. Everybody stop having fun and being friendly.

Finding/making friends on Lemmy is definitely possible. There are a handful of people I talk to outside of Lemmy every day that I originally met here a couple years ago.

I think it helps tremendously if you can find places to interact with others that are less combative than the news/politics/etc that can dominate the feeds here. If you have personal interests in music, movies, tv, or even just want to have casual conversations, there are plenty of communities for that here. Those places give everyone a chance to "break the ice" on a slightly more personal level that helps develop lasting friendships.

Anything is possible.

The question you have to ask yourself is the probability of it worth making a concerted effort to achieve it?

but also the people pmming you on reddit or lemmy are not seeking to be your friend. they are scammers/bots.

Is it possible? Sure, I guess.
Advisable? AHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAH no.

It's a worldwide site with a sort of small user base, anything is possible but it seems a long shot compared to going outside or talking to your friends, networking, dating sites, pretty much anything local seems a better chance.

Possible? Sure. Likely? Nah.

I know reddit sucks and all but check out if your local cities have subreddits or if there are any similar groups on other platforms, usually they are at least somewhat active and always have meetups or groups on other platforms such as discord going or whatever else, people there tend to be sociable in person and still understand internet culture. there are a few of such lemmy communities but not nearly as much as reddit at the moment, that could also be a opportunity for y'all btw if you start your own.

Yes. Hi this is your friendly neighborhood Nigerian Prince. I am having a little bit of political troubles and I require your assistance. Plz send 500 bitcoins, and when I secure my kingdom, I will repay you 10x. XOXO 🤗

I mean anything is POSSIBLE. People meet and date and even get married from online communications all the time.

Maybe. Depends on what you're into.

If it's suicidal depression and mid-2000s mmorpgs, then I'm your guy!

Why not? I've heard of people who have met their spouses through World of Warcraft. I've made some friends online over the years. If the vibe is right, you can make connections with people just about anywhere.

Possible does not mean probable, so yes, it's possible, but don't hold your breath.

Not a good one.

In a thing like this you can meet kindred spirits but personally I don't really view knowing someone online and in meatspace as anywhere near equivalent.

I feel this. I heard staments voice when he was recording a video of his cat and was instantly crushing.

I think the ratio is a bit skewed heavily towards 20something guys. So maybe if that’s your thing? Idk I’ve had some good exchanges with folks but that’s about it for me.

Not sure why you’d want to.

The laws of physics don't prevent it, thus it is possible. But the probability doesn't seem particularly good.